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Let it out here. It can be from stepping in something gross with new shoes or from having a midlife crisis on your hands.
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#1
Honestly? Lots of things but one thing here on Bored Panda: Please don’t downvote others because you disagree. If it’s racist, misogynistic, mean and nasty then yes go for it. But simply downvoting because you disagree is silly. The Pandas get minus 10 and suspended for nothing. Let’s be nice. If you’re a VBP (Very Bored Panda) then scroll and give others an uppie!
Some really great Pandas I’ve missed lately: DUN DUN. Bacony Cakes, Sam, Hans.
Love you guys !
Final score:
101points
Nathaniel 2 years ago
Cannot upvote this enough people. All my suspensions have not been because of answers that could be taken two ways and mistaken as nasty, but all have been inoffensive, that people just do not like, and there are those that just see minus numbers and pile on!
Ozacoter 2 years ago
The suspensions dont make any sense. The other day i got downvoted and suspended for stating that humans are primates... Apparently a bunch of trolls or creationists disagreed...
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Josh Cutts 2 years ago
What is the proper function of downvoting? Is it meant to be something harsh? I always just thought it was a way of reflecting public opinion, that’s all.
Caro Caro (Submission author) 2 years ago
It is harsh bc sometimes people follow w***y-nilly and downvote too. This causes the person to be suspended and shuts off all discussion.
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Jef Bateman 2 years ago
Exactly. And if you do really disagree with somebody, take the time to leave a comment to explain why.
Autistic apricot 2 years ago
Even if I disagree with some, that’s no reason to downvote, so i upvote if they have downvotes
*Displayname*=idk 2 years ago
OMGOSH YES! I LITERALLY GOT BANNED FOR A WEEK! (A week ago) I got banned for saying "wow"
wellwisher 2 years ago (edited)
Is this what happened to DUN DUN? I was wondering, I'm not familiar with the others names. I hate that though.
Contented potato. 2 years ago
Yeah DUN DUN used to be here all the time. She vanished and I don’t think anyone knows what happened
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Tigerpacingthecage 2 years ago
And the most irritating thing is that some who are actually really misogynistic and racist gets to keep on going... I got banned for 5 days because I responded to an am I the ashole- thing. I agreed with the majority but said one thing could be a bit to much. Compared to people who can say really hateful things that seems a bit out of proportion.
RK Barbo 2 years ago
I learned this the hard way one time when I was really stoned and made a silly comment on every post in a topic. Nothing rude, just dumb stuff, song lyrics, whatever. Learned you can't be silly on BP.
Ashley Schriber 2 years ago (edited)
I got suspended for agreeing that a celebrity came across as douchey in a tweet or something. I don't think it's wrong to downvote, though; I'd rather they simply stop suspending people just because they got too many downvotes. It's a stupid policy. Just have a look and see if the post was actually offensive.
Jackie Lulu 2 years ago
Wholeheartedly agree. Been suspended twice when I never try to be anything but nice. Now that I know how it works, I'll never downvote anyone.
Christine 2 years ago
I had absolutely no idea! Do you get suspended immediately for one downvote? Or is there a certain threshold you have to hit in order to be suspended? Sorry to ask, I never knew! I never downvote anyone anyway though; I can't even be rude on the internet, ha!
Caro Caro (Submission author) 2 years ago (edited)
When you get the first -10 it's a one day ban. Once more -10 gets you a 5 day ban. When you get another -10 then it's permanent.
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BobTDG 2 years ago
Ik what you mean Scagsy (now $cagsy) recently created a new acc because of this.
Caro Caro (Submission author) 2 years ago
Scagsy got suspended? Maaaaaan that pisses me off. He is one of the nicest here on BP. I'll look him up and upvote like a mad woman mwaaahaha.
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You have a point. But disgusting ... nah. Have a good weekend.
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#3
i have depression and i'm not straight like my parents think
Final score:
73points
#4
This will get buried
I am a minor (this will help you understand)
My friend was acting weird and then later asked me out, I said yes because they are manipulative and would of hurt me if I said no, and knowing I have autism, still asked me to kiss them after I said my brain stopped me from doing things like that. She later got mad at me for not looking at her. I’m still dating her but I hate it to the point I’m scared to hang out alone with her, as she might do something (she is 13 and had same gender sex but told me all about it 😖). Soon after I trusted her again and accidentally put my self harm scissors in my bag, which she looked through and stole them and wouldn’t give them back until I shouted at her (the next day) and they were broken. I am too scared to break up with her
I don’t feel right, I like being biologically female but it feels odd and I hate having pronouns or a name (it’s not my name that’s the problem, I could have any name and it would be the same). I use they/them and that feels better, but no one seems to care
I go through things where I am either overexcited or having suicidal thoughts and I feel like nobody likes me, or knows me and I’m crying while typing this because nobody cares and I’ll get in trouble for telling people these things because “nothing bad has happened so you are faking for attention”
Sorry you had to read that
Nobody else knows any of this but I feel a bit better getting it off my chest
Final score:
70points
Marinasongs1432 2 years ago
Here, take my upvote and keep it higher. I know what it’s like to be manipulated and be autistic. I am also emotionally sensitive and have struggles keeping myself under control. Get rid of the friend. Get help. It’s hard, but you need to have respect for yourself. If I could do it, so can you. Your feelings are valid, and I’ve felt them too. Multiple times. Get help. I’ve got it and I’m doing much better now.
#5
I don't enjoy hanging out with my friends anymore, except for one person. I can't tell my parents that I'm pagan, or that I use neopronouns and want to change my name. I'm terrified of being a financial burden on my family.
Final score:
67points
Tina Smith 2 years ago
Why did this person get downvoted? I brought it back to zero, but they're honestly posting something they're struggling with! Currently, the number one post is about not downvoting someone just because you don't agree with them, for goodness sakes! Unless there's something about the post I'm not understanding because I'm old and sometimes clueless, downvoting a real problem is awfully mean.
