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Hey Pandas, What Is Something You Really Enjoy, But Don’t Talk About Because Of The Stigma? (Closed)
Share your secret love for something that comes with the spice of stigma. What is it, and what is the stigma?
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#1
My faith...you mention Jesus and most people assume your judgmental and morally uptight.
Final score:
80points
#2
I am a total Star Trek nerd. But I don't talk about it much because everyone has a certain image of "Trekkies".
No, I do not own my own Starfleet uniform. I don't speak Klingon. I don't go to conventions or have action figures or anything like that. But everyone assumes that about you when you say you like Star Trek.
Now, I do I know an awful lot of trivia about it and I know all the plot lines, etc (but this is also true for several other TV series). And I have a coffee mug that has an eye chart on it in Klingon because i work for an eye doctor and my mom bought that for me as an ironic gift.
Final score:
70points
Pheebs 2 years ago (edited)
Lol. I’m around too many geeks and nerds. I love Trek, but hate mentioning it, because inevitably I have to listen to someone go on a rant about why Star Wars is better, or they preferred Babylon 5 or Battlestar Galactica (blah blah blah….). I don’t care which is your fav and the 20 ways you’re gatekeeping your fandom. Let me like what I like. I also love SW and 80s sci-fi like Enemy Mine. I’m not going to fight you over it.
#3
being single, living with a bunny and not wanting kids
Final score:
63points
and_a_touch_of_the_’tism 2 years ago
Seriously, though. The stigma around not wanting kids is almost unbelievable. There are so many horror stories out there about family/in-laws freaking out about it.
#4
my culture… i’m russian
no my culture is not starting wars and killing innocent people while riding bears and drinking vodka
Final score:
59points
JoyfulZebra 2 years ago
We need to be reminded there is a big difference between the people of a country, and the leaders of a country.
#5
I love to watch cartoons. I always have. I am 64 years old and a retired teacher. My students used to crack up when I could discuss the latest Disney or Pixar films, or when I knew "Ren and Stimpy" and other Adult swim cartoons. I was either the cool teacher or the nutty one, either is fine with me.
Final score:
55points
Mason Kronol 2 years ago
I just turned 50 and I am watching Futurama right now. I've seen the entire series several times. I also enjoy Bob's Burgers and have recently acquired an appreciation of Rick and Morty. I think American Dad is even funnier than Family guy. My husband is a few years older and never watched these types of shows. Now I catch him laughing even after saying some of them were dumb. I will never outgrow a good animated series!
#6
The fact I still like toys and sleep with stuffed toys at almost 26. I'm a bit imature and have depression, but playing with kid stuff conforts me, and I known people will either judge or mock me for it. Almost everytime I buy a toy, I feel judge by the cashiers on the stores.
Final score:
51points
Alexandria Z 2 years ago
Toys aren't just for children and if they bring you joy and comfort, all the better. I'm sure you would be amazed if you knew just how many people have and enjoy toys and stuffed critters. I do.
Goth mouse (they/them) 2 years ago
Im the same, i used to be embarrassed about it because im a guy and a goth/metalhead but i dont care anymore 😂 i make my own plush dinosaurs and dragons, i think stuffed toys are for everyone! The instagram plushie community is great, lots of people of all ages and genders like to make plushies or take pictures of a little stuffed toy mascot travelling to different places 🙂
Goth mouse (they/them) 2 years ago
This is my sheep buddy, he travels everywhere in my pocket 8BB560D1-0...b-jpeg.jpg 
UpQuarkDownQuark 2 years ago
You know what I miss? When I was a little kid, and holding a Darth Vader figure in one hand and Luke Skywalker in the other utterly transported me to another world. Epic battles, triumphs and tragedies, some of which I still remember 40 years later. I still like to look at them, but can’t actually play with them anymore, can’t get lost in them like that. If I could, I would do it in a heartbeat and wouldn’t care who knew. Also, my stuffed panther is named Puddles and I sleep with him every night. I didn’t even mind when the TSA pulled him out my luggage at the airport, he’s just my panther.
Deborah Harris2 2 years ago
I make Fairy bottles and Fairy picnics amongst other things and the time I spend putting the picnics together is my guilty little pleasure as it takes me back to my childhood when everything was new and magical. My 19 year old son loves anime plushies, my 24 year old daughter is obsessed by cats of all shapes, sizes, materials and funkos ... whatever keeps you happy or brings you joy is what makes you ... you :) xx
Mykidsartrocks 2 years ago
35, female, sleep with a jack skellington plushie. Also have a panda, elephant, and dumbo. No shame. You're good.
