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35 Horrible Wedding Guests Who Ruined Everyone’s Day, As Shared In This Viral Thread
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It’s an honor to be invited to someone’s wedding! It shows that the marrying couple cares about you and wants you to be a witness to their union. However, even a single guest with a propensity for causing drama can derail these celebrations of everlasting love.
Reddit user u/Frosty-Resort-4163 sparked an interesting discussion on r/weddingshaming. They invited everyone to share their spiciest stories about horrible wedding guests who caused unnecessary headaches for everyone else. Scroll down to hear what they had to say!
We reached out to the author behind the viral thread, redditor u/Frosty-Resort-4163. She was kind enough to share her perspective on wedding stress and handling drama-obsessed guests. You'll find Bored Panda's full interview with the OP below.
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#1
One of my wedding guests was a plus one I’d never met. I introduced myself to him, held out my hand to shake his, and he put his hand in his mouth, sucked on it, pulled it out, and shook my hand, leaving it dripping with spit.
I should mention he was a 6-month-old baby and his transgression was totally forgiven due to how cute he was.
Donteatme666 1 year ago
Thank goodness for the context 🤣🤣 cuz I was really grossed out for a minute
Bored Panda was curious to get the author's opinion on why her thread reached so many people around the world. “First of all, it’s fun to share stories about people who ignore social norms, especially in settings [that are] a bit more formal, like weddings. Most of us inherently know how to behave, but it’s clear from the stories people shared on my post that many people either don’t know how to or choose not to," u/Frosty-Resort-4163 told us.
“Also, couples often spend so much time, effort, and money planning their once-in-lifetime event that it’s kind of unfathomable when guests can’t follow basic common courtesies. As a wedding guest, you’re not asked for much," she emphasized.
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#2
My friends dad whined the whole time that she didn't tell him she invited his ex wife..guess who his ex wife is?
Her mom.
That she lived with her whole life.
That supported her through school.
That never put her dad on child support.
That ex wife.
She's a monster.
María Hermida 1 year ago (edited)
Demanding child support is not a punishment or revenge. Even if you divorce, that person is the kids' father forever, so, those kids are still his responsibility. If you don't need the money, save it for your kids university fees, or a car, or whatever they need. But get the bloody money. It's your children's.
Elio 1 year ago
Exactly. My mom paid child support longer than legally required because it was helpful for myself and my brother.
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WindySwede 1 year ago
Had to read twice because of the last sentence. But second time around I'm guessing there is a /s on the last.
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Hey! 1 year ago
To be fair, when my parents were both invited anywhere, we would tell them, be it funerals, parties, weddings, it didn't matter. I know this example doesn't need it, but a little forewarning is free.
WFH Forever 1 year ago
But seriously, she LIVES with her mother and her dad didn't think that she would invite her????
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#3
My aunt’s husband kept weirdly touching my husband on the face and shoving money down his pants, and kept trying to convert everyone to his religion (it’s a cult). He got so drunk he started stealing stuff and was kicked out by security. Props to the security guard because I had no idea it happened until the next morning. My aunt, a formerly recovering alcoholic, spent most of the evening lying on the floor p**s drunk, talking to the dog.
On a happier note, one of my parents’ oldest friends threw a bread roll at my Nana’s head when she wouldn’t shut up during speeches. His wife was appalled, I gave him a high five for it.
Shannimal 1 year ago
You know it's going to be a good time when you have to hire security for your wedding.
Khavrinen 1 year ago
To be fair, even though I don't drink, I'd rather be on the floor talking to the dog at most receptions....
SilverSkyCloud 1 year ago
a realistic cover story to get away with socialising with pets instead of people at a wedding?
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"The couple wants you to have a really good time, and in many cases, they’re also paying a lot for you to be there. So it’s not rocket science as a guest to figure out what’s appropriate—just glance over the invitation and/or wedding website before you go, read the room, and try not to be a huge distraction on someone else’s big day," the OP pointed out that being a good guest is genuinely quite easy. And we tend to agree.
We were interested in getting the redditor's take on how best to handle guests who step out of line, whether it's best to ignore the entire situation or to tackle it head-first. In her opinion, it's best to focus on enjoying the celebration.
"As the bride, it’s easy and wise to avoid confrontation. Honestly, you’re way too busy and swept up in the moment to even notice a lot of what’s happening around you," u/Frosty-Resort-4163 shared with Bored Panda.
#4
My first husband’s best man was a beach bum kinda guy and showed up in his tux wearing flip flops. Fortunately my uncle wore the same size shoes and lent him his for the ceremony.
The same guy was best man for his brother’s wedding a year earlier. He thought it would be hilarious to streak naked through the reception hall with a bag over his head. This was in the 80s when streaking was all the rage. As he ran out of the room, he missed the doorway, slammed into the door jamb and knocked himself out.
Christopher Walkies 1 year ago
Okay. I remember the 80s and for the record, streaking was not all the rage. That was the 70s. Eg. Oscars '74.
WFH Forever 1 year ago
There was literally a comedy song called "The Streak" in the 70s, I remember it well.
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Dread Pirate Roberts 1 year ago
Streaking was a douche move, but what happened at the end is hilarious 😂
#5
So my parents went to the wedding of our former exchange student in Norway. The father of the bride drove them to the Church, and got really caught up showing them the local sites. My mother, a couple of times, sort of anxiously asked if they were running behind - she thought the ceremony was at 2, but the father insisted it was at 3. It seemed to her they were cutting it close anyway - it was getting to be 2:15, 2:30. But the father kept telling her to relax and showing her local sites.. Anyway, they pull up to the church at 2:50 in time to see the bride, in tears, recessing out. Her father had missed her own wedding. It was, indeed, at 2.
Binky Melnik 1 year ago
Would someone explain what “recessing out” means? I’m hoping we have some Norwegian folks here who can explain what it means when a bride does this. I feel awful for that poor bride, and wish like crazy that Dad had listened to the folks he was chauffeuring around. 😰 I woulda recessed out, too, in the same situation. (I’m assuming it’s a sad or bad thing.) Thanks!
Leah Hammon 1 year ago
I thought maybe they were using it as the opposite of proceeding in and just meant she was coming out, ceremony over.
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LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 year ago (edited)
Amazingly, there are people still alive today who lived before everyone had a cellphone. I didn’t have my first cellphone until 1998, when I was 16, which, though it was a mind-boggling 26 years ago, was within my lifetime and my parents’ lifetimes.
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Connie Martin 1 year ago
Something tells me this was deliberate by the father. Needing to call attention to himself at the (devastating) cost to his daughter. Typical narcissist move
Ken Beattie 1 year ago
Don't assume malicious intent when plain old stupidity is more likely.
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Brian Droste 1 year ago
If I had daughter getting married I am afraid I would do this. The last two months I had a hair cut appointment, I got them wrong.
#6
My friends MiL wore a near duplicate dress of my friends. She giggled every time someone mentioned it
Edit: my friend was the bride
Donteatme666 1 year ago
I'm a nonviolent person but I think I would've physically harmed that person if it was my wedding
Linda Gilliam 1 year ago
Why can't people be happy for the Bride and Groom ?? They go and show their azz and make themselves look like a phucking idiot !!
MoMcB 1 year ago
I don't get, as a Mother, what they get out of this. They will never look as good as their daughter does.
Christopher Walkies 1 year ago
MoMcB. It's worse. this was the mother in law.
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Christopher Walkies 1 year ago
How desperate for attention is that? I mean, absolutely everyone at the wedding hates her, but oh, the attention.
Anna Chandler 1 year ago
The appropriate response to MIL would have been spilling a gallon of red red wine on her dress...
María Hermida 1 year ago
Apart from being disrespectful and stupid, it's sick. A woman that goes to her son's wedding in a (nearly) bridal dress needs urgent psychiatric help. It's revolting!