#6
Ok, here goes. As a gay man, I think today's kids have way too much stuff being thrown at them regarding sexuality. Even reading the few posts on here pertaining to it confirm what I feel.
Adolescence is a super confusing time where people experience all kinds of feelings and emotions. While I'm all about acceptance, obviously, I think a lot of kids are being pushed into something they may not actually be. I also think that to be bi, pan, etc., is the trendy thing to be. I think a lot of kids are saying they're these things to fit in or look cool to their peers.
Obviously, I'm not saying everyone who thinks they're one of these things is wrong. I knew I was gay for sure when I was about 13 and realized I liked m**turbating to pictures of guys. But I sincerely think a lot of young people are trying so hard to figure themselves out, that they're possibly trying to force things onto themselves that may not actually be true.
Of course people are going to experiment, and that's great. I'm all for it. But a lot of kids are making declarations of I'm this, or I'm that, when they don't really know.
I invite intelligent thoughts on the matter. But let's keep them civil and productive. Love you Pandas. 😘
Final score:
67points
AW 2 years ago
Totally agree with you on this, I particularly dislike how media overhypes this subject and can see lot of people feeling pressured to be "something". Being in your formative years is very stressful and yes, sexuality plays a huge role, still I wish teenagers could take a step back sometimes and realise it's okay to be/not to be something and they have another 60 years to figure things out or even change their minds.
#7
I feel like the Democratic Party has been really crappy lately, but since the Republican Party decided to be fascist and everything, the Democratic Party is by far the one to vote for, and its wrongdoings are nothing in comparison, but still, the worse the Republicans get, the more the Democrats use it as an excuse for their crappiness, and voting Democrat kind of feels like voting in a one-party system since voting Republican was never even remotely an option.
Final score:
51points
#8
Telling someone who says they don't want kids that they'll change their minds is INFURIATING and ENRAGING. It's condescending, patronizing, and it treats them as if they don't know their own mind. It takes away all agency. Just say OK and keep all opinions and arguments to yourself, please. And whatever you do, please don't do that BUT WHYYYYY thing? You're not asking to understand; you're asking to start an argument where you undermine another person's reasons. "I just don't want to" is a reason.
Final score:
48points
Hei Hei 2 years ago
Damn right, Katie! If I had a nickel . . . . My favorite has always been, "but you're so loving. You'd be such a good mother." Ha! Let me say that again: HA! I usually reply, "you never knew my mother." (My sisters have kids, but they both broke the generations-old patterns and expectations that were laid down for us.)
#9
I’m a recently out lesbian with a pretty unsupportive family, about to head off to a private christan college for the next four years where I will, yet again, go back into hiding. :’)
(Also my cat is sitting on my chest and if she does not get off soon I’m going to pee myself before I can hit “publish”) (now I need to get THAT off my chest)
Final score:
45points
Danniee Gyrl 2 years ago
I support you!!! You got this, no one is supposed to judge you for your life. Cats are lovingly weird... we have 2
#10
I was in that 2% once, when pills didn't work. In my early 20's, I was pregnant without knowing it till the labor-pains started. Yes, I had my periods till the 9th month. No, I didn't notice any strange-moves-in-my-belly. Yes, I gained some weight, but just about 5-6 kg, didn't make me suspicious. Yes, I was on pills. I went to my house-doc with very bad cramps, only to find out, I'm in labor. In hospital, they told me, he -yes, was a boy- was born already dead. But I'm till now not sure, because I remember hearing some weak crying voice. But, maybe, just my imagination played me.
Final score:
34points
Tina Smith 2 years ago
I wish I knew what to say to help. All I can think to say is that I'm so very sorry you went through that.
#11
I get way more upset when animals die than people. Okay
Final score:
34points
#12
I am so not straight. I am pansexual. And no, it is not the same as bisexual.
Final score:
33points
#13
I think I'm depressed
Final score:
33points
#14
My parents say I stay in my room all day, but I only do it because whenever I talk to them they insult me and yell at me for not being happy enough. They are good parents and very proud of me, but in everyday life it can get exhausting to always be stepping on eggshells.
Final score:
33points
#15
Hmmm well I guess that I found out one of my friends husband was cheating on her. I don’t know what to do as she’s already been going through a lot and I don’t want to pile more on her. He’s always been a sweet guy. Should I confront him? Tell her? Do nothing!? I’ve been losing sleep over this!
Final score:
32points
Marinasongs1432 2 years ago
Tell her once you get evidence, but be there for your friend. Your friend doesn’t deserve this.
#16
My friend's been abusing me. I thought I was overreacting, but the things he's done are actually really harmful, both mentally and physically. I blocked him on most websites, but he keeps trying to find ways to talk to me.
Final score:
32points
flutterbyy 2 years ago
I'm sorry can't say much that will be of actual help, but I hope everything changes for better for you. I'm glad you were able to recognize the abuse inflicted by the "friend", that's usually the first step.
#17
Only two of my irl friends know that I'm asexual. I haven't told anyone else not because they might not be accepting, but because they will either disregard it completely or not believe me.
Also I ate the last of my sister's biscuits today and blamed it on my brother, still waiting for the guilt to set in.
Final score:
30points
#18
my dad dies when i was nine and im still f****d up about it
Final score:
29points
#19
I’m either bisexual or abrosexual, I hate being an American, I’m a Nintendo gamer, and I’m too afraid to tell my family about being in the community. It’s been haunting me in my sleep…
Final score:
28points
#20
I didn't think my life would be like this. Not bad....just very different.
Final score:
28points
#21
My mother was not a good person so I was pretty chill when she died, but three years after my favorite cat died I'm still grieving.
Final score:
28points
#22
I think I might have Asperger's. Or something like that. I just feel like I never fit in and it's killing me. I hope to understand why someday.
Final score:
26points
#24
I feel like I am the only dependable person. I am the one who has money to help, my car is always full of gas, have enough food to share . . . no one else ever seems prepared for even a rainy day, much less the rest of their life. Since I don't need bailing out I'm left out. I am not asked to parties, people ask my help to move. No one thinks of me for a fun time, only in their crisis. My cat has been a better friend than anyone for years now . . .
