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30 People Are Sharing What Happened To Their High School Crushes
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Having a high school crush, as probably most of you will agree, is an inevitable experience in our teenage years. That feeling of excitement but also kind of ‘stress’ when you see the person you like walk through the school corridor, getting ready in the morning and worrying about whether they will be at school today, you know what I am talking about. Well, it’s weird to think that years later we can still remember that one person and maybe still have them in our lives, or maybe have no idea what happened to them.
Speaking about high school crushes, one Reddit user created a thread asking community members to share how their sweethearts ended up in life. Well, stories vary from being incredibly sweet to terribly heartbreaking, so scroll through!
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#1
He grew up in a broken family, and both of his parents were addicts. They divorced when he was 4 or 5. His parents remained addicts. In high school, his mom was arrested and ended up in prison on a 10 year sentence for d***s and child neglect.
After graduation, he didn’t go to college. He worked at a bar for a few years before going into real estate, which turned out to be his passion. He’s now working as an operations manager for a nationwide real estate company, making six-figures while his wife is a stay-at-home dog/cat mom and working on her own small business.
I’m his wife. Life is good. :-).
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#2
She’s a doctor now. Dual specialist. Last I heard, she’s in the kitchen, making pancakes for dinner tonight for our 3 year old son.
“I think the most important factor of why so many couples struggle to maintain their relationship from high school through college and beyond is the recognition that you've outgrown each other,” shared dating and relationship coach for high-achieving women Sami Wunder with Bored Panda.
“I think the transition that happens from high school to college is the time in our lives where we make significant personal growth, and we develop new interests, values, and goals,” she added. We may not be aware that we are not who we were when we met our partner first, so very often there is just an outgrowing that pushes people apart and breaks relationships.
#3
She passed away in a car accident a month before we were to be married. We started dating when we were 16. She passed away at 19. I’m 64 and still a day hasn’t went bye that haven’t cried for her she was my everything.
Scotira 9 months ago
When talking to my patients in cancer care and the topic of grief comes up I tell them the ball and the box analogy as a coping mechanism. This is for all of you who need to hear it: imagine your grief is like a box with a ball inside that you constantly carry with you, also inside is a "pain button". In the beginning the ball fills the box almost completly and hits the button constantly. You can't move the box without hitting the button. As time moves on the ball starts to shrink and hits the button less frequently, maybe once an hour, then every two hours, then once a day... it still keeps on shrinking as life moves on. Suddenly the ball is small enough for you to go on for weeks without hitting the button, then months and years. You still carry the box with you and sometimes completly random the small ball will hit the button and the pain might still be just as intense as in the beginning. Yet you will be able to go through your life without constant pain and grief. Take care 💚
#4
Mine worked for my dad when we were teenagers but he was 3 years older than me so I was too shy to really ever talk to him and his dad told him to stay tf away from me because he was kind of a “bad boy” type of kid lol. He was the most handsome emo boy my little 13 year old self could have ever dreamed of 😂seriously though, he was gorgeous (still is absolutely stunning) and eventually when I was 15 my dad sent him to pick me up from school and I was so excited to have a chance to hang out with him. Nothing came of it because he ended up moving out of state and didn’t hear from him again for many years. He had a rough home life and bounced around from place to place. Eventually we reconnected on MySpace a few years later when I was 18 or 19. Nothing came from that either because I had a boyfriend and had just moved in with him. Honestly though, I would have dumped him immediately as my life was beginning to get really dark with abuse, eating disorder and addiction. He found me on Facebook when I was 25 and he was 28 and we started talking and hit it off and immediately began dating. I was in a really bad place working as a stripper, webcamming, abusive relationships, anorexia, and addicted. He got me clean and showed me I deserved better than the life I was living. The first day we hung out together was the first day I didn’t drink or [take illegal substances] in years. I felt safe and like I could be myself without judgement or worrying about if he would hurt me. It was hard to get used to a healthy relationship after being so used the toxic lifestyle I had been living and I definitely was not easy to deal with for the first while.
We have now been together almost 8 years and married for almost 2. We have 3 children and live a quiet life in the country and I’m thankful everyday to have found him. We may not be rich or have lots of fancy things, but we have true love and loyalty and I feel safe for the first time in my life after finding him. I have purpose and my life has meaning. He is our rock and the best man I know.
Sami noted that another factor that may be a challenge for young couples who came together in high school or college is the geographical separation. “When you're together and you're in the same town, you're in the same school, it's so much easier to nurture your relationship and be close to each other,” she emphasized.
The dating and relationship coach also pointed out that when people come together very young, they often can have this romantic idea about life and love, and that all you need is love. “And then when you step out into the real world, you realize you need to make money and you need to, you know, show up and handle responsibilities, and often that can put strain on relationships,” she continued.