Andrea Pereira 1 year ago
Honestly if someone did this at my wedding I would do nothing. Everyone knows it's ridiculous and attention grabbing to wear white at a wedding unless you're the bride. Just let the person hang theirselves with their own rope. They'll be the target of all the comments on the event... but not in a good way.
Peppy 1 year ago
It’s not weird, it’s called aging, plus she just took her bra off 😉
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"A lot of the stories I shared are from what people told me after the event. Avoiding confrontation at the wedding itself is the way to go. Enjoy your day while it lasts—it goes by in a flash! You’ll have the rest of your life to rehash stories about the rude guests with your spouse, friends, or, like me, on Reddit afterward,” she said.
“If someone is extremely out of line, leave it to your closest friends and family, who’ll be happy to step in, like my one tipsy friend who handled the ‘woman-in-white,’” the OP said, referring to the personal stories she shared when she made the original thread.
#7
A friend of ours, who had rsvpd with no +1, reached out to us the week before the wedding to ask if he could bring his brand new girlfriend. We said sorry, no, we've already had to finalize the seating charts and headcount etc. (And also we literally have never met this girl). Well of course he still shows up with her, late to our ceremony so they're awkwardly standing in the back the whole time. At the reception they stole one of my groomsmen's chairs from the head table in order to squeeze her in at their full table. Thankfully the venue staff were great and didn't bat an eye, just brought an extra chair and an extra meal no questions asked.
Also my ex (who was invited as he's still part of our mutual friend group) showed up in pants that were way way too tight. Proceeded to bust a move on the dance floor and rip the entire a*s crack of his pants. One of my bridesmaids brought him into the ladies room and sewed him up using the emergency swing kit I'd put in the bathroom basket. But that one was more hilarious than annoying.
Xandra 1 year ago
Lol, I was trying to imagine what a "swing kit" would contain! (obviously a typo, but a very funny one!)
The Starsong Princess 1 year ago
You know people are having a good time if someone splits their pants on the dance floor.
Courtney Christelle 1 year ago
I wouldn’t have brought out the extra meal for an uninvited guest. They could share a plate a leave hungry for the rudeness.
#8
My MIL gave me a list of 86 people to invite to my 100 person max wedding, leaving me, the bride, with all of 14. Suffice to say I had never met the majority of the people on the list. Of the people I really didn't know but who showed up, there was Mia. Mia was going through a crappy divorce and she was in full hate mode. She drank too much, got too loud, and then dramatically threw her wedding band and engagement ring off the deck into the shrubbery. She expected people to gasp and then help her find them -- no one did. She asked the venue folks to help her, they told her they were busy with, you know, my reception. For all I know, she's still crawling around out there, 22 years later.
Rachael Maree 1 year ago
I would have told the MIL to mind her manners, it’s a celebration of your relationship and marriage and she does not get to dictate those kind of numbers
Lew k 1 year ago
My MIL did this same thing. We were planning a wedding that my and the wife were fully paying for and we didn’t have a ton of money at the time. MIL keeps adding guests, tons of them. When the cost got up into the 15-20k range my wife suggested we just elope and save the money. One of the many reasons I know I picked the right one. She wanted a wedding but wasn’t willing to go into debt and deal with all the stress her mom was bringing. Still happily married 15 years later.
T J R 1 year ago
She's a keeper for coming up with a brilliant plan, and you're a keeper for loving the plan and going along with it :D
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Nikki Sevven 1 year ago
Why didn't you refuse the list, ffs? The consequences occurred solely because you didn't stand up for yourselves and say NO.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 year ago
Nikki, it’s nice and easy to sling sentences like that around, but not everyone’s parental situation is the same or is as easy as “just tell them no!” My mother, for example, would first simply ignore the “no”, then if repeatedly told so, she would become belligerent, verbally abusive, and finally violent. It would mean cutting off my mother (and sister) entirely for the rest of my life if I “stood up for myself”. For some things, that’s just not worth it. Not everyone is just some kind of simple caricature of a childhood bully who will fold and collapse if sternly told “NO!” Some people will just hurt you more - and harder.
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Upstaged75 1 year ago
Was the MIL paying for the wedding? If not I'd have told her to eff off!
María Hermida 1 year ago
Well, the earlier you start setting limits, the better. Your wedding, your guests. And if there will be one hundred people max, it's fifty people on the groom's side and fifty on the bride's side.
ॐBoyGanesh 1 year ago
After reading all the comments on this, I now understand why I make excuses to avoid weddings. Especially cishet circuses. I’m not saying this in a sanctimonious manner. Simply, I’m too old & too gay to waist my time with these productions. I’d much rather talk to the marrying people to offer something more tangible or actionable to show my recognition, love & support of them.
#9
A friend of mine, Ellie, told me about how she was invited to her friend Barbara's wedding with a +1.
Ellie's relationship was ROCKY and they were fighting all the time, to the point that Barbara had left several hints about maybe not bringing her bf and "are you sure you want him there? Because we don't want any drama" etc.
Ellie brought him anyway, and they had a blowout, relationship-ending fight during the reception. They went outside to do it but apparently everyone could hear them through the (closed) windows screaming at each other...
Ellie told me this story like it was funny and "whoops I made a mistake". Funnily enough I don't talk to Ellie any more.
María Hermida 1 year ago
I would not invite a person if I really don't like their partner. Really, life is too short to put up with so much c**p from people. If people have no manners or cannot behave, they should not be allowed to roam freely without supervision.
The redditor also opened up to us about the reality of organizing a wedding. "Wedding stress is very real. It’s easy to make wedding planning your full-time job," she said.
"Breathe. Force yourself to take mental breaks. Try to stay off of social media if it gets to you—comparison is the thief of joy, especially when scrolling through extravagant weddings with seemingly limitless budgets," the author had some practical advice for couples who feel overwhelmed with the entire thing.
Meanwhile, the OP urged marrying couples to try not to hold the guests to the same standards that they hold themselves to. "Whenever you’re gathering people together, someone’s bound to be a bit messy. In the grand scheme of things, someone is bound to be rude or oblivious, but these stories just add to the memorability of the event."
#10
My own Mother interrupted my vows. Sometimes I still hear her shouting "Louder!" as I'm drifting off to sleep. In hindsight, I should have throttled her like Bart Simpson right then and there, but I ignored her instead. I wonder what gives her the audacity sometimes.
María Hermida 1 year ago
Entitlement, narcissism, lack of limits and consequences... I would have had her removed.
Carrie Laughs 1 year ago
No, if you can't hear you have to just lump it. As long as the couple hear each other's vows - they're the only people they actually matter to.
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#11
My mother’s aunt didn’t bring a wedding gift but left with an armful of unopened liquor bottles from behind the bar. Just helped herself.
The Starsong Princess 1 year ago
Similar thing at my cousin’s daughter’s wedding. The bar bill was by the drink and my cousin was paying for the whole thing. At the end of the evening, the groom’s family was loading up a big tray each full of drinks. The venue manager was so concerned that he came to my cousin about it because of how it ran up the bill. My cousin just shrugged. Fortunately, he could afford it easily but the bar bill ended up twice the estimate.
Con O Cuinn 1 year ago
A friend's Mam gave out yards to me and another friend for telling him he needed to get a present for a wedding, that we were stressing him out. In her words, "I've been to more than 10 weddings and I've never given a gift." Speechless.
Charley128 1 year ago
Sounds like my aunt. She steals from anyone anytime, including insurance companies.
#12
I had 3.
First and worst was a mother and daughter duo who are family friends of my in-laws. The daughter is known as 'the girl in the red dress' from my wedding due to her antics. They had ruined plenty of past family events, so they were under strict instructions and my in laws were also keeping watch. Both were seriously drunk by the time we got to the reception venue after the chuch. They loudly fought throughout the night with eachother and their other family, the daughter was grinding up against the DJs pole lights, oh and we had Inflatable props for the photo booth - a number of these were popped due to her pretending to use these as 'pleasure toys'. I'm pretty sure they got put in a taxi and sent home early after that.