Final score:
26points
#25
1. I hate it when people assume that all of America is bad. How much of america is bad? 3 million people at the max. That is still less than 1% of the total population of america. So stop abusing it. Also, the US hasn’t joined the war because then China would join and it might become WWIII or a nuclear war.
2. Now to the people in America, America isn’t holy pure good! It might be strong, but stop fantasizing over it! It’s not the savior country ruler of all mankind. And what makes you think Hiroshima and Nagasaki was acceptable?
3. Honestly people. Let other people do what they want to do. Wether they are gay, transgender, Asian, or want abortion, they are still people and should be treated with respect.
4. F U VERONICA ROTH!!! If you read the ending to allegiant (divergent series you will know what I mean.)
5. Putin, you a**e. Honestly, what are you doing? And rest of the world: don’t judge all russians on the cracked government. Some of them are still nice and are protesting this.
Final score:
25points
HumanBeingFromEarth (Submission author) 2 years ago
Also! Climate change is real. Stop it now. Join the action. For my generation and all the generations after. For this planet, please, help. And GET THE VACCINE!
#26
I have trichotillomania meaning I pull out my hair. I've been doing it for the past 14 years.
Final score:
24points
#27
I really like my best friend but I could never tell them
Final score:
22points
#28
I'm concerned for all the pain voiced here in the comments. Life is hard but always remember there are other humans who care about you and identify with your pain. I hope everyone can find hope and encouragement.
Final score:
22points
#29
I grew up with drunk parents. I remember when I was about 4 years old being used as a human shield, my drunken father deciding he wants to cut my mother's ring finger off while driving, drunk, extremely fast.... Dozens of different violent occurrences. Thankfully nothing sexual.
I have been diagnosed with ASPD, Sociopathy in other words. Been married for 14 years have 2 children, 13 year old daughter and my son is about to turn 8. Turns out that along with ASPD I was at a greater risk of, you guessed it, drug abuse.
Long story short I had to complete drug classes to get my kids back. Completed the class but didn't get the kids back because we couldn't make enough money in California to get a place and escape homelessness. But, thanks to those classes, at the age of 32 I finally know what it feels like to have genuine emotions.
I'm now 34 and no one knows of my diagnosis. Wife, parents, kids. I hate this s**t. I have no one to talk to. I've never had to deal with regret.... Now I'm not only trying to figure out how to deal with losing the kids to my parents, but my wife cheated shortly after we got back to N.C with the only "friend" I thought I had.
We worked things out though. The wife, not the douche canoe. I made it pretty clear when I beat the everliving c**p out of him that I better never see him again. Baby steps right? Now, like when I was a kid, I'm alone. Not looking for sympathy. Just needed that gone so I don't slip back into old habits. Thanks to anyone that actually reads this. 🤫
We worked things
Final score:
21points
#30
(Tl;dr at the end) I swear if I get downdooted. I HATE that I share my opinions and people downvote me because they disagree. Why? I’m on the verge of getting banned. I’m over here about to get banned while we have these bots with -737 points and they haven’t got banned yet. I’ve responded to BP emails. No response. I love this community, but it makes it so hard to comment. Also, I’m a very sarcastic person and I get downvotes ALL THE TIME because people can’t take a joke. I now put (sarcasm) at the end of comments so I don’t get downvoted. I thought I could express myself on the internet. NOPE. Tl;dr: Read the post.
Final score:
20points
#31
I feel like I’m aimlessly stumbling through my life and I’m terrified I’ll get to the end and feel like I’ve achieved nothing.
Final score:
20points
#32
redo my dad died not dies when i was nine and its been about 6 years and its still messing with me
Final score:
19points
#33
I am a ghost.
I died in my sleep last December 13.
Well not really, but almost!
my wife and adult kids had to revive me and called fire-rescue, and perform CPR. I spent the next day in the ER
I am feeling some guilt about them having to be the ones to see me like that.
Cause : hypoglycemia (super low blood sugar) from accidental insulin overdose as I was learning my dosing (diabetes type 2)
As a ghost, some of the hardest things to use are touchscreen on my phone and the automatic doors at the supermarket and Target
my son hates that I joke and make light of the subject, but it is how I cope
P.s. I think that the Pixar movie "Soul" really captured that aspect of "non-being then coming back to consciousness" closely
Final score:
19points
HumanBeingFromEarth 2 years ago
After the first sentence I thought you were literally a ghost who needed help going back to the after-life.
#34
idk but i think i might be part of the lgbtq community. I just dont know fully what i define my sexuality as.
Final score:
19points
#35
I often feel worthless and not valued. I question if people really love me, and I question their motives. I don’t understand what they see in me because I don’t see it in myself. I hate the way I look, I hate my body. I’m ugly and I feel worthless.
Final score:
19points
HumanBeingFromEarth 2 years ago
Oh. Do you have someone to talk to? You aren’t worthless, I’m sure and ugly or pretty… people don’t look for that. They look for your personality. And people do love you, I’m sure. Anyway, do you have someone to talk to?
#36
I'm very scared for the future. Near future, far future, my own future life, the future of those around me... I want to stop time to catch my breath and also hurry it up to get my present over with. I'm exhausted :')
Final score:
19points
natalie cohen 2 years ago
You are not alone, but if the anxiety is overwhelming you need to start by speaking to your doctor. ❤️
#37
Thanks guys
Final score:
18points
#38
Hating my witchmother to the point,that I'll throw a Party when she finally dies.
Iwant to be able to speak to my dad again. He die 2008
Final score:
17points
#39
I don’t normally enjoy unpacking myself on others but I’ve held this in for far too long. My Mom is a wonderful woman, she loves and cares about me but something’s about her bother me. For starters she has a strong belief in science and uses this to tell me I’m not valid and I “scientifically” can’t be what I am. Then she compares me to her younger self listing all my differences as imperfections. I love my mother and don’t have anything against her but it bothers me that she puts science in front of her child’s happiness.
