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Hey Pandas, Ask A Question About LGBTQ+ And Allow Commenters To Answer It (Closed)
Be nice y’all. Please ask genuine questions and don’t be mean to others unless they’re a troll. Trolls will be reported and banned.
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#1
Just wanted to say thank you for such a cool article. I have learned a lot.
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#2
@Weezy, I have a message for you.
You have been reported, downvoted, and warned many times. You are making children, users, and people feel VERY bad with your God AWFUL transphobic comments, and your comments in general.
Stop. You need to stop. Keep your opinions about the LGBTQIAP+ community TO YOURSELF, and STFU.
Because the downvotes, warnings, and reports aren't working, I have asked Bored Panda to remove you. Some people think this is a step too far. I think it's just right. You are targeting people with your s****y comments and negative attitude. You have made me feel HORRIBLE about my gender and sexual identity. You have made US feel HORRIBLE because clearly, you have nothing better to do than target and cyberbully kids, teens, and users on the internet when they have done nothing to you.
I think you are immature, stupid, and reckless.
And to all the people out there who are feeling sad and horrible about @Weezy's comments, I urge you to take control. Just know, that there are people out there who support you, even if you don't know them. There are people who WILL help you, and not post transphobic comments.
And @Weezy, go to hell.
Sincerely,
Bluegal
Happy Pride Month, y'all!
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#3
A question for the nonbinary (specifically non-intersex) people out there:
Do you experience something akin to gender dysphoria like many trans people do, but towards both sexes?
Or is it more of a feeling that your personality does not conform to society's view of either sex, so you decide to be your own gender? Do you think that would change if society's views on gender roles was different?
I hope that doesn't come off as mean, I just feel I understand trans people much more that nonbinary people (in the sense that my understanding of nonbinary people is lacking) and want to broaden my horizon.
Thanks for your time!
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#4
My teenage daughter has come out as bisexual. My response was that I didn't care who she dated so long as she was a good & decent human being, that she chose someone that was a good & decent human being, they both loved each other & treated each other well. How can I support her & not just tell her but actually show her that I'm supportive of her choices?
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#5
Hey everybody thanks for the chance to ask!
We all know the guy who says "I identify as an attack helicopter", and we'll, it's just eyeroll-worthy.
On the other hand, I have encountered people who consider themselves part of the LBGTQ+ community, but say/write they identify as an "android amazon" or a "happy samurai badger" or something like that. You yourself have probably seen more or less "weird" genders floating around as well.
Do you ever feel offended by such gender names? Do you feel as if you're not taken seriously, especially if you are non-binary yourself?
Do you fear such "humorous" genders may harm the community as a whole, as in "The LGBTQ+ people don't even take their genders seriously, so why should we?"
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#6
Hi. I'm sorry to say this, but I didn't know there was such thing as the LGBTQetc community until a few years ago(I don't pay attention to politics or social changes or whatever). I didn’t(still don't really)get how people can change their genders to whatever they want, because "they can be anything they want to be", or do it "because they feel like it". It makes no sense. I dont understand, but I'm trying to okay? My question is how you wake up one day and think "you know what, I like girls AND boys now"(or the other genders or preferences, you know them all). Anyway, I want to understand WHY, so I can learn to be more respectful and not be as judgemental(I was taught to treat people how I want to be treated, and I feel I haven't been doing that sometimes. I shouldn't judge someone I don't understand). People go through things, and I feel the Pride people get a lot of hate, which you don't deserve. So: *What made you want to change your gender, and why?* If this is a stupid question, don't get mad at me, I'm just curious.
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#7
I think my only question would be for the trans folks that were in a relationship prior to transitioning. For example, a lesbian couple that has been in a relationship for some time and one of them decides to transition to male, including medical operations. Is the other non-trans lesbian partner still attracted to the other now that they are male?
Note: I may not be using the correct terminology, so forgive my ignorance if that’s the case.
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#8
It hasn't happened to me yet, but I've heard that someone has and it would be an interesting story if one of you guys have.
Have any of you ever encountered someone who only supported their own sexuality in the LGBTQ+ community but doesn't support any other sexuality in the LGBTQ+ community?
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#9
Hey guys, I've been wondering for a while now, what's a good way to come out as a lesbian to a Christian household? Like, if others have come out in religious families, what worked really well for you?