Saw them for the first time in a while at my MILs 60th recently. Both got sent home early again after the mum drunkenly took out a table, and the daughter was loudly fighting with her bf. We celebrate 6 years married this year.
The other was my mums partner. He is an affair partner (she left my dad for him) and we don't get on. My mum had tried to get him a seat at the top table which I refused, along with him wearing a wedding suit. On the day he was okay, until my dad's speech. My dad made a jokey dig at himself and my mum, which he took offence too and loudly called my dad a c*nt. Unfortunately for him the table next to him was my bridal party who heard and politely told him to stfu. Pretty sure my dad's best friend almost hit him too.
Batwench 1 year ago
Why do they stay friends with the 1st two, let alone invite them to events?
Chihuahua Mama 1 year ago
My thoughts exactly. If you already know they have a history of ruining events, just don't invite them
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Brian Droste 1 year ago
After the first one, he should have been barred from any and all future wedding invites and if he is like that at any other family gatherings, he should be barred from those also.
Marrying couples are under a lot of pressure as it is. So the last thing they need is their guests going rogue and rocking the boat on their Big Day. While they can certainly decide to confront them in person, it usually helps to have someone else mediate whatever drama is rearing its head.
For example, your best man, best woman, or maid of honor can step in on your behalf and settle the guest down. Similarly, if you have a wedding organizer on hand, they can also anticipate any potential problems and head them off before they become major disasters. The stronger your network of supporters, the bigger your safety net!
#13
Of course during your wedding you're not trying to hear about some else's drama and/or BS.
I was no exception.
Sooooo, everyone has been in the reception venue for all of 15 minutes. A friend (at the time) came up to me upset that her boyfriend was talking to some girl.
REALLY! THIS IS WHAT I'M SUPPOSED TO CARE ABOUT RIGHT NOW?
I said very calmly, "Do what he would do in this situation"
NOTE: I did not hear about this next part, but was told by many people.
Apparently, she went to the lobby (where a lot of guests were), walked up to him and punched him in the face. Helped him to get up and then punched him again.
I had zero effs to give. I think I saw them maybe one time after.
Chihuahua Mama 1 year ago
People who do this kind of thing are probably the same people who would throw a fit if someone wore the wrong colour nail polish at their own wedding
Justin Smith 1 year ago (edited)
So not wanting to dsal with petty b******t on your wedding day now means you are a bridezilla?
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Tamra 1 year ago
Is no one else appalled that this woman physically assaulted her boyfriend - TWICE - for "talking to some girl"? Damn.
Angela C 1 year ago
And then add on that OP told her "do what he would do" which makes you wonder how toxic and effed up that relationship was
Load More Replies... Michelle my Belle. 1 year ago
I'm sure she meant she didn't witness it. Seems obvious to me but ??
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We had a backyard wedding at my grandparents house. Definitely more casual, we’re a casual couple. It’s a large space so we invited 220 people, ended up having 205 people. My husband’s adult cousins (who are local) never rsvp’d. Until the day before my wedding I got a voicemail on my parents home phone from my husband’s aunt who lives out of state saying that her boys want to come to the wedding. I had already ordered the chairs, finalized numbers weeks ago. The chairs were already set up. We scrambled to set up a little picnic table to put some of the kids at so that there were nice chairs available for the extra adults. They didn’t even show up.
Also one of my husband’s friends called me by the wrong name at our reception. Husband and I had been dating for 6 years.
Kat 1 year ago
Disrespectful and rude 🤬 would have a few words with them that’s for sure and they wouldn’t be nice words!!!
Debbie 1 year ago (edited)
The wrong name - I can get that. Maybe he knew other people with that name or maybe the other name is a name that really sticks. There is one collegues name I constantly forgot when mentioned her, it's not even a difficult name. My sister even used another name for a friend of my other sister the whole evening, and now everytime she is doubting which of the names is the right one and which the wrong one. Using the wrong name is unfortunate but accidental. (Unless it is very on purpose). [edited lots of wrong autocorrect]
Brian Droste 1 year ago
If you invited 220 people, why wasn't 220chair or seats put out even though only 205 people showed up. If you had done that, them there should have been more than enough chairs for everyone.
#15
At my sisters wedding, they did a garter removal. When her husband came out from under her dress my mum ran in and smacked him on the back of his head yelling something about "that's my daughter". My sister was married 20 years ago this month and she still mentions how pissed she was when it's brought up.
Susan Teter 1 year ago
🤣🤣🤣...and your daughter got here by immaculate conception???
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Thomas Urban 1 year ago
Always thought going under the dress was in poor taste. But hey, that's just me..
Tamra 1 year ago
Nah, not just you. I'm not wild about this tradition, but hey, to each their own.
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LinkTheHylian 1 year ago
A garter removal is fine. Wasting delicious cake by pushing it into your spouse's face? You better believe that's a paddlin'.
Ken Beattie 1 year ago
Was it done in a joking way or was she serious? I could imagine a parent doing that as a joke and everyone having a bit of a laugh.
Hey! 1 year ago
My mother insisted I wore a garter (for blue) at my 2nd wedding. Then my new BILs insisted my new husband do the removal. Hubby and I couldn't decide if I should show my legs to everyone (they were sexy at the time) or just let him go under (while people could imagine stuff all they wanted); we went in between and we were both red in the face.
However, let’s not be naive. Though many people crave their own personal fairytale wedding— whatever their unique interpretation of this might be—there is no such thing as a ‘perfect’ wedding. The best you can hope for is an imperfectly perfect celebration of love. This is because mistakes can and do happen all the time.
The staff might get the decor slightly wrong. There might be a problem with the appetizers. Or some of your guests might have three tipples too much and embarrass themselves on the dance floor. What matters isn’t whether or not these unpleasant surprises happen or not, but it’s how you react to them.
#16
My husband’s brother was getting married. We’re at the reception, approximately 150 people. Their Aunt stands up to say a prayer (she’s a Catholic nun) and the prayer included a blessing for Owen and Kathy. Which would have been lovely, except Kathy was his ex-wife’s name. Husband and I looked at each other and were like did she say what I think she said??!!
Justme 1 year ago (edited)
Shortly before Christmas our first year being married, my husband accidentally called me by his ex-wife’s name. He thought he was in big trouble. I just took the opportunity to calmly mention that I’d really like a new iPad for Christmas. I got a new iPad for Christmas.
BW Gibson 1 year ago
Luv, luv LUV this!!!!!! Way to turn it into a positive
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Gabriele Alfredo Pini 1 year ago
I live in the most catholic country of the the Earth after the Vatican and I never heard someone proposing a prayer during the reception! It would be see as rude and cringe to ask people to pray when they are drinking and making merry
Michael Largey 1 year ago (edited)
If the priest who performed the wedding is a guest at the reception, it is not uncommon for him to say grace before the meal.
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#17
We invited my stepdaughter’s best friend (Tracy) and her 3 kids to our wedding . Stepdaughter insisted we had to invite Tracy’s boyfriend of 2 months. So we rearrange some of our tables and make room for him, and told Tracy to let us know what boyfriend wanted to eat. We gave the guests 3 options, steak, chicken or a vegetarian. She told us he wanted the steak.
Only one guest chose the vegetarian option. That guest happened to reach out to me the day after our final count was due and said she had changed her mind and wanted the chicken but the website wouldn’t let her change it and asked if it was too late to get the chicken instead. I told her I’d talk to my coordinator and have her reach out to the caterer and make sure she got the chicken. Since she was the only guest that had chosen the vegetarian option the caterer was more than willing to change it and not have to deal with making just one vegetarian plate.