Final score:
17points
AW 2 years ago
To me it sounds like your mum puts "herself" and not "science" first. If she's comparing you or your traits to hers when she was at the same age, it only shows she can't connect to you or accept you because her values and views are different. Everyone can cherrypick scientific research or take certain parts out of context to prove them right. I understand this is very disheartening; as a child a lesson to learn is recognising how your parents work and understanding you are not responsible for their actions; even if it hurts
#40
I haven't had a cigarette in 13 days after smoking for more than 25 years. I'm taking Wellbutrin and using the patch to help me through and it's working but it is still hard.
I haven't told ANYONE because I can't handle people constantly asking me about it. "How's it going?" "Are you still not smoking?" "When's the last time you've had a smoke?" The reminders are a trigger for me.
I've been isolating myself from people as much as possible since this started. I figure a couple more weeks and I'll come out of my "hibernation" and get back to my regular life.
Final score:
16points
#41
I work full-time, have freelance work and online sales of my own work, and I'm still homeless living out of my car.
It has gotten ridiculously difficult to get into an apartment these days, and not only due to the high cost of rents.
Many apartment management companies haven't caught on to the new "Gig Economy" so they consider me to be unemployed and have unreliable income.
I want all greedy property owners to just die.
Final score:
15points
Rob Eman 2 years ago
*greedy landlords* is more likely what you meant. Also you should read rich dad poor dad. You too could be rich and then not blame others for your hardships (Him and his wife started their empire just like you, living in a car starting businesses from it). DM me if you need more self finance books. I was once like you until I learned what they should have taught us in school (since schools teach you to be a cog, nothing more...)
#42
I told someone I liked my best friend and that person told him and we haven’t talked in like two months. Also I know that I am lgbtq+ but I can’t figure out my sexuality.
Final score:
15points
Danniee Gyrl 2 years ago
Hi. That person sucks big time. I hope you are no longer associated with them. As for your Best Friend, see if they will meet you at a coffeehouse or at a Park, so you two can talk. If they refuse, just remember the good times and LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE.
#43
My parents are really homophobic and idk how to talk to them about it (15 and straight)
Final score:
15points
Ann Dennis 2 years ago
That's a tough one without them thinking, "oh, you must be one, too". Changing other people's opinion isn't easy, especially your parents.
#44
I ran out of dog poo bags and I left one on the ground. Also: the whole world is going to s**t and I don’t like it >:(
Final score:
15points
#45
It was me on the grassy knoll.
Final score:
14points
flutterbyy 2 years ago
Not sure why this is downvoted, but I'm all more curious to know what a grassy knoll is.
#46
The new fad of misspelling lose as loose or vice versa drives me to a level of despair I'm concerned about
Final score:
13points
#47
I (f) am married, I really love my wife, but I have a crush on my co-worker (f).
Final score:
13points
#48
I was in a relationship not too long ago with a guy that I really don't like now. He was emotionally abusive and he kept trying to get me to do stuff with him. I'm very sure that if something hadn't happened I might've been raped or forced into doing something similar. I'm also probably depressed and I'm a biromantic asexual that hasn't come out yet. I haven't told anybody except for a few people about these things. We were 13 at the time.
Final score:
12points
Trillian(from Hitchhiker’s Guide books) 2 years ago
Hey I’m panromantic asexual! And I’m sorry that you had to go through that and I hope you’re doing better <3
#49
I wish people would be nicer to each other.
Sometimes I don’t like my sister.
I think I’m lesbian. I might have a slight crush on my best friend but she’s dating another (female) friend of mine.
I stole a tiny, sparkly green toy horse somewhere between the ages of 6 and 9. Then I lied about it.
I just wish some people would go die in a hole.
Final score:
12points
#50
I'm struggling to find in-person friends and a summer job (I'm a college student). Everyone always says you'll find your people at college, and I haven't. My job let me go because business was too slow, and I was making friends there, and, long story short, they either decided not to contact me or didn't realize that I gave them my contact info on the work chat. It's also hard for me to find friends because I'm not really into a lot of the pop culture stuff, so I don't get a decent amount of references, and I'm not at the point with my driving to where I can comfortably drive by myself. Basically, I'm lonely, kinda stuck, and talking online to someone or having to start a friendship from the ground up can be mentally exhausting. It's sucks, too, hearing how some of my old friends are in relationships and yet I've never been in one. :(
Final score:
12points
Caro Caro 2 years ago
Making new friends can be tough. Sometimes you think someone is a friend and you realize they are just "acquaintances" or co-workers. Do you play an instrument? Can you join some club? Sports, music, singing, art, whatever. Try that. Find a group with like minds. Good luck!
#51
Yesterday, I Tried to take my life with painkillers paracetamol and I threw up after 2 hours so it did not work. Nobody knows that. But I’m hiding from my husband and 2 year old daughter and don’t know what to do. I don’t want to leave my daughter but my husband and I are toxic / codependent he’s abusive all that good stuff. But I’m a terrible mom a terrible friend and I don’t know if I should try again. Please don’t judge me I love my baby, I just think I’m a bad parent for her because I don’t want to live like this
Final score:
12points
Birgit M 2 years ago
Please try to reach out to someone! Maybe you could consider a telephone help line? I used one once, and the person there helped me very much. I wish I could do something for you, but I can only say this: You are not a bad mother just because you want something for yourself! You deserve to be happy!
#52
It really bothers me when you are watching a movie and the protagonist college buddy, who is down on his luck, has to stay at his and his new wife's double story 2400 sq ft mini mansion. Although, they have 6 bedrooms, 5 bathroom the down on his luck buddy has to crash on the couch where all kind of uncomfortable and embarrassing antics occur. Why can't he just stay in one of the many, many spare bedrooms?!!!!