Thanks for your time! :)
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#10
This is more about self-discovery than anything, but what would it be called if Im only s3xually attracted to one gender but romantically attracted to every possible gender-? I'm rather new to this whole scene..
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#11
Thank you for the opportunity to ask! I grew up in a part of the country where the default when you are interacting with someone you don't know, especially if it is in their professional capacity, is 'Thank you, sir' or 'Thank you, ma'am'. It's just automatic for me after 50 years, and I'm worried about accidentally misgendering someone. Is there a gender-neutral term that I can train myself into instead of sir or ma'am? Or do I just try to retrain myself into 'Thank you kindly'?
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#12
those who are bisexual what made you realise that you were bi -a 11 yrs old girl from a messed family
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#13
This might feel like a really awkward and stupid question but...
A lot of the people in our system use neopronouns and we want to know if it's actually valid or not? (Ex. One of our alters uses ghost/ghostself)
It feels weird to ask this but a lot of the people we've seen on the internet are divided on this (sorry if this was already asked!)
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#14
This may be a strange question, but it’s for the gender-fluid people here; do you change your pronouns with your current gender or do you just use a certain pronoun all the time?
Also for aroaces, do you hear more support or hate? When I was originally identifying as aroace (I’m abro), I got a lot of hate for it, but some support. My dad told me that I’m just straight and will like boys soon, and I got told multiple times that it’s fake. Someone told me I sound like a trash can.
And feel free to ask me questions about abro and demigirls!
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#15
ace pandas: how did y’all figure out you were asexual? I feel like I could be ace but idk if I’m actually asexual
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MaximumKarmaSaint 1 year ago
Aroace here: I was already aromantic but then I found out a bit later that that doesn't automatically make you asexual as well, I don't love anyone romantically or sexually and never really have.
That Fox Over There 1 year ago
Another AroAce here: I knew when I got to High School. You know how it is. S3xual jokes and all. Every time someone said something mildly s3xual I felt instantly uncomfortable. Plus during s3x ed in Primary school I blocked my ears and refused to do any of the classes. After a while I had a choice to not do it and I stopped. My mum wasn't happy but I learned a bunch anyways thanks to my brothers inapropriate questions. So yeah! Take your time!
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mysterious(all pronouns) 1 year ago
Well, I thought that attraction just happened at some point, like gaining an ability in a video game. After I was 14/15, I figured something should be happening, but I wasn't attracted to anyone, I'd heard of the terms aromantic and asexual, but wasn't sure if they could apply to me, because I thought I wanted a romantic relationship, and breaking away from that, and realizing that I didn't actually want to be in a relationship took a while. So yeah, that's how it happened.
PattonPawter (Submission author) 1 year ago (edited)
Edit: no acephobia in the comments plz, I’m genuinely trying to figure stuff out and comments like “Asexuality isn’t real you probably just haven’t met the right person yet” won’t help, and they will be reported.
PattonPawter (Submission author) 1 year ago
Update: thanks for the help everyone, also try not to post stuff about aromantic stuff only bc I know I’m not aromantic. My rule of thumb is gonna be “wait a while and see if it still fits me” but I think I’m gonna sit down and talk to my mother about it (she’s not homophobic/acephobic so dw about me)
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Hotdogking 1 year ago
Jaiden Animations video on it planted the idea in my head. But I only realised it about a year after I watched it. My friends were making sex jokes and I was visibly uncomfortable, this was something that happened all the time btw, and one of my friends asked me why I never joined in with those conversations. I explained that I didn't know why, but I wasn't into that sort of thing. Like at all. So he pointed out I was similar to Jaiden Animations and that I could be asexual. But I had a crush on a girl at the time so I said that wasn't possible. However a few days later I asked a queen friend about it and they explained the difference between romantic and sexual attraction, which made me realise that I was asexual. And around months 2 months ago, I figured out I was biromantic as well. Sorry for the long comment
LokisLilButterknife 1 year ago (edited)
As a biromantic asexual women (someone who is romantically attracted to men and women but not physically) I found myself falling more in love with people's personalities, kindness, intelligence, love of adventure, etc.. I have to admit that I would get jealous when my female friends would hang out with other girls when I was younger and got deeply depressed when they entered into sexual relationships. It took me thirty years to figure out I might be biromantic ace. I loved my first boyfriend but we broke up because he wanted to have sex and I didn't. I know that some people are attractive, but I am just not interested in sexual relationships. Asexuality is an entire spectrum and encompasses people who feel little or not physical attractions to people who may feel physical attraction in specific circumstances. It also encompasses the agender gender identity. Some asexual people like myself are sex positive whereas other people may be triggered by sex. You do not have to have it all figured out as you always have time to grow and explore! Just be awesomely you!
