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“That Completely Changed My Thinking”: 40 Perception-Changing Stories By Our Community A black person I worked with was called the N-word by an angry customer. She turned to me and said, “there is nothing I can call you that will ever make you understand how much that hurts”. That completely changed my thinking.

Teddy Report

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435points

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Caro Caro 2 years ago

Fu*king racists. I'm famous for using wrong words (ahum) but never intentionally. I'm trying to think of a word that would hurt me like the N-word and I can't think of one. I've never thought about this. I'm glad you posted this Martha.

151points

“That Completely Changed My Thinking”: 40 Perception-Changing Stories By Our Community I used to cashier and was often way more honest than I should have been for working in customer service. Someone asked me how my day was going and I said “I’m considering abandoning ship.” It was during the worst time in my life and I was thinking of packing my bags and moving back across the country to where I grew up.

The customer responded: Don’t abandon the ship. Sail a different sea.

Completely changed how I look at situations and life as a whole.

I wish I could thank him.

I’m now a first-year high school English teacher which has been my dream since I was 11. I’m 33.

Elina Buzurtanova Report

Final score:

416points

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Ruth Wile 2 years ago

I've always wanted to be a high school English teacher, too, so it's easy to connect with that. This is so inspiring, thank you so much for sharing!!!

38points

“That Completely Changed My Thinking”: 40 Perception-Changing Stories By Our Community Once when I was about 10, a fox wandered into our backyard in broad daylight and we noticed it moving around in a peculiar way on a dirt patch in the corner of the yard which we always used to bury our pets (we had many pets over the years). As we slowly got closer to it, we realized the fox was twitching severely, as if having a seizure that wouldn't stop. It didn't react to our presence even as we got closer. We called animal control to take care of it, and they arrived and explained that it had some kind of brain infection that slowly takes over its functions until it becomes completely incapacitated but still functioning as we see it today. They quickly helped it to the final door and it was buried in that very spot.

The fact that it was neurological forced me to consider the state of mind it had been in that day - How long were its motor skills and basic functions slipping away? Did it know what was happening when it walked through broad daylight? Did it know it would pass away soon? Was it fully aware that we were standing over it? How much did it suffer?... How much did it suffer *mentally*?

Until then I had loved animals but still considered them like autonomous bots. This was the first time that I was brought to terms with them as cognizant equals and understood that they have internal mental capabilities and struggles just the same as humans. It brought me to recognize a whole new genre of suffering, and I became significantly more caring because of it.

Karen Report

Final score:

357points

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Caro Caro 2 years ago

Troux, that's a good story. I also think about this. People say that animals have no emotions but only instinct. No way !!! When we are away for a whole day the cat(s) sit by the window and wait till we are home and then won't leave us out of their sight for the rest of the day and the following. Aaaw.

90points

“That Completely Changed My Thinking”: 40 Perception-Changing Stories By Our Community When I started a new job as a counselor for inmates in one of our city's detention centers. I always thought people in jail failed society, but I realized I had it backward - society has failed these people.

I have since dedicated my practice to doing what our prisons fail to do - rehabilitating people, starting with basic skills, and mental health issues.

Donald Tong Report

Final score:

313points

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AffenpinscherMom 2 years ago

THIS IS BEYOND TRUE. I am also a mental health counselor working with the inmates. The male inmates are more respectful to me as a female then some guys on the outside. Most of them are genuinely appreciative that someone is empathetic and supportive as most of them have never experienced that before. A large majority have also experienced childhood trauma.

121points

“That Completely Changed My Thinking”: 40 Perception-Changing Stories By Our Community When my son was about 5 I was doing some housework. He came to me and wanted me to play with him. I told him I was sorry, but I was busy. He said, "But you're always busy."

I put the housework aside and went and played with him. The housework could wait.

Ketut Subiyanto Report

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310points

BusLady

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Caro Caro 2 years ago

Aaw, perfect!

43points

“That Completely Changed My Thinking”: 40 Perception-Changing Stories By Our Community I had never been aware of the level of racism that is out there (living in the Southern US.) Had finished getting a man ready for surgery and he asked who was "putting him to sleep." I told him his name and then he started to repeatedly ask me "What is he?" I'd answer doctor, anesthesiologist, again that he's a doctor until he got to the part he was really getting at. "Is he an N-word or what? Because you never know what he's going to do to me while I'm asleep."