Final score:
11points
#53
I have never told anybody this, but when I was eleven I couldn't sleep and so like the scared eleven year old I was I went to my parents room. I heard them talking so I walked in and said hi. Apparently they didn't here me so I walked to the mattress in the corner and layed down. I stayed there the whole night while my parents were doing the dirty. I knew what it was so I guess it's good that I didn't find out that way but still very scarring.
Final score:
11points
#54
I think all the people I consider as my best friends don’t consider me as their best friend.
Final score:
11points
#55
massive crush on asexual friend
also i stole a couple of books from the library
Final score:
10points
sourlemons 2 years ago
asexual doesn’t mean they don’t date unless they’re also aromantic - as long as you accept that they have boundaries, you can still have a great romantic relationship!
#57
I think I have a small crush on a fictional character! I'm way too embarrassed to say who, and I know it's stupid, however, I feel like I've been burying it down for too long now!
Final score:
10points
#58
I say this knowing good and well I’m going to sound like a complete a*****e, and I totally deserve it, but, whenever I make friends, as I learn more about them, if I find out they went through something traumatic in the past, or have harder living circumstances than I do, or have it worse than me in any way, I end up distancing myself from them. I don’t do it consciously, but it always seems to happen. I guess I’m scared of sounding spoiled or entitled, because I feel like you should be able to vent to a friend, but I’m scared if I complain that it’ll sound like I don’t care about what they went through, even though none of them have ever actually said anything that implied they’d take it that way. My brain just kinda made that up and refuses to let me not think that way. I would never do anything like that on purpose, I don’t think of them as “less” than me, I’ve always seen them as equals, but I don’t know how to stop doing it. Sorry. *emoji*
Final score:
10points
SageHare37 2 years ago
In the end, all pain stands alone. If you vent about something and they bring up their trauma that is totally unrelated, that is something they need to deal with themselves. Saying "someone has it worse" is emotionally dismissive and teaches you that your struggles are insignificant. That's not true. Your emotions are valid. I do think friends sometimes need to give us a gentle reminder if we are making a huge deal out of something that isn't ("Uh, Sage? That purse being out of stock in the color you wanted was sad, but it's been three months. Is it worth still crying over?", etc). That doesn't mean friends shouldn't validate your feelings. I'm sorry your subconscious is distancing from you from what could be some cool folks. You might give them a chance. While you can offer friendship and a listening ear, you don't need to feel guilty because you haven't the same negative experiences as them.
#59
well i seriosly need to get the allergies of my chest it iches so bad!
Final score:
9points
#60
I'm tired, miss my old life, and my anxiety has been crazy lately and I need to relax but I am around people I do NOT feel comfortable or happy around. I kinda hate her and the world sometimes. 😐
Final score:
8points
#61
The other night I couldn’t sleep. I think it was just stress from everything going on right now in the US. So I was up at 4am, just walking around quietly, cause what else do you do at night with a houseful of people? That night, like I said, I was stressed and in a bad mental state, I had cried at midnight and again right after I was up walking. Anyways the part I need to get off my chest: when I was up walking, I was dissociating, like a lot. I’m not kidding when I say it felt like I was walking around in VR, like I could’ve reached out and swiped my hand through the couch. And I dissociate a lot, it was just really bad that night. Sometimes I wonder if that’s normal, if everyone feels disconnected from their own body and what’s going on around them and it’s just something we need to talk about more, or if there’s genuinely something wrong with me. Anyways *emoji* (cause I doubt it’ll actually show the emoji if I put one)
Final score:
8points
#62
My ex threw away my journal. Nevermind how he got it but it was my most prized possession. I want it back but I’m never going to get back those years of poetry drawings and writing about love. I’m so heartbroken.
Final score:
8points
#63
I resent my mother for selling the house I grew up in, built a new house that I can't sell if she passes over me for reasons too complicated to explain, and BRAGGING to me that unless I want to move back to Alaska and live among relatives I strongly dislike, I'm not going to have an inheritance. I mostly resent her because I have never ONCE asked her about what I gain from her death and was willing to let her do what she feels she needs to do, but she keeps bringing it up. But she gets more than a little angry when I tell her I don't intend to outlive her so she's wasting her breath. 😒
Final score:
7points
natalie cohen 2 years ago
She sounds like she’s becoming mentally altered. My family had to deal with this too. For the longest time they just did maddening things that wouldn’t necessarily be indicative of a mental decline, but now looking back we see that it started way earlier than any of us understood. Do you know if she has waived her HIPPA rights (she would have to sign a form giving her physician the right to discuss her medical issues with a designated individual) It sounds like she’s put the house in a trust of some kind. You should make sure she has designated someone as her Healthcare Proxy, and has a Durable Power of Attorney set up as well. (even if it isn’t you) Good luck
#64
My boyfriend doesn’t know how to show appreciation. Even though I know he does.
