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Dating Hell: These 45 Men Are Probably The Reason These Women Have Sworn Off Dating
Interview With Expert
If you've ever been on a dating app, chances are you have a horror story or two. But maybe it's those horror stories that are making people log off dating apps forever, especially young people. Because according to research by Axios, 79% of U.S. college and graduate students don't use any dating apps anymore.
After reading the experiences of these women, you might get a glimpse of why. When one netizen asked fellow ladies for their worst Tinder experiences, hundreds flocked to expose men at their worst. From hilarious cheapskates who can't be bothered to spend five bucks on a sausage roll to dudes who came to dates pre-drunk—these dates sure took an awkward turn.
To learn more about why women are having these types of horrible interactions on dating apps, Bored Panda reached out to dating and relationship coach Beck Thompson. She kindly agreed to share with us how people can avoid dating app burnout and her brilliant advice to those who feel hopeless about finding a meaningful connection.
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#1
Profile clearly said 'have children, don't want more'. Matched with a guy, chatted a bit then met for coffee. One of the first things he said was "is the no more children thing negotiable" . I said "no, it isn't," He said "really, even having met me now I still couldn't pursuade you to have my child" . So I said "well I have only met you for 10 mins, but I definitely don't want more children with anyone."
His response, "let's have a proper date, you will be begging to have my babies before the nights out" 🤢🤢🤢
Declined the offer of a proper date!!
Regina Holt 8 months ago
His pants were on fire. Both from the lying, and his burning loins trying to get into her pants.
urbeinghunted 25 8 months ago
My name's not Echo. I don't chase after Narcissists if u get my drift
With so many young people swearing off dating apps, it's important to understand why they might not be working anymore. Dating and relationship coach Beck Thompson tells Bored Panda that one reason might be that some people think they can get away with certain kinds of behaviors they wouldn't get away with in real life.
"Dating apps give people a false sense of access and entitlement and they enable behaviour that just would not (or at least I hope would not) exist in reality," she explains. "People are brave behind a screen."
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#2
First date with a bloke Id chatted to briefly in a bar. Turned up to the bus stop outside the McDonald's we'd arranged to meet at and he was fifteen minutes late. I was just about to leave when I saw him come around the corner and then approach and talk to two girls before he then saw me and came over - turned out he couldn't really remember what I looked like except I was blonde and had mistaken one of the girls for me (who was about a size 18 and I was size 10!) to be fair to him we were pretty drunk when we first met.
We then went to a bar where he proceeded to tell me he had just escaped death the month before running away from the collapsing twin towers in New York. "Yeah yeah what a bulls***ter" I thought. At this point he was irritating me slightly as he didn't shut up and then to top it all off his glasses suddenly swung apart in the middle - it turned out he was late bc his glasses had broken before he left the house and he'd tried to mend them with glue. I must admit I found this hilarious and I started to quite like him.
We've now been together for 20-odd years!
(And the twin towers story turned out to be true!)
Cindy Brick 8 months ago
Are you kidding? I LOVE this one! An absentminded encounter...that was just absentminded. (Not that I do that at all. Nope. Unh-unh.)
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person (i think) 8 months ago
I sort of have the “face blindness” thing, so talking to the wrong person is 100% something I would do!!
urbeinghunted 25 8 months ago
All I'm getting is that this woman's obviously sworn off dating because she's happily together with this unpredictably absent-minded man
Amanda Reinstatler 7 months ago
WOW! Not where I thought this story was headed. Cute happy ending : )
#3
As I walked into the pub the first thing he said was ‘you’re actually quite pretty. We just need to sort out your hair and clothes’. I turned around and walked out.
He had very little hair, was wearing a T-shirt that needed ironing and his profile photo must have been at least 10 years out of date!
Kakashisith 8 months ago
Yeah, I`ve gotten sh*t for not wearing pink and not wanting to dye my hair blonde.
urbeinghunted 25 8 months ago
I used to want to dye my hair blonde or red. I'm happy with my black hair and everything about myself now
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"There's a constant stream of faces to swipe on, which means many treat dating like ordering a takeaway: fast, disposable, and low-effort. That, mixed with minimal accountability and curated profiles, means people can show up however they want—with zero intention of actually being present, honest or kind."
When you're on a date in real life, you and the date share at least some common things. Perhaps that's mutual friends, shared environments, and actual eye contact. "Online, it's way too easy to lie, ghost, breadcrumb, or just be a total idiot with no real consequences," Thompson says. "People can show up however they want—and often, that version is nowhere near who they really are."
#4
He used his son's photo who was about 27 ... Turns out he was about 47 and he couldnt figure out why I wasn't interested. Hm I'm 23 pal.
Brazen 8 months ago
That's about as bad as the guy who used a picture of a black, young, buff man as his picture and then when I met him, he was a tiny, very old, white guy. That date lasted two seconds.
Binky Melnik 8 months ago
Was chatting on a dating site with a fellow who sent a photo of him with his brother and dad. He was coming to NYC and wanted to take me out. Yes, please! He was funny and smart and handsome, and he had me make a reservation at one of the top restaurants in the city. I wish someone had taken my photo when I showed up, as it turned out I’d been typing with Dad the whole time. Very nice fellow, but about 40 years older than I. Looked back and never saw a word in which he mislead me; I did all the assuming.
Skywitness 8 months ago
I wouldn't ever do that. My son looks very much like me but he's shorter and much cuter.
#5
Took a train to meet a guy ( he asked me out for lunch). We went to a cafe ( just your average cafe) and sat down to look at the menu.. l said oh I will have the jacket potato with tuna mayo. £ 5.50. A fanta orange £1.60.
He took ages looking at the menu .. then stood up and said " come on we are going I'm not paying these prices".
