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Hey Pandas, If You Could Give Your Past Self One Piece Of Advice, What Would It Be?
If you are reading this put the word "sound" in your answer!
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you're gay and asexual. save yourself a lot of time and hassle and confusion and don't let anyone tell you what you can or can't be. it's going to be rough these next few years and you need to ditch the people that are hurting you as soon as possible. they may make you try to sound like you're in the wrong but when it starts messing with you, get out.
Don't be afraid of failure!
There were so many things I wanted to try when I was growing up, but was so scared that I would fail at them I didn't even bother to try. Now as an adult I've try out some of those things, sometimes succeeding, sometimes failing miserably, but always happy to give them a shot!
I've lost so much time and chances, I wish I've started before.
You're not broken. You're autistic. Your brain works differently. I promise you, you will find yourself. It's a hard journey. You will hurt. You will grieve. But you will emerge, and you will be okay. You find people who love you. You're a survivor.
Don't talk to that girl, you will still be recuperating years later if you do. Also, it is an option to like other girls and you will take it.
Hang in there. You'll get through it. You'll find family that will love you for who you are, even though they aren't biologically related to you.
Oh yeah, and "sound" 😉
Try to pick a better color to paint the walls and don’t paint your dresser bright pink. Please? Gold looks better on you than silver, you don’t have to shampoo every day. Comb not brush. Shower before sleeping to keep your face clean. Don’t you dare say that it was so embarrassing
oh one more, be more decisive, now your sister gets the pretty painting and you got the less pretty one
Don’t be ashamed that you’re gay, you matter, and you shouldn’t let anyone tear you down because you’re gay, and you don’t deserve to be treated like garbage, you deserve to be loved and treated with respect because you’re one of a kind and you’re a treasure.
You should've just taken Kenny's offer to rent his spare castle when you had the chance! Just because the decor was a little too extravagant for your taste (I mean seriously, how many leopard print fainting couches do you need?), it was still a good offer. But no, you had to "take the high road" and let Lucia move in just because her favorite mansion was burned down by rogue goblins, and now I'm stuck paying a witch far more money than Kenny ever would've charged me, just so I can share some old tower with a basement monster and a giant family of werewolves!
Stop overthinking, you are good enough.
Don't be scared of being judged.
Your voice counts.
Don't let others silence you or do things to you that you dislike, including touching you, don't be afraid of raising your voice, even if you don't like the sound.
Be yourself. Be simple. Enjoy the present time.
Don't Be An A-hole towards everyone you meet, Be more social, Be A Good child, Being an introvert sucks, Stop cussing so much and please make more friends
Pssst... you are bi. STOP BEING HOMOPHOBIC AND FOR THE LOVE OF ALL STOP BEING A HOLIER-THAN-THOU CHRISTIAN!!! You won't even believe in God a few years from now. You won't be a Republican a few years from now. Your parents are manipulating you and you don't have to let them.
Don't sleep with Bed Bug Billy..
I'd probably tell myself I'm trans and just save me the terrible time I spent questioning. Anyways what's done is done. (Sound)
You're a good person. You didn't deserve the bad things that happened to you. Don't blame yourself. Learn to love yourself and not give as much of a f**k. It's so much better to walk around without all that weight you carry worrying about how someone else will react.
Oh, and just stop with the bangs. You like them for one day then spend the next 5 months being annoyed by them. Grow them out!
Please, stop questioning it. You are who you are ment to be. Dont let that skinny blonde b***h ruin your friendships. Dont talk to them. Ik they're so kind at first but you caught feelings and they made your life hell. Still do. Dont talk to elliot, dont give them your number. Dont do it l its too much pain. At last, elina. Nina. She broke my heart in many ways. Dony talk to her
Buy stocks in something called 'Instagram' and 'TikTok' - trust me!
The bob haircut DOES NOT WORK FOR YOU. Neither do printed leggings i'm begging you. same with that purple dress no just no.
It gets better. You think you have a crush on that girl but you really just think she's pretty and want to be friends. You find people and get better friends.
Don't be as loud while playing VRchat
Long story, summing it up would be "parents didn't know that their son is playing a video game with OTHER PEOPLE?!"
The job I was at for 5 years taught me a lot about the industry I'm im, but also treated me, and kept reminding me that I was worthless and replacable.
When I was finally ready to quit and saying my goodbyes (there were a lot of good people to counteract the toxic ones) One of the directors from a department that I worked with a lot said "At your new job, stop being the battered wife. You took every piece of s**t here and either shrugged it off and asked for more. Everyone knew so they just kept piling on cause they could."
That was such an eye-opener, especially the words "battered wife" That’s exactly what I was. It's not worth it, for all the experience and knowledge I gained, it still was not worth it.
- Be kinder to yourself. There were dominoes that fell that led you to where you are and who you are.
- And be harder where you need to be. Push yourself more to take risks.
- You weren't wrong to want a quiet and peaceful life. You aren't 'missing out' because you aren't living every single minute in some fast lane life. That isn't for you. Stop being scared you were wasting time. The only waste of time was the time you wasted worrying about it.
- It will literally be one of the biggest regrets of your life not to learn how to play an instrument. Your love of music only grows and I think you would have been happy composing. Now it feels almost impossible to learn even when you've tried. Your brain is just tired. It's so much easier to learn when you're young and you'll be so happy to just play in a band, even as a hobby.
- Talk to a doctor about birth control or something to stop your periods. Maybe even remove your ovaries. You aren't going to have kids and the pain you experience is not normal. The embarrassment and mess you've had to deal with because of menorrhagia has been a lifelong problem that you shouldn't have to deal with if you aren't even going to have kids. Don't feel weird or like you are somehow lesser for wanting this.
- Start exercising now. In a year or two you will be healthier and it will be so much easier now. This has a drastic affect on your life and alters the life you should actually be living because you won't get a handle on it later.
- Save your money. You don't know it yet, but you won't actually get married or have kids and it will be 1000x harder to save for a downpayment for a house/condo. Right now you think you'll probably meet someone because that's what everyone tells you. And you think you're going to change and suddenly you'll want that but later you're going to realize you don't want that life no matter how much other people tell you it's what you *should* want. So you're life will be harder on your own. Having 2 incomes makes things so much easier. People don't realize how much less stress there is just having someone else to help with small things. You won't have that. So save now so you don't get stuck living in a bad apartment with crazy neighbors!
Please stop talking to yourself like that in your head. It won't motivate you or help create self-discipline, it will just cut you down little by little over time. You would never criticize anyone else so harshly, or choose such awful words to describe someone else, even in your own head, so you need to learn how not to do it to yourself.
Do what your intuition says to do. It may not be what will make everyone happy, but it will be what is best for you. Whatever it is may suck and it may feel like your heart is going to break into a 1000 pieces, but trust me that one day, you will look back and be damn glad you did it.
Stop the negative self-talk and find out that it is vital to nurture yourself. Instead of, “idiot!” say, “Ha ha sweetheart look what you accidentally did! That’s hilarious.” Instead of being hurt by an insult, “Oh honey I bet that hurt. So sorry. Let’s move past it and treat you somehow!” I cannot express how this will change your life in a positive way and how much better your relationships will be. Hope you try it!
The first guy that shows interest when you’re a teenager is not the right guy to have kids with, save your money before having kids