#5
She was lovely. We were in a small, close knit group of friends. I remember going out one Friday evening and she held my hand. I was ecstatic.
I know today that she didn't fancy me or even see me in that light as we have discussed it. She knows she was my school crush.
I moved away when I was 16. Saw her once, briefly when I visited when I was 18 and always looked for her when I returned to my home village.
Friends Reunited was a website where you signed up, put in your details and it connected you with people from your school. She hadn't joined and I was gutted.
Then she did. I paid immediately for full membership so I could email her through the site..... She didn't respond for 2 years. I know now that it was because she's not really bothered with social media. Back then, there was no Facebook or anything. She used the internet for research and study only.
She did well for herself. Got a BA Hons and a law degree. Things went downhill for her after she chose to meet up with me. She's got terrible taste in men....
Cos we've been married for 18 years this year and have 2 daughters. She's now a mental health nurse. Still got terrible taste in men hahaha
Edit to add. We physically met again when we were 32. Now both 51.
#6
We are married!! He is snoring on the bed behind me while I'm on Reddit, lol.
It still blows my mind that I ended up with him.
#7
She got married....had 2 kids....and sadly died of cancer.
What a sweet girl she was! I was so sad for her husband and kids....still sad about it.
Now, speaking about the importance of sharing feelings with your crush, Sami shared that she doesn’t agree with this opinion. “Personally, I feel like crushes come and go and it’s important to not keep acting and reacting to every single one. If you start acting on all those feelings, your love life could end up looking like a mess.”
However, she noted that she believes there is something to speak for when it comes to having courage and bravery, to be honest with yourself. “I think what's important then is to be detached from the outcome. A lot of people share their feelings with their crushes to get a positive and that is the dangerous part.”
And do this for yourself. Do this to honor yourself, do this to honor your truth. Do this to be authentic with yourself. Do this to know that in the future, you will have no regrets and that you are honest and upfront about your true emotions. However, do not do this to get an outcome, because that can be really tricky.
#8
I was 14. At the beginning of the new school year, I was running late to my new English class. The class was too full to accomodate me/a few others, so at the last minute I was switched to another English class with different people/teacher etc.
I walked into class, I sat down and I saw ‘him’. I remember just feeling this intense admiration and awe because he was just SO handsome. He was quiet, kept to himself, almost mysterious.
9 years later, we are still together, and very glad that I was running late that day and therefore got moved into his English class or else we would have never met. 🥰.
#9
He disappeared off social media, moved somewhere really remote and hasn’t kept in touch with any of his many, many friends for some reason. Last I heard not married and no kids.
#10
He married someone other than me. We did date and break up. He has put on a considerable amount of weight. Six years into his marriage to his wife he reached out to me on Facebook to rant about how bad his marriage was. I told him I wasn’t his therapist and he should probably go talk to a professional if things were not working out.
Moreover, Sami noted that it’s important to do it as an act of self-love, so that you don’t regret it in the future. “There is no fear like fear of missed opportunity. If they once knew and they still didn't do anything about it, then you at least knew that you did your part of the process.”
Clarity and closure is also really important. When you have all these uncertainties - ‘does he like me? Does he like me now? Does she like me?’ Just being able to express your feelings is so powerful. “Either you go ahead with that person because they reciprocate or you don't. And you win either way by getting clarity and closure.”
#11
She was a mom of two kids. I have no idea who the father is/was, but she od'd on what I assume is [illegal substance] though the town paper doesn't officially say. She is the third person in my high school class of only 90 kids to pass from this. She was a smart and pretty girl who brightened any room. I was in shock when I heard. Don't do d***s people.
Edited a word, I’m a bad speller!
#12
Turned out we were both gay. Most hilarious breakup I've ever had. Hands down the best, but we fell out of touch. But yeah he said something along the lines of, "I don't know how I feel about kissing women, but I have enjoyed sex with men," and I gotta say I felt about the same way reversed. Every man I've ever thought I liked has been extremely gay. And I didn't start dating women until after high school.
#13
He died. He went in for a common surgery, some kind shoulder rotator cuff thing, and developed a pulmonary embolism. It can happen to anyone after surgery. He went to recovery, was discharged from the hospital two days later, then died in his sleep that night at home. He was 35 years old.
He co-owned a local Irish Restaurant and pub with his best friend. Never married, no kids, but adored his siblings children. He was a d**k when we were young, but grew up to be a pretty nice guy.
Finally, we asked Sami Wunder to share the most common myths about high school relationships and she said the first one is the belief that they never last. “And I don't believe this is true. I have personally encountered so many coaching clients who are happily in love with the person they met 20 years ago, at high school or in college. So I have to say that every relationship is different.”
She added that another myth is that people often have the idea that true love is going to last effortlessly. “So if I met my person in high school, and we've known each other for a very long time, it's just going to last. And that is so wrong,” she emphasized.