Final score:
7points
#65
This is my first time posting anything on here, so here goes. I am 12 and I just got out of 6th grade and my grades were dropping. My sister went to the same school so I feel like I have to do just as good as she did but she’s always been better at school than me. I feel like my parents are gonna punish me for not getting good grades and the school doesn’t want to accommodate for my autism and ADHD. My brother and two of my friends are LGBTQ and I’m constantly worried that someone’s going to try to attack them for it. I don’t think I’m straight, but I do t no what the f**k my sexuality is so I’m worrying about that. My other friend recently had surgery on her leg and I’m worried she’s going to accidentally damage it permanently. Two of my friends live in Europe so I’m worried about them because of the war. Speaking of which, I hate what Putin is doing in Ukraine but I can’t do anything to help. I hate the way my country is going downhill (I’m American, just an FYI) and I’m worried that if things get much worse my mom is gonna move is out of the country somehow. Speaking of my family I’m also kinda hurt that my dad didn’t want me at first. Mom wanted three kids but dad wanted two. I think you can guess what number I am. I am also depressed and I have had suicidal thoughts. I actually planned out a way to kill myself and I have cut myself before, but I didn’t cut myself because I was suicidal. I did it because I got angry at myself for getting so angry at my mom for not letting me use the bathroom because I was covered with dirt and sweat from working outside. My dog who I’ve had since I was 3 I believe is on her last legs and I never really got over the death of my favorite cat. My sister also loves stealing my notebooks where I write down what my imagination comes up with, which I prefer to keep to myself since I’m self conscious about it and my sister knows that. I’m always tired and my self esteem is almost non existent. I’m sorry you had to read that, since my problems shouldn’t impact you but I really needed to get that off my chest. I don’t really have a right to post this since other people on here have actual problems unlike mine. Go ahead and downvote me. Criticize me. I don’t care. I already hate myself more than almost anyone. Nothings going to change if you insult me. I’ll survive. But thank you for reading.😔
Final score:
7points
Caro Caro 2 years ago (edited)
Don't put yourself down. You most certainly DO have a right to post here. That's what the thread is for. 1. Does the school know you have autism/ADHD? Make sure they know. 2. I'm pretty sure your parents won't punish you if your grades aren't as good as your sister - As long as you do your best. 3. You're 12 going on 13 so your sexuality will reveal itself in time. For now I suggest you let that evolve. 4. I find it really sweet that you worry about your friend - just be there for her. 5. hurting yourself is never good. Can you find someone to talk to about this? 6. I hope your dog is fine, losing an animal you love sucks. 7. Steal something precious of your sister - see how she likes that! 8. You are a lovely person. Accept who you are, love yourself. 9. A Hug from me :)
#66
This is more of a complaint than getting something off my chest, but, I've been getting stomach cramps n feeling like my stomach is full for the past few days whenever I eat and it's gotten to the point where I hate eating bc I know I'll be miserable at night. Currently sitting in an empty bathtub in pajamas at 3:37 am and my phone's at 4% because if i lay down to sleep I'll feel even worse.. 🗿
Final score:
6points
That nerd Zoe ️🇺🇦️ (Submission author) 2 years ago
Btw y'all Im still eating. I'm gonna try to convince my parents to take me to the doctor tomorrow
#67
Yesterday, I Tried to take my life with painkillers paracetamol and I threw up after 2 hours so it did not work. Nobody knows that. But I’m hiding from my husband and 2 year old daughter and don’t know what to do. I don’t want to leave my daughter but my husband and I are toxic / codependent he’s abusive all that good stuff. But I’m a terrible mom a terrible friend and I don’t know if I should try again. Please don’t judge me I love my baby, I just think I’m a bad parent for her because I don’t want to live like this
Final score:
6points
#68
My parents know I’m asexual, but keep pressuring me to have kids, when I don’t want to.
Final score:
6points
#69
OK here goes please be kind. I cannot stand Greta Thornburg. Sorry there it is off my chest. There is just something I can't put my finger on. How does she make money? How does she travel all over the world and not create some kind of carbon footprint. It's now off my chest I can now sleep more easily.
Final score:
5points
#70
1# I've basically been continuously ill since I had covid in November despite not being very ill while I was testing positive (vaxxed– between first and second vaccines,
Final score:
5points
#71
I'm not a straight perfect kid, I'm pansexual and nonbinary, and I want to go by a different name/pronouns. also I have a huge crush on a friend I haven't seen in a year. I'm always angry but cant tell anyone but random people in the internet ;p
Final score:
5points
#72
I am an introvert. I love my own company.
I am also living with my bf and our 3 daughters.
On a daily basis I daydream about being alone again. Even just for a week or so.
I do love my kids to bits and pieces and with every fiber of my being. But I miss my own time so much and I think this may be part of the reason my memory is so bad, my stress is up, I studder pretty often, forget words, and need systems and planning in order to function just fairly normally.
I look forward to when the kids leave home.
My oldest turned 5 years old today 😬 (I am so happy and proud for her, though. Her eyes shined like rivers of gold all day because she was so excited about everything that happened today).
Final score:
5points
SageHare37 2 years ago
There is nothing wrong with desiring a solo vacation, or even a staycation when everyone else goes on vacation and you get time alone. I think most of the world after the past two years needs a break to be alone. If you are struggling with executive function, you might consult a physician or a councilor as it may be a sign you need some changes. Aside from what your physician suggests, you might consider weekly "alone time". Perhaps you and your bf could take turns taking the kids to a park while the other stays home, or watching the kids while the other parent goes somewhere to get some alone time, like a coffee shop or a park bench. Wanting some alone time doesn't mean you are less of a parent, you are still a human.
#73
I don't want to work. I have no real ambition for a career. This idea you must "be someone and make tons of money" feels like it's been programmed into our heads since elementary school. Most of us will manage to be well-off enough to live comfortably in a little home. Many will struggle to earn a decent living and be stuck at a job they loath because... money. I don't want to interact with people everyday, but I must to get my art out there.
I don't want to work and have people yell down my ear over their issues. I don't want to work. I want to sleep. Just... sleeeeep .. .. forever....
Final score:
5points
Elliot Fowler 2 years ago
You know what is weird. Effort feels good. All humans feel pride after accomplishing a task that required effort no matter what it was (example, building a piece of furniture yourself, drawing an art piece, etc.). But for some reason this joy is not exist at work. Why is that? what is wrong with the way people work? (from ‘Anti-Work’: 59 Of The Most Accurate Capitalism Tweets And Jokes That Prove We Already Live In Orwellian World)
#74
Pretty much everything I have ever done
Final score:
3points
#75
I love road trips, but I really don't want to take this one.
I had a very long post prepared, but I think it's best if I keep that to my journal.
Final score:
3points
#76
This might be a lot, so be prepared.