Mani 1 year ago
'I found myself falling more in love with people's personalities, kindness, intelligence, love of adventure, etc' 80% of non asexual people do that as well. It's not a specific trait of asexuality.
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ЛеснойКороль(he/him) 1 year ago
My ex pressured me to have sex with her. I never liked it, and i basically assumed it was because i didn’t like her, but as i came into my new relationship with my very loving and kind partner, i will find myself unwilling to have sex, and i don’t think that sentiment will ever go away. TLDR i found out through bad experiences with it, i guess
freakingbee is going offline 1 year ago
if you think you are then you probably are is how it’s been in my experience. i experimented with labels when i realized not everyone feels the same way, that people actually feel sexual attraction and it’s not just in movies and books or whatever.
Sarah Cahill 1 year ago
When I found it that the term existed and that it meant I wasn't broken and had finally found my label! Since then I've discussed sexual experience with my very understanding sister and we would laugh at concepts that I had absolutely no experience of, for example, wanting to 'jump someone's bones' or feeling sexual attraction to a celebrity from just what you see in the media. My lack of being able to contemplate these experiences only confirmed that I was in the 'grey and purple' field. Asexuality is a very, very broad spectrum - my full label would be hetero-romantic, grey-asexual/demisexual so you probably can find you fit under the umbrella with a bit of research. I use the AVEN network, which has very useful forums. Good karma in your journey!
TheAceofSpades 1 year ago
My friend on this site and in real life, LokisLilButterknife came out to me and said a lot of the same things you did. I’m learning that asexuality is still treated as a mental illness in many parts of the world and many people who identify as asexual are often prescribed pill or hypnosis therapy to fix them when there’s not anything to fix. I truly feel for my friend and people like you as I cannot believe how cruel and hurtful it must be to have someone tell you that you’re broken, that asexuality doesn’t exist, and that you don’t belong in the LGBT+ community. I’m trying to educate myself to be a better ally. I’m learning that asexuality is a spectrum and that sexualities are not monolithic. I wish you so much joy and happiness on your journey.
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Caro Riedel 1 year ago
For me I always got "bored" with people I dated very quickly until I met my ex...after about a year of dating with a lot of crazy s**t going on I moved away for university but we stayed in a weekend relationship that felt like a chore that I had to keep on doing because I'm supposed to have a boyfriend...I broke up with him several years later, took some much needed time to heal from a lot of things that went wrong and never really dated ever since...thanks to the evolving terminology I consider myself nowadays somewhere between demi- and aromantic in that regard. I also don't really have any interest in sex but some things can get me hot an bothered. But again society taught me that I should be secually interested in people so I kinda went along with it far too long! Nowadays I mostly prefer aroace as it's a lot easier for most people to understand than all the demi aspects but that's just me. Hope that helps!
ObsidianAce_ 1 year ago
Sex always sounded gross, uncomfortable, and most of all scary to me. I never wanted anything to do with stuff like that and thought it made me immature and childish, but then I figured out what asexual was and found I felt perfectly comfortable with the definition
Stardust she/her 1 year ago
When I started realising that I found allos to be very weird and that they actually feel sexuallt attracted to someone and that they’re exaggerating
Quinn Donovan 1 year ago
I am aroace - or at least very strongly belive to be. Who knows, if I come across the perfect person it might change, but I really can't imagine that. I never really thought about it until I first researched the LGBTQIA+ terminology after a discussion about that topic, and that was in late high school. Then I realised that other people had crushes, and I never did. Sexual scenes in movies annoy me (that screen time could be used so much better) and the sounds are disgusting, imo. I don't really masturbate - penetration is very strange to think about and I don't think I ever want to experience that. I don't like to talk about sex because I don't like to think about it. I am pretty sure I'm also aromantic - again, I've never had a crush. I'm not interested in having a relationship and my dream is to live alone, no family. So that makes it easier for me to determine that I have no interest in that regard at all. But it is a spectrum, so that might not be the experience you've had.
Quinn Donovan 1 year ago
I just never really saw a person and thought about them in a sexual or romantic way. I never rated attractiveness like others do - they are just people, some more esthetically pleasing than others, but none are attractive to me.
