Hey Pandas, When Have You Been Singled Out For Being Different? (Closed)

Share when have you been singled out for a mental issue like ADHD or autism.

i was in a government class at uni and the subject turned to the collapse of the soviet union, and the amount of people that turned to look directly at me was very uncomfortable. lmao i wasn’t even born when the USSR was still around 💀

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ЛеснойКороль(they/he)🇺🇦🇷🇺

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ЛеснойКороль(they/he)🇺🇦🇷🇺 (Submission author) 11 months ago

*for context i am a russian born person who studies in singapore

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every day. I am punk in a southern state

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the harbinger of doom (she/he)

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Janina Prado 11 months ago

Much respect. Back in 1980-1981 - I was the only punk in a high school of 300. I feel you.

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I grew up in a violent, dysfunctional family and learned to walk on eggshells and constantly be on "survival mode". Most of my reactions when interacting with others were trauma responses. I was isolated, gossiped and judged for that: "she's crazy and weird, didn't you see she talks all alone, we don't want her here".

So, I spent my free time alone and didn't get invited to any group activities. But I was asked to give money for other colleagues' birthday present, for example (because "it's common sense to do that"), while nobody bothered when my own birthday came.

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Alexia

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mulberiiesformeg 11 months ago

i've literally survived my entire life by not getting involved in any arguments i witness at home. they pop up every 5 minutes.

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All the time for ADHD. My friends can tell
When I didn’t take my meds. They joke and say “did you take your meds today?” But, I just embrace it. It’s part of me. So I joke back.

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Sheila Thinks:

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mulberiiesformeg 11 months ago

i might have adhd. not sure. but, anyways, i have sent countless messages to my friends about my inability to focus on a page and they go "you have to try." my god what a brilliant idea

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my now ex husband once told me i was an elitist...because i liked discussing history, politics, etc. with friends. he told me that was why i had such a small circle of friends and thought that i should want to have more friends than a handful of people. he then took it further and told me that i was both elitist and a snob because i didn't really get close to some of his friends. it really made me feel terrible and started doubting myself and my character. one day, i was discussing things with one of my professors (i was in college at the time) and somehow we started talking about social expectations. this professor was both my mentor and friend so i opened up about what my hubby had said and asked him if he thought i was an elitist/snob because i didn't reach out to a lot of people. he thought about it for a moment and then told me this: from the moment we enter social settings such as kindergarten we are told that we have to get along with others. we are given activities that are designed to have us do everything the same way - like making sure we all tap our drums with the same beat. some people will continue to make efforts to fit in for the rest of their lives while others are willing to step out of their comfort zones and discover. so, in his opinion, many people are social out of habit; i was social by choice. and that wasn't a bad thing. it made me realize that i had always been a bit of an outsider but as i got older i didn't care.

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talliloo

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censorshipsucks 11 months ago

No, he just resents your education. Find someone at your intellectual level. I've recently made this mistake (dating someone much dumber with lower qualifications), and it's really hard to make conversation with them. They (a) have a very limited range and (b) have the attention span of a two year old.

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A lot of the time bc I'm a brown girl who wears a hijab. Sometimes it's harmless but a lot of the time it's really unwanted attention and singling out. But I won't complain, I haven't had it too bad compared to the horror stories I hear sometimes.

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Tuesday 🇵🇸

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censorshipsucks 11 months ago

which country?

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8th grade a few years ago because I was the new kid and socially awkward. Even worse is that I might be neurodivergent which would be part of why I’m weird.

But it’s also because I got bullied a lot (once by a friend) so I was closed off

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Mysteria

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mulberiiesformeg 11 months ago

i remember in my early years of elementary, i was bullied, but i didn't realize it.

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Everyday. Other people avoid me, and I don’t easily make friends. It also doesn’t help that I’m the definition of the quiet kid in the corner.

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mulberiiesformeg 11 months ago

i don't like to talk much, but with my friends i have to. otherwise they kinda forget i exist.

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censorshipsucks 11 months ago

Are you undiagnosed ASD?

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shadow wolf 10 months ago

OMG i can relate to this!!!! I HAVE REALLY BAD SOCIAL SKILLS!!! like I hate people!

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Oh man, where do I begin. I've been singled out for a variety of reasons, in a variety of situations by different people, but the recurring ones were being targeted for being overweight (including boys asking me on dates/to prom as a cruel joke, having garbage thrown at me out of moving cars, men angrily yelling at me from their cars that I shouldn't wear something, etc.), or for my poor social skills (I was being emotionally, verbally and psychologically abused to within an inch of my life until I was 22, and had undiagnosed ADHD; as you can perhaps imagine, it really hurt my ability to relate to other people).

Not all of them were bad though. I was the only woman in the car repair and maintenance course I took in community college; most of the other students generally left me alone, and the ones that didn't were genuinely nice and helpful.

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