So on the day of the wedding, food is being brought out to the guests and everyone seems to be enjoying their meal. About half the guests had been served when we hear someone loudly yell “You can’t be f*&#ing serious!” and we see Tracy’s boyfriend get up and leave. We figured they had a disagreement and didn’t pay it much attention.
Well turns out that he decided THE NIGHT BEFORE the wedding that he was going to be a vegetarian and was upset that Tracy had told us he would have the steak. So he told the guys bringing the food out that he had changed his mind and he wanted the vegetarian option. Obviously they told him no, and that the best they could do was make up a plate of just the sides with no meat on it or bring him another salad. He then decided to go speak to the wedding coordinator and demand that she fix it and get him a decent meal. She tells him there is nothing she or the caterer can do because there wasn’t a full kitchen at the venue and they didn’t bring any vegetarian options because nobody chose that option. The catering company offers again to make up a plate of just the sides without any meat and bring him out another salad but that was the best they could do. He tells them it’s not good enough and storms off.
He tries to tell Tracy that they all have to leave because he’s hungry and it’s her fault that he doesn’t have a meal to eat. He spent the next several hours sulking in the parking lot because Tracy refused to leave and he had no other way home since he refuses to use Uber or Lyft. You would think this all would have been a big red flag for her but they ended getting married a year later. Guess who wasn’t invited to their wedding….
Mrs. Ginger McSarcasm 1 year ago
Not being invited means you don't have to make up and excuse to not go.
Hey! 1 year ago
She was not invited to their wedding but let's not forget that they were not friends. She was the stepmother of Tracy's friend. Why would she be invited?
Paul Jayne 1 year ago
This makes me wonder why SD's friend and her tribe + BF are invited to OP's wedding.
Load More Replies... brittany 1 year ago
im curious what the vegetarian option included. i love vegetarian lasagna and tofu stir fry. half the time when i eat out, i just make a meal of the sides because there are that many options and its all so delicious. im not vegetarian just to clarify, but sometimes veggies and fruit can be really good all on their own
Ivy at Eve 1 year ago
My nephews wedding. One of my nieces (not his sister) stared very unhappily to the plates brought in and stated she was a vegetarian. It was relayed to the kitchen and somehow a wonderful veggie plate appeared. (It turned out later that the chef studied with my brother and did it as a favour for him.) Problem solved, right? Wrong. Being "vegetarian" meant she only ate tomatoes, cucumber and salad. As three of us (an aunt, my mother and me) were ready to convert to vegetarianism after seeing the nicely presented plate, we distributed everything except the tomato, cucumber and salad over the three of us and enjoyed the extra veggies.
Brian Droste 1 year ago
Why can't people who are not directly invited to a wedding that if they don't get their way be civil about things and not make a scene. Try to remember this event is not about them.it is about the bride and groom.
#18
The bride’s mum’s family insisted on dead-naming and misgendering her daughter during the ceremony. I could hear them stage-whispering behind us. We shuffled closer to the daughter and engaged her in conversation as much as we could when it was appropriate.
Same wedding, the bride’s cousin ate some… special cake and ended up having to go and lie down. Bride’s aunt and mum went off on the woman who’d brought it (by the bride’s request, and everyone had been warned it was strong and to only take a little, cousin didn’t listen). Cousin was also in her late thirties, so she wasn’t some kid who didn’t know.
Bride’s mum gave us the stink-eye for sitting at a table. No one was sat there when we got to it, there were no bags or coats saving it, so how were we meant to know? She then spent ages s**t-talking her daughter and new son-in-law, until bride’s best friend ‘accidentally’ tripped her up as she went by.
Later that night, bride’s mum began screaming at the bride. I don’t know what kicked it off, but she was going absolutely bananas. Bride and groom stood at the top of the stairs as she went off, with the groom standing in front of the bride and telling mum to get out. She picked up a decoration and launched it at the bride. She then screamed that ‘when’ they got a divorce, bride wasn’t to go running to her.
I felt so sad for my friend. Her husband is lovely, and that’s probably one reason her mum went off. She is not nice to my friend at all. Thankfully, that was a few years ago and they are still happily together, and I think she is very low contact with her mum.
Remi (He/Him) 1 year ago
Sick. Absolutely despicable how some can think treating their child like this is ok, because prejudice or something. All the best for the happy couple
Joanne Earle 1 year ago
They never should've been invited. Their crappy attitude couldn't have been a surprise to the couple.
Crazy Panda 1 year ago
It's hard to not intuited your parents to your wedding. They would yell at them if they weren't invited
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WFH Forever 1 year ago
For people whose gender identity doesn't match their birth certificate. If John became Susan then "John" is their dead name.
Load More Replies... A. Starhawk Hunt 1 year ago (edited)
Mom is a serious…..not a-hole. More like what emerges from a-hole!😔😔😔. Mine was weird and embarrassing (asked my brand new husband “Do you have a staircase in the place you live?” Him: “Yeah, why?” Her: “So she can slide down it and keep lunch warm!)” I tried to crawl under the coffee table. It was about an inch above the carpet, but I tried! Mine’s funny. Refer to comments above.
Aroace tiger (she/they/he) 1 year ago
Basically if a (transgender) person has changed their name but someone uses their old name instead
Load More Replies... Brian Droste 1 year ago
The mom as soon she started the bad naming or making a scene she should have Bern escorted out of the venue.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 year ago
Oh my sweet summer child, what kind of fantasy bubble do YOU live in? XD
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We might not be able to control the events of the day, but we can decide to embrace whatever happens. Look for the silver lining. Choose to laugh and find the beauty in these bizarre experiences instead of getting upset and holding a grudge.
Of course, this is applicable in other areas of anyone’s life, too, not just to weddings. It’s all about cultivating a mindset centered around gratitude and abundance, not cynicism and scarcity. Given enough time, you might even tell everyone about the hilarious(ly awful) things that happened on your Big Day to amuse them.
#19
My cousins forgot to put out the hand made appetizers our chef made for our guests to mingle w/ cocktails while we did our wedding pics. Found them the next day & our chef was annoyed af
My husband’s family put us on the spot for the mic & it quickly turned into a roast- even his Grandmother got up & said “it’s a good thing you can’t have children b/c they would look like this” while holding a picture of us in Mexico with a monkey.
All my husbands family left early telling us “it was late /they were tired” by 10pm only to find out they partied at their hotel with our hired mariachi band until the wee hours of the morning. They missed out /we wasted a ton of money on a ton of food with a midnight taco cart.
One of the friends staying with us in our wedding villa threw an all-out temper tantrum over bacon (or lack thereof) on our wedding morning. Apparently my husband ordered exactly what I asked for- pancakes with strawberries & champagne (best guy!) & this person decided it would be better to scream & rant & yell at everyone in the villa as opposed to simply asking the chef for some bacon- you would’ve thought it was he getting married given this huge zilla moment.
Lastly our friend brought an unannounced +one who proceeded to try to steal all the wedding favours (little los muertos sculptures) & bouquets of the entire wedding party including mine- the bride! My Mom hustled after her to wrestle the flowers back only to find little los muertos figures flying through the air when her purse literally exploded with them! The scene ended with them huffing off then pulling out a substantial sized penis & pissing on the outside wall before getting into a cab.
Overall was the best day & so happily married to that man 13 years later
Clown fish 1 year ago
Lol substantial sized penis!! I've just coughed coffee out of my nose 🤣🤣
Load More Replies... Susan Teter 1 year ago
So basically they stole the flowers and your Mom had a piñata party...good times!
Ken Beattie 1 year ago
Sounds like the grooms side really weren't ok with the wedding. Surely there were signs before the wedding? If so, why invite all of them in the first place? I've never understood the "you've got to invite them because they're family" mentality. If we don't like each other then why would we socialise?