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Tracy Wallick 1 year ago
I knew I was asexual in my teens; I just wasn't interested in anyone, and I didn't understand why everyone seemed so obsessed with sex. Unfortunately, society writ large gaslit me into believing that I was too young to know what I wanted, and/or just hadn't met the right man :/ Years later I realized I'd been right all along.
Raccoon 1 year ago (edited)
I physically can’t understand romantic love. Like i don’t understand how it’s different from being really good friends. Once I realized most people don’t think like that I figured out I was aroace. (Edit cuz I remembered this metaphor) and sex is like someone being really excited to stick a finger up your nostril. It’s just kinda hard to understand
summersalts 1 year ago
I only JUST realized I was aceflux. It was through reading stories with ace characters and realizing asexuality is a wide and varying spectrum and there are a myriad of ways to exist on it. Once I realized I related to some things the characters felt or did, I did some research into different ace identities and found that ace flux fit me really well and a lot of things started making sense.
A Wild Bean (they/them/any) 1 year ago
It can be hard to find out (google "asexual pond metaphor," it helped me understand some things) but for me, I think I started suspecting when I realized "Oh my gosh, my friends aren't actually just joking when they say someone is s3xy". I always hated the idea of s3x being the value of a relationship, and then I realized I hated the idea of it entirely.
Chicken Nugget 1 year ago
A big thing for me is not understanding how people can be attracted to celebrities. I'm also completely weirded out by the fact that there are total strangers who can want to have sex with you (reasons I could never be famous). Also, I just...don't care about sex.
Chicken Nugget 1 year ago
I also helps to keep in mind that aesthetic attraction and sexual attraction are two different things, as are romantic and sexual attraction
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lucy dale 1 year ago
for me, it was the fact that I couldnt care less/felt vaguely uncomfortable about the idea of myself having sex, as well as the fact that my thoughts and feelings didnt match what the allos around me felt. And dont worry about identifying as ace even if you dont think youre "actually asexual". its a really hard thing to figure out, and its a big spectrum, so dont worry about the possibility of being wrong you can correct it if needed in the future
daniel (pineapple he/him) 1 year ago
i was on an article asking how people discovered their ace, and i realized i related with a decent amount and so i took a few quizes online all of which said im very likely to be ace, and im pretty sure i am so im gonna go with im ace
Saph 1 year ago
Took a bit, but figured it out in highschool/university. The thing is I just.... Didn't want the sexy stuff with my then boyfriend. I didn't understand why and then I found some posts on Tumblr(because that was when it was still big) and started to research and well hello there. That explained a lot. I encourage you to explore and learn what you can. Everyone is asexy in their own way and that's perfectly cool. Specifically I am demiromantic/Gray-Ace. I personally explain it as wtf sexual because occasionally (and this is rare as hell) some form of sexual attraction appears and is like surprise m**o and I am like um excuse me. It's never enough to act on and it's so weird and random that it's usually just annoyingly confusing.
That Goth Demon (zey/zem) 1 year ago
Tbh I just think sex sounds like something I really don't want to do and I have no interest in someone's gentiles touching mine, and then I found out you could be ace so I was
Bubblegum Witch 1 year ago
Asexual here. I think it kinda depends because asexuality looks different for everyone. Personally I knew because I never really felt anything sexual towards people I’m attracted to. For me, I’m not entirely disgusted by sex, I just tend to start with romantic feelings. :)
Sunshine 1 year ago
I think I might be asexual and I think that cuz I never thought that I wanted to do the nasty with people I’m attracted to. When I have a crush, it’s more “let’s go on picnics and draw flowers on eachother’s arm and link arms walking through town going out for ice cream.” I also never looked up b00bs on my device lol.
meow point1 1 year ago
I was twelve, and I hadn't had sexual urges and I just couldn't imagine myself having them. When I was still feeling that way at 15, I realised that it wasn't a phase.
