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Hey Pandas, Ask A Question About LGBTQ+ And Allow Commenters To Answer It (Closed)

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Just wanted to say thank you for such a cool article. I have learned a lot.

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@Weezy, I have a message for you.

You have been reported, downvoted, and warned many times. You are making children, users, and people feel VERY bad with your God AWFUL transphobic comments, and your comments in general.

Stop. You need to stop. Keep your opinions about the LGBTQIAP+ community TO YOURSELF, and STFU.

Because the downvotes, warnings, and reports aren't working, I have asked Bored Panda to remove you. Some people think this is a step too far. I think it's just right. You are targeting people with your s****y comments and negative attitude. You have made me feel HORRIBLE about my gender and sexual identity. You have made US feel HORRIBLE because clearly, you have nothing better to do than target and cyberbully kids, teens, and users on the internet when they have done nothing to you.

I think you are immature, stupid, and reckless.

And to all the people out there who are feeling sad and horrible about @Weezy's comments, I urge you to take control. Just know, that there are people out there who support you, even if you don't know them. There are people who WILL help you, and not post transphobic comments.

And @Weezy, go to hell.

Sincerely,
Bluegal

Happy Pride Month, y'all!

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bluegal (they/them)

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A question for the nonbinary (specifically non-intersex) people out there:
Do you experience something akin to gender dysphoria like many trans people do, but towards both sexes?
Or is it more of a feeling that your personality does not conform to society's view of either sex, so you decide to be your own gender? Do you think that would change if society's views on gender roles was different?

I hope that doesn't come off as mean, I just feel I understand trans people much more that nonbinary people (in the sense that my understanding of nonbinary people is lacking) and want to broaden my horizon.

Thanks for your time!

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eame 1 year ago

For me, I was AFAB, grew up as a "tomboy" who believed they were a boy in the wrong body, back in the 70s/80s when it was NOT accepted/talked about; Today I would probably just be called Trans and transition. I spent the next 30 years trying to conform to society's expectations of what "womanhood" is, and now don't feel like I belong to either male or female. I'm too masculine to be "female" and too feminine to be "male" in any traditional sense. I don't feel like either. I don't identify with my body at all but the dysphoria comes and goes.

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dar Rah (Submission author) 1 year ago

Thank you for sharing your experience! That makes sense to me.

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Gregor 1 year ago

Sorry, replied to the wrong comment

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Audrey Rasmussen 1 year ago

wait.... i feel like that a lot... but i havent figured out what i identify with yet

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Quinn Donovan 1 year ago

I am agender and it bothers me when I see "proof" of my gender, I guess? I hate my breasts. Sometimes it is worse, sometimes it doesn't bother me as much. Sometimes I wear binders at home, and to go shopping, if I go somewhere where I don't know anyone for sure and where people don't care. I'd really like to get top surgery, but I don't have the money for it yet. Same with my period: Hate it. I take meds to make it stop and wouldn't mind to have a surgical fix - but for that I'll have to find a doctor who doesn't mind "mutilating" a working organ, especially when I'm still young and might change my mind (I'm convinced I won't, but understand that doctors have their own concerns). And also, again, the money. Also don't like my hips - they are too wide. But I am fine with my vagina - it's there, there's hair and I don't have to see it. I suppose I might mind a penis dangling about down there, that might react in ways I can't control, so I am happy in that regard.

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Quinn Donovan 1 year ago

I think society's view has quite an impact. I don't like it when people treat me according to gender or expect certain actions/reactions based on that. Be it in the work place or with family. With my friends it's all fine, those people I can choose myself. But I'm in law school, and the lawyers and clients I've worked with so far have often been rather conservative - one of my bosses once asked me for a chat and explained that it is "acceptable" that I don't wear make-up and jewellry. It never occured to me that that might not be acceptable. And the clients expect different approaches to trials from men and women (more assertive vs tending more to compromise), and might select a lawyer based on those expected attributes. And my family is quite traditional - tried to pour wine once while my grandfather was around and got a speech on how that is man's work. Also hate the questions about family planning and kinds - don't want either of that, and WHY do you only ask me and not my brother?