Panda 1 year ago
Is it some kind of tradition to have los muertos sculptures? It seems a bit macabre to me.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 year ago (edited)
Día de los Muertos is NOT macabre. It is a day of celebration and happy remembrance, not of sadness and death. I put an ofrenda up for my dad last year and had a blast (and a good laugh) trying to stock it with his favorite foods and beer!
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#20
My MIL handed my husband his son during our vows so then he could no longer hold my hands because she wanted her grandson to be included, a one year old because my 3&4 year old were standing next to me. I didn’t even know they were standing there, I had people in place to watch the kids if they started interrupting or needing attention. I just wanted this 2 min to be about my husband and I, I didn’t have a plan for my MIL interruption though :(
Batwench 1 year ago
Ohhhh someone’s MIL was peeved that the kids were born outside of a marriage. That was a huge passive aggressive move on her part.
two-sided llama 1 year ago
It seems more like divorced parents with children situation. It might of been about the divorce
Load More Replies... Hey! 1 year ago
It was our 2nd wedding for both of us. One of my brothers and his GF were in charge of keeping an eye on our children. My daughter (#2) kept talking to her little brother (#3) so my brother tried to redirect her attention and asked her to watch us instead. So she ran to the front and kept staring at us during our vows. We had difficulty saying our vows after that as we were trying not to laugh. We have a picture and it's cute.
Sheila Carty 1 year ago
She married a man with a 1 y/o? What was the timeline of that relationship?
Ken Beattie 1 year ago
I hadn't picked up on that. Yeah sounds like they were mixing families not that it was her 1 year old too. So they both have young kids with other partners so they're either getting married after a whirlwind romance, or they were having an affair behind the other partners backs... That's surely going to end well.
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MotherRobinson 1 year ago
My daughter and my husbands 2 daughters who were all under the age of 8 were at the altar with us at our wedding. My daughter 8 at time and his daughter 4 at the time were flower girls. His other daughter 5 at the time was our ring bearer. They are all our daughters now. Still married 7 years later with another daughter from our marriage who is now 5 years old with all the wisdom from her big sisters.
Remi (He/Him) 1 year ago
Including the children would be nice, if, IF it was planned for ahead, but not like that! A friend of mine and her husband combined the christening of their firstborn and their wedding in a wonderful small scale ceremony, but that was something they planned for, including having burping clothes handy just in case.
Tom Brincefield 1 year ago
Well, you could read the story and see that she didn't know her children were there. Because they weren't supposed to be. It was planned to be just her & her husband.
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Attended my good friend's wedding last year as a bridesmaid. Her MIL had the audacity to use the bridal suite to get ready and acted like she was being inconvenienced when we had to kick her out. Groom's entire family ignored the bride during the reception because MIL was a first class narcissist. During the mother son dance, everyone was noticing how awkward it was for the groom when the mom looked too enamored. MOH decided she didn't want to have the makeup or hair that the bride wanted for the wedding, so she could stand out. New SILs were photo bombing the wedding photos. All night, awkward awkward awkward.
JayWantsACat 1 year ago
I'm guessing these people didn't exhibit this behavior beforehand or the bride thought "just get through the night" because I probably couldn't marry into this family.
MsPlants 1 year ago (edited)
At my wedding my mother and older sister also took over my bridal suite to get ready so I couldnt even use the room for finishing touches and to relax and be with my MOH and bridesmaid. My father hid out in a back room with his girlfriend and a 6 pack of beer he brought so he didnt have to help get anything read or interact with anyone before walking me down the isle. My older sister who is a "photographer", she worked at JC Pennys in the family portrait area, insisted that she be the wedding photographer instead of me hiring a real one, so much guilt tripping I finally said yes and she only brough 4 rolls of film (kids this is in 2000 before digital cameras were the norm) so she ran out of film before we ever got to the reception and I have no pictures of it and 80% of the pics I do have feature my mother and the other 20% are of the rest of my family and my ex-husbands family. I wont even go into the mess that was the reception. was married for 17 years before divorced though lol
The best way to avoid a problem is to anticipate it and prepare for it. Just like we get lots of rest, socialize with our loved ones, eat well, and exercise to avoid future issues with our physical and mental health, so too do we organize big events in such a way as to avoid disaster. One part of this is going through the preliminary guest list with a fine-tooth comb.
To put it bluntly, you want to avoid inviting people who are likely to cause a ton of drama and outrage. If someone has a history of derailing events and wants the spotlight to be on them (and them alone!), it might be worth not sending them an invite. You have to be candid. Weigh whether someone has more of a positive or negative influence on your life.
#22
Mostly a tidbit, but definitely a bad person/guest and well....
My sister's husband's cousin was in a bad relationship. Her boyfriend was into drugs, alcohol, and was abusive. There were plans for an intervention for her, but it was very delicate as a situation, as he'd taken her out of state far from family before.
For their wedding, my sister and husband paid for a block of rooms to be available at a discounted price. There were still rooms available the day of the wedding, which came in handy as the booze was flowing as all good receptions tend to do. Despite this being well known and family even offering to pay for a room for them, the boyfriend decided he was going to drive them home. They were arguing about this (while driving) and he peeled out of the parking area of the hotel and into traffic.
He died, she was seriously injured. There were injuries in the other vehicle but not as severe and no deaths. This was 2 years ago and she has since fully recovered physically, at least. She, as far as I know, is still living with her parents (I think she might also have a kid, which would explain why she stayed so long in the relationship too, and if she does they were not present at the wedding or crash) and they're working on the medical debt, but there's honestly a lot of relief at the end it all.
Jason Boyd 1 year ago
Medical debt? God that's an awful term. Someone almost dies and, if they recover, they have a huge sum to pay off? I'm so glad for universal healthcare!
Amy 1 year ago
I’m actually in the hospital right now, and I’ve spent a significant amount of time worrying that my insurance will refuse to pay for parts of my treatment. The total bill is likely to be over $100k. The US is completely f****d when it comes to healthcare. You should only have to worry about getting better, not going broke.
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#23
At our wedding, a "plus one" of my husband's friend got drunk af and tried to hook up with my dad.
My dad was 50+ she 22.
My stepmother went crazy. Was funny at the beginning, ended abruptly as she threw up in the garden at midnight.
#24
My husband's mother ragged for MONTHS about how she wanted to match my mom almost exactly on our wedding day. My husband really wanted her and his dad to match him and the groomsmen instead, but she threw huge fits and constantly harassed us over it. It was literally the only request my husband had asked of her, but she made it her hill to die on. Even my husband's father was trying to bully it out of us.
Somehow, my husband's mom figured out what my mom was wearing right before the wedding and bought a similar dress in the same shade, but way more... bedazzled. She has a thing for upstaging, so no surprise there. She was smirking as she walked up to my mom and whispered that because they matched, they were honorary maids of honor now. Right in front of my actual MOH! I believe she made a point to tell all the guests as well; she was weirdly obsessed with having some form of honor or being acknowledged as part of the wedding by other people. She was weird about the wedding in general, but that was certainly the most frustrating. At least I didn't have to worry about her wearing white?
And just to top it all off, this woman tried to make up a "tradition" of all the guests coming to watch us open wedding presents, insisting it was something everyone did. She was even offering to host it as a "second reception," which made me think she had already planned and decorated for this. She pushed really hard about it the entire weekend until everyone was actively heading home or had already gone home. I should also add that her house was almost 3 hours out of the way for half the guests, which I can guarantee nobody wanted to add to their drive home. Oh, and both of my husband's parents were mad we wouldn't tell them which room we were staying in (they chose the same hotel as us) on our wedding night because they wanted to "check in" on us. Lol, no. We even asked the hotel ahead of time to make sure they weren't anywhere near our room even if they asked (and they did, they wanted to be next door, but got put on the other side of the hotel. Thanks, hotel staff!!). All of this was honestly pretty minor, but my husband's parents are very good at being extremely annoying and stressful over really stupid things.
