People calling things gay as a joke or insult.

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This drives me crazy. A lot of people in school think it's funny to pretend you're gay...

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The "I hope you're not attracted to me" move and then getting offended when I say they arent my type.
Bonus: companies during pride only selling rainbow stuff. I'm an emo, I don't wear color unless it's my pride pin. Just because we're queer doesn't mean we dress like jojo siwa

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... I feel called out. (Literally been wearing rainbow JoJo Siwa bows all month)

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Panromantic Asexual here, and I have just one word I get a LOT of: Erasure.
As an asexual you get a lot of "how do you KNOW you hate sex if you've never had it?" Back up there, I don't hate sex, I hate kissing, sex I can take or leave. I have no sex DRIVE. Hard to get into sex if you're not interested.
As a Panromantic I get, "Are you REALLY? you're not even dating." I'm sorry if my asexual tendencies prioritize friendship over relationship, but I know I'm aesthetically attracted to almost every body type and absolutely every gender or lack thereof, so back off.

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How do you know you don't want to climb Mt Everest unless you've done it? It's just like saying that. If you're not interested in doing something, you're not interested and that should be the end of the conversation, whether you're not interested in having sex, kids, going to uni, living in the city, learning to knit...whatever it is.

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Christian nationalists who literally want to exterminate us.

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Yeah, no one likes Christian nationalists. Crazy nutjobs, the lot of them.

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People in school think it's cool to use 'it/that' as my pronouns, since I'm non-binary.
I also can't show any form of affection for my girlfriend in public without being stared at like I'm some sort of alien...

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I'm so sad to hear that your classmates use those pronouns to hurt you. There's no excuse for such cruelty. Wish I could give you a big ((hug)).

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oh boiii there r too many to count but: when ppl say that ppl who are "straight" passing relationships don't belong in the community. bisexuals and pans, omni and poly people have every right to be part of the community.

but also what about straight nonbinary people? or straight transgender couples? or demis?? or aces?? they also have every right to be a part of the lgbtq+ community. this needs to stop being separated like cliques cuz it's not abt putting people in boxes.

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This was my first thought. I'm pan in a "straight" relationship. So I get a lot of assumptions about my sexuality and lots of nasty comments about my "gay phase" from ignorant family.

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When people say I don't look like I'm bisexual or gender fluid


However I love when people genuinely want to know more and I'll do my absolute best to answer their questions.

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YESSSSSSSSS SASS I love it when people ask what stuff means

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You're Gay? Cool, so is my cousin twice removed. Do you know them?

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ahh yes, the secret mind network of the gays

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just some phrases that we’re all tired of hearing

“i identify as an attack helicopter”
“you’re not a guy/girl if you don’t have a [body part]”
“you can’t just change your gender like that”
“oH So yOu’Re aTtRaCtEd tO PaNs”
“That’s fine, i’m attracted to trans people”
“it’s just a phase, you’ll grow out of it”
and deadnaming and misgendering in general

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Phrases I get tired of is when insults go flying just because I don't align with another's thought process (not their type). I am poly, have one daughter that is bi, another daughter that is pan. But I get called (whatever)phobic even though I am not and fully support others choices, even if they are not MY choices. --- Just because someone does not agree with you in a certain way does not instantly make them (whatever)phobic! --- I wish others would really look up the definition of things before using them as a label!

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Hi All, Heterosexual male here. I love and support all my friends in the LGBTQ+ community. That being said, I have a simple request: Please correct me if I use incorrect pronouns. I will always try to identify you as you are. Please know that I love you and respect you. I will support you and fight for you. Happy Pride!

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This this is the one we must protect

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when cant comprehend the fact that lesbians DO NOT like men. even though its part of the definition (non-men who like non-men) ((key word: NON men))

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Yes!! Like- we can sure as heII appreciate when a human looks fine, but we aren’t attracted to them.

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Gay men acting as gatekeepers for our community.

Gay men of a certain age went through a hell I can't even conceive of, but they can be more phobic of others on the sexuality or romance spectrum than religious extremists.

I've witnessed gay men verbally abuse trans people, dismiss bi people and makes jokes at the expense of lesbians in both personal and professional settings. But if they caught a whiff of a dig at what they thought was their direction, I have seen a fury like no other.

Obviously this attitude is due to the trauma they experienced, but there is no excuse for passing that on to the baby queers.