I felt like I was going to explode inside. "NO HE'S NOT, he's an African American and an excellent physician. While you are asleep he's going to take exceptionally good care of you." Then, I could not resist this. Go ahead mister, try and report me. I dare you. I turned to him as I was going through the curtain and said, " I guess the pre-op interview nurse forgot to tell you our sheets are cream-colored. Next time remember to bring your own white sheet." The look on his face was so worth it. Another time I had been in a room while the MD was also there.

When he left the man said, "He sure is a good doctor for a black man." Exploding inside. "The fact that he is African American is completely irrelevant. He's one of the best cardiologists in the country and you are more than fortunate to have him." Again, the look was so worth it."

Another encounter with a racist patient was so infuriating to all of us... well, just don't p**s off the nurses about something like that.

Thirdman Report

Final score:

286points

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Audrey Kahin 2 years ago

Dang that sheet comment was slick

146points

Chanikarn Thongsupa Report

“That Completely Changed My Thinking”: 40 Perception-Changing Stories By Our Community When I realized that my life would be so much better for me, emotionally, when I let someone in my life go. Permanently.

Final score:

272points

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Abraham Espinoza 2 years ago

I was always very friendly as a kid and always tried to make others happy. There were several times growing up where I would introduce friends to other friends and they would end up being really good friends and end up ignoring me for some reason, pushing me out of the friend group. When I was old enough (about 20) to realize how being treated unkindly or purposely ignored by "friends" and family scarred me, I purposed that I would never ever treat anyone that way. I now try to go and talk to and show interest to people who seem lonely or insecure, even if it means I have to push past my own discomfort or lack of motivation in the moment. I don't want people to have to feel the way I did when younger and wish that those people would understand their self-worth apart from others...

104points

“That Completely Changed My Thinking”: 40 Perception-Changing Stories By Our Community When I realized that my son would be better with no father than with a toxic, manipulative, alcoholic father. It’s only happened in the last two weeks that I have finally found the strength to cut him out of our lives, but I already feel so much calmer. I always thought I would know the signs of mistreatment, and that because I was not being hit that things weren’t that bad, that it was just “normal” couple stuff that everyone went through. But it’s not.

Being constantly belittled, stolen from, guilted into giving money & taking out loans, gaslit, having any self-confidence destroyed, manipulated, etc. takes its toll. They develop a hold over you. And I felt like I couldn’t cope without him in my life because no one else would want me. But then I had the realization that I cannot have my son grow up and see the relationship between his parents and think that it is an acceptable way to treat a woman (or anyone for that matter).

We’re finally free. I’m going to get therapy. I have amazingly supportive family & friends, that are just glad that I have finally seen the light. My son will grow up surrounded by love, happiness & good people.

Ian Stauffer Report

Final score:

256points

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Tee Witt 2 years ago

So [leased you found the courage.

43points

#10

“That Completely Changed My Thinking”: 40 Perception-Changing Stories By Our Community The realization that being angry is a choice.

Vera Arsic Report

Final score:

254points

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Aurora C. 2 years ago

That’s powerful

54points

#11

“That Completely Changed My Thinking”: 40 Perception-Changing Stories By Our Community When I found out the church I attended was a bunch of hypocrites and liars. Left that church and religion altogether when I realized all was based on lies and misinformation.

Akira Hojo Report

Final score:

251points

Terry Filkohazi

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Ivo H 2 years ago

Almost all religions are…

94points

#12

I (58M) allowed my fanatically religious mother to bully and harass me about religion for my entire life. She drilled Jesus into me every day as a child. I was sent to Christian schools and we attended church every time the doors were open. We went to revivals and camp meetings at every opportunity. When I became an adult I move out, but she continued the campaign of trying to convert me to her fanatical brand of hate-based Christianity. I grew up among racists, misogynist, and homophobes. They preach interracial couples are a sin, women are subservient to men, and gays are going straight to hell. The latter has been particularly painful for me because I'm gay. I knew the moment puberty hit. The preachers preached that gays were the lowest form of life to slither across this earth and they deserved to burn in hell. There were no role models on TV. I had no one to turn to. My parents gave my siblings cars when they turned 16. I bought my own car so I would have something to live in if they found out I was gay. My teen years were terrifying.