RafCo (he/him) 2 years ago
So I used to really think it was weird when I saw people with toys or stuffed animals. Why are they so childish? But I came to realize they weren't the ones with the issue, I was. I grew up very poor, and toys and comfort were not priorities for us. All that mattered was food and shelter. I realized the emotion I was feeling wasn't disgust, it was anger. Not at anyone in particular, just at the way things were for my family. Once i understood that, it became a lot easier to drop the judgement. So please enjoy your stuffies, and be comforted. If somebody is judging you, it's probably their issue not yours.
Danish Susanne 2 years ago
I think I understand your anger, but why not treat yourself to a really soft plushy and sweetlooking teddy bear now. It might assuage that anger a little to cuddle it.
Load More Replies... Lene 2 years ago
When you need comfort you need something that comforts you and calms your emotions and thoughts. No matter how or in what form. I hope you will soon find the courage to not mind what others may think of you (impossible task when depression is there, I know). The cashiers in the stores very likely just think you are buying a toy for a child you know. And you are: you are buying a toy for the child in your heart. And that is 100% all right! 😊
Mindy Haun 2 years ago (edited)
I haven't really bought a toy for myself in a long time, but I'm 37 and have some plushies my kids have given me as gifts. Marie from the Aristocats (Disney) and a sloth and parrot too. I love them. Also have a teddy bear my husband gave me years ago. Also, my oldest is 19 and collects and plays with hot wheels. His dad gets annoyed at him sometimes and tells him he needs to quit worrying about playing with toys and he needs to grow up. I say he's fine the way he is. He's a good kid, works, and besides that, he could be the type of guy that goes out to party and cause trouble but he doesn't.
Josh Nielsen 2 years ago
I buy toys an stuff for my child an dog all the time, im a "burly" man but that stuff giraffe or blue unicorn still looks fun even if it aint for me, shine those fools an there funny looks
Emerson Blackwitt 2 years ago
I'm 14 and play with Race Cars and sleep with my childhood stuffed animal!
Danish Susanne 2 years ago
Remember to tell the cashier, that your niece (or nephew) have a birthday coming up. Don't say it is for your niece, because some people can tell when you are not telling the truth.
* ~ l a s a n y a ~ * 2 years ago (edited)
visit some sites (ex. fluffnest) and you'd be amazed (looking at the reviews) at how many adults (that didn't buy the stuffed animals for their kids) enjoy stuffed animals.
Hannah Bridges 2 years ago
As someone who age regresses involuntarily for the same disorders + severe anxiety: I get you and mood
Honey Bee 2 years ago
I'm 37 and keep stuffed animals on my bed. I ado re Calico Critters, and like all kinds of cartoons. Don't let anyone tell you you're too old to enjoy kid stuff. Don't worry about the people at the shops. They don't know you, or your story. Its none of their business. You just do you.
Commit_Fire (it/ they/he) 2 years ago
I have age regression due to trauma I’m 13 and multiple people think I’m way to old to have tons of stuffed animals on my bed and go to build a bear. I hate that people think this and it sucks. I’m so sorry that you are treated this way :{
Angela Schiller-Jones 2 years ago
I'm 35 and still sleep with my Simba stuffie I've had since I was 7. My hubby knows how much comfort it brings me so he also makes sure it's nearby. <3
Eric Alley 2 years ago
I'm 42 and I have a collection of wolf plushies on a shelf above my bed. You do you.
#7
fanfiction/fanart. no, not every story is smut, or poorly written, or whatever. I've read some really well-written fanfic, and I've read some crappy "who let a five-year-old onto this website" fanfic. same goes with fanart. but hey, its all subjective. you do you boo.
Final score:
49points
Commit_Fire (it/ they/he) 2 years ago
I hate that people think about fanfics or fanart like this. As long as it’s not about real people or p3dophilia and !nc3st let people write what they want!!!
#8
I really enjoy learning about random things. seems harmless right? but I think people find the things I lear about weird. I have learned about poisons (was learning about the cold war at the time), cults, with some urban legends and true crime mixed in. I don't always learn about dark stuff (heck, I researched butterflies for a while!) but I worry that sometimes people will think I'm crazy. nope. I just write stuff and Wikipedia is awesome
Final score:
49points
Danish Susanne 2 years ago
I thought everyone did this. Learning something new is such pleasure. I always try to do so, and goes to lectures about this and that, if only they are for free, because I am an old age pensioner and has to watch my expenses. As a result I am very very rarely bored
#9
LGBTQ+
It’s hard to bring it up into conversation because you never know what reactions will be like :( you could get “ ew do you like me or something”or “oh cool! I support:)”
Final score:
48points
#10
My pet chickens. Unless brought up normally (in person) I wouldn't talk about them, but if you get me started I could spill a lot of facts about them
Final score:
43points
#11
I love my snakes. They are fantastic pets but so many people are so negative about these wonderful creatures... Then they wilk talk about their dogs and kids for hours.
