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Hey Pandas, What Are Some Green Flags You’ve Seen On Dates Where You Knew They Were The One?
There have been good dates, and bad ones, but we want to know about that one first date you had where you knew that was the person you would spend the rest of your life with.
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#1
Mine wasn’t even a date. My car needed a new catalytic converter and I was really worried about the cost. I didn’t even think to ask my bf at the time as we’d only been seeing each other a couple of months at most. He showed up from out of town, traded cars with me, and took my car to his mechanic a couple hours away. And he paid for it. It was amazing to me because I’d never had anyone take care of me like that. We’ve been married for 11 years now.
Final score:
28points
#2
He didn't speak ill of his ex when we discussed prior relationships.
Final score:
26points
#3
We aren't together anymore but still close friends.
The very first thing he said after I told him that I wanted to break up but still wanted to be friends was if I was okay. Not why, not trying to market himself or argue with me, but asked me if I was okay. And when I said no, he didn't pry or push to know why I wasn't (I eventually told him later and he understood). I still admire him for it.
Final score:
22points
#4
A green flag from my relationship was (still is) listening. I know it sounds like this should be a basic thing in all relationships, but a little bit of background. I am an extreme optimist and can see good in both scenarios... if that makes sense. I am able to talk to my partner and share my deep thoughts about something and get an "okay I understand, but what I think..." we can have conversations about ANYTHING and never turn into an argument of either of us feeling like the other made us feel dumb about having the opinion.
Final score:
15points
Doris Brady Sudduth 1 year ago
I've been married to a man for 28 years because we're like this.
#5
First date, he opened the car door for me. A gentleman, thought I. We've been together for 21 years, married for nearly 19 of those years. He is still a gentleman (with a tendency to make extremely bad puns)
Final score:
15points
Mason Kronol 1 year ago
My husband always opens doors for women. I'm so used to it I have accidentally stood in front of a door to a store expecting a man to come along and open it. A young lady yelled at her boyfriend in the Home Depot parking lot after seeing my husband open and close my door for me. The boyfriend was beet red with embarrassment. My husband politely told him he should start opening doors for women. This was about 10 years ago and I still wonder what happened to them.
#6
Started a new job and my coworker and I had a long drive. I remember how nice it was that the lapses in conversation seemed natural, not awkward. He saw me all sweaty and covered with mud and I never felt that he cared if I didn't look perfect all the time. I've never been more comfortable just being myself with anyone. Married for fifteen years and three kids later, were still happily having adventures together.
Final score:
13points
#7
My (now wife) didn't try to fundamentally change who I am as a person. Accepted me for who I am.
Final score:
12points
Doris Brady Sudduth 1 year ago
That's very important in any relationship, but especially when you want to spend the rest of your life with someone.
#8
When I told him about my struggles with my mental health on Roblox, he said that he went through the same thing that I’m going through, and we just sat and talked for a while, and I felt a spark between us. He’s the sweetest person I’ve ever met, and now we’re boyfriends and we’re dating.
Final score:
10points
#9
We met in college and from the beginning, he spoke so highly of his family, showing respect and care for his parents and siblings. It showed me how much he valued family. Forty-plus years later, my suspicions are confirmed. He is a good partner, a good dad to our two grown children and is still close with his siblings and with my sister, too.
Final score:
10points
Nicole Sanchez 1 year ago
While I do think family is important, there are some families that have something going on that you wouldn't want your partner to get caught up in. Like parents could be nice to other people, but berate their kids behind closed doors and you never had a good relationship with them because they started to try better when you're almost out of the house. It all depends on the person and the family background imo.
#10
I hadn't dated in years but on a first date with my (now) wife, she put up with me stroking her hand and saying "I can't believe this is happening!" like some utter simple-minded lovesick idiot, and didn't dump my a*s straight afterwards like she should've! 23 years we've been together and she still loves to bring up how cringe-making that was!
Final score:
10points
#11
Before we were even dating, he walked up behind me and put his arms around me. I didn't have the urge to do an elbow jab and backwards face punch like I usually wanted to when people did that to me (long story) so I thought about my non-reaction and asked him out on a date. That was over 30 years ago.