During adulthood, I have withstood my mother's religious mistreatments to keep the family peace and to avoid offending her (given how she has treated me, I know that sounds crazy). But she is my mother and no one wants to hurt their mother. I turned the other cheek when she came after me, until...

I married my husband in 2013. In 2018, I finally mustered the courage to tell my mother we were married. She offered no kind words, no congratulations, no support, and didn't ask a single question. She just lowered her head and said, "I know." That was the end of the conversation.

During my next visit to her house (I was 55 at the time), her Christian anger erupted. She physically restrained me in a chair, got in my face, and said over and over and over that I'm going to hell. Despite the devastation, that moment was cathartic for me.

That one minute interaction with my mother changed my life forever. I stood up, walked out of her house and life, and I haven't looked back. I blocked her on my phone so she can't call me. I am free of this woman finally. My only regret is that I didn't do it 30 years ago. Oh how much more peaceful my life would have been.

By the way, I have seen psychotherapists for my entire adult life trying to recover from her. It has helped.

Final score:

246points

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Kimmie E 2 years ago

Glad you got away from her. Good luck in the future xx

60points

DiamondRehab Thailand Report

#13

“That Completely Changed My Thinking”: 40 Perception-Changing Stories By Our Community It’s been 15 months since I gave up alcohol, and my life is recognizable again. Best decision I’ve ever made.

Final score:

237points

Remy De La Mora

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Summer Mason 2 years ago

Whoop whoop! Good for you person!

48points

#14

“That Completely Changed My Thinking”: 40 Perception-Changing Stories By Our Community In my early 20s, I became frustrated with the constant harassment and general bulls**t of working a dead-end office job and decided to go back to school and earn a degree. I was in a slightly male-dominated program (science) but felt respected by my peers.

Fast-forward six years to graduation and I was at a celebration with students from my program. I overheard a large group of drunk male students talking about a female classmate, referring to her with a disgusting, objectifying "nickname." They saw the look on my face and one of them said "relax, we've got names for all of you." I was less shocked than I was disappointed in myself, for being stupid enough to think that "educated" men would be more respectful.

I've worked in research for 25 years and have had a lot of great male colleagues, but sadly there is just as much sexist bulls**t as in any other job.

Kier... in Sight Report

Final score:

223points

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Andrea Delden 2 years ago

Sad, but true.

52points

#15

“That Completely Changed My Thinking”: 40 Perception-Changing Stories By Our Community When a dear friend passed away suddenly, and when clearing out their desk, I found their mantra on a piece of paper on top of their workload in the drawer…

1. Don’t worry about things, as most things never happen.
2. Don’t sweat the small stuff, it too will probably not happen
3. Give more.
4. Expect less.
(and the one I always smile at, as they said it often)
5. To get something you never had before, you gotta do something you have never done before.

Charlotte May Report

Final score:

218points

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Caro Caro 2 years ago

That's a good mantra.

35points

#16

“That Completely Changed My Thinking”: 40 Perception-Changing Stories By Our Community I was doing an internship for my Ph.D. in psychology at a large, public hospital. I told my supervisor about a patient and he asked me what I did about the situation. I told him I didn’t do anything, that I waited to ask him. He said, “If you don’t do anything, who will?” That statement taught me to take on my professional role and step up to help. It guided me through a long career.

Erkan Utu Report

Final score:

198points

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Den Ver 2 years ago (edited)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gwWNlaF-PLE . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Comedian John Mulany tells how he learned a similar lesson at age 6. (1 min.)

15points

#17

“That Completely Changed My Thinking”: 40 Perception-Changing Stories By Our Community When I learned that my doctors didn’t expect me to survive cancer. They told me I’d never see my 40th birthday.

I’m 45 now, but facing my own mortality completely changed me.

Michelle Leman Report

Final score:

190points

Rebecca Larson

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Caro Caro 2 years ago

Every single person who has had cancer (or has it) changes. I'm glad you are ok now. Hugs for you Rebecca.