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As someone in their 50's now, I totally know what you're talking about. Some of the gay men I grew up with are really not nice to the community :(

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People asking "aren't you asexual?" every time I call someone pretty or attractive.

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Asexual doesn't mean aromantic! And aesthetic attraction and sexual attraction are too completely different things.

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Stereotypes. From both outside & inside the community. We are all individuals and I wish people would respect that and get to know us for who we are.

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"Gays are bad at math" stereotype always annoyed me as a queer who got an award in math class

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I'm a lesbian and my wife and I have a daughter. If you want to see my blood boil just ask who is the "real mom".
We are both her real moms!

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I had a child 10 years old female in my class that I assisted in and she was so happy with her two mums because it was double love and noshouting rude words unless really really necessary, good luck both of you.

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I’m omnisexual, but I’ve always dated men only. People like to claim I’m not truly a part of the lgbtq community because of it and it annoys the hell out of me

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Im Omni and only dated girls/non-binary people, Absolutly no guys, and currently dating my s/o, which made me a target for teasing and questions. Edit from like a year later: me and the girly broke up, finally dating a guy for once, actually going good!

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I have a question. I am confused between pansexual and omnisexual. I looked both of them up and these seem to have the same definition? It is a cultural/regional variation on the vocab or are these two different in some way and I couldn't find it? Thank you!

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The two are very similar so I understand your confusion! Pansexual people tend to be “gender-blind”, as in they are attracted to people regardless of their gender. Gender plays no role in whether they are attracted to someone. Omnisexual people, on the other hand, fully notice someone’s gender and many have different levels of preference for each. Gender is a part of the attraction for omnisexuals. Hope that helped!

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Yes it did! Thank you very much!

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I’m glad you educated yourself! :) My friend is omni but she usually says to people that she’s pans because she’s gotten tired of explaining what omni means.

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Please don't get mad; I'm trying to become informed, not peeve you. And of course, I respect your right not to answer probing questions. Are you saying you've only dated men, but you're significantly attracted to women & non-binary people? Do you date only men for a reason (such as wanting biological children who are also your partner's biological children), or has it just turned out that way (men attracted to women outnumber women attracted to women)? Are you looking for a stable, monogamous relationship or do you intend to, if you're successful, have relationships with more than one gender at a time?

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You’re completely fine! It just so happened that I fell for a few men. I’ve really only truly dated two men but was in longer term (2years+) relationships with them, and I’m still in one of them. I’m not against dating women or non-binary people, I just have a lot of deep rooted trauma with women to the point I basically avoid them for fear of what they’ll say to me due to heavy bullying in my past and I haven’t really met many non-binary people. I’m equally attracted to all of them, with slightly more of an attractive preference for women. I would like to have a monogamous relationship, but I don’t really care which gender or non-gender they are. If you’re hot, you’re hot, and if I like you, I like you. Hope that answered your questions!

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This explains so much. But why does it need a label? Because to be honest I don't get the labeling. I really don't care who anyone is dating or not dating etc. I see everyone as a person and I just live and let live.

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Yes, thank you.

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I didn't ask the questions, but I appreciate you answering them. I often would like to ask questions so I can be better informed about my fellow human beings, but I definitely don't want to insult or offend anyone. I learned something new today, so thank you! 🙂

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I have an Omni friend who just goes by pans because she’s gotten tired of explaining what Omnisexual means

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When people say something homophobic and don't know me and I'm pansexual and am dating someone who's non binary... As getting called a f***t

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Sadly, there are still idiots in the world who are homophobic. But just remember, THEY are the ones with a problem. Not you.

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When people say that Asexual is not a real sexuality.

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omg i hate this my mom does it all the time she is a supposed 'ally'

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Being told by my own mum that I'm only trans cuz it's FaShIoNaBlE, and that I'm not transmasc, I'm a trans PERSON. Being told this by a cis person HURTS

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*hugs* I'm sorry your mom is a TERF (or, as I like to call them, FART)

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"I'm not homophobic! I will love and accept gay people but I don't support their lifestyle!"

Honey, you're homophobic. If you don't support queer people, you're homophobic. If you think that homosexuality is a sin, you're homophobic. It doesn't matter how much you love the individual queer person, if you don't say you support LGBTQ, you're homophobic (and no, it doesn't mean you're afraid).

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UGHHHH I have one of these cousins. When Prop HATE 8 was happening in CA she and her husband were all for it. I had to block them because they were spouting c**p like that.

