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Sometimes we just feel like someone needs to know what's happening. But here are some rules:
1. be nice and support each other;
2. let's not talk politics;
3. don't use names when mentioning people.
Thank you so much!
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#1
Biological sex is not binary, so how can gender be binary? Pronouns are determined by language based on gender. Pronouns are a form of identity. My pronouns reflect my identity. Why should I deny the pronouns of others just because I think I know better about their sex and/or gender?
Final score:
31points
crowspectre (he/they) 1 year ago
Yeah! In addition, sex and gender are really not corresponding. They're tied together loosely by gender norms (expectation of a man to have a d**k, expectation of a woman to have titties), but they aren't the same thing. Gender is a social construct that had no meaning outside of what we as humans give it. It's just social norms grouped together in ways that correspond with people.
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#2
When a woman tells you she doesn't want to have kids please just go with it and say "okay"
Final score:
29points
#3
No matter how hard you try, not everyone is going to like you. Some people just won't like because of them. They have a problem and want to take it out on you, or a friend.
I've learned this the hard way, and have gotten very hurt in the process. Just stick with the people and friends you know best. If someone is every a complete jerk to you, unprovoked, just know that it's isn't your fault. It's something with them and they need serious help.
If you think you're one of those "jerks", please get some help. Wether that be therapy or a better friend/ friend group.
Being a people pleaser is very stressful, I see it in my mother all the time.
Don't try to get them to like you, of they don't, just roll with it. Don't let them get to you.
Final score:
26points
#4
It is okay to have and show emotions.
Final score:
25points
just a girl who loves books 1 year ago
yes! every time my parents get on me about 'tone of voice,' i am convinced they want me to wander around like a mindless amoeba w) no emotion! We need to express ourselves!
#5
Parents, please take this to heart. If you raise your child in a strict environment and you're strict in general, you are going to do the exact opposite of what you want. They aren't going to be an angel child whatsoever. They are going to find every way to do what you don't want them to, and they are going to do it in the most unsafe way possible. So please, let your kid have at least a healthy amount of freedom so they don't end up in a bad situation.
Final score:
18points
#6
People aren't thinking about you nearly as much as you think they are. They generally don't care about the little tiny day-to-day mistakes that you make, and they probably don't hate you for the stupid reasons that sometimes make you hate yourself.
Final score:
17points
#7
Just because they have to take your order does not mean that customer service workers are there to be your emotional dumpsters! If you spend the whole day taking poop from your management, and you feel like c**p at the end of it, that is understandable. However, find another, healthier place and method for discharging all that negative vibe. Your local recreation center employee or McDonald's drive-through employee do not deserve your "righteous" wrath!
Final score:
16points
#8
1.its better to adopt kids then make your own
2.when you don't want a pet anymore or cant take care of it. don't throw it on the streets, find them a new home
3.Anime sucks (im serous)
please feel free to leave hate comment my post. i love reading hate comments
Final score:
16points
* ~ l a s a n y a ~ * 1 year ago
Point 1, debatable. Point 2, ofc. Point 3, it depends which anime, some are terrible..
#9
Be kind to everyone. If someone is a jerk (acts like one) it often means they're scared. Sometimes of you, and sometimes because they think they'll lose something if you gain. Therefore if you are kind to everyone, you disarm them.
Final score:
15points
just a girl who loves books 1 year ago
that whole 'kill em with kindness' thing DOES work! (most of the time, anyways)
#10
- Freedom of speech does not equal freedom of concequences.
- Your religion is like a part of the male anatomy. It's fine if you have one, but there is no need to shove it down peoples throats.
- Just because you don't like something, doesn't mean I should change it. Especially if it's something that really doesn't cause harm in any way
Final score:
13points
#11
I'm proud of you. If you achieved all your goals, I'm proud of you. If you achieved some of your goals, I'm proud of you. If all you did was stay alive today, I'm proud of you. You did a great job today.
Final score:
13points
#12
BECAUSE I AM AN ONLY CHILD DOES NOT MEAN I AM A SPOILED BRAT.