53points

#18

“That Completely Changed My Thinking”: 40 Perception-Changing Stories By Our Community I used to be an awful person (Well, more than I am now), and I was generally being an a**hole because I got stressed out (which was a poor excuse), and I accidentally made my grandfather cry.

I’m a shi**y person, but it opened my eye to how awful I truly was. I make sure to at least apologize and stop myself now.

Tim Doerfler Report

Final score:

183points

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Naesil 2 years ago

Very powerful to see strong older male family member cry about something, we still live in a world where "men dont cry" and they had it much worse when they were growing up. You know the s**t is real when even they show emotion.

58points

#19

“That Completely Changed My Thinking”: 40 Perception-Changing Stories By Our Community When I was maybe 9 or 10 I was jealous of the "rich" families in our small town, and I asked my mom why we didn't have a nice new big house and a nice car.

She told me they probably aren't really rich, they just have a lot of debt, and it has always stuck with me. Now as an adult I don't feel jealous, I feel sorry for them because they feel the need to display their "wealth".

Anastase Maragos Report

Final score:

171points

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Ivo H 2 years ago

No need to be sorry either. They used their lives and their money their way, they are most probably not struggling, just made a different choices. Just be happy with your life and don’t mind theirs.

50points

#20

I was basically told to be afraid of gay people my entire life. My dad decided to take a job down in the Florida keys. Gay capital or Florida. After high-school I basically came to the conclusion I love everyone as long as their not f*****g a**hats to me. Problem solved. Well not for my dad. This still cracks me up to this day.....fast forward 6 years. Dad comes down after leaving Florida to come see me. I still live in key west and work at a "gay bar" as a shot girl. I allowed people to take body shots off my belly button. Yeah...eww... but it's liquor so there's that.
Anywhom.... took my dad to the bar. He is mortified. Constantly making homofobic comments but to only me. I told him to shut the f**k up. This is my family.
He finally sits down watches one of the drag queens and falls in love with it all.
Because of me I have single handly changed my family to the point my conservative grandma loves the f**k out of the gay community and supports them from harm at her church. Who has a rainbow flag flying from their temple or worship. Thank you lord. 💓

Final score:

168points

Summer Mason

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Caro Caro 2 years ago

Summer, this story made me SMILE.

34points

#21

“That Completely Changed My Thinking”: 40 Perception-Changing Stories By Our Community When my best friend came out and I realized I wasn’t straight either and I was opened up to a whole new world of LGBTQ+ people.

Isi Parente Report

Final score:

157points

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Raven DeathShade 2 years ago (edited)

For me it was my cousin. I started thinking about my own sexuality, and came to the conclusion that if it was okay for her to like girls, then it's okay for me to like them too. I'm bisexual, but I haven't told anyone outside BP. EDIT 9 months later: I'm out, I'm proud, and I've been having a blast now that the secret is out :).

91points

#22

When I realized that nothing really matters, like to the universe. This thought actually helped my depression and anxiety because it lifts some of the weight off my chest, that even if I mess something up, the universe will carry on just fine, it's not the end of the world if I do/say something wrong.

Final score:

150points

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Nurichwersonst 2 years ago

Learned this also. We are all basically a bunch of billion years old carbon-atoms... we go where we came from and the universe isnt affected by it at all, so it doesnt matter what we all do. Its about us how we feel and how we do through our current state of life. 😊

26points

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#23

“That Completely Changed My Thinking”: 40 Perception-Changing Stories By Our Community When God's booming voice from above told me to quit drinking & using drugs...OR ELSE!

Well, it was actually a judge, but he thought he was a god. 😁

Final score:

147points

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DUN DUN 2 years ago

If it did you good and changed you for the better, then maybe he was God

49points

#24

I was in a cruel relationship for years. I didn't mind being the victim as much as it bothered me that he would mistreat our daughter. I'm normally a non-confrontational person and often had recurring nightmares of the mistreatment. I was being stalked, harrassed as i had come to expect from this recurring nightmare, and i kept waiting for someone to save me. These nightmares kept going even after i left the relationship. Then, one night, it occurred to me that nobody was coming to save me. I was on my own. I could either get used to being someone's domestic plaything, or i could stand up and save myself. So i did.
Five years later, i'm married to an amazing man, and the mistreatment is just a bad memory from long ago. My husband's friends regard me as a terrifying force of nature. All because i decided to be my own damn hero.

