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Hey Queer Pandas, What’s A Sign That You Were Queer That Seems Embarrassingly Obvious In Hindsight?
Be it 'I thought a boy was cute but attributed it to admiration' or 'i regularly wished that I wasn't a girl'. Tell us why you really should have known you were queer sooner!
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#1
I had a girlfriend in Highschool without even realising she was my girlfriend. Except, you know, we’d kiss and hold hands. It sort of dawned on me when we broke up (which was also a weird experience) but it wasn’t until two years later that I acknowledged and embraced my queerness.
Final score:
4points
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#2
I came from a very homophobic family and I constantly tried as a middle schooler to seem as straight as possible without realizing that I was bi. I found girls attractive but I assumed that it was jealousy lol. I started questioning my sexuality but denying it in my early teen years, and it took me until I was 16 to come out to my friends and accept myself, even if my family won't.
Final score:
4points
#3
The only reason I didn't notice as a kid is that I had no idea what being trans was.
One of my only clear memories from being a little kid was thinking about how much happier I would be if I was a guy and then ignoring it because 'I'm a girl and I'm sure everyone feels like this'
When I was trying to figure out my gender, the moment I started using they I started really hating being referred to with she/her or as a girl (I'm pretty sure that nothing I felt was new, I was just aware of it) but it took my like a year to actually accept that I'm trans. I was telling myself that the reason I hated she/her and being referred to with feminine nouns was because I wanted to be a boy, not because I was one.
I always hated my hair when it was long and I thought that it was because it's curly and everyone who has curly hair hates it (my mom, who does not have curly hair, told me that). It got to the point where I was purposefully avoiding mirrors because looking at myself have my huge dysphoria (I didn't know it was dysphoria ofc) but when I got it cut it it turned out that no I don't hate curly hair I just hated having long hair.
When I was figuring out that I was queer, I thought I was a lesbian for the longest time even though I only ever felt attraction to guys and although it's not obvious, I'm pretty sure what I thought was attraction to girls was actually just wishing that I was able to feel comfortable being feminine like them.
I also never really felt any connection to my deadname or it's nickname, like they weren't referring to me. For the longest damn time I thought that is was completely normal to feel like you don't actually have a name but then I changed my name and it's very different.
Altogether, it took me way too long to figure out i was trans and gay.
Final score:
3points
Paige Pinkerton 1 year ago (edited)
I totally had that, I just figured everyone went through that phase, boy was I wrong
#4
When I watched shows I always had a crush on all the characters. boys and girls. I didn't understand it at the time, but now I know that I'm Bi! :)
Final score:
3points
#5
I hung out with a bunch of the gay kids in middle school and so I always got nervous I would say something to some girl and I didn't want to f**k up but I realized I liked her
Final score:
2points
#6
in 6th grade, i had this insane obsession of millie bobby brown. like i was OBSESSED. looking back on it, it was so obviously a major celebrity crush. there was also this girl that was in one of my classes that year that i thought i just wanted to be friends with really badly, but it turns out i had a crush on her..two years later i'm the gayest person you'll ever meet
Final score:
2points
#7
My parents caught me looking at girl (corn) in my search history and my mom caught me staring at them in public. They're just so freaking pretty.
Final score:
2points
#8
For the longest time I used to always say that I would never marry a man that " I don't need to marry a guy. I can just live with my friends and live my own life and maybe adopt some cats or dogs as children" I would say this over and over again all the time and my conservative liberal christian family would get so upset about it and I had no clue why ( this started when I was about 7)
Story goes, I'm in third grade and I find out this guy has a huge crush of my girl best friend. I got super jealous without really realising that I was jealous of him until the next year when one of my older friends came out as lesbian and I asked her what that meant and she told me. Thats when I realised that I was crushing on this girl but I just assumed it was nothing and that I was straight as a line. Same thing happens in 5/6th grade with another one of my close friends except we'd hold hands, and kiss each others cheeks and call each other pet names. I didn't realise until the next year that I was definitely not straight and turns out neither was she. Now I'm in 10th grade and have come to terms with the fact that I'm abro and I've accepted it.
Final score:
2points
#9
I first realized I was trans when I was a young kid, I thought I was born the wrong gender, and I guess I realized that I was gay when I first met my boyfriend, and at first I was happy to have him as a friend, and I hid my feelings towards him because I was still questioning my sexual orientation and my gender, but then a while later, I couldn’t keep it hidden anymore, and I told him that I really loved him, and he reciprocated that, and fast forward to now, we’re officially boyfriends and we’re dating, and one day, I’m going to ask him to marry me, and he would say yes, and then we would be married in a beautiful ceremony. He’s my soulmate.
Final score:
2points
crowspectre 2.0 (he/they) 1 year ago
Oh that's super sweet! I had a similar crush on a close friend but they didn't reciprocate and I'm no longer attracted to them. All the other boys I've liked since are all straight so ig I'm just f****d.
#10
This isn’t related to the post but, some of us have been trying to make another funny bored panda comments challenge, but it ain’t working, been trying for 2 days now. I’ve tried twice but I can’t post anything it always ends up under drafts or list auditions, the original creator of the challenge tried and same thing happened, then a few other pandas tried, and same result. Anybody know what’s going on? Or can anyone else try to make one? Ima copy and paste this message all over if I can.
Final score:
1point
Angie Chiyoko ( She/they) 1 year ago
Some times it just takes a few days for it to load and to get out of the drafts. It's happened to me with a few of my posts but if it's with a lot of people I don't know. I'd say try to contact the BP staff and see if they can identify the problem.
#11
I am still questioning but when I developed an obsession with MJ and Peter Parker, I like Zendaya and Tom as well but don't have crushes on them. BUT MASCULINE WOMEN and SOFT MEN. Sorry gay rantings here.
Final score:
1point
crowspectre 2.0 (he/they) 1 year ago
Men! Tom is cute although not really my type Don't apologize for gay ranting that's most of what I do anyways
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