According to Lenore, the president of Let Grow, teenager's desire for independence is rooted in our biology. "Think of what used to happen during the teen years throughout most of human history. Those young people weren’t going to high school. They weren’t making TikTok videos. They weren’t eating candy bars and playing Call of Duty. They were foraging for food, trying not to become some other species’ food, and they were having babies."

Lenore even reached out to Dr. Robert Epstein, the author of 'Teen 2.0: Saving Our Children and Families from the Torment of Adolescence,' to get his take on teen independence as well. "Teens strive for independence because they are genetically and developmentally ready to start their own families. Throughout most of human history, teens did in fact mate, have children, and became full members of their communities, thus fulfilling their genetic destinies. Romeo's Juliet—the one in Shakespeare's play, not the Juliets we see in modern movies—was 13."

He continued: "Over the past century, especially in Western countries, we have prevented teens from entering adult society, typically holding them back until they are 18 or even 21. Thus the natural tendencies they have to grow up are thwarted and frustrated at every turn. They therefore not only strive for independence, they must struggle for it, often coming into conflict with their parents and other authority figures who hold them back. When a teen looks you straight in the eye and says, 'Stop treating me like a child,' you need to listen."

Lenore explained that teenagers' desire to create a fresh, new, unique persona might also arise from the disconnect "between being ready for adulthood and being grounded because of your C- in algebra." She told Bored Panda: "To make the break more obvious in a culture that keeps treating them as kids, they sometimes adopt a new look, one they probably hope makes them look much older and more sophisticated or sexy—that is, adult. Need a real-world example? See timeline of Cyrus, comma, Miley."

While it might seem that there's a lot of tension between teenagers' desire to be independent and their wish to fit in with the crowd, Lenore told us that there's no real tension there. "The 'independent' part is the part of us that wants to be recognized for who we are—not just another jock, or nerd, a whole person. That’s why The Breakfast Club is a movie for the ages. (See this great essay by high school student Maggie Isabel Seabrook who won Let Grow’s Think for Yourself essay contest.) John Hughes’ classic shows how none of the teens is just the one simple label everyone sees them as—they’re all lonely, they’re all smart in their own way, and they have problems others have no clue about. Teens (and the rest of us) long to be seen for who we really are."

Lenore continued about how our desire for independence comes after we become accepted by others: "At the same time, that longing comes from a desire to connect: 'Don’t write me off—get to know me!' As humans, we are acutely attuned to what others think of us—and particularly attuned to any put-downs or humiliation. So we may adopt some styles that we hope will keep the scorn at bay. People are wearing a certain shoe? So will I. Everyone’s growing their hair long? I’ll grow mine, too. We want to be accepted, so we look at what others are doing/wearing/saying and adopt some of these things. But once accepted, we also want to be seen for the real person we are, not just a 'type.'"

In Lenore's opinion, the past is "nothing but fashion mistakes," she joked with Bored Panda. "Even the old styles that look cool to us now would not look cool if you copied them perfectly—the eyebrows then are not the eyebrows of today, no matter what era you’re iconizing. That’s why no one can look back on their adolescent photos and say, 'Wow, that was a great look.' Sure—your waist was thinner and your hair was thicker—but: that haircut? Those lapels? That dress with the giant belt? How did you ever think it looked good?" she said that no trend is forever.

"Well, the same way you may think giant sneakers and ripped jeans look good now. Trust me—take a selfie today and save it along with this Bored Panda article. Set a reminder to look at them again in… let’s say 13 years. The article will be as accurate at the day it was born, your selfie will look as dated as a flip phone, and you will have learned—verrrrry slowly!—that there is no way to escape the era you live in. Living in 2021 means you think a certain look is timelessly attractive, but in fact it is startlingly specific, right down to the way you tuck in your shirt."

Lenore had some advice for us as well: "My best advice? Just don’t do anything to permanently alter your looks, because at some point you will be embarrassed or bored by it. Otherwise, just accept that time marches on but photos don’t."

“Come and share your dusty treasure for the world—and you—to laugh and regret together,” the 'Blunder Years' group invites their fellow redditors to bare their awkward phases and the times they assassinated style with their wardrobes. 

Operating since 2013 and with 755k members, the subreddit is large enough to get a lot of attention online, but it’s also intimate enough for it to be a close-knit community. You can also tell that by the fact that r/blunderyears only has two moderators. In our experience, that’s usually a sign of a very welcoming subreddit that doesn’t over-stress their mods.

That doesn’t mean that ‘Blunder Years’ doesn’t have any rules, though. They really do. They’ve set out some guidelines so that people don’t, well, blunder while they post their blunders. For example, wearing glasses because you thought you were a hipster just isn’t enough. It won’t do at all!

The blunders have to be real and you have to hear that ‘whack’ as the embarrassment hits your soul at 300mph and makes you want to hide under the covers until your cheeks aren’t glowing beet-red anymore.