oddly_informed_raven 1 year ago
my friend mentioned it and I did some research, if you're questioning it then I recommend looking into ace-spec microlabels
A gay cat man (he/him&Tré/Trè) 1 year ago
... it starts with a "p" and rhymes with corn. one of my friends (also ace) was watching it and I looked over their shoulder (cuz I thought it was just youtube or smth like that) it was p-corn
Mani 1 year ago
I went to a sexologist, aged 25 after still no sexual feeling at all. Basic analysis is: 1) You're older than 18 2) You are not in a situation where sex grosses you out / scares you because of a past trauma / difficult relationship 3) You never masturbate, nor wish to 4) You never have a feeling / wish to get naked with someone (even in your head) 5) You don't have any fantasies 6) You never think about sex,. You almost forget that exist, even when in a relationship 7) You see it as a practical thing, like to have children
aZZy_d3Lta (they/star/bun) 1 year ago
when some girls at my school were talking about what they wanted a guy to do to them and i was absolutely disgusted
#16
I'm LGBTQ+ myself and I have a question. (For context, I'm Omnisexual, which means I'm attracted to anyone.) How does it work when, for example, there's a straight couple but then one transitions. For the cis person, do their feelings just go away? Like I said, I'm Omni, so I don't understand this. :)
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#17
Can you help me understand QPRs (queer platonic relationships)? I'm ace and demiromantic, so it feels like something I should get, but I don't. What's helped me most with it so far is someone who said people define it differently, like how people define friends vs. acquaintances differently, but I'd still like more answers if possible.
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#18
Hey I'm still figuring out who/what I am I like everyone but some people say I'm pan and some say omni what's the difference. I'm kinda young I'm asking to figure myself out.
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#19
I know this question will seem mean, but it's not, I'm genuinely curious. For people who identify as a gender other than male or female, how do you know you are that gender? Like, what does it feel like? Are there symptoms or something?
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#20
I think we hear how it is to be LGBTQ+ most often from an US point of view.
So, how is it to be LGBTQ+ in other countries?
For example:
Germany
Poland
France
Spain
Norway
Sweden
Finland
India
Japan
Turkey
Nigeria
Kenia
Ghana
Brazil
Argentina
And others of course, just wanted to name a few.
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#21
I read a profile where the person identifies as a non-binary lesbian. Which. How is this possible? I truly don’t mean to seem ignorant.
Doesn’t the subsequent lesbian aspect somewhat equate to recognising female gender identity as opposed to non-binary? Due to lesbianism being inherently girl-girl?
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#22
No offense: but what is the point in “neo pronouns” or whatever it’s called. I understand she/her they/them or he/him. But Zey/zem? Why. Again no hate
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#23
Sorry if this seems offensive, but why do people have pronouns she/them or they/his, ect? I know they/them is nonbinary and he/him is male and she/her is female, but what genders are the combos of he/them/ she/them ect? It is really confusing (Especially because I can barely remember peoples names, I cant be expected to remember someone's pronouns.
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#24
I at the moment Identify as pan but I'm not sure if I am because I think I might like people of one gender more but I don't think I'm omni. How did you tell if you were pan or omni?
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#25
A question for the bi pandas. When you are in a relationship with, say a girl. Do you miss sexual interaction with a man, and vice versa?
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#26
If your gender fluid how do you know when your gender changes?
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#27
I don't know if you guys can help me with this, but I feel like I'm agender. I don't have any preference of pronouns. He/She/They, it doesn't matter. People have asked me SO many times if I was a boy or girl (biologically a female), and I always answer, "Whatever you see me as, I don't care." My friend was confused when I told her it didn't offend me in the slightest, because in my mind, I just don't care. I haven't for years now and I don't know if not caring and not feeling like I have a gender makes me agender. Does it? I'm still super confused about this lol
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#28
Would you include poly within the community? Does it make a difference if it’s a cis-hetero vs a cis-bisexual (for example?)
Because they don’t subscribe to normative morays etc.
The acronym is becoming so huge that pretty soon it could become one size fits all which defeats the original reason for it’s existence.
Originally it was a clear place of refuge for people, but now even the refuge is becoming murky with in-fighting and trying to say who does or does not belong.
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#29
What is it called if I only sometimes feel sexual or romantic attraction depending on the week?
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#30
LGBTQIA+ myself, why do people not really like xenogenders?
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#31
Less of a question more self questioning but, can somone help me figure out what my gender is. I need somone who knows more to help me firgure it out
Ok so. I want to use she they pronouns but want to be perceived as non binary. It’s almost like I want people to look at me and question what gender I am but i dont feel right using he him pronouns so would that just me she they or is there something I’m missing. Is that just gender dysphoria?
Also I’m a female at birth lesbian :)
Anyone have any idea what that gender would be.
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#32
This is something I've wondered for a while now actually. What's the difference between Bisexual and Pansexual?