I am an only child and I never had another kid to play with, or have another kid to learn how to solve problems/conflicts correctly. THAT IS NOT OUR FAULT!!! Also, we get nice things, because our parents have less mouths too feed/clothe/etc. just me, my mom, and my dad. Do not automatically assume that only children are spoiled because we aren’t. We are so lonely that we don’t know what to do. We don’t have someone else to hold our hand through hard times. Please, don’t ever assume about only children.
Final score:
13points
Hales M 1 year ago
When people use all caps, I'm sure they do it to draw attention to something... but when you read all caps, you read it in a voice of someone yelling at you. When you say you're not spoiled in all caps, I read it in a whiny bratty rich valley girl voice because her step dad didn't buy her the louis Vuittons she wanted... my point being, your delivery undercuts your point and I am saying that as an only-child who worked multiple jobs and side hustles to go to university.
#13
It costs you nothing to be kind, but the rewards are endless.
Just because you can, doesn't mean you should.
Everyone has opinions, and sometimes those change within moments.
The only person's opinion that matters is the person staring back at you from the mirror.
Final score:
13points
#15
Sometimes what you want is the worst thing that can ever happen to you. Don't obsess about a goal, just let life show you the way and you'll see it was worth it
Final score:
12points
#16
It isn't fair to compare anyone with kids to someone without kids. You shouldn't ever, as an outsider looking in, assume that someone's life is easy or they don't have responsibility because they don't have children. You know nothing about someone else's life and what ia happening in it. It's true not everyone wants kids/can have kids but never make assumptions about someone's life. Some women don't have kids because rhey can't; some because they don't want them both of which are fine. But the moment you look at someone's performance in anything-- how often they take personal days, how much makeup they have on etc and say well "so-in-so has three kids and somehow they can manage" you are comparing two totally different people, with different lives, different skills, different situations on a very skewed, highly biased and antiquated metrics. Not all women can be divided into those with kids and those with no responsibilities-- you wouldn't do that with men, don't do that with women (especially when you are a woman yourself, shame on you.)
Final score:
12points
Jeya Mackelle 1 year ago
Agree 100% percent. There are some parents who believe because they have children, they immediately have it harder and therefore should be treated with more sympathy and coddled more. Yes, kids are difficult, and I understand there are circumstances that call you home or where you may need some time to work through your issues, but you don't get special treatment. You and I(a childless, single woman)both have c**p we have to deal with in our personal lives.
#17
You will never feel free. You will always have some restraints.
Final score:
11points
everett (Submission author) 1 year ago
Sorry I wanted to add on: "But you need to know how far those restraints can go and be you."
#18
It’s okay to not like something. You are allowed to not like something that your friends really like, and it doesn’t make you any different!
Final score:
10points
#19
If the guy who got you pregnant is a lazy dead-beat and you think that having their baby will make them "snap out of it" and finally "step up"", then don't be surprised when you get shafted and end up raising little Junior all by yourself.
Final score:
9points
Huddo's sister 1 year ago
Also don't try and raise a child with someone just because you think all children need two parents. One great, committed parent is better than two s****y ones. It's also okay to admit that even if they are a good person, the two of you together don't work.
#20
No one knows what they are doing. Most 'adults' are just as clueless and anxious as you feel most of the time...or is this just me? - I definitely don't know what I am doing but people still trust me to be in charge.
Final score:
9points
#21
Nobody cares about representation in books, comics, movies or games if the stories and characters suck, it will only throw more shade on the represented groups.
Using established fandoms / properties and changing them to appease some Keyboard Warriors on the internet won't net anything and shutting down any criticism with calling people sexist, racist or that alike is nothing else than exploiting women / minorities as shield.