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Bored Panda Lurking Omni 1 year ago

So, the term nonbinary can describe a large variety of different experiences, so while I'll tell you my experience with it keep in mind that another nonbinary person could feel completely different. Now, for me personally, I've never truly felt like my agab, assigned gender at birth. This didn't bother me too much in my younger years until I hit puberty. Puberty brought along with it attention to things I didn't want nor felt should be connected to me as a person. I don't think I experience this dysphoria as strongly as trans people do, but enough to where something isn't quite right. With a big problem being that I'm sure I wouldn't be completely happy as the opposite gender either. It's weird middle ground where I feel I'll never be completely okay with my body, but I can at least try to make it better through different strategies. If you have any questions, feel free to ask!

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Red PANda (she/they) 1 year ago

Ignore the transphobe >:( you are a very cool person, and good on you for having the confidence to be who you want to be!

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GenderGander 1 year ago

Personally, I’m AFAB, and I feel slight dysphoria towards my female parts, but I’m aware that I would not be comfortable with male parts either. I spent too much effort trying to solve the mystery of my gender so I just slapped an enby label on there

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Red PANda (she/they) 1 year ago

Ignore the transphobe; you are an amazing person and and we accept you for who you are :)

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Rainstorm 1 year ago

For me personally, I've been through a few different labels in the process of figuring myself out. I'm non-binary and this is definitely the least dysphoric and most happy I've felt with myself because there are less expectations and pressures. There is no "manly enough" or "feminine enough" I can just be whatever i want, like whatever i like, dress however i want. it's awesome

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Allison Lynn 1 year ago

I grew up pretty tomboy from the time I was 12 and even now at 32 I mainly wear men's basketball shorts with a girls tank top. I'm this weird combo of masculine and feminine at once. It's this weird harmony that feels right.

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Sora Desu 1 year ago

I’m AFAB. Thinking of myself as a girl didn’t feel right but thinking of myself as a boy didn’t feel right either. I felt kind of on the outside of things looking in. When I learned about NB it clicked and made sense and I no longer felt on the outside of things

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aZZy_d3Lta (they/star/bun) 1 year ago (edited)

For me, non-binary is only one of my genders, but I've always felt like I was RIGHT as a girl. Back in 1st grade i started saying I was a boy and that I should always be referred to as such, but that didn't feel right either. As soon as I found out what non-binary was, I knew instantly that I was that.

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Red PANda (she/they) 1 year ago

This! Non-binary people aren’t “converting” anyone by educating about different genders, they just learn about it and be like, “hey, that sounds like me!”

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Spooky Demon Bat (they/them) 1 year ago

For me (as an afab) it was that whenever I saw myself in a mirror, I never thought "oh that's a girl." It just didn't seem right, and it always sounded off when someone used she/her pronouns to refer to me. For the longest time, I never even considered myself nonbinary until recently, when it just kinda came to me, and I was like "I'm not really a girl, am I?" I started seeing myself differently, and I'm a lot happier and more comfortable

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Pride Bean️‍ 1 year ago

Hi, I'm non-binary and I can answer your question. I have always been non-binary. I sometimes feel like I could be a female or could be a male though but I go with the decision that I am non-binary. A non-binary person can still have interest in other genders/sexes and if gender roles changed I would still be who I am (non-binary) it's how I feel. Hope this answered your question.

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Bored Seb 1 year ago

AMAB here, in my early 40s. In the last couple of years, I realize that the more the time goes, the more this "male"/"female" thing doesn't mean anything for me. I'm "male" because I'm use to it, that's how people see me, and it's just easier. I don't really have gender dysphoria. There are just time when I'm confused about the whole idea of being a man. Not because of my body, but of the gender expectations. Sometime I'm kind of "hey, that would be nice to have a female body" but at the same time, I don't have a problem with my male body. I dress with men clothes most of the time, but love wearing skirts. And i'm probably going to buy my first dress this summer (looking for one of my friends to go shopping with me). That's one of the reason all this doesn't make sense to me: why can't I wear whatever I want; why can't I act however I want... So... anyway... I'm still thinking about me as a cis-guy, but from time to time I say I'm genderqueer ;)

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Jessica Bertram 1 year ago

i am gender fluid, and i can tell you, it has always been that way, but i didn't have a name for how i feel until recently. for me, it's kind of like waking up every day, not knowing where on the gender spectrum i am. so i express it with clothing, demeanor, body language, posture, etc. i have she/they pronouns, mainly because i have enormous boobs that I'd love to get rid of. Everyone sees them first. but they don't define me; i am 45 and i won't let them. ❤️ hope this helps!