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#33
if you are LGBTQIA+ does that automatically mean your not straight like is there some things that make you not straight and some that you can be and still be straight I have been wondering and don't really have anyone around me to ask
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#34
I think I might be enby, but looking back on my childhood, I don’t see any “signs” of being enby. What counts as a “sign”? Is looking back on your childhood the only way to tell for sure?
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#35
Can anyone point me to some good literature (academic or otherwise) on the evolutionary benefits of homosexuality and/or other aspects of LGBTQIA+?
I ask this from a genuinely curious place. Like, obviously y'all exist and are finally beginning to be able to safely and fully come out of the shadows, but how have these been passed along through the millennia if there wasn't some benefit to humanity as a whole.
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#36
Hello, Nonbinary person here. Have you ever had the talk with your parent(s) or legal guardian about your gender identity and they say something along the lines of "I was non-binary all the way up until my late 20s before I decided I was a [gender]. I was born with the body of a [sex] and I was always a [gender]. Nonbinary isn't real and there is only man and woman. I have many transgender friends and NONE of them are nonbinary. It doesn't exist and you are just following a fad that is going around at school/work. It. Isn't. Real."
Is it just me or has anyone else had a similar conversation?
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#38
What's the difference between pan and bi?
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#39
Okay here is my question for lesbians and queers .How did you realize you were gay?
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#40
I am apart of the LQBTQ+ and have started to learn/explore about the types of tertiary attraction. My question is: What is the difference between friends-with-benifits and a queerplatonic relationship?
I know there is some kind of difference. The idea of having friends-with-benifits is odd and not appealing for me, but I can see myself being in a queerplatonic relationship.
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#41
aroace people what flag do you use the orange and blue one or one of the combination flags or a different one
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#42
Hi! Just wondering, what does it mean to be Trans but straight?
Btw, I don't mean this to offend, just wondering!
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#43
Okay so I need some advice... All this stuff is something I've been thinking about for a while and I'm tryna sort it all out lol so I thought why not ask here
(I'm cisgender hetero AFAB)
1. What's the difference between sexual and aesthetic attraction? I mean, people don't actually walk around, see someone hot, and go like, "Whoa, I want to you-know-what with them", do they? Because I definitely do find guys attractive but I've never thought that.
2. And the more I think about it, the more I'm like, I don't think I'll EVER think that. I'm not averse to you-know-what either, and if I was to have it, it would definitely have to be with a guy, but I'm not in any way attracted to the male... body?? It's kinda ick. So I don't know what's going on there. Like, it doesn't... I don't feel anything. Not anything positive, not anything negative, I just have no feelings whatsoever.
3. Guys are still hot, I'd want to be in a relationship, I'd want it to eventually include you-know-what, but... yeah.
So what is going on 💀
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#44
y'know how everyone who's famous in the lgbtqia+ community get erased? barring a few who are very open or that have obvious gayness (queer eye).
what's y'all's opinion on it? i hate it, cuz one of my fave celebrities (billie joe Armstrong of green day) is seen as straight, even though he's bi.
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#45
I would like to understand how being non binary feels. Thank you.
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#46
Sorry if this has already been asked but if lets say you're a straight girl. You have a crush on a guy but then the guy comes out as trans and transitions to a girl. Are you still straight?
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#47
I'm having trouble differentiating between types of attraction, and there are a lot of complications. In addition to the possibilities of aesthetic, romantic, platonic, and sexual, it might also be gender envy or just my attachment issues. Also, I have different feelings for several different people, and some people I have multiple kinds of feelings about, but I can't figure out whats what.
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2points
#48
Sometimes i feel like I might be bi. I've had romantic feelings for boys, but I feel like there's been times where I've liked girls. How exactly do I determine?
Final score:
2points
#50
I am apart of the LQBTQ+ and have started to learn/explore about the types of tertiary attraction. My question is: What is the difference between friends-with-benifits and a queerplatonic relationship?
I know there is some kind of difference. The idea of having friends-with-benifits is odd and not appealing for me, but I can see myself being in a queerplatonic relationship.
Final score:
1point
#51
What is it like being a Trans man? I am a woman currently (birth) and I don't know what it's like. I have no interest in being Trans but I am curious!
Final score:
1point
#52
So respectfully, I've been with a few boys but I want to know what "counts" as "bi". Do I have to be attracted to ALL men and ALL women, or JUST SOME, and what percentage, etc?
