Hey Pandas, Have You Ever Had Something Happen To You Commonly Regarded As A Good Thing That Ended Up Causing You Problems? (Closed)

Regardless if it was negative side effects or just problems with no positive influence at all.

Everyone knew my name in high school after I participated in 8 events in a row and got top 3 in 7 of them. I liked the popularity until it bece a headache, the expectations and hate and jealousy was unbearable.

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Maddy Panda

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Therapy. I became more self conscious which made it worse, and she was no help, she would always take the other persons side and put me down. That is not what therapy should be.

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Duolingo’s one lover

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Joshua Moore 2 years ago

OP you need to find a therapist that you're comfortable with, it is certainly not a "one size fits all" thing. When I first started out, if I'm remembering correctly, I believe I went to three different therapists until I found one that I felt confident and comfortable with. Your therapist should listen to you, give advice on the issues that you're having and focus steps that you can be taking outside of the therapy sessions to help with those issues. Your therapist should never be putting you down, or taking another person's side, that's extremely unprofessional. Please, please seek another therapist. I'm very much an advocate of mental health and it takes time, with the right person or people. Keep your chin up and best of luck to you. 😁

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Duolingo’s one lover (Submission author) 2 years ago

Thank you this was so helpful. I am still a kid so I can’t really change right now because my mom is making me go, but I will take this into consideration very much.

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Alexej Dvorak 2 years ago

An ex girlfriend had the same problem. I was so happy when she finally agreed to go to therapy, but since her therapist had the same behaviour, she soon wanted to quit and refused to attend. When I found out, I managed to convinced her that the therapist is rubbish and it's not her fault and we just needed to find a better therapist. Luckily we did. Don't give up!

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Duolingo’s one lover (Submission author) 2 years ago

Thank you so much!

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Ladyboneyard 2 years ago

I actually scared a therapist (unintentionally) at our first and last appointment because she couldn't disguise her shock at the amount of hell I've been through. Weird

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I'm loved by my classmates, except a few, but that's normal. My friend really wanted me to talk to her boyfriend in the same class, she wanted me to like him as a friend. (I didn't, he had made fun of me in the past) But she kind of scared me, she was kinda manipulative... Sooooo I talked to him, we had a few conversations. Then she started to accuse me of flirting with him and how I wanted to take him away from her. Gurl I have my own boyfriend! She didn't like it. Let's say we're not friends anymore and luckily she moved.

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BeepBoop is Lonely (she/they)

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I started to get a white strand in my hair at 11 yrs old. I thought it was cool bc I was like a vampire or something. The bullies did not 😅

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Bubblegum Witch

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Eline 2 years ago

I mean, white hair is so pretty.

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I was promoted at my job, I was about 25 at the time. I had to transfer, but it was closer to my house, more money(salary), benefits, all great things. What I found out is being middle management (at least there) meant I had no authority, twice the responsibility, and 60 to 80 hour work week. I couldn't hire the help needed just for the basic requirements. 'Why would we hire more people when we have this dumba** who'll do everything?' My bosses actually made me cut hours so employees wouldn't be eligible for medical benefits since they're just part time. Some of these employees had been there for years. It wasn't just wrong, it wasn't sustainable, especially when you add double the tasks but half the workforce. I quit after about a year and a half. It wasn't worth the money or my mental well-being.

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Bonesko

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‘Advanced Placement’ and ‘Gifted and Talented’ programs in school. Participating in them just taught me that I needed to compare myself to others, to be overly competitive, and to care too much what other people think. It was emotionally exhausting and all of the excess social pressure gave me terrible anxiety. Took me years to interact comfortably with others as an adult.

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