Final score:

141points

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Caro Caro 2 years ago

Good on you! I'm glad you're happy now. It took guts but you did it !!!

27points

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“That Completely Changed My Thinking”: 40 Perception-Changing Stories By Our Community In my final year of high school, I (F) hung out with a girl. We did everything together but I mostly enjoyed the sleepovers. We lost touch after graduation. A few years later we are both back home visiting family and run into each other. She tells me she is recently engaged and brought her fiancé to meet her dad. A young woman approaches us and I get introduced - to her fiancée.

I am clearly surprised and asked her how long she had known. She said since she was 13. Does your dad know? Yep, since I first knew. Why did you not tell me? You know why. Indeed, I did. It was not something that was ever spoken - just a given. It was not right - period!

It was then that I realized any prejudices, racism, or anything else in that regard that I may have, was not of my own. I swore, that day, to rid myself of all the toxic garbage that my parents and family had passed onto me and, especially, to never pass it on to my future children.

Skip ahead 20 years and I am watching Lethal Weapon with my 15-year-old son. Mom, I can't remember that one actor's name. Which one? The guy with the mustache. I tell him, Danny Glover. And then I had a silent cry.

Tallie Robinson Report

Final score:

128points

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Remi Flynne 2 years ago

My father was racist and homophobic. My mother... she didn't think she was but she would say things like 'a very nice black man helped me today' as if the description was necessary. I'd say 'you don't need to say he was black' and get told 'but he was'. Pointing out that she never mentioned skin colour when talking about white people went over her head. I was lucky to end up getting to know very open minded people early in life and realising my parents were not great role models here!! Well done for being that much better role model yourself.

64points

Woman Put A Water Fountain With A Camera In Her Yard, Here Are 24 Photos Of Regular Visitors (New Pics)

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#26

“That Completely Changed My Thinking”: 40 Perception-Changing Stories By Our Community I never truly understood what real helplessness was until my infant daughter had an illness that she might never recover from. Thankfully everything is fine but I often think of that and it centers me on any life problems I might encounter to provide perspective.

Alexander Grey Report

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119points

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Nora 2 years ago

I can't even imagine. I'm sorry you had to go through that, well done taking some positivity away from it. Hope she's well.

17points

#27

When I found out my favorite dinosaur the Brontosaurus ("B" from now on) wasn't real. I still believed in Santa so this was my first big "lie". The guy who found/named it had cludged it together from several dinosaurs and made a fake skull to say he found the biggest one. Scientists realized the mistake several years later and fixed it but the guy who funded the "B" scientist was a publisher so he continued the lie. I wasn't heart broken when the guy at the museum told me. Instead it hooked me on science because he showed me why. Science is about finding better answers and its ok to correct things that are wrong. For the first time, dinosaurs became real because they weren't perfect. I became a scientist whose chased marmots up mountains and worked in organ banks because of that "lie". Happy ending - they found a "B" skull in 2015 that matched most of the other bones from the original "B" and 3 species are back. So a mistaken mistake was corrected. I love science.

Final score:

118points

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Angelar 2 years ago

That's a post I can very much relate :) Nice post

20points

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#28

“That Completely Changed My Thinking”: 40 Perception-Changing Stories By Our Community That I have full control of my own happiness. No matter what anyone says, it is their opinion and I have my own as well. What I do that will make me happy, I chose that... whatever the consequences are, I take full responsibility for it.

Happiest I have ever been in the past 2 decades. I wish I knew this when I was younger! I chose my choices!

Fernando Brasil Report

Final score:

106points

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Danny Trejo 2 years ago

emotions are the point where mind and body meet. dont let your mind control you, you are not your mind, be the watcher over your thoughts. accept every situations like you chose it. that helped me a lot.

17points

#29

When I was about 11, I was talking with my best friend and I don't remember what I said, but it wasn't about Africa, but she misunderstood something and yelled, "I am not African!" and ran home crying. This is in the US and she was black and I was white. She rarely got mad and rarely yelled. She was a quiet, sweet person who would typically get hurt rather than mad.