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When people know that I am nonbinary and say that they are okay with it, but then use she/her pronouns.

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If I know someone's pronouns are different from when I met them I'm usually horrible at pronouns. So sorry to everyone I've done that too

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they're just like: oh no, you have a crush on me! one of my friends legit ran away shielding her face insisting I liked her... 🤣🤣🤣 like girl i got standards lol
btw im bisexual(or possibly pan but bi for now ) - I like both boys and girls

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One of my friends came out to me as a lesbian like this: "I have something to tell you...I'm not sure how you're going to feel about it, or if you're going to want to hang out with me or be my friend anymore" Me: Oh my god!!! What??" Her: I'm gay. Me: And you murdered someone?" her: "No!!, lol!" I was stunned that she thought I wouldn't be her friend anymore!! I adore her!!

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Now that I (agender, sexed female at birth) married a member of the opposite biological sex I am somehow no longer “really” bisexual/queer. Alrighty then… guess I just imagined enjoying boobs and cunnilingus lol

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Ikr? I found out I was bi once a girl seemed really f-ing hot. I still have feelings for her.

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I hate it when people say to pans "Oh do that means your attracted to pans?"

And when they treat us differently!! That really annoys me, but hey, the next time someone says a homophobic comment to you ("Theres only 2 genders/sexualitys" or "its a sin") just say "Really! Wow, thank you for giving me more evidence that I AM a alien!!"

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I'm Asexual, and i get a lot of hate from homophobics that don't know what it means. But when i tell them. They shut up. It's funny to see their faces turn the colours of my favourite flag.

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Heteronormativity. Like if I say I'm seeing someone, they'll ask 'whats his name' etc

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Bored panda won't let me add more than a sentence to my submissions but I'm gay and so many people just assume I'm straight. Like, don't be afraid to just ask me or use gender neutral pronouns if you want to ask about my love life. Not just older populations either

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When my so-called "friends" tell me that they love me even more when I say to them that I am bi. Just treat me normal.

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"You love me even more? Prove it, give me £100"

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I'm bi. "When are you going to go full lesbian?" THAT'S NOT HOW IT WORKS. I hear it so much and it drives me insane. I'm not going "full lesbian" EVER. I'M BI. It's really invalidating. My label is my label and I'm fed up of it being treated like it's a phase or a step to becoming a lesbian

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Oh, and another bit on behalf of my brother: people saying he can't really be a gay man if he can be attracted to trans men. Trans men are men. He's a man attracted to men. He can be attracted to trans men. Because they're men. How does that not make him gay? It annoys him, and it annoys me too

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People teasing me that some hot guy at my school wants to go on a date with me. It drives me so insane!

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even worse if ur AroAce. my parents once told me a guy i wa getting along with and i should get married. i was in grade 5.

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People dismissing my identity as “confused”

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When you come out to a family member and they say “Maybe it’s just a phase? You’re only *insert age*” hasn’t happened yet but I feel like my mom might say that. I also added this because it’s still a pet peeve to me just from hearing that people say that… sorry to everyone who heard those words!

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My daughter came out to me at 13 and I told her that I really respect that she knows who she is at such a young age :)

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When I go somewhere with my friend, who is carrying for example LGBTQ+ bag or pin, they are always like "oh, so you are girlfriends, how cute!" First thing, my friend is non-binary, so I think that it can't be "girlfriend"; second thing - we don't have to be in relationship just because we're both part of LGBTQ+ community. I'm be, now I've got a boyfriend, so, as someone intelligent said, f*ck off

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Ah yes, the reverse Sappho and her friend. I'd say your scenario isn't as common but I'm sure no less frustrating

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I'll add a slightly different one. At BBQ/party with husband. He was the only male at mostly gay ladies do. He volunteered to cook. One lady said eww, boy germs, not going to eat if that cooks!
OK you don't like men that way, but really? Not doing any good with comments like that

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HAPPY PRIDE MONTH PEOPLESSSSSS! Please be kind to others and have fun! (P.S if you have any funny lgbtq memes, feel free to post them here)

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Hi first post

I am female and people use she/her pronouns because of that
When i tell them I use they/them pronouns they ask what gender I am

It just annoys me

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I don't get it. She said, "I am a female" so why don't they use she/her pronouns? I thought 'they/them' was pronouns used for someone non-binary. I don't understand why they are saying that.

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When i wear the rainbow flag and people think I'm Lesbian or trans. Like, no. I'm Asexual.