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summersalts 1 year ago

I'm gender non-conforming, gender fluid in specific:) For the dysphoria, yes I can feel it both ways sometimes haha. I'm AFAB, so sometimes I like my chest and others I don't want to look at it at all, or I bind, or just view it in a masculine way or neutral way. My dysphoria will mainly flare around my voice and hair. It's hard for me to 'pass' as a guy due to those often. One way I explain the feeling of being nonbinary is "well, you know you're a woman (or man) right? It's like that. I just know who I am. It took me a while to get there due to society telling me I was something I wasn't, but once I let myself explore my feelings I knee I was something else, and then I found the label that fit me and that helped me understand better. Now I'm way happier with my body and myself, because I'm happy with who I am"

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LB 1 year ago

I identify as autistic, and to me gender is another bunch of social rules. I find it super hard to understand the inherent ... gender-ness of people's experience. I can identify feminine or masculine traits or styles of clothing based on my own upbringing (i.e. white European), but it is just a meaningless list, because if you go somewhere else or to another point in time, skirts were not for women but for men. So all of that seems arbitrary, as does the whole technical/logical/strong vs. cooking/cleaning/empathic kind of deal. Why can I not be both? So yes, for me it would probably be different if everyone had a solid understanding that your genitals mean very little about who you are as a person. In that case, I would not mind to be identified as uterus-having. But then again, in such a society, why the hell do random strangers need to know about that (medical professionals and such are another matter)?

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LB 1 year ago

And this is why I find the experience of trans folks so fascinating, because I am kind of deducting they tend to have the strongest sense of gender - cis-folks often do not think about their gender at all and will often say: well, I have these or those genitalia, so that makes whatever I do this or that gender-like. But what exactly is that feeling? I do not have one so I am not sure I will ever be able to fully understand. Ah yes, and so there is the difference between non-binary in the sense of fluid, feeling like both, or a-gender, feeling like neither, which is me.

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Dodo 1 year ago

AFAB nonbinary here and basically there's *slight* dysphoria sometimes; I basically wish I was a shapeshifter (Yes, I know that's impossible). I have body image issues anyway, so take this all with a grain of salt, but I basically wish I could look good as either sex. If I looked androgynous I'd probably be happier. I've always been a tomboy though I do have a healthy appreciation for rockabilly/1950s feminine looks. I always say that if I'd been born in a male body, I'd be a drag queen. I should add that I find it very difficult to relate to cis women. Their experiences and the way that they see the world, and that the world sees them, are just alien to me. So there's a large disconnect. I relate far better to trans women and I'm more comfortable around men, although I wish men would be a little more comfortable around me. Any other questions, just reply.

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mysterious(all pronouns) 1 year ago

For me personally I see certain things about my body as a part of me, rather than something connected to a particular gender. So for example, while I don't particularly enjoy my tits, and I try to dress to hide them, it's not something that causes me discomfort. However, actions like shaving my legs make me uncomfortable, because that's not me, if that makes sense.

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E. Loop 1 year ago

For me, as an AFAB person, I do have dysphoria towards both sexes, but my "male dysphoria" is way stronger

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That Goth Demon (zey/zem) 1 year ago

Tbh I just think the thing that really irks me is that I've tried to come out to my parents as nonbinary but I can't and I've dropped so many (obvious) hints but also, that I can't wear a dress/skirt without being told that's *women's* wear by someone who knows I'm nonbinary :/

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My teenage daughter has come out as bisexual. My response was that I didn't care who she dated so long as she was a good & decent human being, that she chose someone that was a good & decent human being, they both loved each other & treated each other well. How can I support her & not just tell her but actually show her that I'm supportive of her choices?

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Hey everybody thanks for the chance to ask!

We all know the guy who says "I identify as an attack helicopter", and we'll, it's just eyeroll-worthy.

On the other hand, I have encountered people who consider themselves part of the LBGTQ+ community, but say/write they identify as an "android amazon" or a "happy samurai badger" or something like that. You yourself have probably seen more or less "weird" genders floating around as well.
Do you ever feel offended by such gender names? Do you feel as if you're not taken seriously, especially if you are non-binary yourself?
Do you fear such "humorous" genders may harm the community as a whole, as in "The LGBTQ+ people don't even take their genders seriously, so why should we?"

