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Hey Pandas, What Is The Biggest Problem In Your Life Right Now?
The title says it all, and you also might get some answers.
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#1
My mental health is in pretty bad shape and I'm not entirely sure what to do. I'm getting by for now, but I'm not sure how much longer I can.
Final score:
8points
Mere Cat 2 years ago
I'm sending you my warmest hugs! If you like to be hugged, that is... If you have a close family member, relative, friend, person, speak to them about this. Speak to a professional if possible. Reach out for help, don't be alone with this. It is good that you wrote about this here - it shows you recognise your feelings and are able to put it in words, and want to improve your well-being, even if you're not sure what to do. You don't need to have a whole plan to "fix" everything at once; talk to someone you feel most comfortable talking to, and continue from there, little by little. There are people rooting for you and wishing you to feel better, and wanting to be able to help you (I, for one), don't you forget that. I don't know details about your situation so I can only hope this message is universal enough to apply... You are welcome to tell more here or pm.
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#2
I'm almost certain I have ADHD and bipolar 2 disorder which makes it difficult to focus on school. I want to ask someone to take me to a mental health doctor to get a test but I'm pretty sure they're gonna say "you're fine, you have straight A." Okay but my eyebags are the size of North Dakota because I spend late into the night forcing myself to understand the work and during a depressive episode (from bp2) it can be even more difficult. I'm burnt out. And to add to all that, I'm a people-pleaser with gender dysphoria and homophobes on my tail. Sorry if I should like a pick me or if I sound like I'm fishing for attention but all of this is true. I'm also "the therapist" of the friend group so everyone feeds me their problems, problems that I sont know how to deal with and I feel obliged to fix them. I'm also trying to stop a friend from wanting to die. Yall pray for my mental health😒
Final score:
7points
#3
The British government!
Final score:
6points
Jono (Submission author) 2 years ago
PM sacked yet still there & being paid. Cost of living crisis crucifying mid & low paid. Govt fat cats doing nothing about it (apart from smirking cos it doesn’t affect them!) The list goes on. Please feel free to add the rest 😡
#4
I found a lump in my breast a few days ago. Trying not to assume the worst but still pretty scared. I’ve made all the necessary appointments so, one step at a time.
Final score:
6points
#5
I graduate college in a few months. I started looking at jobs to see what’s available and even entry-level positions require experience and passed tests. I ultimately will have to pass around at least 5 tests after I graduate, 3-6 hours long each, some reaching $1000 per test.
I am going to have to work a minimum wage type of job to afford to pay for these tests before I can even be considered for the roles, but I probably still won’t get them because I have no experience.
Final score:
5points
#7
Finding a better paying job with stable hours. I can't just quit, although the lack of hours recently would make a good reason to quit and collect Employment Insurance. But that only lasts for a few months and then what if I can't get a job before it runs out? This job is likely killing me. I suspect I'm getting an ulcer or hernia. Idk but I don't think it's healthy to have a constant feeling of tightness in your stomach from stress and clenching your teeth all day.
Final score:
5points
Jake B 2 years ago
Sending you good luck. Your in the worst place and it is hurting your body. Try looking for a new job even if it’s in small ways, like working on your resume for 1/2 hour at a time. Then look at job postings. Eventually you’ll be ready to move elsewhere and hopefully have a better job and life. Small steps will help mentally until your ready to move. Again, best of luck and start moving.
#8
I’ve been separated from my husband for close to a year & I’m not sure we’re ever going to work things out. There’s a big chance that I’ll be starting over at an age when I should be preparing for retirement.
Final score:
4points
#9
Background
Band is usually my favorite class because we'll it's band and band it fun
Story
Some *graduated* senior apparently has no life and she bullied me to the point where band wasn't fun anymore and I was always looking over my shoulder. She's coming back to chaperone the marching band camp we're going to. So yay don't be surprised if I never post here again she could definitely kill me if she wanted to 😙✌️
Final score:
4points
Down With Agent Hedgehog! 2 years ago
Oooooh tell her ‘look here fish skin’ really sassy when she gets on your nerves. Better, just chill out around her and act like you don’t care. (This is really hard and unfair, it’s more satisfying at one moment to be vicious back to her, but you won’t end up good.) Best, act like she’s your friend and be all like, ‘aren’t you funny?’ And stuff. It really jerks bullies off. BWHAHAHAHAHA If she is bullying you physically and not just mentally, tell someone. No one ends up good who just take it themselves.