I’m only 11, but I have a lot going on. So, I’m in a friend group of 3. We’re in the break between elementary and middle school. I’m not going to school with either of them next yr. The male, Jude, it’s hid middle name, I’m in love with. He dosent know. The female, Juliet, well, I’ll get to that later. So Jude’s parents are getting divorced, and he is moving in with his dad. He therefore, will be going to a diff school then everyone thinks, he has only told me any of this. (Originally he was going to School with Juliet.) I’m going to a private school. He and Juliet are in a fight. We communicate through roblox, but Juliet and jude have unfriended each other. So me and jude are pranking Juliet by me telling her that he hasn’t been online in like a month. Therefore, when she goes to school and he’s not there, it will be ‘confirmed’ that he’s dead. And for some reason, I don’t feel guilty at all. Should I? Also, Jude is going to go to school with a girl who has a crush on him that we knew previously. Which she told me that she liked him and told me not to tell him. But I did, I feel guilty. And he knows that she will be going to that school.
Next, I think I’m bi and have only told Juliet, but I told her over roblox even though we can text whenever we want. The problem is that a: I’m only pretty sure, but even if I knew then I wouldn’t tell anyone else. B: when I told her, she left the game. Then joined me later and acted like nothing had happened.
Next, I’m always called super smart and intelligent, and etc by everyone. But I’m pretty sure I’m Juliet and jude are actually smarter than me even though they always say that I’m smarter. Also, Jude always says that he’s stupid, but he’s actually rlly smart (I’m not just saying that cause I’m in love with him)
I’m actually rlly depressed, but I don’t tell anyone bc then they’ll say I’m just faking for the attention.
Juliet broke her arm, but for some reason, I’m don’t feel sorry for her.
I write stories, and have won several contests, but I don’t think I’m actually good at it.
I’m Srry for my rant, but thanks for reading!
Final score:
3points
Reece Aster 2 years ago
What you call 'pranking' just sounds mean. What I regret from that age was all the gossip and bullying.
#77
The last person I considered a close friend stopped communicating with me recently. If it weren't for my So I would be completely alone, I got out of the army in 2014 and every year since I lose connection with someone. (No it's not me, it's time I guess. I really don't know)
Final score:
3points
Demongrrrrl 2 years ago
Ask them why. Say"I've noticed we aren't as close as we used to be. Did I do something wrong? What can I do better?"
#78
I'm in love w my best friend and lm pretty sure he likes my other friend
Final score:
2points
#79
Addictive. The word is addictive NOT addicting. Drives me mental every. Single. Time.
Final score:
2points
#80
on the topic w my friends, i told them i found the idea of masturbation disgusing and i dont know why and got hated on :(
Final score:
2points
#81
✴️Hubby & I are BOTH RETIRED (Me (@57) Hubby (@55) We"WORK"even though TECHNICALLY we're SENIOR CITIZENS🧓We watch our ACTIVE Grandson (4) days/week🧍Now, Me (71) Hubby (68) Since we've watched our Grandson from "Baby-Baby" to ALMOST (4) we're ACTIVE (NO BREAKS on our watch🙂Hubby up@4:00A🌄Me up@5:00AM🌅We live in SENIOR🏢HOUSING (Community🌲Park across the street🙂LIFE is GOOD EXCEPT for PEOPLE who IGNORE US (PEOPLE walk FAST & have NO MANNERS for "SENIORS" (PERSONALLY❓It's as though we're INVISIBLE and MOST people are RUDE‼️ i'm GLAD we're NOT OLD to KEEP UP with an almost (4) year old💜
Final score:
2points
#82
I have terrible relationship commitment issues and when things get to serious I run away.
Final score:
1point
*Displayname*=idk 2 years ago
Try getting the other person to slow down . It night be moving to fast and that is why it seems to serious. Like you just stack a little at a time. Idk I've never really had any serious relationships .
#83
Mmmmm I HATE the fact that I practically rely on relationships to keep me upright. Ever since I was young even before second grade (I’m going into junior year of High School now) I’ve had what I call a Disney Princess complex because I’ve always HAD to have a crush or a partner or else there was just this,,, void in my gut- not necessarily horrible but it felt like I was missing a part of me- this has led to me being assaulted in relationships, even assaulting others (in the means of forcing them into a kiss IN 1ST AND 2ND GRADE I HAVE NOT DONE IT SINCE I WAS YOUNG AND DIDNT KNOW), and breaking other people’s hearts when the dream suddenly stopped because I don’t know I’d get a weird feeling in my gut like something was off and leave.
I don’t know if this DPC was started by my obsession with Disney movies or my (maybe it’s still getting diagnosed) ADHD/maybe more or by my parents teasing. The worst part is I’m starting to see me in my little sister who’s going into 1st grade as in she’s chasing down boys her age and calling them her boyfriend (they’re not I’ve had a little boy come crying to me) and getting all over them. It’s reminded me so much of myself I’ve started a subconscious hatred of that side of her and I hate myself for hating that valuable sweet young girl, it tears me apart.
Ugh honestly the worst part is how I know and have to live with the fact I’ll never have a first time for virtually anyone romantically or sexually and also the fact that I stole many young boys’ first kisses but I’m glad we moved so they never have to face me the person who took that important memory from them ever again.
I hate having to love someone but I love loving people on my own, I just wish that I could be single in peace and not have to chase down any boys or girls continuously to have peace, it could’ve saved me and other people’s innocence
Thank you for listening
Final score:
1point
#84
I’m pansexual, but my parents don’t know. Siblings and a couple others do though.
This one is kinda weird/embarrassing… each night I wait for my parents to fall asleep. Then spend most of the night reading fan fiction. Not the sexual ones though THOSE ARE WEIRD!
Sometimes I pretend to be a character from a video game or move or tv show that I like. Then basically a fanfic in my head while kinda acting it out. I’m weird.
I promised my siblings that I’ll get therapy in high school due to our mother but secretly I feel like I can’t trust a therapist to not tell my mom anything. I’m paranoid that my mom will find out anything I say about her and will punish me…
Final score:
1point
*Displayname*=idk 2 years ago
I do the same. I read a story/manga and make a fan fiction in my head, or i read fan fiction and reenact them in my head in different ways. I never told nobody so you are the first person who I ever told.