“No matter where you met your sweetheart and how you met them, and how young you were, and how well you know each other, every romantic relationship needs nurturing, needs attention, needs time and effort. So many people take that for granted when they've known somebody for a long time.”
#14
I actually dated my crush for a bit, until I left the state for college. Parted as friends. He went to school locally and became an elder-services social worker. After a failed marriage with the girl he dated right after me, he found his person. She’s great and has a daughter he loves as his own and is hugely involved in raising. He’s one of the good ones.
#15
He ended up marrying his cousin. Same last name and everything. They have two kids. I dodged a bullet in not actually dating him. But then again we wouldn’t have ended up together because we aren’t related enough I guess.
shanila.pheonix_ 9 months ago
this comment came off rudely to a lot of people so im deleting it. im sorry guys.
#16
She’s an award winning filmmaker.
“I also believe that there's a myth that high school relationships are not serious,” added Sami. “A lot of people think that people who come together in high school, it's just a high school relationship.”
People tend to assume when you meet somebody so young, you are not mature, you don't know what you're looking for. And while there could be some truth to it, like we're still in the process of maturation at 16, and 17, and 18, there are plenty of examples where people have found each other's soulmates and people have found their soulmate at this stage of their life.
“Every relationship, no matter when you got together or how you got together, should be given its due chance,” pointed out Sami.
#17
Man, if you had asked this 5 years ago I would have said, living exactly the charmed upper middle class life everyone expected him to live. Degree from a good university, beautiful wife, beautiful home, kids, trips abroad. The good life.
Came to find out he was subsidizing that life with a smidge of fraud and a touch of addiction to prescription pain medication. We’re talking a federal investigation.
Truly the biggest shock of my life.
ILoveMySon 9 months ago
Prescription pain medications, ugh. I am terminal and refuse them with reason.
#18
Became a neurosurgeon with a very good looking wife + 2 children. He was a super sweet and nice guy to all with really good looks. All the girls were smitten.
So guys, don’t forget to check out Sami’s website!
And do you remember your high school crush? Share your stories in the comments below!
#19
She [took her own life]. Found out later she had a crush on me too. F**k life sometimes.
#20
They straight up zero presence on the internet after high school. Cannot find them on any social media whatsoever so honestly I have no idea.
#21
He was my first experience with being treated with actual respect and care, and was a big teddy bear of a man. But I was so used to being an option, not THE choice, that I didn't know how to accept his love. We dated off and on for a few years while I was in college in NJ and he was back in upstate NY working as a caregiver in a group home. I loved him, but I wasn't at a point in my life that I knew how be loved BY him. It was too serious, too intense. I was young and in college, and he was talking marriage and kids. It scared me. I left, for the last time, in 2010. We stayed close, though. He was truly my best friend.
He passed away of a random heart attack at 32, back in 2020. I caught up last year. I pass him in July. I was never supposed to be older.
I wish things had been different, but at the same time, they happened exactly how they had to. I do wonder sometimes... what if I'd stayed? But I try not to dwell too long on "what if"s.
#22
She failed out of engineering and that's the last I saw of her.
I found out that a while later that she went back for accounting. Ended up in NYC working for Deloitte.
We're from rural Canada. I think she did pretty well for herself.
#23
Googled his name and found out he lives a good life in Hawaii.
#24
He’s still hot. He’s a toxicologist and is married, has one son. Beautiful home, but they’re so f*****g religious it’s weird. Huge picture of Jesus in the living room. I think I dodged a bullet with this one.
#26
Married to an army officer. I happen to know the guy. I still pray to god for her happiness.
#27
She was my high school crush, kind, caring, just full of life. We've become close friends, I proposed but she chose the other guy. Wish them nothing but happiness. They were married until she came home and found her husband in bed with his coworker, went into a social media breakdown for a couple of months until she disappeared completely. Last I heard she moved to another city to begin a new life. If I weren't married I'd go after her like in the movies. Sherry wherever you are I hope you found happiness.
#28
Dead. Liver cancer. While still at high school.
#29
Every single guy I had a crush on in high school either joined the military or became super religious or some combination of both. Something to unpack there, I’m sure. .
#30
She just had a baby and is happily married I never told her.
What do you think ?