#10
I am questioning my gender again, I thought i was ftnb but now I think I might be ftm. I have been having a lot of dysphoria lately, and it's taking a toll on my mental health.
I am about to start school and want to tell teachers what pronouns to use, I would prefer he, him but I am not really sure if I am a boy. I feel like I kind of am but not fully?
Final score:
3points
Emery Walters 2 years ago
'Nonbinary' is a good word and they/them might work for you. And you don't have to decide yet. Be safe!
#11
Took a new road at night after going in on a call for work at midnight, there was a curve in the road I didn't see and I ended up in a ditch. I waited til Monday to go get it out with a backhoe but someone called my truck in and they towed it, cost me 500 to get it out for less than 8hr storage time. Got the truck home, she won't start. Fuel pump gone, neutral safety switch gone, eight fuses blown, engine light on. Fix all of that ( took 3 weeks because of working during the days) finally got her running, get in the middle of town and the headmaster blows... needs a new engine.
Final score:
3points
Richard Smith 2 years ago
Bummer. I don't know how to help, but just know that we've all been there and you'll get through it, and come out stronger on the other side. Good luck.
#12
I was raped by my brother and I haven't told anyone ,I still live and act like nothin happened
Final score:
3points
#13
I was forced to move back home with my parents in order to maintain custody of my daughter. Long story that involves Florida’s backwards laws for LGBT parents.
The cost of living in SWFL is insane. Think $2500 a month for a one bedroom apartments. So, my baby and I are trapped in my childhood bedroom. We have little to no space and no independence. I don’t see much hope in the situation.
Final score:
3points
#14
My husband and youngest son don't respect me. They planned a trip to Michigan to see our son and grandkids. My husband told me I couldn't go . I was very hurt and angry in fact I still am. Then they come back and my husband is bragging about what they did. My husband puts everything back on me. I just don't know what to do anymore. We have been married for 45 years. We sleep in separate rooms and he hasn't touched me in 13 years.
Final score:
3points
Richard Smith 2 years ago
If they don't respect you, then you maybe haven't done anything to earn their respect. Or they are ignoring what you've done. Either way, you seem to be in a toxic environment and need to get out of it and rebuild yourself. You can do it, and be stronger for it. Get a good divorce lawyer and a better therapist. Good luck to you.
#15
My family and I moved into an rv in order to save to buy a house. There is my husband, myself, 15f, 12nb, and 8m in a one room rv. It was supposed to be for a short time while we looked to buy a home. Unfortunately, during that period, houses jumped 30% in our area and priced us out. Now we can not even afford to rent. And can't get a loan for the extra 30% houses now cost. It all happened in just a few months.
We are all miserable and trying to keep a one room place clean with 5 people is impossible. Even the smallest things out of place and it looks a disaster. Which makes me miserable.
We were middle class and doing well when we moved in here "for just a few months." Then my husband lost $300 per week of overtime. The economy went to heck and inflation went up 10%. Now we live in an rv and go backwards into our credit cards weekly. (I'm grateful to have them to fall back on.) Now we are in the red and spent our savings trying to live in this rv. Rent to live in it is almost $1000 per month. We are Never going to escape. I'm sad my kids have to live like this. I was homeless growing up. So I know it could be worse but, it is still hard.