Final score:
41points
Mason Kronol 2 years ago
You can talk with me about snakes for hours! It amazes me how many men are afraid of snakes. Years ago I dated a guy who had a friend with a rat snake. I asked him why he never took it out and he said everyone is terrified of it. So he took it out and let me hold it. It curled its head in my hair and napped while my bf ran outside. These days when we go to a zoo and someone has a snake out I beeline towards it and my husband stays about 30 feet away.
#12
I've been a huge fan of X-Men since about 1994. But now I'm a middle-aged married mother of 3 with a professional career. I would love to still collect/read comments, maybe even dress up for a comiccon, but my husband wouldn't understand and it would be frowned upon in most circles. Best I can hope for is to get my kids interested so we can share that passion, but they're a bit too young yet.
Final score:
40points
howdylee (Submission author) 2 years ago
can't edit typo: should be collect/read COMICS, not comments :)
#13
My mental health and struggle with depression.
I always felt like I wasn't 'qualified' to be depressed because my life was pretty good. But your life being fine DOES NOT invalidate your feelings. Some people really do have trouble mentally, myself included, without having to be in an abusive home or toxic relationship or stuff like that.
Let's face it. A bad week can really f**k up your state of being. And that's normal. It doesn't mean it's ok. It just means that it will happen and you have to learn to overcome it.
I just want people to realize that someone struggling with a such a mindset needs and deserves help no matter the reason they feel that way. People have died over the smallest of things, bad days when someone just told them to suck it up or wait for things to get better. *Things do in fact get better*. But sometimes they just need to vent or cry or scream in the moment so their feelings are not bottled up until they all explode and something actually happens.
So yeah. I don't tell people when I'm actually not fine because all I get told is that "you shouldn't be depressed since your life is so nice." And not telling anyone anything is where it gets dangerous.
Just smile at someone if they are down. Let them yell their head off because they aren't having a good day. Let them process their emotions and help when you can. I cannot tell you how many times someone asking me if I'm ok and then listening to me has saved my life. A smile goes a long way.
Hang in there fellow pandas :)
Final score:
37points
Ka Sm 2 years ago
Yes, hang in there. I've dealt with similiar situation since I was 8 (I'm 50+ now). On the bad days/weeks/times, I repeat my mantra "it is just for now, it WILL get better. Just have faith" which works for me. May seem simplistic or whatever, but over time, you WILL figure out your own way of coping. Hang in there, indeed. <3
#14
Anime.... I've been a fan since the early 70s when I first saw astroboy and kimba the white lion... It led to my passion for Japanese art, poetry and culture. (Even studied edo period printmaking at university.) But the fandom is so toxic, it's impossible to find intelligent discussion on the subject. The general view of anime seems to revolve around 4 or 5 mainstream shonen series, and it fkn drives me crazy. It's not all over the top violence and giant breasted women. There are so many quiet, beautiful, heartfelt series out there but they just get lost in the miasma of toxicity. I just don't bother trying to talk to anyone about it because the stigma is just too great. It's seen as the realm of incel fuckwits and whining manbabies....
Final score:
35points
#15
My friend is an undertaker, he loves his job, gets to support lots of families in need, learns a lot about different cultures. But we lie about his job in social situations because people get either 1) uncomfortable or 2) start asking really intense personal questions.
Final score:
35points
Mykidsartrocks 2 years ago
Family owns a funeral home. I tell people that I got the family special and since the same funeral home gets 90% of my family's business, I tell people they give us a punch card like the coffee places do. My cousins thought this was hilarious (they own the funeral home). There is no shame in what your friend does. The shame is when these over the top funeral homes gut the families by charging outrageous prices. I have seen what the stuff actually costs.
#16
Using neopronouns.
I use quite a bit of neos because traditional pronouns sometimes don’t sound right.but every time I am open about multiple people make fun of me and tell I’m trying to be special.
Final score:
32points
#17
I enjoy doing math. I am in a second year calculus class, and I’ve always enjoyed my math hw. When I tell people that they look at me like I’m crazy, or say something about how I only like it because I’m some kind of genius, which I’m DEFINITELY not. I don’t enjoy othering myself, so I mostly just enjoy my math work quietly.
Final score:
31points
Veronica Rabbit 2 years ago
I'm not very good at math, but I find it very comforting to know that mathematical principles are unchanging. Maybe that sounds weird, but I think it is very beautiful despite being difficult!
#19
Being Vegan - I don’t push it or shame anyone, I wasn’t always vegan. However I am passionate about it and always happy to debate or just discuss it
Final score:
29points
Nenna Olumba 2 years ago
Yeah. When I first became vegetarian, people would look at me like I insulted their family, ancestors, their cow. Most mellowed out when I turned vegan, but those “where’d you get your protein” questions were vexing.