LakotaWolf (she/her) 9 months ago
I’m a bit jealous of these stories, even the “sad” ones. My mom decided she wanted to have “my child is a genius” bragging rights, so she made me take the high-school equivalency test (GED) at age 13. She made me start college at 14. I didn’t get to go to high school. Although that may sound like a dream come true to some teens out there, it was not. It messed me up socially and I am STILL unable to socialize/interact properly to this day (I’m 42.) I’m not delusional that high school is some kind of magical perfect experience, but going to HS normally would have taught me how to interact with, and maybe even properly date, my peers. As it stands, I’m a social trainwreck XD
Kristal 9 months ago
I can understand that, kind of like how puppies or kittens need to hang around their parents/siblings to know how to act. If it makes you feel better, a lot of people that experienced high school also have the social trainwreck issues too *hugs*
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TheElementalGod️️ (He/him) 9 months ago
"Note: this post originally had 31 images. It’s been shortened to the top 30 images based on user votes." SERIOUSLY BP? ITS ONE IMAGE!
Gdrr Voeb 9 months ago
It was the second year of high school, almost 30 years ago, and i still remember the day i saw her like yesterday... Years later i realized she had a crush on me too. Nothing ever happened, i changed schools the next year. Asked an old classmate how she was doing, and he told me she died from cancer. Still makes me sad when i think about it...
CP 9 months ago
Don't do what some of us older folks did. Let them know and good luck.
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Donkey boi 9 months ago
She was a shy girl, with a stutter when I met her. We dated for a while but split when she went to some posh boarding school. She's now a Golden globe & 2 SAG awards winning, Academy award nominee, international celebrity.
DrBronxx 9 months ago
I know I shouldn't ask, but curiosity has got the better of me. Emily Blunt?
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GirlFriday 9 months ago
My high school crush got a girl pregnant our senior year in high school. They got married three weeks before graduation, told everyone the baby was premature so it didn't look like they were pregnant before marriage. The couple has been married for more than 30 years now, they live on a farm and have raised 4 children. I got to know his wife after they married, and she is an amazing person and wonderful mother. I am really happy for their family. They are good people and deserve good things.
Deb Johnston 9 months ago
It was my first kiss in HS during a Church Summer Camp in the 70s. It was the most perfect kiss I ever had. We never dated & lost contact. I married the love of my life later. When FB came about, I looked him up... and he's gay :)
Tempest 9 months ago
My HS crush is a really good friend of mine but he’s so shy that he didn’t join any of our friend group meetups we had since we left school and he’s only on FB where he doesn’t post anything (his last post is from like 4 years ago about his college graduation). He doesn’t text much either but every year he wishes me for my birthday without fail. I wish him for his too. That’s pretty much the only texts we exchange every year but it makes me so happy that after all these years he still remembers my birthday! (Made me wonder if he too liked me at some point because I know he doesn’t wish other mutual friends for their birthdays 😁) He’s such a great guy, super smart and hot too! Last I heard he’s got a really well paying job. He’s the only crush in my life that I never regretted having. I hope I get to meet him again someday!
Wysteria_Rose 9 months ago
I had one HS crush that I'm so happy for. He grew up in a tense household. He was the product of a pregnancy that made his parents get married and he was always on the receiving end of his mom's bitterness over it. His younger siblings were treated super well but he was always taking some sort of punishment over nothing. His mom was a real piece of work while his dad never did anything to make it stop. He was so sweet though, it was heartbreaking. I realized he was always at school doing one club or another but later we realized it was so he had a reason to not go home. Now he lives far from his parents, married happily with two beautiful girls. I'm happy for him and hope he can keep that happiness safe.
Enlee Jones 9 months ago
One turned into conspiracy theory nut who worships the ground Elon Musk and Jeff Bezos walk on and thinks they can do no wrong. Another turned a fire-breathing ultra right-wing misogynist who wrote an appalling message on another classmate’s Facebook about how all woman should r@ped and forced to wear burkas so men won’t have to put up with their s**t anymore. Charming.
TheBlueBitterfly 9 months ago (edited)
We dated briefly in 7th grade, hooked up a couple times in HS and after. It just never worked out, though. Then.. Dead. Overdose on Xmas eve a few years ago. He wasn't even an addict, just was looking for something to calm his anxiety once in a while. He was at his parents visiting for the holidays, he got in late after they all went out for dinner. They came home to him gone. I still can't wrap my head around it. He was a good friend, too. Lost touch with him for a few years because of my own addiction. I hate that.
BlitheSpirit 9 months ago
Mine barely registered me back in middle school; that changed when we randomly ran into each other 30 years later. We’ve been married 10 years now.
BarkingSpider 9 months ago
Some happy stories, some so sad. The crush I dated is still one of my best friends, but his life is a train wreck due to addiction. He's trying to get it together now and doing pretty good. The one I didn't date had a lovely family and a good job, but recently died of a rare cancer.
Dogs accept all (She/They) 8 months ago
We're still in high school, and dating, but she's just amazing. Honestly wish some of y'all could meet her.