I was so hungry having had no breakfast and was an hour train ( cost me £12 )..
We ended up walking round town.. l thought we were looking for another cafe.. just as we were passing a Greg's he gave me a pound coin and said " here get in the queue and buy yourself a sausage roll on me"
I threw the pound back at him and walked off in the direction of the train station.
Jay Scales 8 months ago
The confidence to think he might get s3x by buying her a Greggs sausage roll :D :D
Amanda Reinstatler 7 months ago
WOW - this is how he acts on a FIRST date....? Not even trying to impress or show her a good time at all.
David Morgan 8 months ago
No, you can't assume that. The date suggested Greggs, not OP.
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#6
A match I'd been chatting to and getting along fairly well with, although a few red flags were waving- such as he instantly replied to my messages, I mean within seconds as if he was staring at his phone all day.
Anyway, he sent me a daft tiktok, but his account name was his real name. I googled it with his location and the first few results included a local news report of a court case- he was found guilty of harrassing his ex. The details of his harrassment did not make for pleasant reading. I'm so glad I googled him. Always do this.
Romy Rösli 8 months ago
Unfortunately in my country news portals usually don’t reveal names, unless a person is well known to the public.
Jake Bertz 4 months ago
Oh no! A person is..... [Checks notes] interested in the conversation they're having!
It's not long until you finally say "Enough" and log off Tinder, Hinge, or Bumble forever. One psychologist told AP News in 2024 that around 80% to 90% of her clients report experiencing dating app burnout. Beck Thompson says that if the thought of opening a dating app makes you feel exhausted, you're probably one of them.
But there are other signs as well, and Beck goes over some of them:
- You're swiping mindlessly and matching just for the dopamine hit.
- You've become overly cynical—assuming everyone is lying, a scammer, or emotionally unavailable (which, to be fair, might not be wrong—but still).
- You're settling for conversations that go nowhere or forcing connections with people you're not even interested in, just to avoid feeling alone.
In the end, the relationship coach says, dating is supposed to feel exciting. "Or at the very least, hopeful," she adds. "If it feels like a chore or a battlefield, it's time to take a break and come back with clearer intentions and I really encourage this."
#7
I met a guy, he was much older and fatter than his pics. He was also really boring
I cut it short and we walked out to the car park together. When I unlocked my car, he got in the passenger seat and asked me to flash under my dress, I said no, and he tried to persuade me. Then had the nerve to look affronted and confused when I asked him to get out because he was making me uncomfortable.
Aroace tiger (she/they/he) 8 months ago
In the bin he goes, we don't litter thats rude
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Amanda Reinstatler 7 months ago
So the fake profile pic means the lady is already immediately disappointed because now he is clearly: Not attractive at all Insecure A liar.....how could any woman resist such a catch
#8
Met a DJ online who happened to work at a venue I worked in but we hadn't crossed paths. Because of this I thought it was safe to go back to his place for a drink after our date, as we knew the same people. We started kissing and I could tell he wanted more so I slowed it down saying I didnt think it a good idea on a first date. Well, he stood me up against a wall and quick as you can even imagine...came on my leg! I was wearing black trousers and have a distinct memory of looking down thinking what on earth. He gave me a tea towel to wipe my leg and apologised. I left his house, blocked him and never saw him at work thank goodness!
Roxy222uk 8 months ago
That is 100% a sexual a*****t and he should very much be brought to the attention of the police! I'm not blaming the OP because it's so shocking when these things happen that people can't think straight, they are just trying to make it through and get away. I want to make it clear to any young men reading this how this is criminal offence.
Jac Carr 4 months ago
I had a friend (only ever been just friends) who came to my place a bit drunk, claimed I'd got him aroused by just being me (!) then said he wanted me to "finish him off" - I marched him to the bathroom, told him to do it himself then threw him out. We're actually still really good friends - he couldn't apologise more and I ripped him another ahole then we moved on
John Mosley 8 months ago
If that written story reminds you of something I definitely don't need to see the video!
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And a male friend went on a date with a woman his own age (early 50’s) who he’d been chatting to online.
He arrived at the pub and there was no sign of her so he bought a drink and sat down. Then an old lady with a walking stick approached his table and said ‘hi, I’m Sue’ - turns out she’d been using her daughters photos!
He got up and said ‘sorry but I’m going home. And she burst into tears and started screaming after him ‘age is only a number’ as he made a hasty retreat
brittany 8 months ago
if age were only a number, people wouldnt feel compelled to lie about theirs in the first palce.
Lady Eowyn 8 months ago
To me age is only a number. I've never lied about it. The number keeps getting larger....
Load More Replies... Romy Rösli 8 months ago
I can’t fathom what those people using other people’s photos or lying otherwise about their age, weight, etc. are thinking. In the end your lies will be exposed and this doesn’t end well in the majority of cases.
Beck sympathizes with anyone disillusioned with the apps and those who think they'll never find their soulmate on there. "Your feelings are valid," she says. "Modern dating can be brutal, especially when you're genuinely seeking depth in a sea of surface-level swiping."
But she also says people might want to look in the mirror. "Here's the truth: meaningful connection starts with you. How you show up. What you tolerate. How clearly you communicate your standards and desires."
#10
I've posted about this incident before but this threads suits....
Arranged a first date with a guy . I turned up to find that the guy had brought his toddler along to the "date". I should have just left immediately but I sat and had my coffee in stunned silence whilst he basically interviewed me for the job of stepmother.
#11
I went for a coffee date with a guy from OLD a couple of years ago. We got on well and arranged an evening out for dinner a few weeks after.
