My aunt-in-law just lost her mother. She’s not someone who talks about her feelings. She just keeps going until she has a psychotic breakdown. I was able to get everything under normal conditions but messed up and now insomnia came back. If it lasts too long, I get sick and the other stuff goes to nothing. How do I be there for someone who is from a culture that doesn’t talk?

I’m going to make sure her teenagers keep up with their schoolwork, come over and clean, and occasionally cook for them. What more can I do without putting myself at risk? I’m acting guardian to my teen sister and not worried about her, but I can’t ask someone to take her in if I get sick. Also, the teen thinks it’s stupid of the thing I was actually planning to do for my aunt (which is more risky). I’m stupid. How do you help someone with grief?