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Hi. I'm sorry to say this, but I didn't know there was such thing as the LGBTQetc community until a few years ago(I don't pay attention to politics or social changes or whatever). I didn’t(still don't really)get how people can change their genders to whatever they want, because "they can be anything they want to be", or do it "because they feel like it". It makes no sense. I dont understand, but I'm trying to okay? My question is how you wake up one day and think "you know what, I like girls AND boys now"(or the other genders or preferences, you know them all). Anyway, I want to understand WHY, so I can learn to be more respectful and not be as judgemental(I was taught to treat people how I want to be treated, and I feel I haven't been doing that sometimes. I shouldn't judge someone I don't understand). People go through things, and I feel the Pride people get a lot of hate, which you don't deserve. So: *What made you want to change your gender, and why?* If this is a stupid question, don't get mad at me, I'm just curious.

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I think my only question would be for the trans folks that were in a relationship prior to transitioning. For example, a lesbian couple that has been in a relationship for some time and one of them decides to transition to male, including medical operations. Is the other non-trans lesbian partner still attracted to the other now that they are male?
Note: I may not be using the correct terminology, so forgive my ignorance if that’s the case.

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It hasn't happened to me yet, but I've heard that someone has and it would be an interesting story if one of you guys have.

Have any of you ever encountered someone who only supported their own sexuality in the LGBTQ+ community but doesn't support any other sexuality in the LGBTQ+ community?

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Hey guys, I've been wondering for a while now, what's a good way to come out as a lesbian to a Christian household? Like, if others have come out in religious families, what worked really well for you?

Thanks for your time! :)

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Mafia!

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This is more about self-discovery than anything, but what would it be called if Im only s3xually attracted to one gender but romantically attracted to every possible gender-? I'm rather new to this whole scene..

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Thank you for the opportunity to ask! I grew up in a part of the country where the default when you are interacting with someone you don't know, especially if it is in their professional capacity, is 'Thank you, sir' or 'Thank you, ma'am'. It's just automatic for me after 50 years, and I'm worried about accidentally misgendering someone. Is there a gender-neutral term that I can train myself into instead of sir or ma'am? Or do I just try to retrain myself into 'Thank you kindly'?

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those who are bisexual what made you realise that you were bi -a 11 yrs old girl from a messed family

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This might feel like a really awkward and stupid question but...

A lot of the people in our system use neopronouns and we want to know if it's actually valid or not? (Ex. One of our alters uses ghost/ghostself)

It feels weird to ask this but a lot of the people we've seen on the internet are divided on this (sorry if this was already asked!)

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This may be a strange question, but it’s for the gender-fluid people here; do you change your pronouns with your current gender or do you just use a certain pronoun all the time?

Also for aroaces, do you hear more support or hate? When I was originally identifying as aroace (I’m abro), I got a lot of hate for it, but some support. My dad told me that I’m just straight and will like boys soon, and I got told multiple times that it’s fake. Someone told me I sound like a trash can.

And feel free to ask me questions about abro and demigirls!

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ace pandas: how did y’all figure out you were asexual? I feel like I could be ace but idk if I’m actually asexual

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I'm LGBTQ+ myself and I have a question. (For context, I'm Omnisexual, which means I'm attracted to anyone.) How does it work when, for example, there's a straight couple but then one transitions. For the cis person, do their feelings just go away? Like I said, I'm Omni, so I don't understand this. :)

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Can you help me understand QPRs (queer platonic relationships)? I'm ace and demiromantic, so it feels like something I should get, but I don't. What's helped me most with it so far is someone who said people define it differently, like how people define friends vs. acquaintances differently, but I'd still like more answers if possible.

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Hey I'm still figuring out who/what I am I like everyone but some people say I'm pan and some say omni what's the difference. I'm kinda young I'm asking to figure myself out.

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I know this question will seem mean, but it's not, I'm genuinely curious. For people who identify as a gender other than male or female, how do you know you are that gender? Like, what does it feel like? Are there symptoms or something?

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I think we hear how it is to be LGBTQ+ most often from an US point of view.

So, how is it to be LGBTQ+ in other countries?

For example:
Germany
Poland
France
Spain
Norway
Sweden
Finland
India
Japan
Turkey
Nigeria
Kenia
Ghana
Brazil
Argentina

And others of course, just wanted to name a few.

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I read a profile where the person identifies as a non-binary lesbian. Which. How is this possible? I truly don’t mean to seem ignorant.

