Hey Pandas, What Are Your Problems? Let’s Try To Solve Them In The Comments (Closed)

just wear a mask and hope for the best.

Well, we can hope.

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Find topics that you both will enjoy!

When you interact with others in a social setting, imagine a neon sign above your head saying, "I'm a really interesting person and well worth getting to know". You might be surprised at the difference it makes.

just be safe when you do go to these platforms... they can be shady

1) choose target, try to choose someone who you would see regularly 2) approach target (if they don't look busy) 3)start with a compliment, something you can talk about like clothes or hair, and take note of their reaction. If they seem like they appreciate it continue if not abort mission and try again. 4) try to make conversation and link your compliment to interests and try to see what kind of person they are 5) if you run out of stuff to say just check your phone as if it buzzed and say you have to go but it was nice talking to them

I guess the easiest way is imagining scenarios. How would you feel about dating a girl? What about a boy? If you're not asexual, how do you feel about sleeping with someone of the same or opposite gender as you? I did this last year, and it helped me a lot

Peruse photos of people you find attractive. There will be a difference between a general recognition that a person is attractive and a physiological reaction to their attractiveness. Human sexuality is a spectrum, so even if you are bisexual, you might not be attracted to men 50% the time and women the other 50%. It might be 80%-20%, or 65%-35%.

Make sure you're turning all your work in, and participating in class. If you're active in trying to learn, the teachers MIGHT be more willing to help with extra credit and whatnot. STUDY. It helps so much. As a technique, try writing the important things down by hand. It helps it get etched into your mind

Write in blue pen. It helps memorise things better. Also if u write things down you're more likely to remember them. Listen and take notes. Ask questions even if you know the answer, to test yourself. Get plenty of rest, maybe set a time schedule for studying. Rewrite things to remember more. Do extra research if possible. Create flashcards, or a recording of your voice saying the question, a pause for you to answer, then the answer to see if you were right. Ask friends to help you study. Hope that helps 😊 xoxox

ook, i accidentally published that and i had more to say. i was just listening to music and trying to sleep when I guess a song triggered a panic attack and I just started to cry and hyperventilate at like 3 in the morning. i have insomnia so its hard for me to sleep so I will listen to music. i usually listen to lofi live music but last night I did sad music and I just broke down. i also sleep with a fan so that made my eyes hurt because I was crying and facing a fan.

i talk 2 myself a lot to so it okay to do that

Oh I have the exact same problem! I'm out as gay though. Have a hug, I'm as clueless as you are :)

I am thinking of secretitly becoming Demigender (I am male rn)

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how do you feel about nonbinary and agender people? You seem to be asexual, but depending on the first question you could be biromantic or panromantic, I would like to politely note that trans women are women and trans men are men so that doesn't really factor into your sexual orientation.

Maybe you befriend another introvert. If you know what they like or what they're good at, ask them a question about it. If you're good at a particular subject and they're not, offer to help them with it. Don't worry too much if there are moments of silence. One of my good friends and I go for walks in the woods and sometimes we don't talk for several minutes and it's not a problem at all. We're enjoying the walk together.

This is my problem as well but I found out was to communicate. (via phone, text, email, games, or discord) and try to make them feel good. The happier they are the more likely they are to reveal something about themselves. You can slowly ask some questions. It's like making people drunk with happiness sort of. If they feel well about themselves they will most likely answer your question.

Are there ways of keeping in touch with them? I found this link for ideas: https://www.eztalks.com/unified-communications/ways-to-communicate-online.html   At my office, we do a weekly video meeting just to have fun: games, silly contests, discussions about hobbies, things we enjoy, etc.

Write in blue pen. It helps memorise things better. Also if u write things down you're more likely to remember them. Listen and take notes. Ask questions even if you know the answer, to test yourself. Get plenty of rest, maybe set a time schedule for studying. Rewrite things to remember more. Do extra research if possible. Create flashcards, or a recording of your voice saying the question, a pause for you to answer, then the answer to see if you were right. Ask friends to help you study. Hope that helps 😊 xoxox

In band? Participate more and try to take your teacher's words in forms you can remember/write them down. What instrument do you play? If you are a beginner I may be able to give tips on the instrument

Bullet journaling really does help keep you organized. It's a creative way to because you can personalize it yourself. You really don't need any fancy supplies at first. I just use a binder and regular note book paper for my job because I have a lot to keep track of.

