Hey Pandas, What’s Something Your Parents Said To You That Hurt And Still Sticks With You?

Tell me about what your parents said that stuck with you, it can be step-parents, real parents, foster parents, etc.

I was told I was the reason my parents marriage was failing when I was younger so many times. I've changed into the ideal child for them and it's still failing it seems I was never the problem.

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Makenzie McNeal

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Do-nut touch da donut 5 months ago

You are not the problem and never was!! Im sorry your parents werent adult enough to own up to their faults but it will never be your fault!! <3

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This was a couple years ago. My dad and I were having an argument. There were raised voices and yelling. My aunt said oh won’t she just shut up already (meaning me) and my dad said if I had a gun I would shoot her and kill her right now, that would make her shut up. I was 10. It’s been a while now and I still remember that. The look on face seemed like he really would have. I’ve told my mom and she doesn’t remember. He says it never happened and I’m just lying. Buuut anywho, I’m still alive so he hasn’t done it yet.

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….gray. (She/Her)

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Red PANda (she/they) 5 months ago

What the actual f—okay, first of all, that’s gaslighting, second of all, any dad that wants to KILL THEIR OWN CHILD is ROYALLY MESSED UP, third of all, that must have been terrifying, I hope you’re doing better now <3

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I remember my dad saying during an argument that I was very selfish and horrible. Another time, out of the blue he said I'm hard/difficult to love and man does that s**t hurt so bad my god. So now I think I'm a horrible, mean and nasty human being that doesn't deserve to exist. ti's all peachy.

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Pigeonvonbirb

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Red PANda (she/they) 5 months ago

It doesn’t matter what you’ve done in the past. Whether you’re “horrible” or not is determined by if you’re actively striving to be a better person or not. That means not only trying to be nice to others, but nice to yourself <3 Recognize yourself as a human being equal in value to other human beings, and treat yourself as such. That’s how I think about it. Using that logic, if you’re worried about being a bad person, then you’re a good person (I hope that made sense).

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well, when my dad was really bad, I had a breakdown and my mom basically said "you cant save people who don't want to be saved" and that hurt.
or when I was 7 and my dad told me o could never trust anyone no matter what

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Jelly.Bean

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More so something he didn’t say.
I got my first A+ at school ever, but so did my younger sister. I told my dad first he told my sister he was proud of her. Not me. Never been me

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§• Råinbow Påndå •§

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Red PANda (she/they) 5 months ago

I’m proud of you for getting that A+! Sometimes with situations like that you can never win :/ You just have to learn how to work for your own approval and be proud of yourself, cuz chances are your dad’s not going to change, unfortunately. It’s not because you aren’t good enough; it’s because of his way of thinking. Be kind to yourself <3

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Salty.Hag 5 months ago

Be proud of yourself! I always wanted my mom's acceptance and praise and no matter how many years I kept a 4.gpa it didn't matter, she never showed she was proud of me. But I was always so happy to be able to accomplish those things and prove to myself I was good enough. My grandma was always kind to me so i had that. You keep that up!! youre doing great!!

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“ I should have sat on your head the day you were born” head it for a good portion of my childhood.

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Salty.Hag

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"I'm tired of being a parent." - My mom when I was just 15.

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StrangeOne

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I'm on the app, so mine is too long. It's in the comments section.

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Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My!

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Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! (Submission author) 5 months ago

When I was twelve, I was chubby. I weighed maybe 30, 40 pounds more than I should have. I'd learned to ride horses the summer before, at church camp. There were no opportunities for me to ride after my week at camp. So the next year, we went to Silver Dollar City. There was a pony there to give rides to small children. Having not been able to ride in a year, I desperately wanted even a kiddy pony ride. The man said the pony would be strong enough to hold me. I tried to put my foot in the covered stirrup, meant for young children. I couldn't get more than my big toe in the stirrup. Oddly enough, my big toe couldn't support my weight getting into the saddle. There just was no way. Defeated, I gave up. I simply couldn't get enough leverage. As we were walking away, my dad told me he couldn't believe he had a daughter that was too dam fat to get on a pony. I still carry that in my head and heart, 33 years later.

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Well, transgender is not exactly bad, but it's something we don't like because trans people think that God made a mistake in creating their gender, or they've been in certain situations where they feel that they aren't the gender they were assigned at birth and they try change it to match the gender they feel like they are. And it's wrong because God does not make mistakes with us and whatever gender you were born as is the one you were meant to be, period. Why do you ask? -my mom
for context i had told her that there was a trans student at school(never said it was me) and asked her why transgender was bad. thankfully, shes much more accepting after she revealed she knew about me being trans about 13 days ago

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TheForrestGreene (he/they/it)

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Red PANda (she/they) 5 months ago

The thing your mom got wrong is that God did not create gender. Gender is a culture, a social construct that we made ourselves, which served to fit us into specific roles in society. Now that we don’t really use it for that anymore/are trying to move away from that (moving away from gender roles, double standards, and sexism), it just kind of serves as a part of our personality or identity, and we can change it to fit our personality/identity if we want to because it’s not that big of a deal anymore, if that makes sense. God made biological sex, but we created the culture around biological sex ourselves, and can change it if we want to. At least that’s how I see it, as a Christian gender-fluid person <3

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Allow me to preface this by saying my mom is great and I love her, but she is TERRIBLE at handling panic attacks.

I’m having a terrible panic attack, freaking out, can’t move.

“JUST GET THE F*CK AWAY FROM ME! GO AWAY! I CAN’T BE NEAR YOU WHEN YOU’RE LIKE THIS! F*CKING GO AWAY!”

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