#20
Billie Eilish.
I like her music a lot, but I'm not your stereotypical Billie Eilish fan (I'm kind of a nerd) so I don't really talk about it.
Final score:
29points
Deborah Harris2 2 years ago
My 19 year old son loves her, he's a computer/gaming nerd/geek as am I. He says he identifies with her music a lot, she has millions of fans so you are not alone xx
#22
Bored panda and some other social media sites. I don't usually post, but I love reading other people's stories and opinions on issues. I would definitely get judged for how much time I lurk on these sites.
Final score:
27points
#23
I love watching true crime shows. People ask me if I am studying up on how to get away with murder....my response is always the same..."would you like to be the test subject?"
Final score:
26points
Firstname Lastname 2 years ago
Honestly, I watch them for two reasons mainly. One, I love seeing a mind work its way through a problem, and two, it reminds me that my life could be a whole heck of a lot worse.
#24
Manga
Final score:
24points
#25
Furry artwork in all forms (books, pictures, comics and animations) and the liking of Anthropomorphism as concept.
Furries don't have the best reputation, mainly because of the impression some few wierd people from the fandom leave on the internet. Other prejudices are that all Furries are zoophiles, LGBQT+ or neckbeards living in basements. I wouldn't say that there isn't some of that present in the fandom, but the majority of Furries are just normal everyday people. (LGBQT+ is a somewhat correct "stigma" though, a very present topic in the community)
Final score:
22points
Mafia! 2 years ago
Furries, man. If people looked beyond stereotypes, they would certainly learn a lot about each other. The furry fandom really did change my life for the better. At a time when I was in a really dark place, when it seemed like I had no friends, it was people in the furry fandom that were the ones that checked up on me. I now have tons of amazing friends that are also furries, and that has to mean something. But another thing people often forget, furries are one of the top monetary donors for pretty much any wildlife or animal welfare foundation, with many furry-conventions donating large portions of their profits.
#26
Minecraft YouTube. There are so many great SMPs and people playing on them. I love the building tutorials of some, the lore on others, the challenges and friends making super cool things together. Sometimes crazy new developments happen and I have no one to discuss it with.
Hermitcraft x Empires crossover anyone?
Final score:
22points
#27
I'm a trans masc, nonbinary, asexual, pan and poly person. I hate talking about it because "it's a sin" and "you're going to hell" and all that. I'd love support.
Final score:
22points
Danish Susanne 2 years ago
I have never been able to understand, why how to be like god created you is a sin.
#28
Hobbies. I do a lot of cross stitch embroidery and needle felting (mostly needle felted 3D animals). I do it purely for relaxation, and because I enjoy it, and mostly give a lot of the finished pieces away, or to a friend who runs an animal rescue centre, and she sells them or auctions them to raise funds. But every time I mention it to people, the reaction is always "you should do craft shows/sell them on Etsy/open an online shop/make a living out of it" I don't want to do it as a business, I do it purely for the relaxation and satisfaction it gives me. If I monetise it, I'm sure that sense of enjoyment would go and I don't want that.
Final score:
22points
No Name 2 years ago
Yeah, I've learned this the hard way repeatedly: NEVER make your hobby an obligation, for work or study or anything. The obligation destroys your motivation and enjoyment of the whole process, and depending on how long you do it, you could be put off that hobby for a very long time.
#29
Does head scratches count? Could happily sit there for hours with someone just scratching my head
Final score:
21points
#30
I'm not sure if this counts. I no longer give a s**t, but when I was 13, I LOVED N'sync. Unfortunately I already picked punk outcast as my personal. So I 'hated boy bands'. Even wore a shirt that said 'N' SUCK'. I'm 36, and I just want to say 'bye bye bye' is f**king catchy and blast it proudly in my car.
Final score:
21points
#31
I really enjoyed the Twilight books and movies. I thought Kristen Stewart did a great job. I'm a happily married, middle-aged woman.
Final score:
20points
#32
ASMR. I know it looks weird (and there is some . . . out-there content, I admit). It looked weird to me too when I first heard about it. But if you find a type that you respond to, its just so dam relaxing.
Final score:
20points
Claire Ferguson 2 years ago
I love ASMR microphone brushing, tried it for bit of a joke thinking why would someone listen to this, don't know what it is but put it on for 10 minutes at the end of a hectic day and it just helps my mind calm down.