WindySwede 1 year ago
And why would any parents in their right mind wanna have the room adjacent the bride and groom!? 🤷♂️🫣
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Shayne Scott 1 year ago
Actually in some cultures it is a thing to see the bride open the gifts the day after the wedding. I love watching my friends open gifts
Bec 1 year ago
Yes, we did this and it was nice to spend some quiet time with our immediate family only, and my sister and mom wrote down who got us what along with all the addresses so I could do thank you notes as soon as we got back from our honeymoon.
Load More Replies... Shark Lady 1 year ago
If op and husband had children I hate to think how many boundaries husband's parents stomped all over.
LinkTheHylian 1 year ago
Never tell anyone where your honeymoon is, and if you're having your wedding at a hotel, stay the night at another one so you don't run into your freaks. I mean guests. Actually, just find two people who are calm and decent to act as witnesses, then have the quickest wedding you can before disappearing.
If they’re a big part of your life and you’ve already sent them an invite, but they’ve already overstepped their bounds, consider uninviting them before the wedding. It might be awkward, but tell them the truth without sounding like you’re accusing them. Meanwhile, you may want to leave the door open to rekindle your friendship by getting together for a meal or a drink once you come back from your fab honeymoon!
The truth is that we love attending weddings, dear Pandas. They’re so much fun! However, no large-scale event is immune from at least a little bit of drama or some guests misbehaving. We’d love to hear your own stories about the most bizarre and horrible guests you’ve personally witnessed at weddings. If you have a moment, feel free to drop by the comment section to share your thoughts!
#25
One of my guests (also coincidentally extended family) got so drunk they fell asleep in the toilet cubicle. Later they were being carried back to their room by two other guests when they wet themselves… visibly. Goes without saying they won’t be on the invite list if we ever do a vow renewal!
Clown fish 1 year ago (edited)
Yes THEY as in THEY are not naming/gendering THEIR guest. THIS COMMENT WAS POSTED FOR GP THEY ALREADY HAD 8 DOWNVOTES SO I COULDN'T COMMENT ON THEIR POST. See that would p#ss them off using all them none gender terms
Justme 1 year ago
I never understood vow renewals. It just seems weird to me to renew a vow you made for life.
Dolly_of TheCowboy 1 year ago
I get it if people got married on a budget so they were not in debt, or in a hurry in a registry or something very quiet before one of the party was about to actively deploy, or they got married during covid or something like that and could only have the witnesses. Then they renew vows and have the wedding they could afford/wanted with the people they wanted there
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#26
My best friend’s wedding. Small reception, about 10-20 people, can’t remember.
She was drop dead gorgeous. The father and uncle of the groom get drunk and start dancing in a very suggestive manner around her. I send a bridesmaid to fetch the husband but he’s MIA - he went outside for a f*g and nobody knew *where* outside.
I manage to distract the father of the groom (who took advantage and grabbed my bum). In the meantime the uncle starts hugging and touching the bride. Grabs her, puts her on a table and throws money at her asking her to dance on top of the table. As she wouldn’t, he climbs on the table with her and starts dancing. As he was a fat b*astard, the table breaks. My friend is ok, but he’s definitely not, there’s blood everywhere.
The groom shows up and drives the uncle to the hospital. Everyone else goes home. The bride and I pick up as many bottles of wine as we can possibly carry and spend the rest of the evening in her car, drinking and smoking. The end.
Later edit: Of course she did not drive home after drinking. We left the car there and took taxis.
Heather Menard 1 year ago
So many questions. Are they still married? Did the new husband not come back for her? So many more
María Hermida 1 year ago
My question is, why didn't she kick his balls the moment he touched her? I don't care who you are, you touch without consent, you get a new pair of tonsils.
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weatherwitch 1 year ago
Bored Panda thought F*G, the UK word for a ciggy has to be censored?! Context! Plus reclaiming it back 🤦🏻♀️
Justin Smith 1 year ago
Cant really reclaim it back unless you are talking about sticks. It went from a bundle of stick, to a burden, to cigarettes in the uk, and a gay slur in the us.
Load More Replies... Birgit Sommer 1 year ago
For some reason it's always the father of the groom that hits on the bride. I have seen and experienced it more often than not. What's up with that?
Courtney Christelle 1 year ago
“The older male, no longer the young stud he used to be, is intimidated by the new young buck and must assert his dominance over the buck’s chosen female.” Did you read that in the British commentator’s voice?
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#27
My bridesmaids boyfriend drank 8 martinis and threw up in the women’s restroom.
#28
Ooooh I had one and now have a couple!
1.) My ex-aunt is living proof that abusive wives exist. She was either your bestie and sweet or absolutely vile and selfish, but both to everyone, depending on the day. At some point she started selling MLM sex toys, paraded it at every family gathering including to grandparents, then announced we didn't support her or her business because we're prude (I'm a sex-positive feminist lol).
At my cousin/her niece's wedding, the family stayed in the same hotel block, but her and my uncle were a no-show for the ceremony and part of the reception. When they walked in, someone asked where they'd been.
"WE WERE F*****G."
She proceeded to dance allll over my cousin's new brother-in-law, literally taking his tie off to Bruno Mars -- my cousin's in-laws are religious/fairly Conservative. Later the brides and young adults went bar hopping, and Aunt Marian was SUPER interested. We dodged her like an ex, and my younger brother said she was PISSED she wasn't invited to go out with the kids.
2.)(TW alcoholism) Same Aunt Marian. Two years later. Her now-ex almost died of alcoholism, and it took my dad and grandpa getting him to rehab, because Marian just left him at home and went to work. About 5 weeks later, my uncle was newly out of rehab and happily sober.
My grandpa and his 2nd wife had a wedding reception, having eloped prior, and another cousin was excited to talk to Uncle since she'd also quit drinking that year! She came over to my dad FUMING. Aunt Marian handed my BRAND-NEWLY sober uncle an empty cup and said, "go get me a drink," right in front of my proudly sober cousin.
Honestly after typing those two out idk if the other ones matter.
Tamra 1 year ago
I absolutely loathe anyone who tries to sabotage another person's sobriety. You just can't get much lower than that.
Nikole 1 year ago
SOs of alcoholics will do that sometimes because they’re used to being able to control/manipulate the person.
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#29
I have two: Drunk MOH and socially unaware mother in law This happened a couple years ago I was going to a wedding as someone’s date. It was a wedding of his classmate. The venue and ceremony was lovely. Then it was speech time and the MOH aka the bride’s sister took the mic. She was really drunk. She was slurring her speech and then said “I made a song for you.” Think of Patrick Star from SpongeBob yodeling on The Flying Dutchman’s ship. Yes that is what her song sounded like. Then after the speech she walked away and fell. Me and a bunch of people ran over to help her up and give her some water but she refused. Then later on I saw her downing more drinks that night while her husband was with her kids. Another story was I was a bridesmaid at a wedding. The bride and groom gathered their parents to announce their pregnancy. The whole room was cheering. The bridesmaids and groomsmen were jumping with joy. The parents were amazed and speechless. In comes mother in law from the groom’s side who wasn’t cheering. She takes the microphone and decides to bring up some drama that happened between her and the bride months ago. It went along the lines of oh you’re pregnant no wonder you were acting so disrespectful to me. The whole room went silent and even one of the bridesmaids called mother in law a b***h. But mother in law did not care and decides to bust out in a song in a foreign language because who knows. This left the bride and groom upset. This was years ago and they are cordial since then.
Justin Smith 1 year ago
I think that would be entertaining for everyone involved.
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I got married at 7pm on a Saturday night in February (in Oregon), so I assumed people would dress up a little, since it was evening.