Final score:
9points
Swag Agent Eggs 1 year ago
Happy it ended well!! But tbh, if someone did that to me I'd have jumped and accidentally hurt them XD, but congrats!!
#12
On our first date in 2004, I had gotten ready 30 minutes before he was supposed to show up but he was 15-20 minutes late. I figured I had been stood up since it had happened a few times before we even met. I had washed my face and got into my pajamas when I heard him knocking frantically. He had taken a wrong turn away from my apartment. He apologized by saying "I lefted when I should've righted!" I thought he was adorable looking and acting. I got ready again and we had a great time together. We have been together ever since then and got married in 2009. He has shown me numerous times he does not give up at anything.
Final score:
9points
#13
This isn't mine, it belongs to @lauralett50
They put it in the generally comments and I figured no one scrolls that far down, so I thought I would put it in
"Even though we are half a world apart,we care deeply for each other . It's hard to be so far apart, but we are making it work . We talk ,share time, laugh ,cry . Just spend time together. Share our day with each other. It crazy to think that only 4 months have gone by, he is my soulmate. Something just clicked, between us. It's hard to explain this to you. Green flags from the start"
Final score:
8points
#14
We laughed and talked for over 2 hours at a Tim Hortons on our first date (we met online). We have been together ever since and we still laugh and talk all the time 16 years later! He is my best friend and we make each other laugh every day.
Final score:
8points
#15
I went to Saudi Arabia on 2014, 4 , 30 and I saw one nice ,big and green flag.
Final score:
4points
#16
I told a guy on our first date, I fart a lot. He laughed so hard and today he still laughs every time I fart... and my respond... i told you in advance!!! I have very sensitive gut.
Theres more to it but when you meet the green flag guy... your gut just knows ;). PS: He's a good farter too. i met my match!
Final score:
4points
#17
On my first date with my now husband, he "met" some of my family and handled it like a pro. He already knew my parents and a couple of my brothers way before I came into the picture. When he came to pick me up one of my younger brothers (19 at the time) shook his hand and wouldn't let go until he told him if he broke my heart he'd have to answer to him. I had gotten out of an abusive relationship a couple of months prior and baby bro wasn't going to let that happen again! His response was "NEVER!" (My brother was about 6" inches taller, 10 yrs younger and muscular) But the best part was when we got to his car he of course opened the door and had a stuffed animal and a flower for me, he found out my birthday was the day before. We just celebrated 30+yrs together. I'm almost certain that if that were me, I would have headed for the hills!
Final score:
4points
#18
We were hanging out at his place watching a horror movie, when he mentioned to me 'yeah, I watched this one beforehand to make sure there wasn't any needles so you didn't get super freaked out' (I have a major fear of needles it's almost debilitating. So having someone care enough to do that for me made me know he was the one)
Final score:
4points
#20
Just when I resigned myself to being alone for the rest of my life after a bad breakup with the man I THOUGHT I would be spending the rest of my life with, I was at a mutual friend's party when I was chatting with a guy that is just as shy in groups as me.
He (my now husband) got my phone number from someone at the party and called me the next week. I didn't remember him,....at first. We dated and I was upfront about not being good at keeping a spotless home. He didn't run away screaming. Almost 20 years later, and we've been married for close to 18 years of that.
Final score:
2points
#21
He silenced his cell phone without even looking at it to see who was calling. :) Because continuing our conversation was more important.
Final score:
2points
#22
When my ex girlfriend (after breaking up with me in a s****y way) asked me if i was good with the breakup and being friends. Even though she treated me horribly the last week of our relationship, she still asked me if I was okay with being friends with her. she stopped talking to me last year, and the breakup still hits me really badly, but knowing that she treated me like a human during the few months of us being friends helps me remember her in a good light sometimes. This was my first same-sex relationship and relationship regardless.