Several days before he texted me "I know nothings going to happen but it would be great if you could wear some sexy lingerie"
Of course when I called him out he said it was "A joke" Just like they always do when they say something deeply inappropriate.
Sophia Pandia de Delphia 8 months ago
When someone tells a sexist or racist joke, for example, say, "I don't get it. Explain it to me." Very quickly the inappropriate nature of the joke becomes heavy. They can't explain why it's funny.
Load More Replies... Michael Largey 8 months ago (edited)
How to say nothing's going to happen in a way that guarantees nothing's going to happen.
Amanda Reinstatler 7 months ago
Why would I bother wearing something you are NEVER going to see???
#12
I had one ask how much it would cost to put a baby in me...
When told where to go, he said he was genuinely asking as believed redheaded women produced superior babies.
I had no idea where to go with that lol. What an absolute creep.
David Morgan 8 months ago
One with the upgraded speakers, full leather seats and...no, wait, that's cars.
Load More Replies... urbeinghunted 25 8 months ago
If you're paying somebody to have sexual activity, chances are it's not "dating"
Rosemary . 8 months ago
It is true about redheaded women and superior babies. My mom's a redhead so I would know. Lol
"Most people date reactively—they wait to see what someone else brings before deciding how much of themselves to offer. Flip that. Get grounded in who you are and what you want. That energy is magnetic," the dating coach urges.
Thompson also encourages people to take some time off the apps. "Take a breather. Reset. Reconnect with who you are and why you want love in the first place. Real connection doesn't come from hustling harder—it comes from showing up more honestly. You're not behind. You're not broken. You're just being selective—and that's a really good thing."
#13
My friend had a date with a seemingly nice European guy, met for drinks a few times then was invited to his home for a meal and film. Sadly the guy put ‘centipede’ on as a starter movie and then moved onto some kind of snuff p**n thing. Let’s say my mate managed to leave pretty quickly whilst the guy was in the loo.
Multa Nocte 8 months ago
Why would you stay during Centipede and then stay even longer to know that he had the other stuff?
Tabitha 8 months ago (edited)
Probably had to spend the rest of the night cleansing her eyes and have a couple hours of memory erased after seeing Centipede—-and I have never seen it, and have no plans to ever go anywhere near it. I have only read a synopsis of the “plot”. Hard pass on that flick. Then there’s the s nuff p orn c rap. For a FIRST DATE? WT Actual F, dude?
Sheena Leversedge Wood 8 months ago
centipede isn't that bad. it's really cheesy and very hard to take seriously
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Sarah 8 months ago
From where in Europe? Are you aware how many different countries, languages and cultures there are?
Ahnjunwan 8 months ago
For some americans europe is a country like africa and asia
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I got into a virtual fight with one charmer on Tinder who described himself as an 'empath' and said he specifically wanted a woman "without any baggage". He was divorced and had three kids himself. I'm child-free and unmarried but the sense of entitlement and lack of self awareness was too much to bear. We ended up exchanging insults and blocked each other. Twat.
Romy Rösli 8 months ago (edited)
„I want someone without any baggage because they will have to help me carry mine.“
Steinem Sukker Rumpe 8 months ago (edited)
T**t W****r T****r A**e Tit B**b F***y Bollocks Git Bint C**k
Bartlet for world domination 8 months ago
Yes! Tit bollocks git bint! Into my collection.
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The Starsong Princess 8 months ago
Well, you wouldn’t have time to look after his kids if you had kids of your own.
Amanda Reinstatler 7 months ago
Just like the ugly trolls who want to date an effing supermodel
#15
We spoke during Covid and hit it off big time. He had his own business and seemed like a really great person.
When we could finally meet up he turned up with a black eye. He was a secret d**g dealer on the side.
Never saw him again.
Khavrinen 8 months ago
This time "technically correct" *wasn't* the best kind of correct.
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#16
Met a man on tinder who didn’t live too far away. Went for a coffee. Proceeded to tell me he wanted to impregnate me with twins. Swiftly left and he tried to follow me home. Dodged down some side streets and blocked 😂 Ironically he got someone else pregnant not long after with twins
zububonsai 8 months ago (edited)
Hu. Since this impregnating issue is a recurring topic here, I'm seriously asking (F here, never been asked that), especially male Fellow Pandas: Is that some real thing, that you've seen someone and very soon thought "I'd wish she had my babies"? (Even if you didn't spell it out loud to her) or is this some recent red pill Tate bullshít?
Luke Branwen 8 months ago
White supremacist bull$hit 100%. When I see/talk to a girl I find beautiful, many thoughts go through my head, but they're very, very rarely sexual and NEVER involve breeding.
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Wang Zhuang 8 months ago
I have the idea that the guys who talk about impregnating women like this are far more interested in the act of impregnating her than being a father to the eventual kids. Could just be me, though
BigCityLady 8 months ago
I feel bad for that woman and the anguish she, and the children, will endure forever.
#17
I had a date who was a bit bouffant and suited (not my type at all) but then it transpired that he couldn't walk past a mirror without admiring himself.
We were in a pub with loads of mirrors, all over each wall behind the bar and more in the restaurant part.
Even worse, every time he caught sight of himself, he'd do a sort of head flick, to shake all that (bleached) hair, open his mouth slightly and open his eyes wide, in a sort of coquettish pose that would only suit a teenage girl of under fifteen years.
I wonder if he would be doing a trout pout nowadays.
He also looked at me like this a few times, over the meal.
I didn't know if I was expected to swoon at his feet, or what. It was so hard not to laugh in his face.
Nuku Nyara 8 months ago
This is so funny! I could totally picture his teenage girl of fifteen years coquettish pose😂😂😂
urbeinghunted 25 8 months ago
Next time u see a vase with a flower in it next to one of the mirrors in the bar, you'll know what happened
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#18
He said 'boom' at the end of sentences - 'I'm going into town - boom !'