#33
Wanting to get rid of my uterus because its very existence inside me is a constant source of anxiety. We do not talk enough about the fact that the experience of having a uterus is legitimately full-on traumatic for a huge fraction of the female population, even in the unlikely even that they are never assaulted or harrassed (yes, the majority of women are eventually subjected to these things). Periods are horrifying, humiliating, and excruciating, especially early on - something like 70% of teenage girls have periods that are painful enough to be debilitating at least some of the time. When I was in high school I'd go home one day a month almost every month with chills, diarrhea, and cramps so bad I couldn't stand up straight...only for my parents to tell me "you can't keep doing this" (I knew better than anyone that it wasn't sustainable, but WTF could I do in my own, knowing OTC pain meds only worked if I could take them before the pain started?) It sounds absurd and hilarious to say, but I've ejected blood and chunks in such quantity with such force that queefs have given me flashbacks. The hormones screwed with my body so much that I only had 7-10 days a month where my GI tract functioned like everyone says it was supposed to, and 2 weeks out of the month I couldn't run without inducing cramps that made me feel like I had to give birth to my spine. And most of all, I'm terrified of being pregnant, not just because every mother on my mom's side has had postpartum mental issues and pelvic organ prolapse, but because politically, with the US trending toward the elimination of all forms of female reproductive autonomy, it's turning into a Sword of Damocles situation. Even now that ice stopped my periods with birth control, it feels like I have a loaded trap in me, just waiting for my access to run out to shackle me with dependence and disability, and force me into reproductive enslavement to the white supremacist cause. And I'm a lucky one for being able to find birth control that works for me. For all the men out there about to say "but what about the multiple orgasms" (because you'd be shocked how often that pops up in threads where women are venting about how much our reproductive systems suck): as someone who can give myself those on a routine basis, I can confirm, they are absolutely not worth the everything else that comes with having a uterus. I'd give them up in a heartbeat. I'd give up *all* orgasms *forever* if I could get rid of my uterus without worrying about the rest of my organs falling because of it. That's how much it sucks.
Final score:
20points
Katie Andrews 2 years ago
I hope you get this taken care of soon. As an older woman, it DOES get better. Being post-menopausal ROCKS SO HARD. No kids here, either. Hope you feel better and get the help and/or meds you need!
#34
Being a Norse Pagan. I immediately get seen as racist and intolerant. We aren't that, I promise
Final score:
19points
(lake)ڪوڪي[she/her] 2 years ago
What does being a Norse Pagan mean? Can you explain if you are ok
#35
McDonalds. I love it but I don't tell anyone that.
Final score:
17points
#36
A few things. Fanfictions as someone else mentioned, they're not all bad/"cringe" and the bad ones can be really funny and enjoyable /gen. The DSMP, they seem like such lovely people and they're really talented. I also like the furry community, they're really wholesome the vast majority of the time. Neopronouns and xenogender identities. Man I'm not trying to "erase" or "make fun of" trans people, I'm just trying to explain my gd identity, please leave me alone 😭. Algebra and coding. They're fun to me. Oh, and lastly, kids tv. I like watching stuff like paw patrol and my little pony and octonauts and teen titans go. Yeah, I know they're made for kids and I'm "too old" but it's just a nice thing to have on in the background if nothing else
Final score:
16points
Saturn Rings 2 years ago
I am non-binary and stargender. I know damn well that I’m valid and I don’t care what dumb s**t you want to say to me about it.
#37
I know I'll be judged by this, but I LOVE bounty bars :)
Final score:
16points
#38
Cats. It's something that I am obsessed with ever since I was a toddler. I grew up with cats. They've been there for me for almost everything I've been through, from the death of my grandparents, to my parent's divorce, and even through my depression. They've been there for me for years and I can't thank them enough.
People are always so judgemental against them and think that they're not smart, but it's quite the opposite. Cats are plenty smart. Smarter than dogs. It's been scientifically proven.
Final score:
16points
#39
I really hate when I tell people that I do crochet and they think it is a grandma thing. No, i just enjoy creating things.
Final score:
15points
Show thyself 2 years ago
I love the face others make when I inform them, that neither of my grannies are crocheting, but my dad did ... and teached me. Looking at my crafts afterwards is one of the best feelings in the world.
#40
This one has already been mentioned, but mine is a different take on it: LGBTQIA+. I have huge issues with it because I just recently dedicated my life to Christ, and yes, the bible does say that it's sin. But ... it doesn't sit right with me that just because you chose to be with who you loved means you're kept out of heaven.
Also, however, our government. I'm American, and yeah, our government sucks. But I'm not talking about the people, though I have strong opinions there. I'm talking about the system.
it SUCKS.
Final score:
14points
iEatStyrofoam 2 years ago
the bible never says it's a sin. it was translated from "men shouldn't sleep with child" to "men shouldn't sleep with men"
#41
Less so of a problem since 2016, but being a huge Guns N' Roses fan. Sort of silly, I know, but in the early 2000s, it felt awkward to admit to most people. I know they are just regular humans in a rock band, but my heart beats a little faster when I see that logo or hear a few notes. The reunion has changed my life in that I've started travelling the world to meet up with fans and I've met some fantastic and wonderful people from that.