Doesn’t the subsequent lesbian aspect somewhat equate to recognising female gender identity as opposed to non-binary? Due to lesbianism being inherently girl-girl?

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No offense: but what is the point in “neo pronouns” or whatever it’s called. I understand she/her they/them or he/him. But Zey/zem? Why. Again no hate

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Sorry if this seems offensive, but why do people have pronouns she/them or they/his, ect? I know they/them is nonbinary and he/him is male and she/her is female, but what genders are the combos of he/them/ she/them ect? It is really confusing (Especially because I can barely remember peoples names, I cant be expected to remember someone's pronouns.

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I at the moment Identify as pan but I'm not sure if I am because I think I might like people of one gender more but I don't think I'm omni. How did you tell if you were pan or omni?

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A question for the bi pandas. When you are in a relationship with, say a girl. Do you miss sexual interaction with a man, and vice versa?

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If your gender fluid how do you know when your gender changes?

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I don't know if you guys can help me with this, but I feel like I'm agender. I don't have any preference of pronouns. He/She/They, it doesn't matter. People have asked me SO many times if I was a boy or girl (biologically a female), and I always answer, "Whatever you see me as, I don't care." My friend was confused when I told her it didn't offend me in the slightest, because in my mind, I just don't care. I haven't for years now and I don't know if not caring and not feeling like I have a gender makes me agender. Does it? I'm still super confused about this lol

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Would you include poly within the community? Does it make a difference if it’s a cis-hetero vs a cis-bisexual (for example?)

Because they don’t subscribe to normative morays etc.

The acronym is becoming so huge that pretty soon it could become one size fits all which defeats the original reason for it’s existence.

Originally it was a clear place of refuge for people, but now even the refuge is becoming murky with in-fighting and trying to say who does or does not belong.

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#29

What is it called if I only sometimes feel sexual or romantic attraction depending on the week?

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LGBTQIA+ myself, why do people not really like xenogenders?

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Less of a question more self questioning but, can somone help me figure out what my gender is. I need somone who knows more to help me firgure it out

Ok so. I want to use she they pronouns but want to be perceived as non binary. It’s almost like I want people to look at me and question what gender I am but i dont feel right using he him pronouns so would that just me she they or is there something I’m missing. Is that just gender dysphoria?

Also I’m a female at birth lesbian :)

Anyone have any idea what that gender would be.

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This is something I've wondered for a while now actually. What's the difference between Bisexual and Pansexual?

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if you are LGBTQIA+ does that automatically mean your not straight like is there some things that make you not straight and some that you can be and still be straight I have been wondering and don't really have anyone around me to ask

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I think I might be enby, but looking back on my childhood, I don’t see any “signs” of being enby. What counts as a “sign”? Is looking back on your childhood the only way to tell for sure?

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Can anyone point me to some good literature (academic or otherwise) on the evolutionary benefits of homosexuality and/or other aspects of LGBTQIA+?

I ask this from a genuinely curious place. Like, obviously y'all exist and are finally beginning to be able to safely and fully come out of the shadows, but how have these been passed along through the millennia if there wasn't some benefit to humanity as a whole.

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Hello, Nonbinary person here. Have you ever had the talk with your parent(s) or legal guardian about your gender identity and they say something along the lines of "I was non-binary all the way up until my late 20s before I decided I was a [gender]. I was born with the body of a [sex] and I was always a [gender]. Nonbinary isn't real and there is only man and woman. I have many transgender friends and NONE of them are nonbinary. It doesn't exist and you are just following a fad that is going around at school/work. It. Isn't. Real."

Is it just me or has anyone else had a similar conversation?

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Do you ever regret telling people?

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What's the difference between pan and bi?

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#39

Okay here is my question for lesbians and queers .How did you realize you were gay?

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I am apart of the LQBTQ+ and have started to learn/explore about the types of tertiary attraction. My question is: What is the difference between friends-with-benifits and a queerplatonic relationship?

I know there is some kind of difference. The idea of having friends-with-benifits is odd and not appealing for me, but I can see myself being in a queerplatonic relationship.

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aroace people what flag do you use the orange and blue one or one of the combination flags or a different one

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Hi! Just wondering, what does it mean to be Trans but straight?
Btw, I don't mean this to offend, just wondering!