Also used 'I'm on fire' a lot. Pity he wasn't
Phoenix 8 months ago
Too bad he wasn't actually on fire, that probably would have been more interesting.
SheamusFanFrom1987 8 months ago
Unless he's Adam Cole (IYKYK), he likely isn't all the BOOM he thinks he is...
urbeinghunted 25 8 months ago
Look mate it could've been worse. I seriously don't think there's anything too unacceptable about this other than your preferences
#19
On a first date (and last) date w/a man who asked me my nationality. When I said German he said oh yes, big feet small b**bs. I couldn't get out of there fast enough
Would you believe he chased me and harassed me for months after that awful date. So gross and rude
🇫🇮 Goth Nurse 🇫🇮 8 months ago
At the time of me witing this, the next image below is of a smug David Hasselhoff :D
#20
The worst date I ever had was with a man who claimed to be a non-smoker but reeked of cigarettes. He also turned up drunk - it was an 11am meet. He tried to stick his tobacco flavoured tongue in my mouth and I excused myself to go to the ladies. I left by the back door and immediately deleted and blocked his number. I still shudder with distaste at the memory.
A friend of mine met a man who claimed to be landscape gardener with his own business, and a waterfront apartment in Leeds city centre. He turned out to mow grass verges for the council and still lived with his parents. Worse than that, he slept in a single bed, and had a poster of Kylie Minogue on his wall. He was 47.
Roxy222uk 8 months ago
I confused about the bed thing. If someone is single it isn't unusual for them to sleep in a single bed.
Emilu 8 months ago
Really? All the adults I know, single or otherwise, have double beds just because singles are small. Like, you’d put a kid in a single. The average adult’s feet would hang out.
Load More Replies... Amanda Reinstatler 7 months ago
I often forget that its not JUST American lads who are d0uche bags. D0uchery knows NO bounds!!!
urbeinghunted 25 8 months ago
I used to have a pic of Rafael Nadal on my wall when I was like 12. Cringe when I think about it
Angela Boey 8 months ago
Maybe he knows he is going to inherit the house. The single bed was probably his when he was growing up there. 🙂
#21
Second or third date with a guy I thought I quite liked... until he proudly showed me his membership card for a very right-wing political party & (despite my protestations) spent the next 45 minutes telling me about the upcoming civil war.
Michael Largey 8 months ago
The right wingers in my country ae still fighting the last civil war.
#22
This is about a bumble match within a two months of separating from my XH. I had a free evening and had been chatting to a man for a few days who seemed lovely. I was feeling bold (I hadn’t had the confidence to go on a date yet) and suggested meeting for a drink at a local leisure spot out of town. I told him I would be driving as I wasn’t drinking at that time.
He asked for a lift because I was passing near his house. I said “No, I’ll meet you there.” He tried again and I said “I’m not comfortable giving you a lift, I don’t know you yet so I’d rather meet you in public first.”
He sent me a barrage of a**se. I blocked and deleted all the OLD apps. I’m seeing someone now and I very quickly engineered a situation where I had to say no to him, to see how he would react. Thankfully he acted like a perfectly decent human being! If this relationship breaks down I won’t be using OLD for sure!
Amy S 8 months ago
Thank you! I was trying to work out if OLD is a dating app or something!
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Aelin Wildfire 8 months ago
Based on context? I think "ex husband", but I don't know for sure.
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I got an absolute shiner off of tinder say to me 'I really want you to be my girlfriend, so you can see to my trouser cannon every day.
F**king TROUSER CANNON.
Another: got to an organised drinks first date, and the guy had those white stringy bits all around his crusty lips. I kept licking my lips in the hope he'd do the same and kept thinking f**k me if he kisses me im going to have to see the hygienist.
Another took screenshots off of my social media, and told me that im wearing 'too much makeup' and he likes his 'girls' (yes girls) to dress modestly and be more natural. The photo he picked was me at a concert, covered in glitter.
Note: this bloke has botox. But told me off for wearing glitter.
Lastly: met a bloke in the supermarket of all places. Asked me out for a drink and I agreed. Exchanged numbers. (I was 18 at this point). He said that he was Russell brands cousin and he had RB and katy Perry coming round that evening for drinks and would I like to join? I was SO EXCITED. Funnily enough, I'd just seen her on tour the week before and knew for a fine fact she wasn't in the country. But anyhoo I thought I'd play along. Anyway, he said he would pick me up at X time on the back of his motorbike. (I wouldn't have gone.) when he told me he was on his way, apparently in the 10 minute journey his Nan died, and he also got pulled over for speeding and immediately lost his license and asked if he could come to mine.
I am so happy to be out of relationships. Men can f**k off.
tw 72 8 months ago
..and he seems to think she is just dying to enjoy that every day, like it is some sort of prize
Load More Replies... Binky Melnik 8 months ago
And apparently believes the viewer will be grateful for it, even. Wow. Displaced confidence is both hilarious and sad to me.
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Binky Melnik 8 months ago
I keep imagining it going off accidentally, and the cleanup afterwards. Ugh.
Load More Replies... David Morgan 8 months ago
The only guy with a Trouser Cannon is the biker guy in 'From Dusk Till Dawn'. Shot a vampire with it...
Nikole 8 months ago (edited)
Wasn’t that Séx Machine? Fun fact! He’s a SFX make-up artist and played the leader of the bikers in the original (and clearly superior) Dawn of the Dead!