Final score:
13points
#42
Minecraft. Everyone thinks it's some "cringey YouTuber game", but really it's a fun creative space where possibilities are practically endless! It was a big part of my childhood and still is a great stress reliever for me today!
Final score:
13points
#43
I'm retired and I spend most of my day on my computer playing the game World of Warcraft. I love not having to work and playing WOW not only passes the time but it beats housework.
Final score:
12points
#44
Dungeons & Dragons. I only just recently got into it and I want to start a campaign with my friends, but none of them play and think it's too complicated or too nerdy. I'm not even that nerdy of a person, I just like playing it because I can battle monsters and be someone else for a few hours at a time.
Final score:
12points
SheamusFanFrom1987 2 years ago
I'd definitely join you because I don't need any reason for wanting to pick up a blade and swinging it at any oncoming monsters.
#45
Playing World of warcraft. And no, it is not like as it is shown in that famous South Park episode.
Final score:
11points
Deborah Harris2 2 years ago (edited)
Oh it is, but after killing all those level one boars in Elwyn they would have shown as grey and not counted as kills :p I love WOW, I've played it since TBC, I have a guild of casual slackers on Xavius .. EU and have just invested in Dragonflight after finally playing the Beta. My main is a rogue btw :)
#46
Aside from my group of friends, some co-workers (and certain customers by proxy), and family, I don't really talk about video games too often.
I think its a pair of stigmas that are tied to it as to why I don't talk about them. First, gamers are usually perceived as nerdy by the media (which I am, don't get me wrong), which is the lesser of the two in my opinion. And the other is because of all the scandals with certain games (like the Columbine Shooting, or Jack Thompson trying to tie video games to these horrific events, and even blackmail certain developers).
Probably a lesser stigma, but if I do talk about games, most random people often assume I play the more popular franchise right now, like GTA, COD, Assassin's Creed, or other things like that. I usually don't have too many discussions with new people (unless I go to a specific thread for said game) when I talk about a new RPG/JRPG, or action game.
Final score:
11points
#47
Having a chronic illness. I have endometriosis and it doesn't show unless I'm so inflamed I look pregnant. It hurts like hell some days so I was put on a opiate + nerve blocker cocktail... People either assume I'm a junkie, that I'm faking or feel sorry for me and treat me differently...
Yes, it hurt, yes I lost my tubes, yes my husband and I can't conceive naturally, and yes it bloody sucks but that's our family's business.
I don't want to be given diet advice, told to do yoga or know about the wide of your coworker who also has endo to be honest...
Let me fight my fight, enjoy my good days and if I let you in to see the bad days, don't ask too many questions, just go with it and be there... trust me that's enough.
Final score:
11points
Magda Schulz (Submission author) 2 years ago
I'm sorry if it came up as me liking to have a chronic illness, I meant I still enjoy life despite being sick .
#48
Anime/manga because there is a surprising amount of stigma around boys liking anime/manga (even though Pokemon is a manga/anime)
Final score:
10points
Faern Grey 2 years ago
Where exactly? I've seen girls get immensely more grief for anime and manga than guys here in the US.
#49
Smoking... I know, I know... It's disgusting and I wish I didn't smoke... But when I light up, I do 'enjoy it'
Final score:
10points
LinkTheHylian 2 years ago
It's the same for all things that are bad for us: Smoking, junk food, booze... we enjoy it while we're consuming them, but the more we have the more damage we do to our bodies. Everything in moderation. Except LoZ games.
#50
The DSMP. People who don't know it think that it's stupid and nerdy, and people who do know it often criticize who you choose to watch. I love watching Karl, Tubbo, Wilbur, Tommy, Ranboo, and Techno [fly high and never die ❤]. They honestly help me to feel emotion when I have a hard time doing so due to mental health.
Final score:
9points
#51
Witchcraft and vodun.
Writing fanfic.
Kink in general.
I'm a bit of a foodie/food snob but...I love carb loading on buttered noodles. Which, now that I've thought of it I'm gonna go do it.
Tropey lesbian romances (even the non steamy ones)
Having a messy bedroom. Like actually I don't like it being tidy. Everything else can be tidy, idc, but my room needs have zones filled with my favorite stuff sitting out where I can see and access it easily. My bed is basically a bare mattress with a giant next of blankets and pillows all in the "wrong" order. Soft comforter goes on the bottom with me and everything else on top, the I pull it over me like I'm a giant pillow and sheet burrito.
Final score:
9points
#52
I'm a 19 year old boy, but I like ladies older than me; 25-30
Final score:
9points
Mykidsartrocks 2 years ago
Keep it up. It is a double standard that I hate. Women can get with men ten years their senior. You go for it dude.