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Okay so I need some advice... All this stuff is something I've been thinking about for a while and I'm tryna sort it all out lol so I thought why not ask here

(I'm cisgender hetero AFAB)

1. What's the difference between sexual and aesthetic attraction? I mean, people don't actually walk around, see someone hot, and go like, "Whoa, I want to you-know-what with them", do they? Because I definitely do find guys attractive but I've never thought that.

2. And the more I think about it, the more I'm like, I don't think I'll EVER think that. I'm not averse to you-know-what either, and if I was to have it, it would definitely have to be with a guy, but I'm not in any way attracted to the male... body?? It's kinda ick. So I don't know what's going on there. Like, it doesn't... I don't feel anything. Not anything positive, not anything negative, I just have no feelings whatsoever.

3. Guys are still hot, I'd want to be in a relationship, I'd want it to eventually include you-know-what, but... yeah.

So what is going on 💀

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y'know how everyone who's famous in the lgbtqia+ community get erased? barring a few who are very open or that have obvious gayness (queer eye).
what's y'all's opinion on it? i hate it, cuz one of my fave celebrities (billie joe Armstrong of green day) is seen as straight, even though he's bi.

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I would like to understand how being non binary feels. Thank you.

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Sorry if this has already been asked but if lets say you're a straight girl. You have a crush on a guy but then the guy comes out as trans and transitions to a girl. Are you still straight?

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I'm having trouble differentiating between types of attraction, and there are a lot of complications. In addition to the possibilities of aesthetic, romantic, platonic, and sexual, it might also be gender envy or just my attachment issues. Also, I have different feelings for several different people, and some people I have multiple kinds of feelings about, but I can't figure out whats what.

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#48

Sometimes i feel like I might be bi. I've had romantic feelings for boys, but I feel like there's been times where I've liked girls. How exactly do I determine?

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why is there so many parts?

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What is it like being a Trans man? I am a woman currently (birth) and I don't know what it's like. I have no interest in being Trans but I am curious!

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#52

So respectfully, I've been with a few boys but I want to know what "counts" as "bi". Do I have to be attracted to ALL men and ALL women, or JUST SOME, and what percentage, etc?

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For some reason, using the word 'queer' feels close to using the n-word for me, like it's a slur. I mean, I'm fine saying "Queer Eye For the Straight Guy" if talking about the show, but beyond that? It doesn't feel like it's interchangeable with
LGBTQ+ for me to describe someone. So, maybe people here can help me out... How do you (as people who identify as LGBTQ+) feel about straight, cis people using the word? My hair stylist is this awesome woman who is gay, and as we were chatting, she used the word when talking about how I needed to find the people where I live now that are 'othered.' I'm atheist, which may be even less accepted where I'm living now than people identifying as LGBTQ+ because the community hasn't been exposed to many people saying it, although it doesn't lead to quite as violent of reactions. So, I tried using 'queer' in my response as well, but it just felt WRONG coming out of my mouth. I haven't seen her in a few years thanks to the pandemic and my immune system making travel a bad idea, but I haven't forgotten that odd feeling.

And, if there is actually some difference between 'queer' and 'LGBTQ+', I'd love to know.

(I grew up in a backwards place, where I'm sure I heard use of the word 'queer' in the kinds of hateful tones you hear from homophobes. I definitely heard 'gay' used as an insult, too - "What are you, gay?!" - but am not bothered saying it. There's just something to the word 'queer' that makes me feel like I'm demeaning a person, which is never my intent. So, I just avoid the word altogether, like how synonyms are also words used instead of words you can't spell.)

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ok, i'm bi, but i've never heard the term enby. i'm so sorry if i accidentally offend someone, but it seems...new and unused? yet again, i'm sorry, i'm still quite new to the lgbtqia+ community, but i've never heard it.

kind regards, the cat overlord xoxo

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I have a question for the trans people out there:
How/why did you decide to change gender? How did you tell the people in your’re life?

Also, what does queer mean?

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For the non binary folks: how does your identity fluctuates ? When your gender evolves, how does it work, is it a feeling / urge? How does identifying as male vs female work for you, if it evolves over a week. What does feeling like a male / female work.
Genuine question, no hate, it's difficult for me to comprehend

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Wanna go on a date?

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Okay y’all, my account is being moved to a new account. My alternative account is now my main. This account will be deleted as this is on my school email, and I graduated. It’s the same name.

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Powerful Katrinka 1 year ago

This is a terrific conversation! I wish that this happened more frequently.