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Dating again after being widowed four years, he had been divorced from effectively childhood sweetheart and mother of his children four years, all very amicable. Then I found out in those four years he's bought a house with someone else and married a third person. I asked him if the second divorce was also amicable... "no, ha ha, she even accused me of r**e to the police"
#25
When I was a teenager (early 90's) I met up with a guy who'd looked normal in daytime, but he turned up to the pub (average jeans & t-shirt type of village pub) wearing a velvet fitted single button jacket with nothing underneath. He'd floofed his hair up so it was really bouffant on top.
Think he was after a David Hasselhoff look, but his skin was the colour of mushroom soup and he looked like he was making a slow recovery from consumption.
Such a whiny attention-seeking idiot too.
Twas a long evening.
Chewie Baron 8 months ago
I know! I love saying Consumption instead of Tuberculosis!! Very Victorian drawing room predicament!
Load More Replies... Broccoli 8 months ago
What does “slowly recovering from consumption” mean? English isn’t my first language, so I’m guessing recovering from substance abuse issues?
Emilu 8 months ago (edited)
English is my first language, but today I learnt something!
Load More Replies... SheamusFanFrom1987 8 months ago
Pretty sure OP was finally happy to ooga-chaka her way out of that jokefest -_-"
#26
I had a first and last date with one who started whinging that a woman came on her period in his bed staining the mattress then proceeded to ask me back to his (of course didn’t accept).😫
Never f***ed off and blocked someone so fast. I bumped into him in Tesco a few weeks later. 😂
Roxy222uk 8 months ago
If you don't want to deal with the fact that most women menstruate then best stick to men
Binky Melnik 8 months ago
While there are certainly people who’re grossed out by periods, the fact remains that NO ONE* wants blood from ANY part of the body on their mattress. Mattresses are expensive, and we don’t want ‘em stained with blood, vomit, seamen, pus, or any other bodily substance. We should all be comfortable with our own mattresses, and that means no *stuff* on ‘em. *I’m sure there are people and vampires who’re exceptions to this rule, but their percentages are so small as to be uncountable.
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#27
Not quite the same type of story but when I was 18 I dated a guy who told me his cousin ( R) was a member of a famous band . He looked quite similar , had the same last name and his family came from the same place in the UK , so I believed him . We went to a club in London and my BF was ordering drinks at the bar and "his cousin R " walked in . As he and his entourage walked past I got up and spoke to R and told him his cousin( my BF ) was here . At that point my BF returned and R looked blankly at him and said " that's not my cousin , never seen him before "
Roxy222uk 8 months ago
Cousin prank? Or cousin absolutely sick of being used as an aide to trying to get laid? (Although in all honesty, we know the truth)
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#28
Muslim here but so many "marriage suitor" frog stories...
1. One guy tried to get money out of me and shouted at me when I said no.
2. Another sang to me on voice notes
3. Promising one lied about his visa status
4. Guy was really fat and gross. And kept asking it "lf I had fallen in love with him yet". He only shared a head shot with me before we met.
5. Guy tried to propose in a coffee shop with a coffee stirrer (the wooden one). Sweet at the time, but laughable now when I look back.
Remi (He/Him) 8 months ago
Really, really depends on the singer and the song selection
Load More Replies... Binky Melnik 8 months ago
I’m stuck on “frog stories.” The best i can come up with is that the dates are frogs before they turn into princes. Have I got it right, or is this new slang I’m encountering for the first time? If so, I’d be grateful for a clue. Thanks!
Tom De Paul 8 months ago
Maybe because the prevalence of arranged marriages among Muslims means no one has a lot of experience at successful dating?
#29
Pre-internet dating .. in fact pre-Internet .. none of your WhatsApp or any of that.
Met this guy in a club, he was gorgeous, manager at a fashion store in the local city. I put in the work over a few weeks.. always talking to him when I saw him.. weeks of this.
Anyhow, finally had a break through .. back to his for (hopefully) a great night. Get to his bedroom, when he asks me … did I mind if he put in his Star Trek outfit he had in his wardrobe. Yes, I very much minded…
Luke Branwen 8 months ago
Right? If a girl asked me "would you mind if I put on my Jedi robes", I'd probably propose on the spot 😅
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Binky Melnik 8 months ago
“Pre-internet” means before 1969, so either she’s older than Methuselah or she meant “pre-web.” But yeah, dating before you could exchange photos was VERY tricky! I once put an ad in the paper that I was looking for gay men to be buds I could go dancing with and they’d (ideally) scare off men who wanted to hit on me. I only got ONE response who fit my requirement, but I think every single weirdo in San Francisco responded with one thing or another. One was a cross-dresser who hoped to share clothes and wanted makeup tips; another was what we call these days a “furry,” and one was a repellently hirsute man from Israel who was too handsome to even believe (so long as his clothes remained on!). He was the lone response who fit my requirement. After weeks of him accompanying me to clubs, going shopping with me, eating meals together, I realized I’d fallen in love. ARGH! Ghosted him until he hunted me down …
Binky Melnik 8 months ago (edited)
… and told me he was perfectly straight, that he understood I wanted someone who’d be with me and keep his hands off, and that he’d fallen in love with me. Son of a gun. We got together; the relationship only lasted six months, but I still smile when I think about having placed that ad and met him that way. Everything about the experience was wrong, but I did benefit nearly a year from having met him.
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Lee451 Henderson 8 months ago
I was a teen back in the 1970s and ALL the women had tribbles in their panties. Get too close to some and they would scream like a Klingon was present.
Load More Replies... person (i think) 8 months ago
You probably should wait a few more dates for something like that!
#30
Some of them are such actual pond life.
I dated a guy briefly during my OLD period who was almost a foot shorter than me. (I know, I know). Initially I thought he was funny and charismatic enough that I could get past it but I couldn’t.