I didn't understand all that stuff. (I thought I was black for 6 months when I was 7, because she was "black" and we were the same in my view.)

I realized when she went home crying that she had some ongoing, never-ending pain in her life that I didn't have in mine (and which nobody should have, let alone a little girl). I don't remember how I figured out exactly what this was all about not being African (probably my Mom explained).

She was two grades below me, so if people were saying mean, racist things to her in school, I didn't know. The kids in the neighborhood were fine as far as I know, but my other friend's mom was clearly prejudiced, possibly racist.

That is the day I lost my innocence and realized how incredibly unfair the world can be. And the saddest thing about that is that she had learned it years before :-(

Final score:

99points

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LimaBeanie 2 years ago

oh my goodness. thats so sad!! :(

18points

Woman Moves Out Of Parents' Home After They Asked Her To Give Her Space To Brother, They Freak Out

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#30

“That Completely Changed My Thinking”: 40 Perception-Changing Stories By Our Community Leaving all toxic people behind. 28 rn but have never been this happy before.

Obie Fernandez Report

Final score:

92points

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Tobias Reaper 2 years ago

good for you massive change in your life when you do that you realise the difference big time

15points

#31

The time I started to read the Bible on my own - not relying on what others had told me about the Bible.....

Final score:

91points

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Queen Boudicca 2 years ago

Which is why the church and state did not want the Bible printed in anything other than Latin...

47points

#32

“That Completely Changed My Thinking”: 40 Perception-Changing Stories By Our Community The moment in my life that changed the way I think was being told I had stage 3c ovarian cancer. It actually changed a lot more than my way of thinking.

Thirdman Report

Final score:

87points

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Ann Dennis 2 years ago

I hope you are getting treatment and will experience a long long remission.

38points

#33

A few years earlier , I used to HATE K-pop and My friends who liked it. I am born in a Homophobic Family and always saw the world from their eyes. But as Now I grew up a bit , I realized How racist I am becoming !! I hated them because they have tiny eyes , and because K-pop guys wore makeup !! I was so embarrassed when I learned about Homophobic people , Because I was one and didn't knew !! Even tho I was just 11 , Im Still embarrassed that how stupid I was. If we should not judge a book by its cover , Why judge music by its language ? Why judge people by how they look ? WHY JUDGE PEOPLE ??

Final score:

87points

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Ann Dennis 2 years ago

Good on you! However, I think you're meaning "xenophobic" (fear/dislike of foreigners) rather than "homophobic" (fear/dislike of members of the LGBTQ community) Your last sentence says it all!!

38points

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#34

Got promoted to a leadership role. Shortly afterwards, of my closest coworkers get in a beef. I try to sort it out myself because one or both of them could have been fired over the incident. I deal with it before anyone else finds out, but neither one appreciates my help.

First one (same position as me) reports me for using the word "s**t" in our conversation (trust me - every second word out of his mouth was worse). I get hauled into the manager's office and a letter placed in my employee file for being "unprofessional". Not much I can do about it.

Second one (my subordinate) invites me to her place for a bbq where she gets stoned and tells me something disturbing about how she stalked an ex-coworker (that I was still friends with). Next day - coincidentally- the ex-coworker asks if I think she was crazy to think she was being stalked. I said no. It gets back to the stalker that I had the conversation with the ex-employee and said she wasn't crazy ... and I get hauled into the manager's office and suspended for two days for "breaching confidentiality" of my subordinate...... For talking to someone not employed by our company...... about something that had nothing to do with our business....... in the private residence of the subordinate..... who was high at the time.

This has changed the fundamental nature of who I am as a leader. It's everyone for themselves out there. There is no such thing as a work-friend.

Final score:

78points

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Troux 2 years ago

I hate to say it and I hate to follow it, but as a leader you really should not hang out with your subordinates unless it's a work outing (i.e. multiple coworkers, tame setting). Even if things never go badly, it can look like special treatment.