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I tell people “Im technically not straight” and all they’re minds can think of is GAY. I tell them no, Im not, and they think for a solid 3-4 mins before saying “Bi?” No hunny, sorry that’s all your two braincells can come up with

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Or when someone tells me my sexuality isn't real/I just don't know who I'm attracted to yet. I do know! It's nobody.

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This just happened the other day and it really bothered me. I was going for my check up at the doctors when suddenly my doctor pointed at me and said in a really stern, sure, and serious voice “One day you ARE going to have sex, when that happens use protection.” And like, I know they were just trying to make sure I practice safe sex, but as an asexual person it just made me want to scream out no. I know most people do in fact have sex, but just changing it to an “if” would have been so much better. I have no intention of ever having sex, it just isn't for me. But knowing people just expect me to 100% be involved in it just bothers me.
I know it's not that big of a deal, and they didn't mean any harm by it, but it still really frustrated me.

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dang. thats sad that they did that! happy pride tho love your username :)

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my parents are both suuuuuuper homophobic, but im a closeted bi. anytime we watch something "gay" happen on tv my mom goes '"ew". and once i told my dad to get some neon orange socks and he went "no im not gay". no one asked but oookay.

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I feel you. My family is like that

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I’m lesbian and people assume that I like every girl ever. Like, that’s not how it works 🙄

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Or in the changing rooms there like “eww a gay girl is in here she’s going to stare at us” That haven’t happened to me btw I’m closeted but it has to my friend

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When people say I should be proud of it. I’m bi, and I hate that people tell me to be proud of it. I grew up in a home where I was told that what I now am is wrong. I’m so afraid, I’ve never even told my parents, and I never will.

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I wish the best for you

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That only because i look feminine they assume my pronouns is still the same while they do ask my friends pronouns😩not really their fault. but anyway happy pridemonth!

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man thats messed up! happy pride tho

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LGBTQ+ people telling Ace people they aren't part of the community. Like tf you mean aces aren't repressed or judged or treated like we're broken? Like you're telling me that not only do aces have to listen to acephobic strangers saying we're broken and confused and all this other c**p, but then on top of it we have to be invalidated by the very community that PROTESTS invalidation?? Now obviously I know not everyone is like this. And there are FAR more good LGBTQ+ out there. But the ones that will stand there and look you dead in the eyes and tell you "you're not a part of this community." And "You don't even understand what it's like. You have no right to call yourself oppressed." And "Its not even really a sexuality so it doesn't count." Those are the ones that immediately come to mind when I think of pride. It's the reason I don't go to the parades or interact almost anything except r/asexuality. Because no one on there is gonna tell me I "don't belong"

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I feel the same way. I'm sorry you had to deal with this. Hoping you're well, from one (Aro)Ace person to another. :))))

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Ace virgin. "Oh, you'll like sex. You just want to be special. You HAD a boyfriend. Don't tell me you never had did it with him." Nope, nope, and nope.

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when i was twelve, had a bf (13) and he really wanted to get me in a bed for some reason. i was just like slow the hell down im ONLY 12!!!

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Being introduced as the “queer friend”. Every friggin time. Not to mention the fact that I’m not out to everyone (for very important reasons…). Thanks for broadcasting that to the whole world, along with with bringing me along as your token gay.

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I love being the token gay /hj

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When the once-homophobic-now-ally people in your life act like if all the sh*tty things they've said or done in the past never happened because they are cool now.

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I hate that

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Polyamorous here "Isn't that just cheating though?" no my friend I'm in love with them both equally and they both are okay with the fact I'm dating another person.

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You know i think i might be polyamorous

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Either people going out of the way to tell people that you're LGBTQ+ for no reason, or the classic "he uses she/her pronouns," and vice versa (also used with they/them)

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I am not a member I just don’t discriminate or really care if people are a member. I treat everyone the same. People assume because I am nice to all that I must be gay I get asked it a lot. Why does it matter what my sexuality is? I find lots of people attractive of all genders just because I don’t act on it (my preference of who I am an intimate with) shouldn’t mean anything . ( if you saw me I am the bearded older Florida retired guy who doesn’t give a damn what people think)

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I read inmate instead of intimate and was confused :)

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It really buga me when people assume any relationships must be sexual or romantic in nature, not even taking into consideration the possibility that there are other labels for relationships. I am a closeted aroace but that doesn't mean that I can't have an s/o, and though I am currently in the closest I have no doubt at all that people will assume those kinds of things just because its the norm which yeah bugs me.