After two dates I politely blew him out but wished him well. He flew into a rage saying he knew it was about his height etc. I backed away but said I liked him and no hard feelings and he called me a b***h.
So that was the end of that you might think until six weeks later he messaged me on Instagram saying I know it’s never going to happen between us but can you send me a photo of you in high heels???
I then blocked him on Insta and he popped up on Facebook/WhatsApp, you name it. He was continuing to try to contact me on various social platforms for a further four years, well into my current relationship.
Madness… if I had behaved like he did he would have reported me to the police.
Women are always being accused of being hysterical and irrational but men are far worse in dating.
Sheena Leversedge Wood 8 months ago
so what? yes, it's shallow, but if she's shallow enough for it to be a dealbreaker, so be it. his reaction to it, and behaviour afterwards shows she dodged a bullet, even if it was for a shallow reason.
Load More Replies... Multa Nocte 8 months ago
I had to look it up. It stands for "online dating."
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#31
Not me but my friend went for a date with a bloke who paid for dinner with a 50% off voucher and told her it was his treat but she could only have a main course as that’s what the voucher covered.
When they walked to the car park, he asked is she wanted to get into the back seat of his car and unleash his beast - he was 56!!!
Jay Scales 8 months ago
I think there must be an invisible barrier for men at around 17 years of age.... Some make it thru & become decent human beings. Those who don't make it thru are doomed to spend the rest of lives living in a blinkered, hormonal teenage mindset.
tw 72 8 months ago
...and "I just know you can't wait to get some of my magnificent d!ck" is not now, nor has it ever been, a true statement.
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#32
God so many horror stories but the ones that spring to mind are a guy I met for a drink, spent the entire time boasting about how much money he made (whilst allowing me to buy all the drinks) then when I was ready to go (quite sharpish obviously) he asked if I wanted to wait outside with him as he "knew an alley behind the pub". I went to sit at the bar until my taxi arrived and asked the barman to walk me out.
Another one I met and things were going quite well until he showed me the you tube videos of him singing propaganda songs for EDL
I also had one guy move the time back and hour, show up with all his mates then disappear off for half an hour leaving me with his friends and returned to ask me if I wanted to go back to his. When I said no he said he didn't fancy me anyway and wanted to get back with his ex. Obvs I was gutted.
#33
There were probably loads but I erased them from my memory. A more recent one, first day chatting on Tinder, catching up on what we've been up to over the weekend. I say that I ran out of food and scraping the bottoms of my cupboards to make something or other. The next thing he comes up with "oh great, so you can cook for me"... err, no mate.
Annik Perrot 8 months ago
Just can't unsee that vest. My grandma used to crochet stuff like that.
Binky Melnik 8 months ago
I’ve never before now seen a man wearing ANY granny squares, and now I know that it’s not something I ever wanna see again. Good grief! I had no clue how awful it’d be!
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Roxy222uk 8 months ago
I just don't get it. If you like her, but don't want to overstep boundaries at such an early stage (don't offer to send food because that would require her giving out her address) then problem solve it together. A man who asked "what have you got, let's work out what you could make" would be very interesting to me.
#34
During covid, just as restrictions were ending but before you could eat inside I'd been talking to a guy for a while. Seemed pleasant and articulate. Met him once and he seemed OK so agreed to meet for lunch next time.
Ate lunch, was nice, but freezing as outside. He invited me back to his place as close by. I agreed. Got to his and it was almost hoarder house level inside, clutter and mess everywhere. He gave me a tour of the house but refused to show my the upstairs area that he used (he had moved back in with his mum) because it was too messy 😐👀. He made us a cup of tea in grubby kitchen which we took to lounge and then started to try to kiss and fondle. That was the point I belatedly made my excuses and left! Shame as he had seemed so nice in the written messages lol.
#35
I very briefly dated a guy in my late teens (he was early twenties), who was v clearly trying to look like Eminem. He used to follow any vaguely nice comment etc. with 'and stuffs'... "I just think you're really cute and stuffs"... He definitely thought it was cute. I was nearly sick in my mouth each time he said it. I ended things speedily when I went from feeling a bit nauseous to wanting to punch him.
#36
I have a few
the guy who kept calling me on bumble, like every 10 minutes. I finally answered and he started telling me about his ex who we moved in with after 6 weeks and then she got a restraining order, police called etc. he kept saying was a really nice guy. . He only had 10 mins to talk as staying at a friends as they didn’t let him use his phone. Blocked
the guy who would only communicate via selfies with trout pout. I asked for more texts less pictures sec stopped replying as no conversation. A week later he sent abusive WhatsApp saying I was rude for not replying. My reply was I was not interested. Blocked him and then he started texting me on normal text as I was rude for not setting a date up after matching.
meeting with a guy the looked older than his pictures for him to accidentally tell me he was 10 years older than stated. Asked if anything was true on his profile. Nothing was even down to owing a cat. He thought he sounded cute and it would be a funny story to tell our grand kids. I drank my expensive wine and left.
#37
This was before Internet dating so I am that old. Met him at work and went to on first date. Was very boring. He then informed me that i was going to meet him at a cafe for coffee. I made my excuses and he said he expected me to be there. I said I wouldn't be there. He went ballistic when I didn't turn up. I had to deploy the 'shh an't shhhh ear you, it's a ba shhh ine' or ignore him for him to get the hint. He sent me an 'anniversary' text a year after our date. He came from Dubai - i had frequent nightmares about being kidnapped for a few years! I'm so glad that date was boring 😄.
Then of course there is the 'i was in the army' type bloke. Special ops. Can't tell you about it. The 'I'm full of s**t' date. I feel sorry for those men genuinely in special ops - they must find it hard to keep a date.....