Final score:
3points
#16
mental health, school, friends
lost one of my grandparents a few weeks ago really suddenly, was already struggling with mental health sorta plummeted, im like the glue in our group of girls so i get everyone coming to me and bitching to me abt other people im friends with, so i have to be the mediator n try n figure it out, then i get blamed for things ive been told n not qctually said, blamed for who im friends with by other friends, n i love all my friends but its so much extra stuff i dont need. my friends all kinda tell me their problems i am constantly worrying about one of them suiciding, my grades r a's n b's so everyone thinks im smart, teachers expect so much of me, and i expect even higher, i get into trouble alot at school, im highly annoying, im fat n i talk too much, sorta thinking abt giving up. anyway bye
Final score:
2points
Dashooman (Submission author) 2 years ago
also recently diagnosed with severe anxiety and severe depression. yay
#17
I’m trying to get into a pre-college, and I have 0 friends whatsoever in my school for about 1 years already (that is actually possible) and recently I am diagnosed with megalophobia (fear of large things), severe thalassophobia (fear of deep sea) and of course fear of heights.
It sounds lame now.
Final score:
1point
Emery Walters 2 years ago
That's a lot to deal with. What worked for me somewhat was to write it all down so I wouldn't forget it (as if!)
#18
this is kind of a simple one but I'm gay and out at school but don't know how to tell my parents. they're not homophobic or anything but they act weird around gay people. don't know how to explain it. so i don't know when or how to tell them.
Final score:
1point
#19
Not having a full time job at this time, applying to jobs and not getting a response back. Trying hard not to get depressed.
Final score:
1point
Richard Smith 2 years ago
Make a list of your strengths, what you like about yourself, and how those things will help you in your job. Then sell those in your interview. It's a pain, but, those people don't know you, so you have to let them know how awesome you are.
#20
I’m a small-time artist whose work involves uplifting, positive affirmations about self love in quite and poem form. People come to me to tell me my work inspires them and makes them feel better. I’m clinically depressed, have other severe mental health issues, and feel like a fraud.
Final score:
1point
Tamra 2 years ago (edited)
When I was an artist, I often had the privilege of people telling me that my work brought them great joy. It really was a honor to hear it. None of them knew that I was fighting deep, clinical depression. My point is, there's no rule or law that states you must be happy and fun-loving in order to bring joy to other people. In fact, I think people like us somehow tap into that sadness and transform it into art that moves other people. You aren't a fraud at all. You're a very normal human being getting through this life the best they can. I truly wish for all the best for you.
#21
Physical pain, just constant. I don't want to appear weak, I know others have it far worse. Sometimes it just really gets to me, where I just cannot take it.
Final score:
1point
#22
It's a possible future problem. I'm married, we're both seniors, my husband is 7 years older than I. If he passes first, I'll be all alone. My friends are all older than me. I have one sister who's older. No children. No other family that I'm close enough to for them to do anything for me. Basically, who will be here to look out for me, find an assisted living for me, help me move, make funeral arrangements, be my executor etc. I worry a lot about this.
Final score:
1point
#23
Struggling to start life again from a clean slate.
Worked like a slave for 6 years for peanuts ,moved across continents to live freely in a LGBTQ friendly country, spent my entire life savings by the time I got a job in new country and now living paycheck to paycheck and don't even have emergency fund. Fell in love with a guy for a year and he turned his back on me when I was just away for a month on vacation to meet my family. Came out to my family and I was told that I am nobody to then now. At early 30s I am panicking that I have no friends , no love, no relatives , no clear path to retirement and not even a known person to talk to in times of loneliness. At crossroads now and I have no idea how do I come out of it
Final score:
1point
Tamra 2 years ago
This is a lot. I'm very sorry your family isn't more supportive. I would say that even though you are in a really hard place right now, you are young enough to make changes to create more of a life that you want. Maybe try to recognize the things you can't change (family's behavior, your ex leaving), and try to let go of those so that you can move forward. Take very good care of yourself and when you're ready, take a chance on trusting new people and let them get to know you. Small, positive steps.
#24
Trying to figure out how to save enough money for our severely disabled, non-verbal son to live in a good care facility after we're gone. I have night terrors about him being abused and not being able to tell anyone.
Final score:
0points
#25
My brain isn't " fyring from all cylinders " right now, i use to be very carefree, now... I'm always expecting the worst from everything. A part from that impending Doom felling everything is good
Final score:
-1point
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