But I bet the people that need to hear this aren't around on BP
Final score:
9points
crowspectre (he/they) 1 year ago
The first one is absolutely right. I love seeing representation and I rarely get it (trans and gay) but if I got it in the form of an offensively stereotypical character created only for 'diversity points' I'd rather it not exist. I don't want to be used as a way for shows to claim that they're diverse and cool, I want to see real rep
#22
Nobody wants to hear your phone on speaker, music or conversations
Final score:
9points
Hales M 1 year ago
Omg yes. I was in a horrible 3hr long traffic jam (the interstate closed because of a bad accidentso they were filtering everyone off slowly. It was literally dead stopped for 2 of those hours). I spent it next to a transport truck that blared EDM so loudly that it was heavily distorted and literally rattled my car. It was like a form of torture... I had a headache that became a migraine in those 3hrs. I have to assume the driver of the truck was deaf and had accidentally cranked the volume all the way up.
#23
I love you. Someone or other you know loves you. You may not know it, but that someone is out there.
Don't just look for them tho. BE that person as well! Love yourself, and love others who deserve it.
And I still love you, and always will. :)
Final score:
9points
#24
Nothing.Just do your own good ,don't listen to others too much .It can get too noisy sometimes.
Final score:
8points
#25
You, every one of you, have and are living an extraordinary and unique life. No matter what you might think, your life is your own and no one has or will live it but you.
Final score:
8points
#27
if your kid is refusing to eat vegetables, try ranch
Final score:
7points
#28
Giving others rights does not take away your rights. When the US solidified gay and interracial marriage last year you would have thought queer people were going around breaking up marriages.
Final score:
7points
Danish Susanne 1 year ago
It has always been a mystery to me, why some people should think, that 2 men wanting to marry would be a threat to marriage?
#29
FURRIES ARE NOT THAT BAD, YOU TREAT US LIKE S**T, WE DESERVE BETTER
Final score:
6points
Catastrophisticate 1 year ago
Honestly, the way some people treat differences... it's no wonder they make their world so bleak and dreary. I just wish they would stop trying to push that darkness, anger and depression onto others. I'm not a furry, which kinda makes it none of my business... it makes you and others happy, and isn't harmful. Rock on, furry friends! <3
#30
It's a bit of a cliche, but just think before you do something 'would i like this if it was someone else doing it?' For example loud music is great...... when it's YOU that's playing it, when it's a neighbour it's not so great. People that park in disabled bays when they're not disabled... they always seem to have justified it to themselves on a reason they'd call b******t on if someone else tried to use the same one.
We just seem to have a scummy undercurrent of people that then go on to teach their kids the same kinds of lack of respect for others here on this planet we're all sharing and at some point if we want to deal with the underlying issue then the consequences for being a d******d are going to have to be raised cause the ones for being one now don't seem to stop them.
Final score:
6points
#31
I hope everything is okay between us. You've seemed really distant lately. I hope your girlfriend hasn't finally come between us. You were one of my best friends. Yes, I know, we've only known each other since September but you are. But I don't know if you still think we're friends or just people who know each other. I love you and I'm always here when you want to talk again. See you soon.
Final score:
6points
#32
The truth backed by real facts.
Final score:
5points
* ~ l a s a n y a ~ * 1 year ago
People: (for example) "water isn't real!" me: "evidence?" them: "water isn't real!" sorry it's a trashy example but it's true.
#33
Good and bad things happen to everyone. You're not the chosen one, neither the worst person ever born.
Final score:
5points
* ~ l a s a n y a ~ * 1 year ago
the chosen one has worse things happen to everyone than the rest of them.
#34
Don't judge a person because of their looks, money, race, etc. Karma is a thing, you know. 😄
Final score:
5points
#35
Just because you were able to do something, it doesn't mean everybody else can do it. We were all born with a different set of tools, and life has been completely different for each of us.
Final score:
5points
#36
whoever you are, wherever you are. You are loved, even if you don't believe you're loveable.
Final score:
4points
Penny Polek 1 year ago
thats what i keep telling myself, but i have to face the facts, im an a*s😅
#37
Instead of right clicking then selecting copy then right clicking and selecting paste ctrl+c and ctrl+v is a well known, well established shortcut that you would do well to learn, Brenda. Just because you aren't aware of it doesn't mean you should dictate what shortcuta people are allowed to use. You may prefer to drag your job out but you should take the opportunity to learn new skills such as keyboard shortcuts instead of berating the person who managed to take your 8hr a day task and finish it in 5hrs while doing it more accurately.
