Hey Pandas, How Did You Handle Being Single While Your Friends Dated And Married? (Closed)

I am still pretty young and have a lot of life ahead of me, so I know I still have plenty of time to date and get married. But I have some friends around me already engaged or married, and others in amazing dating relationships.

And then there's me... Who hasn't found anyone to be with?

I tell myself that I will find the guy I am meant to be with, but it does hurt every time I see my friends together as couples, and I feel a little lonely, even though I am immensely happy for them.

How did y'all deal with it? Or did you find yourself feeling something else?

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Just remind yourself that you don't have to deal with another person eating your snacks out of the fridge

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Nico Roby (She / They) 1 year ago

Love this response!

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Even when I felt that tinge of jealousy or sadness because I was the bridesmaid for the 8th time in my 20s and not attached, I was happy for my friends after all. I got used to being the 3rd, 5th and 7th wheel and everyone kind of looked out for me! You just have to remember to live your best life and everyone goes at their own pace and development. I finally (finally!) met my now husband at 37, married at 41. I was so sick of hearing "just stop looking and you'll meet someone" or "you're just too picky". I think everyone should be picky, it's our short time here after all! Keep getting out there and try new things, volunteer and do for others, etc.

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Domi 1 year ago

I also agree with the pickiness. I don't want to be with someone because I have to be. I want to choose the right person.

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Realize that everyone gets to that point at their own speed and you shouldn't compare yourself to others. Everyone I knew rushed to have kids right after they got married. I am 35, married, no kids. I can stay in my pajamas all day on the weekends and watch trashy reality TV without my spawn running around and eating glue (or whatever kids do)

Also, are you looking for actual companionship or just to be in a relationship?

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Allydog57 1 year ago

I honestly don't know. I have plenty of friends so I am not alone.

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I listened to all of my friends moan about dating/crush dramas. Be that open eared friend who will always listen. It will make you very glad you aren't in a relationship, for sure!

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I'm a woman, I'm almost 30 and I never had a proper relationship in my life. It made me become hyper independent and eventually after many, many attemps in dating, I just accepted I'm incompatible for relationships. I made peace with my single life. Seeing the relationship drama all around me actually makes this all easier. Majority of my friends/family accept it just fine or they just don't care. I have amazing friends , and their SOs are great people as well, I rarely feel like a third wheel.

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well I'm single and most of my friends are dating someone, so I just got used to being a 3rd and 5th wheel 😐

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PiscesInTheWild 1 year ago

same. Usually I focus on just supporting them and waiting for my dream person :)

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I guess I just figure my time will come and, honestly, I'm not interested in messing around before I get a serious partner.

One thing I like to remind myself is that dating/being in a relationship takes up sooo much of your time and energy. It's fun too, but you have to prioritize another person. Being single is a great time to focus on mental health, take time to yourself, pursue your career, get a puppy, etc. Actually, I would recommend getting a pet (if you have time). I got a dog, and when everyone was like, "When are you going to start dating?" I was like, "I don't need to, I already got a man and he loves me unconditionally," and then point to my dog, who is the best listener and walking-buddy in the world.😂

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Allydog57 1 year ago

Thanks! I have my dogs who I love and are my best buds. It is nice being able to do my own thing too and do things for myself.

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It was easy! When I'm not emotionally involved, I can see people for who they really are and know their entire future. I could tell who was real, who was lying, who was dominate. And I was right. Most people I did not attend their wedding so not to give a gift -- knowing they would split, usually in a year or two. Being alone, my plans were never disturbed . . .

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