Final score:
1point
#53
For some reason, using the word 'queer' feels close to using the n-word for me, like it's a slur. I mean, I'm fine saying "Queer Eye For the Straight Guy" if talking about the show, but beyond that? It doesn't feel like it's interchangeable with
LGBTQ+ for me to describe someone. So, maybe people here can help me out... How do you (as people who identify as LGBTQ+) feel about straight, cis people using the word? My hair stylist is this awesome woman who is gay, and as we were chatting, she used the word when talking about how I needed to find the people where I live now that are 'othered.' I'm atheist, which may be even less accepted where I'm living now than people identifying as LGBTQ+ because the community hasn't been exposed to many people saying it, although it doesn't lead to quite as violent of reactions. So, I tried using 'queer' in my response as well, but it just felt WRONG coming out of my mouth. I haven't seen her in a few years thanks to the pandemic and my immune system making travel a bad idea, but I haven't forgotten that odd feeling.
And, if there is actually some difference between 'queer' and 'LGBTQ+', I'd love to know.
(I grew up in a backwards place, where I'm sure I heard use of the word 'queer' in the kinds of hateful tones you hear from homophobes. I definitely heard 'gay' used as an insult, too - "What are you, gay?!" - but am not bothered saying it. There's just something to the word 'queer' that makes me feel like I'm demeaning a person, which is never my intent. So, I just avoid the word altogether, like how synonyms are also words used instead of words you can't spell.)
Final score:
1point
#54
ok, i'm bi, but i've never heard the term enby. i'm so sorry if i accidentally offend someone, but it seems...new and unused? yet again, i'm sorry, i'm still quite new to the lgbtqia+ community, but i've never heard it.
kind regards, the cat overlord xoxo
Final score:
0points
#55
I have a question for the trans people out there:
How/why did you decide to change gender? How did you tell the people in your’re life?
Also, what does queer mean?
Final score:
0points
#56
For the non binary folks: how does your identity fluctuates ? When your gender evolves, how does it work, is it a feeling / urge? How does identifying as male vs female work for you, if it evolves over a week. What does feeling like a male / female work.
Genuine question, no hate, it's difficult for me to comprehend
Final score:
-3points
What do you think ?
Powerful Katrinka 1 year ago
This is a terrific conversation! I wish that this happened more frequently.
Marinasongs1432 (Post author) 1 year ago
Thanks! I’ll try to post these more often
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My O My 1 year ago
I tried to keep up with all the different genders and sexual preferences for a while but to be honest, most of it I can't really grasp. Some things are easy for me to understand, you know the "old letters" of the LGBT movement so to say. The "newer" (as is now more common to talk about) things are difficult for me, maybe because I can't really imagine it and that's my way to understand things in life. I'd like to understand all of the community better but there is just nobody to ask who I know. O boy, all this probably sounds really weird when all I wanted to say was thank you for the opportunity to learn so much! Please excuse my awkward wording as I don't even know what/how I'm allowed to call things without making someone feel uncomfortable.
GhostlySnail (she/her) 1 year ago
It’s ok to not understand things! As long as you aren’t using it as an excuse to spread hate, it is perfectly understandable. And if you have any questions I know plenty of pandas who will be happily to answer them!
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Pan princess ( She/They) 1 year ago
This was an amazing idea I don't know whose idea this was but whoever it was you're very smart.
Marinasongs1432 (Post author) 1 year ago
I'm sorry about that. Why don't you use an oc pride art Competition? I'll let you use a piece of my art penup_2023...57da2e.jpg 
Weird Panda 1 year ago
Didn’t get a chance to post on this so I’ll just ask here, is it wrong to know that I’m lesbian as a kid (I’m not disclosing my real age but it’s around 10)
Red PANda (she/they) 1 year ago (edited)
Not at all! Many people, especially homosexuals(gays and lesbians), realize that they are who they are pretty early on :D (for bisexuals and pansexuals and others, sometimes it takes a little more time since we like multiple genders, and so we might not realize we differ from the norm until we have a crush on someone the same gender or on a nonbinary) no matter what your age is, you’re allowed to have a sexuality and express it (although some people might disagree, looking at all the laws made in the southern states these days 😠) I realized I was pansexual a while ago, and I’m still in high school :D
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Markus He/It/E/Cloud/Ti 1 year ago
Hi, someone who uses some xenogender labels and neopronouns and is otherwise educated on them here! Yeah if you wanna ask questions, shoot. I'll do my best to answer them. I did this last year too. If you just wanna make fun of xenos/neos, move on, you're not funny and I don't have the patience to entertain you
Marinasongs1432 (Post author) 1 year ago
Hi, sorry, looks like weezy is at it again.