There are lots of things you can find online but here's a few: Shower right before bed. It lowers you core body temperature as you're drying off, and makes it easier to sleep. Sleep in a relatively cool room. 65 degrees should do it. Sleep with socks on. It helps. Eat a kiwi or two. They have natural melatonin. When you're in bed, deliberately try to stay awake. Reverse physiology will make you fall asleep out of spite. Hope this helps!

Count sheep, literally. It or any other boring/sorting thoughts stop your thoughts of the day and give you a clear mind to drop off. I sometimes imagine I’m standing in front of a blackboard that’s so big it’s the only thing I can see, then all my thoughts appear written in chalk as they happen. The idea is to erase each as it comes and keep the chalkboard clean.

Something I do that helps me with negative emotions...write out how you feel. If someone's actions have made you feel angry, write them a letter, but don't send it. Just getting your thoughts down on paper addressed to that person will help.

Find someone to talk to. It's hypocritical of me but you need to find out some way to cope. It's not healthy to bottle everything up and I can guess you feel like a bottle of coke with mentos, ready to explode. the best option is to find a friend you trust or make a digital notebook that no one can see, you need a way to get your feelings out or you will dig yourself a deeper hole. I understand your problem

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I´ll give u the same advice I've been receiving. Talk to someone. Take time for yourself. Spend time with those that care. Do something that makes you happy, or try out new things. U can do it, I know you can.

Try different activities and hobbies if you can!

I'm sorry that you're having to deal with that. try to look at the people that can simply make you crack a smile and pay a bit more attention to them. I'm going through he same thing so I'm trying to deal with it. Find a way to express your emotions and let go of the negativity, and if anything, have a friend to run to

I can tell you the two-faced thing is life long. When you get into the work world you will need one face for work and another for the rest of day to day life. You will even be a different person for anyone you fall in love with. I’m not saying”suck it up and move on”. Far from it. I’m saying love and be reasonable and forgiving to both. And unless you’re doing dangerous or potentially self-harming stuff because you’re not happy at school, understand that not every day is one worth smiling about. My entire high school and college experience stunk but I got past it. I’m 63.

I don't have good coping mechanisms, but I've heard writing your thoughts down and getting it out helps. You might not like this idea but hear me out; therapy could be nice.

If you have anxiety your going to want to do a selfcare and focus on your self, your also gonna have to acknowledged that you cannot control everything in life or in your own life and your going to want to welcome humor into your life and at some point if your not talking to anyone your going to at some point let your feelings out and tell them how your feeling and your also going to have to learn what triggers your anxiety so you can just stay away from the activities that get your blood rushing and get you into your anxiety attacks, so that's my advice to you sorry I'm not the best at this but hope it works.

There is an ask pandas about coming out and I think it would be good to pull some ideas from there. Also "testing the waters" by telling them a friend is trans would be a good way to see how they would react. If they don't take it well and you still depend on them it might be better to wait a while.

Hang in there. You'll get through it sooner than you think and there's really no tips or tricks to make it through. The new hormones you're body is producing are overwhelming and it just takes time for everything to level back out. It's legit like a rollercoaster, it seems like it's never going to end but in a couple of years it'll be over. Even if you have a uterus, you get used to be periods.

Word association helps a lot. Also music. Pick a piece of music and listen to the song on repeat while you study that section. When you go to test or whatnot think of that music and you'll be amazed by how much you remember. Music memory is one of the strongest. Alzheimer's patients will remember music the longest out of any memory they have, and some even attach memories, like the first dance between spouses, so even if they can't look at their spouse and remember them they remember that song and the memory attached to it. Same theory works for music in study especially if you have a lot to memorize.