Tracy Wallick 9 months ago
We dated for about a year in high school; we broke up when I realized that, yeah, I really am asexual. We're still friends 15 years later, but the best part is that another friend of mine, about a year after the breakup, asked if I'd be okay if she dated my ex; I said yes, because it was obvious the 2 of them liked each other! They've been married 10 years now. :)
Dogs accept all (She/They) 8 months ago
That's what happened with my first enbyfriend. They realized that they were aro-ace, and we are now really close friends.
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Gustav Gallifrey 9 months ago
She married someone who went on to be the world surfing champion. Four times.
Brenda 9 months ago
We dated for 3 years before going our separate ways. About 10 years ago, one of his cousins happened to recognize me sitting on my porch early on a Saturday. The next week, he stopped by and we caught up. He was recently separated and I was married. Became close to his sister and mother again (still am). He's a wonderful guy with 2 great kids and grandkids. Only took 30 years to meet up again! 😁
Doodles1983 9 months ago
I was his HS crush. He never twigged he was mine (despite me flashing him in P.E.) Lost touch for 20 years. Got a FB message in 2020 lockdown, “I see your surname changed…” Chatted a little during lockdowns. It was our 3 year anniversary yesterday.
You stole that from Robocop 9 months ago
I went to an all boys school soooo not too many crushes to choose from (I'm mostly straight).
kath morgan 9 months ago
Two of the boys I had crushes on are married to men now, I had a type I guess XD I don’t know what became of the girl.
CP 9 months ago (edited)
I remember two crushes. One I saw later on and found out she had a crush on me too, but I was too timid in HS to tell her. By the time we told each other it wasn't the right time. The other married a guy that looked suspiciously like me. I don't put any actual stock in that but it made me wonder. I never got to tell the second one I had a crush on her but I hope she is happy. I quit FB a long time ago. Now I am thinking of logging on to to see how they are doing. I recently got divorced so why not?
YeeHawPotato 9 months ago
I was actually lucky enough to date her for a couple years in high school. We broke up senior year, but I still miss her all the time. Last I heard she was working as a baker and I couldn’t be happier for her that she’s followed her dreams, even if I can’t be a part of her life.
Scarlett 9 months ago
I never was stupid (don’t downvote me, I’ll explain) enough to have one in high school because I was the ugly girl. Therefore since I was ugly, it was only fair to treat me like a literal thing, call me “it” and say so many horrible things that I still have no self esteem today, and literally tried to kill myself during the bullying, and ask me out as a joke. God forbid if I’d ever had a crush, I’d have faired so much worse.
KillerKiwi 9 months ago
If I could go back and change the way I broke up with him I would. I don’t want to get back together, I just want to talk to him and see how he feels because it’s honestly tearing me apart. ^^
KillerKiwi 9 months ago (edited)
We dated end of freshman year and beginning of sophomore year, but we had known each other much longer. We met when I was 8 and he was 9 but he was homeschooled due to his little sister having cancer. Our moms are friends and we like each other on and off for seven years before dating. He started going to school in 8th grade and we were just kind of awkward friends who didn’t talk much. That changed freshman year when he asked me to prom. I said yes and we dated for five months. I ended up breaking up with him after feeling awful that I didn’t like him like that anymore for a couple weeks. He took it badly and we haven’t really spoken since. It’s very strange for me to not talk to him, but to see him every day and wonder if he thinks about me like I think about him. I know I should probably leave him alone but it’s so so weird to not talk to him after knowing him for this long. It’s been five months since we broke up and I think about him every day.
Corinne Wheeler 9 months ago
Looked up my high school crush a few years ago...he's in prison for mur d er. Such a lovely kind person when we were at school.
Mad McQueen 9 months ago
My crush. We used to hang out after school an listen to music. I'd hang around as the boys all smoked pot or was the one to give them money for it. We hung out a few times but only friends. He was so cute an bad boy. I was the ugly f**k of school so was happy to have any friends. Later on he moved. Found out he lost all his hair. Married a foreign girl. Beat on her. She had fb messaged me asking if I knew him before an what he was like. Total one 90 from the boy I knew. But then I looked back on some of the stories I heard about him or things that sorta should have been triggers. Won't go into those. But I told her if she really felt unsafe to pack up her kid an what little she had and call someone in her family or a neighbor and get out. Then call the cops for a restraining order and slowly get her life back. Don't know if she listened. Met a mutual friend of his before all that an when he called him to say he met me the guy basically bashed me to him. Like I was only nice but he li
Mad McQueen 9 months ago
Cont. He lied about me to this guy I had met. I realized that high school crush and new friend were more connected than we would be so I just ended that friendship. So that was one of the things that came to mind when his wife reached out blindly to me. If it was her an not him playing games. Idk. But he's bald. And fat.
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Donna Peluda 9 months ago (edited)
My girl and I never seemed to be in the right moment. when I met her I was dating. she started dating and I broke up. We even worked at the same place for a while, we both had relationships. I broke up and left, she got dumped. We corresponded via snail mail, (early 90s) She went to UK to learn English. I got back in a relationship, we were never in sync. Now she is married to a great guy, she's a bank manager and has two beautiful little girls who love me.