Ps. Cut is just copying with deleting... instead of copying then deleting haphazardly. Your welcome.
Final score:
4points
#38
Just that kindness still exist in this world and don't loose faith in yourself.Depression is real but that feeling is caused by a chemical imbalance mainly serotonin so it's not real as well.This means your depression is not your fault.Don't hesitate to talk about it or see a doctor.If nothing works then give it some time and keep faith in God .
Final score:
4points
#39
I'd like my deceased mum and dad to know that we have Liddy and CJ, my niece and nephew, and that they are safe. I'd also like them to know that despite their situation, they've become amazingly mature and good kids - especially CJ. I feel so proud and delighted that they love us and trusted us enough to make this huge step. I'm giddy, almost like I've just given birth. Monday morning was heartbreaking and wonderful all at once, and probably one of the best Mondays I've ever had.
Final score:
4points
#40
To experts in the field. Not all of them, but the ones that judge a parent or tell you that 'no, that would never happen, you are just wrong'. Please realize that living a situation is VERY different from simply learning about it. I've been blasted a couple times on line, called a terrible parent/person, or a liar, when I've shared stories on autism support groups. Sometimes what they have been taught will NOT work for every child. And if anyone should understand the idea of 'if you've met one person with autism it means you've met ONE person with autism', it would be you.
Final score:
3points
#41
Arranged marriages and in some cases relation with relatives are both based on Stockholm syndrome.
Final score:
3points
* ~ l a s a n y a ~ * 1 year ago
Or the subject of my submission to this challenge/post thing...
#42
There's this guy (I'll call him C) who I asked why he hates me because whenever I say something he ridicules it and when I get mad at C for ridiculing everything I say he calls me a Karen. Also, when I am having an argument with someone C butts in, and is never on my side. If I stop being friends with C, everyone in my friend group is friends with him, and then they might stop being friends with me, and then I would have no friends. One person in the friend group doesn't like C either but I'm sure she'd rather stay in the group...What do I do?
Final score:
1point
mutedtempest 1 year ago
Are you in school? Because this reads like you are. Popularity is fleeting and if someone is making you uncomfortable there's no reason to continue interacting with them. The "group" isn't that great if none of them deign to support you. I promise school friendships are mostly superficial - some last, but most don't. And making yourself continually uncomfortable to "keep" a group that doesn't stick up for you isn't worth it. I'm sure there are plenty of people you can make friends with that aren't following C around like a puppy.
#43
i need my son to hear that i love him more than the dog (and for him to know, i mean it).
Final score:
1point
#44
Sayings have context and are not easy ways out of discussions.
"Do not speak ill of the dead" is for the evryman, like your aunt sheryll who drank a bit too much at family dinners. It is not for people who represent a system of oppression or that kind of things (e.g. queen elizabeth who ruled over colonisation of a lot of countries. i'm not talking about outright celebrating her death but about those who used the do not speak ill of the dead argument to shut down the voices of people from those countries)
Same thing for "separate the art from the artist": Separate the art from the artist is for people like Roald Dahl and Lovecraft who are dead and don't use their money to promote hateful ideology. JK Rowling for example makes money with her work and uses it for harmful ideologies and campaigns. you cannot separate the art from the artist when it enables the artist.
Final score:
-3points
What do you think ?
Odin Schmidt 1 year ago
"1. be nice and support each other; 2. let's not talk politics; 3. don't use names when mentioning people." What I need people to hear would violate rules 2 and 3, so.............
just a girl who loves books (Post author) 1 year ago
is there any way you can share that without using names?
Load More Replies... Odin Schmidt 1 year ago
"1. be nice and support each other; 2. let's not talk politics; 3. don't use names when mentioning people." What I need people to hear would violate rules 2 and 3, so.............
just a girl who loves books (Post author) 1 year ago
is there any way you can share that without using names?
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