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Pharmtechgurl 1 year ago
Thank you for this post! I have learned a lot! Especially #4. This has always been my biggest curiosity regarding LGBTQIA+ (hope I didn't miss anyone). I think I have a better understanding now. When I was growing up, it was always don't ask/don't tell. Things that went on between couples was private and not discussed. When people started coming out, I was confused because of this. Now I think I understand that EVERYONE wants to be seen. I get it.
DBear 1 year ago
I have numerous friends who are LQBTQ+. Not a single one of them uses that to describes themselves. They use traditional terms (Gay, Lesbian, etc.).
Dodo 1 year ago
LGBT+ is the umbrella term for the community. It's like saying 'Oh I'm Christian' but then you get into the different denominations; some people will just automatically go 'I'm a Baptist' or whatever.
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Powerful Katrinka 1 year ago
This is a terrific conversation! I wish that this happened more frequently.
Marinasongs1432 (Post author) 1 year ago
Thanks! I’ll try to post these more often
Load More Replies... My O My 1 year ago
I tried to keep up with all the different genders and sexual preferences for a while but to be honest, most of it I can't really grasp. Some things are easy for me to understand, you know the "old letters" of the LGBT movement so to say. The "newer" (as is now more common to talk about) things are difficult for me, maybe because I can't really imagine it and that's my way to understand things in life. I'd like to understand all of the community better but there is just nobody to ask who I know. O boy, all this probably sounds really weird when all I wanted to say was thank you for the opportunity to learn so much! Please excuse my awkward wording as I don't even know what/how I'm allowed to call things without making someone feel uncomfortable.
GhostlySnail (she/her) 1 year ago
It’s ok to not understand things! As long as you aren’t using it as an excuse to spread hate, it is perfectly understandable. And if you have any questions I know plenty of pandas who will be happily to answer them!
Load More Replies... Pan princess ( She/They) 1 year ago
This was an amazing idea I don't know whose idea this was but whoever it was you're very smart.
Marinasongs1432 (Post author) 1 year ago
I'm sorry about that. Why don't you use an oc pride art Competition? I'll let you use a piece of my art penup_2023...57da2e.jpg
Weird Panda 1 year ago
Didn’t get a chance to post on this so I’ll just ask here, is it wrong to know that I’m lesbian as a kid (I’m not disclosing my real age but it’s around 10)
Red PANda (she/they) 1 year ago (edited)
Not at all! Many people, especially homosexuals(gays and lesbians), realize that they are who they are pretty early on :D (for bisexuals and pansexuals and others, sometimes it takes a little more time since we like multiple genders, and so we might not realize we differ from the norm until we have a crush on someone the same gender or on a nonbinary) no matter what your age is, you’re allowed to have a sexuality and express it (although some people might disagree, looking at all the laws made in the southern states these days 😠) I realized I was pansexual a while ago, and I’m still in high school :D
Load More Replies... Markus He/It/E/Cloud/Ti 1 year ago
Hi, someone who uses some xenogender labels and neopronouns and is otherwise educated on them here! Yeah if you wanna ask questions, shoot. I'll do my best to answer them. I did this last year too. If you just wanna make fun of xenos/neos, move on, you're not funny and I don't have the patience to entertain you
Marinasongs1432 (Post author) 1 year ago
Hi, sorry, looks like weezy is at it again.
Load More Replies... Pharmtechgurl 1 year ago
Thank you for this post! I have learned a lot! Especially #4. This has always been my biggest curiosity regarding LGBTQIA+ (hope I didn't miss anyone). I think I have a better understanding now. When I was growing up, it was always don't ask/don't tell. Things that went on between couples was private and not discussed. When people started coming out, I was confused because of this. Now I think I understand that EVERYONE wants to be seen. I get it.
DBear 1 year ago
I have numerous friends who are LQBTQ+. Not a single one of them uses that to describes themselves. They use traditional terms (Gay, Lesbian, etc.).
Dodo 1 year ago
LGBT+ is the umbrella term for the community. It's like saying 'Oh I'm Christian' but then you get into the different denominations; some people will just automatically go 'I'm a Baptist' or whatever.
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