One of our guest's +1 wore denim capris and flip-flops!
The.Butterfly.Effect.530 1 year ago
I'm getting married at 8pm on the 4th of july... I hope for flip flops and shorts
Hey! 1 year ago
At my late mother's 2nd wedding, one of his children wore her soccer uniform (black and orange) - think 400lb adult woman - at their wedding because she had a fight with her father the day before. She stands out in the pictures, that's for sure. We all think she never bought anything nice for the wedding and gave us that excuse.
Panda On My Balcony 1 year ago
I had a church wedding with reception, pretty standard in the UK to dress up for a wedding - my mum's old friend, who is always immediately groomed and dressed and has been to enough other weddings in our family to know the women would be dressed up/ wearing hats and heels, turned up in a denim skirt and T-shirt. I still wonder why, to this day.
Joanne Earle 1 year ago
It's Oregon. What do you expect? Same for CA and WA. Weddings are way more fun and laid back up there. I miss it.
WFH Forever 1 year ago
There is a reason why someone invented the Keep Oregon Weird and Keep Portland Weird bumper stickers....
#31
My husband's half brother wore trackpants and a graphic tee and cap to my semi formal wedding. My only brudezilla moment on the day was when someone asked if they should get him for fan photos and I replied with a curt no!! He's not a nice person with not much going on that has made my MIL's life harder than it needs to be so I didn't feel bad about it.
Old Wardog 1 year ago
Half brother was a dįck and did not dress nicely, so ko family photos for him also makes his mother's life miserable.
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My mom's cousin was strapped for cash, so we all helped out to get him to my wedding - my mom paid for his flight, he stayed at my house, chauffeured him around to/from the rehearsal dinner/wedding, etc. When my husband and I returned the day after the wedding (we stayed in the hotel bridal suite, a groomsman took him back to our house), the first thing he did was complain about the beer selection. I looked him square in the eyes and told him I picked out the alcohol myself. He sputtered out an apology very quickly.
He also complained to my mom the next day that our house was too hot. He slept in our finished basement, which we joke about how cold it is all the time.
Nikki Sevven 1 year ago
You must not have looked very hard. When someone is doing you a favor, it's rude to complain about the free stuff you're getting. How on Earth do you not know this?
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#33
Was ten years ago so my memories aren't the best but I'll try. My ex's (boyfriend at the time) brother was getting married & it was a lovely ceremony but Jesus the reception was a s**t show. 1) My ex and another brother got in an argument because his wife upset their mum (she wouldn't buy her more alcohol because she was a violent drunk) 2) Brother getting married invited a friend who didn't get on with two other guests, resulting in a fight outside. 3) I was babysitting two kids, somehow ended with 6 kids, and 3 were absolutely feral. 4) ex's mum got so wasted, she started arguing with everyone who looked at her & her husband had to drive out and get her which caused her to throw a bottle at him because she didn't want to leave. & 5) caught my ex cheating in the bathroom. There was more chaos, but my mind is fussy on details. 😂
#34
At a friend's wedding this really awkward friend showed up with a date. He did not have a plus one and they just crowded their table. I sat with a different group of friends thankfully and didn't have to deal with that. She also just confirmed to be there as a friend, had a boyfriend, and I'm sure he thought he had to bring a date.
Another friend was doing one of those sparklers arches and as they walked out they picked a spot to do a kiss. The photographers are waiting and as they do it a relative jumps in front of them to take pictures with her phone on a stick. Thankfully the bride missed it and they just said do it again for extra pictures.
#35
I recently got married a few months ago and I’d like to share some of the most annoying guest things I either noticed myself or something else told me about later.
1. One of my MIL’s best friends from childhood wore all white. Like stark white. Head to toe. Even the shoes. Listen, normally I think it’s ridiculous to give a f about some middle aged woman’s wardrobe, BUT, since wearing white to a wedding is such a known faux-pas , it makes me wonder if she was trying to slight me. Very odd. We have no issues and barely know each other and my MIL and I are extremely close. One of my friends who was a little too tipsy went up to the woman in white and asked why she thought it’d be appropriate to wear white to a wedding. The woman snapped “I’ve known the groom since he was in diapers, I can wear whatever I want. My friend said “that still doesn’t answer my question.” LOL! The woman said “well, my mom said it was fine!” WTF? Her mom is like 90?!!
2. I had a formal winter wedding. All guests saw the dress code on the invite. My aunt showed up wearing uggs. UGGS! Lots of people were in light wash jeans and casual sweaters, including the photographer who knew the dress code. Would black pants or at least a skirt have killed anybody? The whole night just had a much more casual feel than what I was going for.
3. I had an unplugged ceremony , announcement and everything, and people still whipped their phones out. This one makes my blood boil. Also, we did allow young children, so it is what it is, but someone’s kid fell and scraped their forehead during the ceremony and instead of excusing themself and their child , this person decided to stay while their kid screamed bloody murder the whole reception. Can’t you just excuse yourself?
4. My uncle was an *sshole. Him and I are not close and haven’t seen each other in a long time. He had never met my husband. The first thing out of his mouth to my husband was “well, I sure hope your vows were good because I couldn’t hear a single WORD from where I was sitting!! I almost went up there myself and shoved the mic closer to your face. ” WTF!! We had a giant wedding and he tried to monopolize our time the whole reception. We tried to avoid him but if you dared glance in his direction he’d aggressively beckon us over and got all butthurt that we didn’t comply. I’m sorry, but there were so many people that it was a feat in itself to even say hello to everyone, let alone spend the entire reception with uncle entitlement.
5. My grandmother in law came up to us mid reception , during the 2 mins I had to actually eat some food, complaining about the seating arrangements. She didn’t like that we had a head table and didn’t sit with the bridal party. I was starving and kind of snapped at her. The bridal party was happy to sit with their +1s and families at guests tables instead of sitting at some horizontal bridal party table where no one is facing each other.
6. At the end of the night, our best man (who is SO polite and respectful) rounded everyone up to line up for our grand exit. We had to exit the venue at a specific time . At this point the DJ had announced last calls multiple times and stated that the night is over. Some older guests were parked at the guest tables refusing to get up when we were literally asked to vacate by a certain time. They were chatting, pouring wine, and ignoring the best man. He clapped his hands and said “I’m so sorry but I’m going to have to ask that you follow me! We have to leave the venue” and the woman yelled at him “DONT YOU DARE CLAP YOUR HANDS IN MY FACE YOUNG MAN.” He was floored.
I could keep going. I think I’d like to do an edition with ways the vendors messed up too. I’d love to hear thoughts , reactions and your own stories
Lyoness 1 year ago
This one is bugging me a little. Each of these things is annoying, yes, even irritating, but the overall reaction seems a tad intense. Really, why does it matter what people wore? If it was that important to you, you could have asked them to leave. It's frustrating that people didn't listen to the no phones rule, but the phones could have been collected at the door or someone could have been designated to go around and ask people to put them away. You didn't need to snap at your GMIL. She's on DH 's side of the family, let him deal with it. I've never heard of a grand exit (sounds a little over the top but that's just my opinion) but if you had to vacate the venue by a certain time they should have handled the guests that wouldn't leave. Bottom line is OP chose to let things get to her. You got married, isn't that the point?
Ken Beattie 1 year ago
The phone one to me only applies to making calls (or playing games I guess). I'd bet most of the people with their phones out were taking photos or video with them. I have seen weddings where there was a note about *not taking pictures* because that's what the professional photographer was for but most of them people snap away merrily. Because that's how you get great candids.
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Tara Moov 1 year ago
I couldn't get through half of this post. What a bridezilla, focusing on what others were wearing out of fear of its reflection or lack of attention on herself.
Mike F 1 year ago
Especially the footwear. I've got a mental image of her crawling around looking at the attendees shoes, lol.