52points

"I Didn't Start The Dryer": Karen Gets Taught A Lesson After Throwing Out Neighbor's Wet Clothes

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College Student Does Exactly As Told After Roommates Demand They Keep Their Stuff In Their Room

#35

“That Completely Changed My Thinking”: 40 Perception-Changing Stories By Our Community I worked in a highly competitive sporting industry when I was a young adult. I enjoyed some association with the England squad and ended up being on 'standby' for an International junior tournament. Flash forward to me turning professional and being as green as they come, trusting everybody, thinking everyone would be my friend. Like a daft labrador, wagging my tail at people.

The situation was that we had the first team (that you would see on the TV) and the reserves (that people came to watch in the stadium). There were three of us battling for those two positions. Healthy competition, I thought. May the best man win.

Oh, how wrong I was. Everyone was friendly to your face but was just in it for themselves. I thought they were my friends but things got back to me that they had been saying behind my back. I was so disappointed in them that I was inconsolable. How can someone be so two-faced? The worst was yet to come.

As I caught up on my experience, I was a threat to the position of the other two guys. Exactly around that time, I was called into the manager's office where I was accused of having a gambling problem - I did not. A couple of weeks later the manager asks me whether I thought I would pass a drug test. Of course, I would. Then it was a drinking problem - nope. Somebody was spreading rumors.

Eventually, I realized that you can't trust anybody and it's not paranoia if they really are all out to get you.

Markus Spiske Report

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78points

Scagsy

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Justin Schalow 2 years ago

It was one of my hardest realizations how awful people really are!!! Even over the littlest thing!

23points

Guy Divorced 3 Years Ago Drops Off 3 Y.O. With His Ex-Wife Completely Out Of The Blue

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#36

“That Completely Changed My Thinking”: 40 Perception-Changing Stories By Our Community When Russians, sorry Russian soldiers in unofficial disguise, invaded Ukraine's Crimea. Peaceful post-WW2 era and my youth ended right then even though I'm not Ukrainian myself...

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77points

PADNA

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censorshipsucks 2 years ago

sorry to say but actually most of the middle east has been a warzone for the last 60 years or more... since ww2 onwards and even before. Largely due to western adventurism. So actually, there's never been a peaceful post-ww2 era. Maybe just in your country.

26points

#37

"Be prepared to fail" - like things don't always work out perfectly. Some things just fail and that's normal. My perfectionist a** just took a new perspective.

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75points

Mart Se

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Mrs. Mustang 2 years ago

This.

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#38

“That Completely Changed My Thinking”: 40 Perception-Changing Stories By Our Community The USMC and Iraq, I don’t recommend either.

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68points

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K Sir 2 years ago

Thank you for your service and I am sorry for what you experienced. I hope somewhere in all of that you found happiness. I have a father who served in Vietnam for 4 years. Green Beret. Much love and respect to you.

19points

#39

“That Completely Changed My Thinking”: 40 Perception-Changing Stories By Our Community I often go to church and pray (I’m Catholic) and ask God questions about life.

Once I asked Him, "If you are God, and you are almighty, and you let us deliberately struggle in life, and with all those problems we got, doesn’t it make you mean?" And I heard a voice, like coming directly from my heart, "Like a parent watches his kid learning how to walk, and even if it fails and tries again over and over," and "The real purpose is to never give up the process, and watching all of you doing so fills Me with immense love" (I don’t know how to express it accurately in English… it was very intense).

First of all, that kind of an answer would have never come out from my then actual state of mind (I was in a bad divorce from a narcissistic manipulative person) so that was definitely not me; and secondly, it totally opened my eyes: from that point on I just try very, very hard at everything without being obsessed with the outcome. It made me become a lot more positive and generous person, and professionally I even got multiple promotions since. Just wanted to share.

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61points

Nidi Nidii

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Suzy 2 years ago

I've heard the voice too. Just as you described. Once in the yard while gardening and once during a tornado.

5points

#40

“That Completely Changed My Thinking”: 40 Perception-Changing Stories By Our Community You know, life's not fair. Although I miss the mark on some days. Some days I get it right. After hearing Bobby Mcferrin's song "Don't worry be happy ", I realized it's all a state of mind and it changed the way I think about what it takes for me to be happy.

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57points

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Raven DeathShade 2 years ago

I honestly didn't know it was possible for someone to actually choose to be happy. Good for you.

20points