Papa 9 months ago
I had it bad for her for a long time, almost certainly to the extent that wasn't healthy, but I finally got the nerve, or maybe the maturity, to realize she was never going to feel the same way (and asked her, just to make sure). I met my wife not long after that. I run into her occasionally. Her husband died of an illness after about 30 years of marriage, but otherwise she seems okay.
Kristal 9 months ago
The "band geeks" were actually kind of cool at my school and he was one. Beautiful brunette hair he gre long, played guitar. He knew I had a crush on him but nothing came of it cause chubby girls in high school don't get dates. Last I saw, he worked at a music store and shaved all his beautiful hair off :( I'm still chubby though lol
DrBronxx 9 months ago (edited)
My crush was the same from age 12 to 18 when we went off to university. I was always quite shy. I found out she liked me because she had a mutual friend ask me out for her when we were 14. I said no, partly because I was in a bad mood at that moment and just wanted the mutual friend to go away, and partly because my crush had recently had a bad haircut, and I was embarrassed by what my friends would have thought. I hate myself, because even though I still thought she was beautiful (and a really lovely person), I gave in to *perceived* peer pressure. It was my biggest regret through the rest of my time at school, because that crush never really went away. We're Facebook friends now, but the kind of friends who never actually talk to each other. Last I noticed, she's married with kids and seems happy. I am also happily married with a child.
MidnightProphecy 9 months ago
From when I was 14, when I was 15 I eventually dated him for a few weeks and it didn't last, then when I was a teen we dated for a while and just wasn't anything then that was it, he married someone and I'm not engaged to the most amazing man I've ever met. During this time he reached out and tried coming on to me and sent me a nude! I mentioned he was married, I was engaged and even if I was single I wasn't interested - it was just a childhood crush thing. Totally wrong for me and attraction gone. Anyway he died a few years ago of cancer. I feel bad for his kid, his wife and his twin. I couldn't imagine losing my fiancé.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 9 months ago
I’m a bit jealous of these stories, even the “sad” ones. My mom decided she wanted to have “my child is a genius” bragging rights, so she made me take the high-school equivalency test (GED) at age 13. She made me start college at 14. I didn’t get to go to high school. Although that may sound like a dream come true to some teens out there, it was not. It messed me up socially and I am STILL unable to socialize/interact properly to this day (I’m 42.) I’m not delusional that high school is some kind of magical perfect experience, but going to HS normally would have taught me how to interact with, and maybe even properly date, my peers. As it stands, I’m a social trainwreck XD
Kristal 9 months ago
I can understand that, kind of like how puppies or kittens need to hang around their parents/siblings to know how to act. If it makes you feel better, a lot of people that experienced high school also have the social trainwreck issues too *hugs*
Load More Replies... TheElementalGod️️ (He/him) 9 months ago
"Note: this post originally had 31 images. It’s been shortened to the top 30 images based on user votes." SERIOUSLY BP? ITS ONE IMAGE!
Gdrr Voeb 9 months ago
It was the second year of high school, almost 30 years ago, and i still remember the day i saw her like yesterday... Years later i realized she had a crush on me too. Nothing ever happened, i changed schools the next year. Asked an old classmate how she was doing, and he told me she died from cancer. Still makes me sad when i think about it...
CP 9 months ago
Don't do what some of us older folks did. Let them know and good luck.
Load More Replies... Donkey boi 9 months ago
She was a shy girl, with a stutter when I met her. We dated for a while but split when she went to some posh boarding school. She's now a Golden globe & 2 SAG awards winning, Academy award nominee, international celebrity.
DrBronxx 9 months ago
I know I shouldn't ask, but curiosity has got the better of me. Emily Blunt?
Load More Replies... GirlFriday 9 months ago
My high school crush got a girl pregnant our senior year in high school. They got married three weeks before graduation, told everyone the baby was premature so it didn't look like they were pregnant before marriage. The couple has been married for more than 30 years now, they live on a farm and have raised 4 children. I got to know his wife after they married, and she is an amazing person and wonderful mother. I am really happy for their family. They are good people and deserve good things.
Deb Johnston 9 months ago
It was my first kiss in HS during a Church Summer Camp in the 70s. It was the most perfect kiss I ever had. We never dated & lost contact. I married the love of my life later. When FB came about, I looked him up... and he's gay :)
Tempest 9 months ago
My HS crush is a really good friend of mine but he’s so shy that he didn’t join any of our friend group meetups we had since we left school and he’s only on FB where he doesn’t post anything (his last post is from like 4 years ago about his college graduation). He doesn’t text much either but every year he wishes me for my birthday without fail. I wish him for his too. That’s pretty much the only texts we exchange every year but it makes me so happy that after all these years he still remembers my birthday! (Made me wonder if he too liked me at some point because I know he doesn’t wish other mutual friends for their birthdays 😁) He’s such a great guy, super smart and hot too! Last I heard he’s got a really well paying job. He’s the only crush in my life that I never regretted having. I hope I get to meet him again someday!