#85
I'm not a straight perfect kid, I'm pansexual and nonbinary, and I want to go by a different name/pronouns. also I have a huge crush on a friend I haven't seen in a year. I'm always angry but cant tell anyone but random people in the internet ;p
Final score:
0points
#86
My friend is moving in with me when her lease runs up at the end of the month. The day after I agreed she could move in she basically moved in. I had really wanted that month for alone time. I tried talking to her about wanting alone time, but she guilted me again. She is a good friend, but she manipulates me and guilts me more than my Jewish grandmother ever did.
Final score:
0points
#87
Mmmmm I HATE the fact that I practically rely on relationships to keep me upright. Ever since I was young even before second grade (I’m going into junior year of High School now) I’ve had what I call a Disney Princess complex because I’ve always HAD to have a crush or a partner or else there was just this,,, void in my gut- not necessarily horrible but it felt like I was missing a part of me- this has led to me being assaulted in relationships, even assaulting others (in the means of forcing them into a kiss IN 1ST AND 2ND GRADE I HAVE NOT DONE IT SINCE I WAS YOUNG AND DIDNT KNOW), and breaking other people’s hearts when the dream suddenly stopped because I don’t know I’d get a weird feeling in my gut like something was off and leave.
I don’t know if this DPC was started by my obsession with Disney movies or my (maybe it’s still getting diagnosed) ADHD/maybe more or by my parents teasing. The worst part is I’m starting to see me in my little sister who’s going into 1st grade as in she’s chasing down boys her age and calling them her boyfriend (they’re not I’ve had a little boy come crying to me) and getting all over them. It’s reminded me so much of myself I’ve started a subconscious hatred of that side of her and I hate myself for hating that valuable sweet young girl, it tears me apart.
Ugh honestly the worst part is how I know and have to live with the fact I’ll never have a first time for virtually anyone romantically or sexually and also the fact that I stole many young boys’ first kisses but I’m glad we moved so they never have to face me the person who took that important memory from them ever again.
I hate having to love someone but I love loving people on my own, I just wish that I could be single in peace and not have to chase down any boys or girls continuously to have peace, it could’ve saved me and other people’s innocence
Thank you for listening
Final score:
0points
#88
Mmmmm I HATE the fact that I practically rely on relationships to keep me upright. Ever since I was young even before second grade (I’m going into junior year of High School now) I’ve had what I call a Disney Princess complex because I’ve always HAD to have a crush or a partner or else there was just this,,, void in my gut- not necessarily horrible but it felt like I was missing a part of me- this has led to me being assaulted in relationships, even assaulting others (in the means of forcing them into a kiss IN 1ST AND 2ND GRADE I HAVE NOT DONE IT SINCE I WAS YOUNG AND DIDNT KNOW), and breaking other people’s hearts when the dream suddenly stopped because I don’t know I’d get a weird feeling in my gut like something was off and leave.
I don’t know if this DPC was started by my obsession with Disney movies or my (maybe it’s still getting diagnosed) ADHD/maybe more or by my parents teasing. The worst part is I’m starting to see me in my little sister who’s going into 1st grade as in she’s chasing down boys her age and calling them her boyfriend (they’re not I’ve had a little boy come crying to me) and getting all over them. It’s reminded me so much of myself I’ve started a subconscious hatred of that side of her and I hate myself for hating that valuable sweet young girl, it tears me apart.
Ugh honestly the worst part is how I know and have to live with the fact I’ll never have a first time for virtually anyone romantically or sexually and also the fact that I stole many young boys’ first kisses but I’m glad we moved so they never have to face me the person who took that important memory from them ever again.
I hate having to love someone but I love loving people on my own, I just wish that I could be single in peace and not have to chase down any boys or girls continuously to have peace, it could’ve saved me and other people’s innocence
Thank you for listening
Final score:
0points
What do you think ?
HumanBeingFromEarth 2 years ago
Some of these are so sad… message to all pandas, you are loved and not useless and people who matter will support you no matter what. And those who don’t support you don’t matter.
Boreddd🇺🇦 2 years ago
Pandas, I think we should initiate a bored panda discord server so we can all chat about our problems and other s**t, bc the comments get mixed up
RandomFrog 2 years ago
IM TRANS. NO ITS NOT A PHASE. NO, YOUR NOT PREVENTING ME FROM MAKING SOME “BIG MISTAKE” BY NOT ACCEPTING ME AS TRANS. NOTHIGN YOU DO WILL STOP ME BEING TRANS AND I HATE THAT TOU THINK YOUR HELPING ME. AAAAAAAAAAA. I just want to be a boy 😢
A.D 2 years ago
People aren't owed anything. You don't deserve a drama free, pain free life. The cashier doesn't need to take an extra percentage off and the manager doesn't have to comp your meal simply because you didn't get a perfect experience. Foreign people aren't all bad . Politics suck and I'm not registered to vote. My right isn't wasted because I choose not to participate in a flawed system.
HumanBeingFromEarth 2 years ago
Some of these are so sad… message to all pandas, you are loved and not useless and people who matter will support you no matter what. And those who don’t support you don’t matter.
Boreddd🇺🇦 2 years ago
Pandas, I think we should initiate a bored panda discord server so we can all chat about our problems and other s**t, bc the comments get mixed up
RandomFrog 2 years ago
IM TRANS. NO ITS NOT A PHASE. NO, YOUR NOT PREVENTING ME FROM MAKING SOME “BIG MISTAKE” BY NOT ACCEPTING ME AS TRANS. NOTHIGN YOU DO WILL STOP ME BEING TRANS AND I HATE THAT TOU THINK YOUR HELPING ME. AAAAAAAAAAA. I just want to be a boy 😢
A.D 2 years ago
People aren't owed anything. You don't deserve a drama free, pain free life. The cashier doesn't need to take an extra percentage off and the manager doesn't have to comp your meal simply because you didn't get a perfect experience. Foreign people aren't all bad . Politics suck and I'm not registered to vote. My right isn't wasted because I choose not to participate in a flawed system.
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