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This is why I did a justice of the peace, immediate family only wedding. Twice. Now I understand to just avoid the whole idea all together.
🦄 Unicorn Princess 1 year ago
Right! I can only imagine what this bride was like before the wedding. Sounds like she was miserable the whole time. Fun!
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Pittsburgh rare 1 year ago (edited)
I have the strongest suspicion that a lot of vendors and guests in this one have also stories about her.
🦄 Unicorn Princess 1 year ago
What a bridezilla!!! I can't imagine she enjoyed herself at all at this wedding. I feel so bad for the groom!
Zedrapazia 1 year ago
Like, given the pic its some sort of shoe, but what's so bad about it?
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JayWantsACat 1 year ago
It wasn't a wedding but a friend of mine's parents, who were always nice to me, were having like a 25th wedding anniversary and me our friend group were invited. I don't remember if they told us we were invited but if we could help serve the food before or when we got there. We thought it was mostly funny but knew we were only there to help out, which I'm wasn't upset about. Even though we were friends for years we were just their son's dumbass friends. But to entertain ourselves, we kept changing what the meat were serving was. Sometimes it was chicken, beef, and donkey. Sometimes it was pigeon, beef, and horse. That kind of thing. Their culture is known for talking being people's backs so I wonder how long people were talking s**t before they were told the truth. lmao
pasej41913@bustayes.com 1 year ago
Weddings are so ridiculous and I'm so glad I'll probably never have to go to another one ever again.
Lara Verne 1 year ago
My friend has coworker, who is from Ukraine. He like it here (Czech Republic) and for some reason, he wanted to see a Czech wedding. So my friend invited him to her wedding, and he happily accepted. The wedding was fine until the groom's friends got drunk and started fist fight. Other guests tried to get them apart and calm them down. One of drunk guys hit Ukrainian coworker. Poor guy, he wanted to see a Czech wedding and ended up with a black eye.
BarkingSpider 1 year ago
I showed up at a step siblings' wedding with my sister and our significant others as very young adults, only to find that none of us had seats. My stepparent told us when and where and all the details, but then maybe failed to tell the bride and groom we were coming? I'm sure it was all miscommunication, but the way my sister and I were treated growing up, it was just one more thing. Thankfully they had an open bar so we were squeezed in at a table and made the best of it. Awkward af though.
Kim Kermes 1 year ago
I may start a business as a wedding peacekeeper. Give me a few drinks and I'll wander around interrupting questionable situations and pour red wine on anyone but the bride wearing white. Milage, a room for the night, a meal allowance, and tip. Choice of falcon headed cane or 4 foot staff, no extra charge.
Tamra 1 year ago (edited)
I was maid of honor to a dear friend long ago. Very quiet, casual wedding, all went well. As things came to an end and people were milling about, shaking hands and giving hugs, I decided to give my friend congratulations and a goodbye hug, as I could see she was tired and wanting to wrap things up. I leaned in to hug her, one hand around her back and one hand on her shoulder... except it wasn't her shoulder. My hand was firmly on her boob, giving it an enthusiastic squeeze. We both just stared at it for a second before I awkwardly jerked my hand away, and then apologized profusely. She laughed pretty hard about it, and then I got the hell out of there. Pretty nice day, otherwise. 🤣
Steve Hall 1 year ago
The last wedding I was invited to, I was asked to be best man. I politely told the groom that I did not want to be the best man and that I wasn't even going to the wedding. Haven't seen or heard from him since. I married my wife at the court house in order to avoid all the regular drama and I don't want to participate in anyone else's drama.
Hey! 1 year ago
My now husband invited me to his brother's wedding. We weren't dating for long but the goal was to get married so I was already his SO. The groom's twin lost the rings between his legs and we have a picture of him completely bend between his legs following them. They dropped into the heating vent. The priest stopped talking while people were retrieving the rings. During the ceremony, the priest says something about how marriage is important and that back in the day there were no divorce, etc. (not true, but hey!) and then asked my MIL how long they've been married. "35 happy years!" The crowd goes silent. I turn to my BF and ask "how old are you again?" He was 34 and he was 4 when his parents married (father unknown to him) and she had divorced her husband several years back... Everyone knew this (how my husband was adopted and the parents were no longer married). She just lied plainly to a priest.
JayWantsACat 1 year ago
It wasn't a wedding but a friend of mine's parents, who were always nice to me, were having like a 25th wedding anniversary and me our friend group were invited. I don't remember if they told us we were invited but if we could help serve the food before or when we got there. We thought it was mostly funny but knew we were only there to help out, which I'm wasn't upset about. Even though we were friends for years we were just their son's dumbass friends. But to entertain ourselves, we kept changing what the meat were serving was. Sometimes it was chicken, beef, and donkey. Sometimes it was pigeon, beef, and horse. That kind of thing. Their culture is known for talking being people's backs so I wonder how long people were talking s**t before they were told the truth. lmao
pasej41913@bustayes.com 1 year ago
Weddings are so ridiculous and I'm so glad I'll probably never have to go to another one ever again.
Lara Verne 1 year ago
My friend has coworker, who is from Ukraine. He like it here (Czech Republic) and for some reason, he wanted to see a Czech wedding. So my friend invited him to her wedding, and he happily accepted. The wedding was fine until the groom's friends got drunk and started fist fight. Other guests tried to get them apart and calm them down. One of drunk guys hit Ukrainian coworker. Poor guy, he wanted to see a Czech wedding and ended up with a black eye.
BarkingSpider 1 year ago
I showed up at a step siblings' wedding with my sister and our significant others as very young adults, only to find that none of us had seats. My stepparent told us when and where and all the details, but then maybe failed to tell the bride and groom we were coming? I'm sure it was all miscommunication, but the way my sister and I were treated growing up, it was just one more thing. Thankfully they had an open bar so we were squeezed in at a table and made the best of it. Awkward af though.
Kim Kermes 1 year ago
I may start a business as a wedding peacekeeper. Give me a few drinks and I'll wander around interrupting questionable situations and pour red wine on anyone but the bride wearing white. Milage, a room for the night, a meal allowance, and tip. Choice of falcon headed cane or 4 foot staff, no extra charge.
Tamra 1 year ago (edited)
I was maid of honor to a dear friend long ago. Very quiet, casual wedding, all went well. As things came to an end and people were milling about, shaking hands and giving hugs, I decided to give my friend congratulations and a goodbye hug, as I could see she was tired and wanting to wrap things up. I leaned in to hug her, one hand around her back and one hand on her shoulder... except it wasn't her shoulder. My hand was firmly on her boob, giving it an enthusiastic squeeze. We both just stared at it for a second before I awkwardly jerked my hand away, and then apologized profusely. She laughed pretty hard about it, and then I got the hell out of there. Pretty nice day, otherwise. 🤣
Steve Hall 1 year ago
The last wedding I was invited to, I was asked to be best man. I politely told the groom that I did not want to be the best man and that I wasn't even going to the wedding. Haven't seen or heard from him since. I married my wife at the court house in order to avoid all the regular drama and I don't want to participate in anyone else's drama.
Hey! 1 year ago
My now husband invited me to his brother's wedding. We weren't dating for long but the goal was to get married so I was already his SO. The groom's twin lost the rings between his legs and we have a picture of him completely bend between his legs following them. They dropped into the heating vent. The priest stopped talking while people were retrieving the rings. During the ceremony, the priest says something about how marriage is important and that back in the day there were no divorce, etc. (not true, but hey!) and then asked my MIL how long they've been married. "35 happy years!" The crowd goes silent. I turn to my BF and ask "how old are you again?" He was 34 and he was 4 when his parents married (father unknown to him) and she had divorced her husband several years back... Everyone knew this (how my husband was adopted and the parents were no longer married). She just lied plainly to a priest.
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