#53
Enjoying child books/ teen dramas (I'm 36).
'The Infinite Story' ist still one of my favourite books, also some things by Astrid Lindgren.
And for teen dramas, puberty is such a intense time where so much happens that you can make a great story of.
Off course there are some bad series in this genre, too but but there are loooots of great series.
Gets my interest more than the 183627171 horror series in Netflix, sorry.
Also enjoying 'esoteric' stuff. Im interested in different light effects and atmospheres, I like dreams and zodiac signs, I used to be interested in semiprecious stones and I love incence sticks.
Not something I can tell a lot of people bc it gives the image of 50year old people in their caftans with crystal balls and no touch with reality.
B******t.
Final score:
9points
Katie Andrews 2 years ago
Middle aged, retired teacher lady here. Love YA fiction. There's a lot of good stuff out there!
#54
Probably Harry Potter and my knowledge on animals
Final score:
9points
#56
I love peace. Quiet times when my head doesn't hurt and no one is coming to me with yet another problem to solve. When I don't have to worry about who the next amoral president will be, (regardless of party) don't have to wish people would be less judgemental about their differences. (If someone is gay or straight, black or white, old or young, etc., why the hell do you care or judge? It doesn't impact you! Mind your business. Live and let live)! I just love when I find that harmonious place where the sun is shining or the rain is pounding or the winds are howling and there's no other person polluting my brain pan. No extra sensory b.s. from someone else's perspective. Only the peace you can find by focusing on whatever diety you believe in or inner strength you can grasp and enjoying the moment, no matter how fleeting it may be. That my fellow humans, is golden.
Final score:
8points
#57
Wrestling. WWE; AEW; NJPW; ROH; indie shows. Love them all. As a women in her 40’s it’s hard to find other women interested in it to the extent I am. I just love it. It’s like a bad soap opera with fighting. Thank god my husband is so into it too otherwise I would have no one to talk to about it.
Final score:
8points
SheamusFanFrom1987 2 years ago
Mah wrestling fam! :-) You might also want to try PW NOAH, Stardom and TJPW in Japan as well. Also, some British feds like RevPro and Preston City Wrestling with some American ones like Revenge Pro and Absolute Intense Wrestling thrown in.
#58
I love to research poisons & venoms - including history, creation, useage, reactions.
Only my (very small & tight) social circle knows about it. Every other person - colleagues & bio-family - just know the crafty, punk that somehow knows nearly everything about everyone.
What no one knows -- I made a few different ones and stored them away (out of reach for anyone but me)
It's fascinating --- no, I never poisoned anyone (exception: the spiked punch at prom 2004) & I don't plan on doing so 😅
Final score:
7points
#59
I feel like I'm gonna get judged here too but here I go-
You know those videos in YouTube where you have little characters creating skits and stuff like that? Gacha videos? I'm a (very) small content creator for the Gacha community. Such a shame that everyone who makes these videos gets judged just because of a few bad or cringy people.
Final score:
6points
* ~ l a s a n y a ~ * 2 years ago
:0 finally gacha fans. it's so frowned upon because it's a "dressup game" and it's for "little kids" and it's "cringe"
#60
The book Ender’s Game written by Orson Scott Card. I loved, loved, loved his books I read growing up (I was 10). They were a lifeline to a lonely introvert kid. There were some valuable lessons about compassion and critical thinking and many others, all told wonderfully in stories. But later on in life, I learned he was a homophobe, a radical Mormon (which ties him to religious, fundamentalist views), an extremist (is an active racist propagandist) and is a racist bigot.
Philosophically, I cringe to remember I consumed the work of a “bad artist” but I also cringe at the thought of my lonely 11-year-old self continuing to be lonely having never read the novels. Sigh.
Final score:
6points
Katie Andrews 2 years ago
Enjoy the gifts that the author gave you. Like JKR, sometimes authors are all too real and flawed, alas. You got good stuff from this person, and that's ultimately what counts. Their issues are theirs as an individual to sort out.
#61
I draw and write very violent things. My characters always have some terrible thing happen to them to start their storyline. One character just recently had his wife and two children killed in an incredibly gorey fashion because I, the dictator, needed to start him on a new pathway. Everything I draw is worse, because this stuff you can see. I'm not allowed to talk about it to other people in greater detail, so that should give you an idea of the level we're going for here. I enjoy it, but other people think I'm insane. Truth is, I was a kid with violent thoughts and terrible anger issues, and I let those out on others. Now I'm older, and the violent thoughts still persist. I'm still easily angered, and my anger often leads to violence. But I've learned, and now the only people affected by my own mental state are not real, at least not to anybody like me. Its therapy, but most people don't understand that. Not everyone who draws gore does it because their a maniac.
