Everyone has standards, but everyone is into different things!
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Table manners. Don’t chew with your mouth open. Don’t talk with food in your mouth. Use the napkin.
And if we are at a restaurant, be gracious and treat the staff like they are human beings.
Take their time, to taste and enjoy their meal. Use their fork/spoon/knife properly.
How they treat waitresses/waiters and also how they react to beggars, I think it’s a small test to observe their empathy level and kindness.
This will tell you everything about a person. How you treat others, shows a lot about a person's character in life.
My date needs to be intelligent. I know people with degrees that don't seem to have two brain cells to rub together and high school drop outs that can verbally run you through with their wit.
So it's not the degrees on the wall I'm looking for but the degrees to which they engage my brain.
Same here. Also if it gets to a point where I get invited back to their place, you can bet your butt I'll be looking at their bookshelves to see what they read (and hopefully IF they read!)
I’ve noticed lately that I can’t date women who have had easy lives. It’s great they live had proper parents but I need someone who had it difficult and saved themselves, like I had to. There is a difference.
"Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle" I highly doubt that you can accurately gauge the difficulty of someones life on first glance or even after months of contact.
Someone who knows how to communicate and pays attention to the little things about me...(my likes and dislikes) someone who gives little surprises every now and then. There doesn't have to be a reason..just to put a smile on my face... (Because I like to do these things for them too) it keeps a relationship interesting and alive...it makes my heart beat a different kind of way😂😩
How they act around their family. If they're rude or disrespectful or sarcastic or fake, it's a no.
What if they don't have a family? Or their family is toxic and they can't cut ties with their family?
Someone who accepts me for who I am...and really just someone who cares as little as I do about most things. People have feet, you're going to see them. Body hair is normal, shaved or not it doesn't matter. If I haven't brushed my teeth yet, my breath is going to smell bad so either get outta my face or don't care.
Like my body is a very real thing, and if you want me you won't care. Reality isn't like what you see or read about online hun.
People are worried about feet now? WONDERFUL!! Yay! Woohoo, let's throw a parade! 🙃🙃🙃🙃
Anyone who'll have me :) Seriously though, anyone who turns up to a date and doesn't spend the whole time on their phone is pretty much in like flynn
Honestly, I hate when guys don't understand a woman's needs. Like if I am having a bad day or on my period, you better be there for me.
Depends on how you express your needs during a period and if you think someone should just magically know if your've having one or not or whether you actually.. in words.. tell someone. Otherwise you're basically hating someone for not being able to mind rea your thoughts without having to express them like an adult.
This is really silly, but when ever I choose a partner, I usually look for little things I’m always attracted to. Do they have an accent? Do they hug me from behind? Call me pet names? Get just a little possessive and jealous when others try to flirt with me?
I do have a rule though- I try not to date people shorter than me. Nothing against short people, but I’m already short, and I wanna balance it out, you know?
I couldn't understand this. I find it odd to put so much emphasis on one of the only features that cannot be changed. That's just me though.
Strangest Dating Standards
I'm not sure if any of my standards are strange but here goes:
*Someone who is not jealous
*Someone who is not a huge sports fan,
*Someone who is not into reality TV,
*Someone who possess a respectable intelligence level
*Does not have time consuming hobbies that mean we don't spend much time together.
*Someone who does not possess abhorrent political views
*Not overly religious.
Someone who is intelligent and ambitious. It sounds pretty obvious but most people I have met are too into video games or shows and have little knowledge of whats going on in the world. By ambitious I mean someone who wants to better themselves and has long term goals. I find those two things to be extremely attractive.
For me, it's not so much a particular habit as it is the entire experience. It more or less comes down to asking myself one question:
Does this person make my life more meaningful / enjoyable / happy?
If the answer is not emphatically "yes," then that person will not meet my standard.
Don't get me wrong; there are a few characteristics that would earn someone a "hell no!" right from the start (bigotry, ignorance, chauvinist, addict, etc.)... however, I do happen to like my own company just fine and there is absolutely no point wasting my life in a relationship that doesn't add any value to it.
Fortunately, I was lucky enough to find (and marry) that person a long time ago... and I told him then (just as I still tell him now):
I don't NEED you, but I certainly do LOVE you. I wouldn't be here if I didn't.
He's my best friend in the whole world and I wouldn't have it any other way.
I don’t like the company of other humans. I am happiest by myself. I get sick of people really fast. So if I date you, I need to be at least as happy to be around you as I am by myself. Otherwise the entire thing is pointless.
How they treat waitresses/waiters and also how they react to beggars, I think it’s a small test to observe their empathy level and kindness.
Self awareness. If you suck at something, own it. If you’re the GOAT, make it known. If you’re weird, let your freak flag fly. I want to know who you really are, but, more importantly, I need YOU to know who you really are.
Must be my husband. In seriousness must have similar values. Kindness. Empathy. And like not just love me
Can't use the word "like" more than once every five minutes
I KNOWW!! IT'S SUCH A TURN OFF EVEN FOR ME!! IT SOUNDS SOO WEIRD! IT JUST GIVES OFF A VERY OVERALL ENTITLED VIBE!
Visible dental plaque and tartar are a no go for me. Poor hygiene in general. If you plan to sleep at my place and don't bring your toothbrush, you will not come twice.
Im ok with aying we are dating, but i dont want to do anything romantic. Basically just act like friends but no romance with the label of bf/gf or date mate. Idk
Something about the way a person kisses is big to me, and which kisses they like. The big one is people who love giving AND recieving neck kisses! If you do, you jump up a few pegs on my attractiveness scale lol
I know this is going to sound weird.
Texting/Phone Etiquette is a must
1. Text everything all at once
Do not send a bunch text back to back on the same subject.
2. Do not call me back to back or keep texting me until I answer.
(I might be busy, at work, or not wanting to talk)
3. Text me first to make sure I am available.
4. I am not a phone talker.
IF IT IS AN EMERGENCY or something of importance let me know, at the beginning of the call. IF you are calling just to chit chat about nothing...I will end the call.
5. If you are having side conversations with the people around you, I will hang up on you.
if i text him something kinda long, i DO NOT want him to just respond with "oh". also, he shouldn't be commenting on every bad thing i do. he also should have a sense of humor.
My potential future girlfriend has to be also my best friend, I don't understand how can people maintain relationships with, like, zero things in common. But we're talking about weird standards here, so... I'm looking for a Star Wars fan, and I mean ALL of Star Wars, including recent/less popular entries to the franchise. I doubt I could live with someone who sneers at me for liking The Last Jedi.
I have no clue why, but no guys, I just have no feelings for them. It may be because every guy I've ever met doesn't respect my pronouns (They/She) or the fact that I am genderless ("you look like a girl though") or that I also am polyromantic ("but you like every other gender? that's sexist!" "you are only romantically attracted to people? lame") or it may just be my horrible ex, but I still cannot bear the thought of dating a man.
Sense of humour. Open minded and polite. With polite I mean to everybody. Me, my friends and family, waiting staff, taxi-drivers, whatever. But not a sucker. Just because he's kind doesn't mean he's a push over... Has confidence to act nuts and make fun of himself. Oh --- and he better like cheese ;)