Wysteria_Rose 9 months ago
I had one HS crush that I'm so happy for. He grew up in a tense household. He was the product of a pregnancy that made his parents get married and he was always on the receiving end of his mom's bitterness over it. His younger siblings were treated super well but he was always taking some sort of punishment over nothing. His mom was a real piece of work while his dad never did anything to make it stop. He was so sweet though, it was heartbreaking. I realized he was always at school doing one club or another but later we realized it was so he had a reason to not go home. Now he lives far from his parents, married happily with two beautiful girls. I'm happy for him and hope he can keep that happiness safe.
Enlee Jones 9 months ago
One turned into conspiracy theory nut who worships the ground Elon Musk and Jeff Bezos walk on and thinks they can do no wrong. Another turned a fire-breathing ultra right-wing misogynist who wrote an appalling message on another classmate’s Facebook about how all woman should r@ped and forced to wear burkas so men won’t have to put up with their s**t anymore. Charming.
TheBlueBitterfly 9 months ago (edited)
We dated briefly in 7th grade, hooked up a couple times in HS and after. It just never worked out, though. Then.. Dead. Overdose on Xmas eve a few years ago. He wasn't even an addict, just was looking for something to calm his anxiety once in a while. He was at his parents visiting for the holidays, he got in late after they all went out for dinner. They came home to him gone. I still can't wrap my head around it. He was a good friend, too. Lost touch with him for a few years because of my own addiction. I hate that.
BlitheSpirit 9 months ago
Mine barely registered me back in middle school; that changed when we randomly ran into each other 30 years later. We’ve been married 10 years now.
BarkingSpider 9 months ago
Some happy stories, some so sad. The crush I dated is still one of my best friends, but his life is a train wreck due to addiction. He's trying to get it together now and doing pretty good. The one I didn't date had a lovely family and a good job, but recently died of a rare cancer.
Dogs accept all (She/They) 8 months ago
We're still in high school, and dating, but she's just amazing. Honestly wish some of y'all could meet her.
Tracy Wallick 9 months ago
We dated for about a year in high school; we broke up when I realized that, yeah, I really am asexual. We're still friends 15 years later, but the best part is that another friend of mine, about a year after the breakup, asked if I'd be okay if she dated my ex; I said yes, because it was obvious the 2 of them liked each other! They've been married 10 years now. :)
Dogs accept all (She/They) 8 months ago
That's what happened with my first enbyfriend. They realized that they were aro-ace, and we are now really close friends.
Load More Replies... Gustav Gallifrey 9 months ago
She married someone who went on to be the world surfing champion. Four times.
Brenda 9 months ago
We dated for 3 years before going our separate ways. About 10 years ago, one of his cousins happened to recognize me sitting on my porch early on a Saturday. The next week, he stopped by and we caught up. He was recently separated and I was married. Became close to his sister and mother again (still am). He's a wonderful guy with 2 great kids and grandkids. Only took 30 years to meet up again! 😁
Doodles1983 9 months ago
I was his HS crush. He never twigged he was mine (despite me flashing him in P.E.) Lost touch for 20 years. Got a FB message in 2020 lockdown, “I see your surname changed…” Chatted a little during lockdowns. It was our 3 year anniversary yesterday.
You stole that from Robocop 9 months ago
I went to an all boys school soooo not too many crushes to choose from (I'm mostly straight).
kath morgan 9 months ago
Two of the boys I had crushes on are married to men now, I had a type I guess XD I don’t know what became of the girl.
CP 9 months ago (edited)
I remember two crushes. One I saw later on and found out she had a crush on me too, but I was too timid in HS to tell her. By the time we told each other it wasn't the right time. The other married a guy that looked suspiciously like me. I don't put any actual stock in that but it made me wonder. I never got to tell the second one I had a crush on her but I hope she is happy. I quit FB a long time ago. Now I am thinking of logging on to to see how they are doing. I recently got divorced so why not?
YeeHawPotato 9 months ago
I was actually lucky enough to date her for a couple years in high school. We broke up senior year, but I still miss her all the time. Last I heard she was working as a baker and I couldn’t be happier for her that she’s followed her dreams, even if I can’t be a part of her life.
