Hey Pandas, What’s The Longest You Stayed In A Toxic Relationship? (Closed)

How many people stay in relationships that are toxic and absolutely not going to change if anything gets worse? Took me 8 years and I should have left in the first MONTH! He slept with multiple people a few times a day! Had 2 children with another woman. Was in a life-threatening accident and had to get surgery. Had a gun pulled on me and broke my hand was on the local news for that one so embarrassing and I still stayed 3 years after that incident to prove my love.

I did grow up in an abusive home and have PTSD and borderline personality disorder. Due to the trauma, I stayed because I thought I would show him I love him and he would stop cheating, stop using me for my money, and stop treating me like I'm an ATM!

I can say today I'm so happy it's been almost two years since I started LOVING MYSELF. My daughter is so proud of me and texted me a few weeks ago saying mom I'm so happy you finally left the toxic man, you deserve so much better than he will ever be. I'm happy that my daughter is strong, her father is amazing and she's in a healthy relationship with love and respect. I broke the cycle of physical child abuse with my daughter and showed her love even when I wasn't being shown love or loved myself. My daughter taught me what real true unconditional love is. Please leave a toxic abusive relationship because my daughter could have followed in my footsteps instead she saved me in more ways than one. I love you BRB love mom.

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27 years relationship with my toxic, abusive parents.
I didn't have a choice but to live with them until I became an adult. I endured years of beatings, domestic violence, belittling, gaslighting, humiliation. I came close to suicide when I was about 9 y.o. (unsuccessful attempt).

After I graduated and got a job, I still believed (also influenced by religion) that I was the problem. And that if I pray for it and try my very best to please them, they'd change for the better. They didn't.

The day I moved away from violence and abuse was the happiest day of my life. I went to therapy and broke the cycle of abuse instilled in me. I haven't visited my parents in years. I don't miss them.

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Alexia

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Natalie H 1 year ago

This truly hurts my soul…But Wow, it takes Tremendous Strength to fight a black hole & defeat it. (I call it that, anyway) You stepped out of the darkness AND broke the cycle of abuse. YOU ARE AWESOME..& an inspiration! I don’t know you, but I’m very glad that you’re out there in the world somewhere and I’m sending you a virtual hug🤗 💟 ☀️🌷 ☮️

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8 almost 9 years I'm 39 now I rather be single and happy and love myself then ever go back

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brenna wilson

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Stayed in a toxic friendship 3 years after I should’ve burned the bridge. Better late than never.

In 5th grade she argued with me over text and told me to apologize for something that I didn’t need to. Then in 6th grade it was tense but alright. But in 7th I realized that my friend (I’ll call K) was much better than her. So she got annoyed. Started bullying K. I stood up for him so she bullied me too. I transferred to a city school for 8th grade and never looked back.

Much happier now!

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Mysteria

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Around 35 years. They're my parents, very toxic, both have mental health problems (borderline personality disorder for my mom, a mix, including anger issues for my dad, both have huge control issues). They make fun of me, order me around, always indicate in some way that I'm wrong, so much more. I'd moved away, but got in a hit and run that destroyed my right leg, so I had no choice but to move back in again. Trying to get well enough to move back out is a great motivator to do my therapies though.

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2points

Cecilia

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3 years, the worst years of my life with a duckingasshole of a partner.

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Spiderpopcatception

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DP 2(DP) 1 year ago (edited)

I charge $100 dollars for an assassination if you want. I’m a licensed killer like James Bond. (No you’re not) yes I am. (This is a skit, no you’re not.) yes I am. (NO YOURE NOT) fine no I’m not forget everything I said.(STOP LYING) u can’t tell me what to do ur just a voice in my head.(…technically I can) woah..*idk what this was..weird skit, but ima start doing it it’s kinda fun. DP vs Brain*

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Four years. They were my "best friend".

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Random Girl

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3-4 years. Starting dating someone I had known for almost 10 years (or so I thought I knew him). Fell a*s over brain in the first 6 months. Just enough time for him to reveal his true self. Spent the next 3.5 years in a very toxic, mentally and physically abusive, narcissistic relationship. Took me almost 5 years to mostly recover from that trauma. You believe that type of thing would never happen to you, until it does.

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