Pink kitty 8 months ago
Bad phone line. She's pretending she can't hear him because of the 'poor' phone reception. The shh is the imitation of static on the line. The 'cut off' words are supposed to support her lie
Load More Replies... Roxy222uk 8 months ago
I don't know why anyone would mention what they do for a living unless either asked or it was relevant to the conversation.
Sheena Leversedge Wood 8 months ago
for some reason, some people think it's important to know. I'd rather know about peoples hobbies and pets than what their job is. I once read that the reason one of the first things people ask about you is your job, is so they can decide how much respect they think you deserve
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Not online dating but a guy at uni was chatting with me in my room lying on my bed. He had this god-awful belt on with a massive buckle which I couldn’t help but notice. He saw me look so I said “your belt is interesting”. He replied “yeah i really like it. I wear it as it’s sexy and makes my package look even bigger” Wtaf 🤢. He was 100% serious and was so cocky. He would also try to act macho and puff out his little pigeon chest around other guys to make himself look bigger. Needless to say it didn’t develop into a relationship!
Michael Largey 8 months ago
If you think you need something to make your package look bigger, you probably do.
#39
Years ago now but I had one who got very drunk at happy hour while I had some work that ran late, met me for a beligerant date, we were walking towards transport after an hour at a bar. He tried to kiss me, then grabbed my left b**b. Just that one. Awkwardly left. I ghosted for obvious reasons. Months later he messaged and asked where it all went wrong, so I told him. He responded "so there is a chance this could still work?". Urgh.
#40
In the days before apps, my friend used a newspaper’s contact site. (Several of the newspapers used to do it in the 90’s.) She met a guy in a pub for a meal, first date and all was going well until they discussed what ideal job they would prefer if they could start again from scratch. His ideal job was to be a hangman……she ran for the hills…
#41
I once had the partner of a friend who had just given birth come round, drop a roll of banknotes on the table and say ''I'd give a woman this just to get my end away''...
He was a good looking man, but I was genuinely shocked.
I most definitely didn't take him up on his offer. - he later had an affair .
This was before online dating though- 1999 era.
Btsquestrian 8 months ago
It's a euphemism for a male acheiving $exua! release
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One of mine turned up looking like Mavis Riley in a trouser suit. He was clearly flirting with the androgynous look but had tipped over into daytime drag queen.
#43
Another mate went on a date with a man who arrived wearing a very obvious wig.
He went to the bar and on the way back tripped up a step and his wig slipped without him realising and he sat opposite her with a wonky wig!
Cindy Brick 8 months ago
I saw this happen, during lunch with a work colleague who was trying desperately to impress me. But it was a toupee...and his real hair kept sticking out around the edges.
Tara L. 4 months ago
Lol I went on a date with a guy who did the "comb over then spray a whole can of hairspray" thing. That wasn't a deal breaker though, what was a deal breaker was when we stepped outside & the wind made his combover flip up like a lid. He. Freaked. Out. He dropped his beer & screamed while he desperately tried to hold his hair down on his head. I got beer & glass shards on my shoes. DATE OVER! I can't handle dealing with people who freak put over stupid c**p like that. He called me a few hours later & asked when we could go out again. I chewed him out about dropping the glass bottle of beer on my feet then hung up & blocked him.
Emilu 8 months ago
Kinda OT, but a mid-life crisis guy in a mid-life crisis car (think sporty convertible you drive if you’re young and rich or mid-life-crisis-ing and rich). Kept on oogling my mum and trying to act all cool at her. Until his toupee flew off with the wind and flew backwards along the freeway, then he kinda stopped and drove off for some reason.
#44
Cinema date 1990’s. Arranged by phone after we had met in a bar.
He was late and when I got in the car there was a box of Maltesers on the seat. He had pre-bought them in the shop to ‘save’ buying them there.
When we got there we were late, the film had already started and he suggested going to a very fancy bar.
Then told me I could get that drinks in, as he was the transport… and had bought cinema snacks.
Three rounds in I asked to go home.
As I went to get out of the car I took the Maltesers and he was fuming - he wanted to take them back for a refund. £1.99!
I went in and had a cuppa with my mum and we scoffed the lot. Told everyone in work the next day.
Years later he randomly came into my work to do a presentation to a hundred of us, I’d told one friend and then it got round. And just as he got all his gear ready she shouted…
‘Welcome to the stage, Malteser Man!’
Regina Holt 8 months ago
LOL, it's Malteser man! I'm just imagining his face being as red as the package.
#45
I turned up to a guy wearing a tight brown leather jacket and a baseball cap on backwards. He was 38.
HeavyMetalHeart 8 months ago
Is there an age when you’re supposed to stop wearing leather jackets? Because I’m 48 and still love them.
Lowrider 56 8 months ago
Im 69, still wear my leather jacket.when im out riding my motorcycle.
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Kallen Kneeland 8 months ago
C'mon commenters, give the lady a break. I'm sure you've all seen that guy who is still wearing his "it was cool in high school" jacket that no longer fits him AT ALL, but he thinks it still makes him look great. A well fitted leather motorcycle jacket can be classic at any age, but Google "Vintage 1980s Wilson Brown Leather Jackets" and envision that on an out-of-shape 38-yr old in a date setting. Then try not to shudder.
David Morgan 8 months ago
This would only be an issue if you'd gone to, say, the opera or a multi-star Michelin restaurant. Otherwise, it's just your personal preference.
Dan Holden 8 months ago
Oh the humanity! This type of comment always rubs me the wrong way. Like the people that look down on someone who wears pajama pants in public. Get a grip!
Roxy222uk 8 months ago
I mean, it might be a good sign that you and the other person are not each other's cup of tea, and anyone has the right to not 'give someone a chance' without justification, but it seems a bit mean to shame him for it.