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For clarification, I meant they would assume those kinds of fhings when I come out so It bothers me when I realize people assume those things about others

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Middle age aromatic asexual here. Certain family members keep "reassuring" me that I'll meet someone someday that's just right for me.

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That must just be awful. I'm still pretty young so it's still in that phase where their happy they don't have to worry about me getting up to anything, but I have a feeling I’ll have to have some stern talks with my mom about grandchildren in the future. I hope they eventually stop and let you live your life in peace!

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People assuming that asexual people can't have long term happy fulfilling relationships or that our partner is doing something wrong. Not everyone basis their relationship around sex. I would argue that we have a better relationship than most straight couples. We really put effort into making sure daily that we show each other love. When sex isn't on the table most people have no idea how to create intimacy. Happily together 12 years.

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The fact that everyone thinks they have the right to know if your gay of no or anything! You don't owe it to anyone.

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Yes! This! It's no one's business unless they are invired to make it their business. These are questions and conversations NO ONE has the right to ask or start. This is intimately personal AND if someone does share with you, you do not have the right to share it with anyone else without the express permission to do so.

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The fact that there are people who make me legitimately scared to show any sort of affection to my gf in public. ( bi she/her here)

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When a straight man breaks up with his girlfriend and says, "I think I'm going to go gay now." It's not a choice, like "I'm switching from coffee to tea" or "I'm trying a new hair style".

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Just covering up a horrible comment by the Well-known LGBTQ+ homophobe... drumroll please... @S B! Thanks a lot for making people feel like we belong, @S B! (INTENSE SARCASM)

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My pet peeve?.......🤔

Homophobes!

Simple.

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Same

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People caring about my sexuality for absolutely no reason. “Oh, are you gay?” As a response to literally anything. Once was ‘accused’ of being gay for choosing a pink popsicle.

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Pink is a yummy flavor

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It's going to sound weird, but it's pride. I am happy most of us see pride month as a celebration, I am 100% behind the idea of pride month. But it's not me. I deal with depression and anxiety that went undiagnosed for decades. I am not proud of who I am and I never have been. Maybe you can thank the bible, because I grew up thinking pride was a sin, but I honestly am mostly ashamed of who I am, how I am. June is a very difficult month for me mentally, because as much as I want to stand up and shout it with everyone else in the parade, I can't. It's not who I am and I don't know if I can ever be that person.

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It's OK if you're not that person. You don't ever have to be. If you're LGBT+ (not sure from the text), then internal acceptance of yourself is fine. You're not the only one who feels they need to stay on the sidelines. It's OK. Also, I hope you're getting the help you need for your anxiety/depression. You are not alone!!

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Another one: When people say "Oh just say your Bi" or "Oh just say your non-Binary"

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On a social emdia I had, I told this person that idk if I was bi or pan, and he just said "Oh just say your Bi"

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when people don't know what I mean when I tell them i'm pan, so I say i'm bi then I have to say i'm lesbian before giving up.

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Yep that’s it :(

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Me saying I’m bi and them going: „no no honey you’re just confused/you just want attention“

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This has probably been said already but...

People not liking me or being awkward around me when I come out to them

Like b***h stop I'm not attracted to you

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exactly!

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The notion that as a bi person in a straight passing relationship I must "prove" my sexuality.

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As an asexual I get so many people telling me it’s because I haven’t met the right person yet or it’s actually just trauma related and could be cured by therapy. No, I genuinely have no interest in having people touch me or wanting to touch anyone intimately myself. I do find people attractive and I have affectionate feelings for some men and women but don’t ever think about wanting to have sex or kiss anyone. I’m attracted to the idea of emotional bonds and friendship.
It’s surprising how many people - including those in the LGBTQ+ community who just really don’t seem to grasp the idea that I just don’t think about sex. I’d love to fall in love and get married to someone of either gender but that just doesn’t involve physical contact. Emotional intimacy alone doesn’t seem to exist which is a real bummer since that’s 100% what I’m into

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You might be interested in queer platonic relationships! They are amazing!

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Please accept my apologies if I offend but sometimes I don’t know because I’m a 68 year old straight woman who has a lesbian mother and aunt, but occasionally I wouldn’t know how to address someone correctly, I have no problem or issues with however someone wants to identify or be I just am sometimes curious but don’t want to be intrusive or offend.

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“It’s just a phase”

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