Hey Pandas, What Was A Moment In Your Life When You Knew You Had To Change Yourself For The Better? (Closed)

For me, there are multiple. Rejection, grounding for a month, getting my first C in a class, etc.

When I realized how bad my depression was.
And then I realized that I couldn't date my crush until I worked on myself because he had depression too and I wanted him to be with someone who could bring him joy and not just drain him.

Nothing wakes you up like realizing you are going to hurt someone you love.

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Lil Miss Hobbit

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Dragon Lish 11 months ago

yeah...i feel you

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When I got rejected by my first love, I started trying to improve my body. When I had a C in my class, I went to Khan Academy and started studying more deeply

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Dragon Lish

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I literally just posted this on another post, but it applies here too. When I was in enough pain to be completely honest with myself, my therapist, and my 12-step group. And to be honest, it was the best thing that ever happened to me. I'd been struggling with a number of things: major depression, an anxiety disorder, postpartum depression, substance abuse (I'd not had a drink in over 6 years, but I found myself one day trying to decide if it would be better to drink or self-harm), and a failed marriage. I was basically dealing with all of this alone because I just couldn't tell anyone how I was feeling. But I just kind of broke in that moment. I just started being truly honest with the people around me. That was a little over 4 years ago, right before the pandemic. I've kept that honesty. I fully threw myself into changing literally everything about how I was living my life. I'm still on meds. But no longer need to see my therapist. I do service work in my recovery community. I'm going back to school in January (I'm 41; it's a big deal for me). But I actually participate in my own life now. It's been painful, these last few years, but oh, so worth it! I'll have 11 years sober just after Christmas, and I wouldn't give it up for anything. It's possible to come back from that place. But it's painful, will take a lot of time and effort, and most importantly, it'll take complete honesty. But it is possible.

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Dragon Lish 11 months ago

I'm sorry you went through such a hard time

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When my friend group at the time all left me, right after my ex-boyfriend and I broke up. It was rough, but it helped me realize that I needed to not be dependent on other people for my own happiness and self worth, and I got better at that :)

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QueerAxolotls

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Dragon Lish 11 months ago

yes you should love you first don't skip that part

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There's more cuts than skin on my arm. I'm going to find better coping methods

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Lydsylou (she/her)

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When I realized I hated myself and every aspect of it with a passion. Just started to try and get better and realize the difference between constructive criticism and being extremely hard on myself. Ex: 98 grade in science my brain "YOU ARE FALURE", lost one match from 1 point in a unfair game or game in general, my brain "I DON'T KNOW WHY YOU THINK YOU'LL WIN YOU SUCK.", I actually meet my expectations, my brain "WOW, YOU ACTUALLY GOT SUCH A SIMPLE GOAL, WHY ARE YOU PROUD?!" things like that and it's constant. So I'm trying to find better methods of motivation besides that and throwing that method out into the trash.

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