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Romy Rösli 8 months ago
I‘m lucky I haven’t had really bad dates. Some guys were strange but nothing too crazy. However once I matched with a guy and we started chatting. We chatted for about 2 hours and I thought it was quite a nice conversation. Suddenly he wrote „Okay then, let’s end this. I don’t like your looks.“ Uh, why had he liked my profile then? I just replied „okay, good luck.“ Three months later he reached out saying „I thought about it and would like to continue our conversation“. So he hadn’t found a prettier woman… I replied „this wouldn’t make sense since I haven’t had plastic surgery.“ Fortunately never heard from him again.
Donna Peluda 8 months ago
M56. It's not only woman that have bad dates. I've had my fair share of wack jobs. One woman I met on meetic tried to lure me into a sect. Another got out of bed and started praying for forgiveness after s*x. A tinder date turned out to be 70+. A blind date set up by a mutual friend wanted to be impregnated with no strings attached. A woman I met had her husband watching from across the bar and offered me money to go back to her hotel. One girl took me a swingers club.
XenoMurph 8 months ago
Yes, the site divides us into segments and tries to make us hate, for clicks. Old vs young, parents vs childfree, men vs women, US vs Euro, etc etc etc. It's divisive and unhelpful. All humans are in part terrible, in part awesome. Demographics are irrelevant.
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Mabelbabel 8 months ago
My worst two-I was chatting online, and he seemed OK. The next night, we were chatting again, and he asked why my account wasn't deactivated. Turned out he thought that as soon as we'd had our first date 'a short online MSN messaging chat), I should have closed my membership to show other men that I was no longer available, and then started ranting that all of us b1tches were the same, dogs on heat, sleeping around with anyone. He got blocked very quickly. The second one I'd agreed to meet for a drink. I arrived, and he started sending SMS messages "you look taller than I thought" "your hairs grown longer since your photo was taken" "I like that jacket you're wearing." On and on, getting creepier. I asked him to show himself, and he thought it was funny that I was getting freaked out. So I walked out and went home, and he started messaging calling me names and saying it was just a joke and I was a b***h for leaving.
LauraDragonWench 7 months ago
Pre-internet, I signed up for a matchmaking service, but because I had the free membership rather than the full service, I only got bottom-of-the-barrel dates. One guy I met at a restaurant and after sitting down, he took out his wallet and proceeded to lay out on the table every "gentlemen's club" membership cards he owned, bragging about each one. I excused myself to go to the bathroom and left the restaurant. 😳
Sarah 8 months ago
Please , can people please refrain from saying ‘off of’. Simply say ‘from’. My other pet hate is the overuse of the word ‘mad’. Has no one any other synonyms - angry/ furious/ livid/ annoyed/ fuming etc
Illustrious G 8 months ago
You can just get off of the site if it makes you so mad.
Load More Replies... Romy Rösli 8 months ago
I‘m lucky I haven’t had really bad dates. Some guys were strange but nothing too crazy. However once I matched with a guy and we started chatting. We chatted for about 2 hours and I thought it was quite a nice conversation. Suddenly he wrote „Okay then, let’s end this. I don’t like your looks.“ Uh, why had he liked my profile then? I just replied „okay, good luck.“ Three months later he reached out saying „I thought about it and would like to continue our conversation“. So he hadn’t found a prettier woman… I replied „this wouldn’t make sense since I haven’t had plastic surgery.“ Fortunately never heard from him again.
Donna Peluda 8 months ago
M56. It's not only woman that have bad dates. I've had my fair share of wack jobs. One woman I met on meetic tried to lure me into a sect. Another got out of bed and started praying for forgiveness after s*x. A tinder date turned out to be 70+. A blind date set up by a mutual friend wanted to be impregnated with no strings attached. A woman I met had her husband watching from across the bar and offered me money to go back to her hotel. One girl took me a swingers club.
XenoMurph 8 months ago
Yes, the site divides us into segments and tries to make us hate, for clicks. Old vs young, parents vs childfree, men vs women, US vs Euro, etc etc etc. It's divisive and unhelpful. All humans are in part terrible, in part awesome. Demographics are irrelevant.
Load More Replies... Mabelbabel 8 months ago
My worst two-I was chatting online, and he seemed OK. The next night, we were chatting again, and he asked why my account wasn't deactivated. Turned out he thought that as soon as we'd had our first date 'a short online MSN messaging chat), I should have closed my membership to show other men that I was no longer available, and then started ranting that all of us b1tches were the same, dogs on heat, sleeping around with anyone. He got blocked very quickly. The second one I'd agreed to meet for a drink. I arrived, and he started sending SMS messages "you look taller than I thought" "your hairs grown longer since your photo was taken" "I like that jacket you're wearing." On and on, getting creepier. I asked him to show himself, and he thought it was funny that I was getting freaked out. So I walked out and went home, and he started messaging calling me names and saying it was just a joke and I was a b***h for leaving.
LauraDragonWench 7 months ago
Pre-internet, I signed up for a matchmaking service, but because I had the free membership rather than the full service, I only got bottom-of-the-barrel dates. One guy I met at a restaurant and after sitting down, he took out his wallet and proceeded to lay out on the table every "gentlemen's club" membership cards he owned, bragging about each one. I excused myself to go to the bathroom and left the restaurant. 😳
Sarah 8 months ago
Please , can people please refrain from saying ‘off of’. Simply say ‘from’. My other pet hate is the overuse of the word ‘mad’. Has no one any other synonyms - angry/ furious/ livid/ annoyed/ fuming etc
Illustrious G 8 months ago
You can just get off of the site if it makes you so mad.
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