Final score:
6points
#62
Being alone, or not being social. Oftentimes people consider me to be rude or arrogant due to this. But that's not true. I love to be on my own.
Final score:
5points
#63
My Constitutional Rights. All of them.
Final score:
4points
and_a_touch_of_the_’tism 2 years ago
Don’t forget some of the important words… like ‘well regulated.’
#65
Thai BL series. As in boy's love. I absolutely love watching them but never talk about them to anybody. These series are actually really good, great stories and great actors. It's like a guilty pleasure of mine.
Final score:
4points
RafCo (he/him) 2 years ago
Don't know what this is, but i used to love watching RuPaul's Drag Race. RuPaul is a way better queen that that English lady, and if she were to pass, I would wait 24 hours in that queue. I had a gay friend tell me that show was too gay even for him, but then he let slip something that one of the queens said in the show, and he was caught. Dude didn't want to admit Ru's greatness.
#66
Urban Exploring. AKA going into abandoned buildings, drainage tunnels, etcetera, and photographing the places. While I consider it preserving history, very few people understand why I do this. That and it's a pretty dangerous hobby and I don't always have the owner's permission.
If I'm honest, though, for me it's like a slow motion extreme sport.
Final score:
2points
C. S. M 2 years ago
I like the same. Once had a fellow urbexer pull me away from a 30-foot fall through a drop ceiling at Detroit's old Packard automotive plant. There's a picture of mine on Wikipedia of the dump truck that was dropped from a 3rd- or 4th-floor level of the place. Been there 3 to 4 times in all. Always good for safety's sake to have others with you. More than 2 pairs of eyes can make the difference between safety and injury or death. Also visited the former psychiatric hospital in the suburb of Northville a few times; got some very cool pictures from there. Also a couple of Port Huron sites, like the abandoned Grand Trunk railyards and an unfinished ice rink/community recreation complex next to an active shopping center. I enjoy the excitement of exploring places which are considered, and sometimes legally ARE, off-limits. But mostly I enjoy exploring these places and photographing the decay and reclamation by nature which occurs when such places are no longer useful to society.
#67
Typing. Kind of weird huh.
Final score:
1point
LinkTheHylian 2 years ago
Is it some sort of ASMR thing? You like the sound of the keys clacking away while you type?
#70
I'm straight. If I ever mention being straight apparently all of a sudden I'm homophobic-
Final score:
1point
and_a_touch_of_the_’tism 2 years ago
Literally nobody cares if you say you’re straight, unless you’re doing it in a obnoxiously superior way. The issue arises when you start with this victim mentality BS.
What do you think ?
Danish Susanne 2 years ago (edited)
I am old enough to being childish without shame. I really think, that it is wrong to stop doing what you enjoy (so long as you do not hurt anyone), because there are some people out there who frowns upon it. And some times, I am sure that they are just envious.
LinkTheHylian 2 years ago
It really shocked me when Travis Barker traded in his drums for a set of bongos.
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Dutchman Callypso 2 years ago
Do people not understand the question that was asked? Most of the stuff on this list is either something that is not stigmatized at all (McDonald's... the fact it's unhealthy isn't a stigma) or things you don't enjoy (h0m0ph0bia, chronic illnesses...).
Stardust she/her 1 year ago
Fanfiction and shipping. Some of the fanfics are weird af but the rest of them are written well. Not every fanfic involving shipping is smut (I don’t really mind reading it though) and some of them are nice and wholesome. There’s also the stigma of being childish. I’m a bit short for my age and my voice sounds like a 9 year old’s and my inner child constantly finds a way to burst out and show herself. I watch a lot of animated shows which most people feel that only kids watch but the thing is that those shows are more entertaining to me than most other shows
Danish Susanne 2 years ago (edited)
I am old enough to being childish without shame. I really think, that it is wrong to stop doing what you enjoy (so long as you do not hurt anyone), because there are some people out there who frowns upon it. And some times, I am sure that they are just envious.
LinkTheHylian 2 years ago
It really shocked me when Travis Barker traded in his drums for a set of bongos.
Load More Replies... Dutchman Callypso 2 years ago
Do people not understand the question that was asked? Most of the stuff on this list is either something that is not stigmatized at all (McDonald's... the fact it's unhealthy isn't a stigma) or things you don't enjoy (h0m0ph0bia, chronic illnesses...).
Stardust she/her 1 year ago
Fanfiction and shipping. Some of the fanfics are weird af but the rest of them are written well. Not every fanfic involving shipping is smut (I don’t really mind reading it though) and some of them are nice and wholesome. There’s also the stigma of being childish. I’m a bit short for my age and my voice sounds like a 9 year old’s and my inner child constantly finds a way to burst out and show herself. I watch a lot of animated shows which most people feel that only kids watch but the thing is that those shows are more entertaining to me than most other shows
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