Final score:
1point
#23
Not a first date but still. We met on a comic book chatroom. He never said anything about me "being a girl who likes comics " or anything like that. We just got married in November and he moved 3000 miles away from his family. We are both in our late 20s but I am adopted and my parents are 10-20 years older than most people my age, so I grew up watching old shows like all the old star treks, the original twilight zone, all the original godzillas etc. I got made fun of a lot by my peers. Well I got a nostalgia kick and went to watch a scene from my favorite ultraman movie and found it, fully remastered in 1080p on YouTube after searching for it on DVD for years. I asked if he cared if we watched it and he said no. I geeked the whole time. I havr a great memory and as this was a movie I watched several times a day and even though it was in Japanese, I still remembered a lot of the dialogue and fight choreography. He just laughed and thought it was cute. He then told.me he thought it was awesome and promptly asked me to watch all my other favorite ultraman movies. Little did we know a BRAND NEW MOVIE was coming out weeks later. It was an hour away from where we live and only in theaters for 2 days but we made it and we had a great time! I'm so happy to have a husband who doesn't think I'm corny or cringey for liking old stuff 😁
Final score:
1point
#24
So this wasn't a first date, but it was within the first month we were together. We were doing a wine tour around Seneca lake, and we were at this reeeeeeally fancy winery. No one else was there, just us and the sommelier. When we were finishing up we started milling around. There was this beautiful grand piano, all black, spotlessly polished. I press my thumb on it, leaving a big print. In my head, I think 'if there's a murder here, this'll really throw 'em off.'
She comes up next to me, presses a print next to mine, and says "In case there's ever a murder here."
We've been together for eleven years now.
Final score:
1point
#25
Not dating, but a story with a good friend of mine. Freshman year and I had just got out of a friendship with a guy that tried the "friends with benefits" thing without asking me first and saying he didn't like me in that way the same day. Sophomore year, I go to my first day of class in a certification class (2021-2022) and I see a guy that looked familiar. We had masks on so I didn't know. The school year goes on and I find out he was from my 3rd grade class. The school year goes on and I was the only one supposed to be going back for the second year. I show up for the first day early and he shows up ten minutes after me. We were already good friends at this point, but I didn't think that we were great friends. Fast forward to now, I'm very comfortable with him, we goof off a lot, joke around with our inside jokes, and I have silly nicknames for him like gringo.
Final score:
0points
#26
She treats people how she wants to be treated. I have always heard people say it but I have never seen anybody actively practice it like she does. She is a pure soul and I love her more and more with each passing day!
Final score:
0points
#27
My boyfriend(now husband)helped me find a safe space for a little lost caterpillar, away from the sidewalk, on a busy city street.
Final score:
0points
#28
When my now-husband’s eyes would go all soft and his voice became full of gratitude every time he talked about his 7 year old daughter. Plus seeing that the “art” on his walls was primarily elementary school poster-painted masterpieces.
Final score:
0points
#29
This isn’t related to the post but, some of us have been trying to make another funny bored panda comments challenge, but it ain’t working, been trying for 2 days now. I’ve tried twice but I can’t post anything it always ends up under drafts or list auditions, the original creator of the challenge tried and same thing happened, then a few other pandas tried, and same result. Anybody know what’s going on? Or can anyone else try to make one? Ima copy and paste this message all over if I can.
Final score:
-1point
Izzi C 1 year ago
Why is this downvoted. If this is the only way to communicate for them so what. Valid question
What do you think ?
lauralett50 1 year ago
Even though we are half a world apart,we care deeply for each other . It's hard to be so far apart, but we are making it work . We talk ,share time, laugh ,cry . Just spend time together. Share our day with each other. It crazy to think that only 4 months have gone by, he is my soulmate. Something just clicked, between us. It's hard to explain this to you. Green flags from the start
socialmedianamehere1 1 year ago
Anyone ever though that articles like these give manipulators new tools to work with?
lauralett50 1 year ago
Even though we are half a world apart,we care deeply for each other . It's hard to be so far apart, but we are making it work . We talk ,share time, laugh ,cry . Just spend time together. Share our day with each other. It crazy to think that only 4 months have gone by, he is my soulmate. Something just clicked, between us. It's hard to explain this to you. Green flags from the start
socialmedianamehere1 1 year ago
Anyone ever though that articles like these give manipulators new tools to work with?
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