Scarlett 9 months ago
I never was stupid (don’t downvote me, I’ll explain) enough to have one in high school because I was the ugly girl. Therefore since I was ugly, it was only fair to treat me like a literal thing, call me “it” and say so many horrible things that I still have no self esteem today, and literally tried to kill myself during the bullying, and ask me out as a joke. God forbid if I’d ever had a crush, I’d have faired so much worse.
KillerKiwi 9 months ago
If I could go back and change the way I broke up with him I would. I don’t want to get back together, I just want to talk to him and see how he feels because it’s honestly tearing me apart. ^^
KillerKiwi 9 months ago (edited)
We dated end of freshman year and beginning of sophomore year, but we had known each other much longer. We met when I was 8 and he was 9 but he was homeschooled due to his little sister having cancer. Our moms are friends and we like each other on and off for seven years before dating. He started going to school in 8th grade and we were just kind of awkward friends who didn’t talk much. That changed freshman year when he asked me to prom. I said yes and we dated for five months. I ended up breaking up with him after feeling awful that I didn’t like him like that anymore for a couple weeks. He took it badly and we haven’t really spoken since. It’s very strange for me to not talk to him, but to see him every day and wonder if he thinks about me like I think about him. I know I should probably leave him alone but it’s so so weird to not talk to him after knowing him for this long. It’s been five months since we broke up and I think about him every day.
Corinne Wheeler 9 months ago
Looked up my high school crush a few years ago...he's in prison for mur d er. Such a lovely kind person when we were at school.
Mad McQueen 9 months ago
My crush. We used to hang out after school an listen to music. I'd hang around as the boys all smoked pot or was the one to give them money for it. We hung out a few times but only friends. He was so cute an bad boy. I was the ugly f**k of school so was happy to have any friends. Later on he moved. Found out he lost all his hair. Married a foreign girl. Beat on her. She had fb messaged me asking if I knew him before an what he was like. Total one 90 from the boy I knew. But then I looked back on some of the stories I heard about him or things that sorta should have been triggers. Won't go into those. But I told her if she really felt unsafe to pack up her kid an what little she had and call someone in her family or a neighbor and get out. Then call the cops for a restraining order and slowly get her life back. Don't know if she listened. Met a mutual friend of his before all that an when he called him to say he met me the guy basically bashed me to him. Like I was only nice but he li
Mad McQueen 9 months ago
Cont. He lied about me to this guy I had met. I realized that high school crush and new friend were more connected than we would be so I just ended that friendship. So that was one of the things that came to mind when his wife reached out blindly to me. If it was her an not him playing games. Idk. But he's bald. And fat.
Load More Replies... Donna Peluda 9 months ago (edited)
My girl and I never seemed to be in the right moment. when I met her I was dating. she started dating and I broke up. We even worked at the same place for a while, we both had relationships. I broke up and left, she got dumped. We corresponded via snail mail, (early 90s) She went to UK to learn English. I got back in a relationship, we were never in sync. Now she is married to a great guy, she's a bank manager and has two beautiful little girls who love me.
Papa 9 months ago
I had it bad for her for a long time, almost certainly to the extent that wasn't healthy, but I finally got the nerve, or maybe the maturity, to realize she was never going to feel the same way (and asked her, just to make sure). I met my wife not long after that. I run into her occasionally. Her husband died of an illness after about 30 years of marriage, but otherwise she seems okay.
Kristal 9 months ago
The "band geeks" were actually kind of cool at my school and he was one. Beautiful brunette hair he gre long, played guitar. He knew I had a crush on him but nothing came of it cause chubby girls in high school don't get dates. Last I saw, he worked at a music store and shaved all his beautiful hair off :( I'm still chubby though lol
DrBronxx 9 months ago (edited)
My crush was the same from age 12 to 18 when we went off to university. I was always quite shy. I found out she liked me because she had a mutual friend ask me out for her when we were 14. I said no, partly because I was in a bad mood at that moment and just wanted the mutual friend to go away, and partly because my crush had recently had a bad haircut, and I was embarrassed by what my friends would have thought. I hate myself, because even though I still thought she was beautiful (and a really lovely person), I gave in to *perceived* peer pressure. It was my biggest regret through the rest of my time at school, because that crush never really went away. We're Facebook friends now, but the kind of friends who never actually talk to each other. Last I noticed, she's married with kids and seems happy. I am also happily married with a child.
MidnightProphecy 9 months ago
From when I was 14, when I was 15 I eventually dated him for a few weeks and it didn't last, then when I was a teen we dated for a while and just wasn't anything then that was it, he married someone and I'm not engaged to the most amazing man I've ever met. During this time he reached out and tried coming on to me and sent me a nude! I mentioned he was married, I was engaged and even if I was single I wasn't interested - it was just a childhood crush thing. Totally wrong for me and attraction gone. Anyway he died a few years ago of cancer. I feel bad for his kid, his wife and his twin. I couldn't imagine losing my fiancé.
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