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Marinasongs1432 (Post author) 1 year ago

Thanks! I’ll try to post these more often

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J 1 year ago

I love this idea!

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GhostlySnail (she/her) 1 year ago

Happy pride month pandas!

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My O My 1 year ago

I tried to keep up with all the different genders and sexual preferences for a while but to be honest, most of it I can't really grasp. Some things are easy for me to understand, you know the "old letters" of the LGBT movement so to say. The "newer" (as is now more common to talk about) things are difficult for me, maybe because I can't really imagine it and that's my way to understand things in life. I'd like to understand all of the community better but there is just nobody to ask who I know. O boy, all this probably sounds really weird when all I wanted to say was thank you for the opportunity to learn so much! Please excuse my awkward wording as I don't even know what/how I'm allowed to call things without making someone feel uncomfortable.

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GhostlySnail (she/her) 1 year ago

It’s ok to not understand things! As long as you aren’t using it as an excuse to spread hate, it is perfectly understandable. And if you have any questions I know plenty of pandas who will be happily to answer them!

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CanaDan 1 year ago

Personally, I feel Weezy is a closet gay who doesn't want to accept their feelings and brings it out on everyone else

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Pan princess ( She/They) 1 year ago

This was an amazing idea I don't know whose idea this was but whoever it was you're very smart.

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That Goth Demon (zey/zem) 1 year ago

It was @Marinasongs1432

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crowspectre (he/they) 1 year ago

Aghhh you stole my post idea ):<

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Marinasongs1432 (Post author) 1 year ago

I'm sorry about that. Why don't you use an oc pride art Competition? I'll let you use a piece of my art penup_2023...57da2e.jpg

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twilight (he/they) 1 year ago

Happy pride month guys!🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈

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Marinasongs1432 (Post author) 1 year ago

Yeah! You too!

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Weird Panda 1 year ago

Didn’t get a chance to post on this so I’ll just ask here, is it wrong to know that I’m lesbian as a kid (I’m not disclosing my real age but it’s around 10)

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Red PANda (she/they) 1 year ago (edited)

Not at all! Many people, especially homosexuals(gays and lesbians), realize that they are who they are pretty early on :D (for bisexuals and pansexuals and others, sometimes it takes a little more time since we like multiple genders, and so we might not realize we differ from the norm until we have a crush on someone the same gender or on a nonbinary) no matter what your age is, you’re allowed to have a sexuality and express it (although some people might disagree, looking at all the laws made in the southern states these days 😠) I realized I was pansexual a while ago, and I’m still in high school :D

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Markus He/It/E/Cloud/Ti 1 year ago

Hi, someone who uses some xenogender labels and neopronouns and is otherwise educated on them here! Yeah if you wanna ask questions, shoot. I'll do my best to answer them. I did this last year too. If you just wanna make fun of xenos/neos, move on, you're not funny and I don't have the patience to entertain you

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Marinasongs1432 (Post author) 1 year ago

Hi, sorry, looks like weezy is at it again.

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tom qwerty 1 year ago

I just realised i was gay a few months beforethis

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Pharmtechgurl 1 year ago

Thank you for this post! I have learned a lot! Especially #4. This has always been my biggest curiosity regarding LGBTQIA+ (hope I didn't miss anyone). I think I have a better understanding now. When I was growing up, it was always don't ask/don't tell. Things that went on between couples was private and not discussed. When people started coming out, I was confused because of this. Now I think I understand that EVERYONE wants to be seen. I get it.

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DBear 1 year ago

I have numerous friends who are LQBTQ+. Not a single one of them uses that to describes themselves. They use traditional terms (Gay, Lesbian, etc.).

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Dodo 1 year ago

LGBT+ is the umbrella term for the community. It's like saying 'Oh I'm Christian' but then you get into the different denominations; some people will just automatically go 'I'm a Baptist' or whatever.

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Powerful Katrinka 1 year ago

This is a terrific conversation! I wish that this happened more frequently.

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Marinasongs1432 (Post author) 1 year ago

Thanks! I’ll try to post these more often

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J 1 year ago

I love this idea!

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GhostlySnail (she/her) 1 year ago

Happy pride month pandas!

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My O My 1 year ago

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CanaDan 1 year ago

Personally, I feel Weezy is a closet gay who doesn't want to accept their feelings and brings it out on everyone else

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Pan princess ( She/They) 1 year ago

This was an amazing idea I don't know whose idea this was but whoever it was you're very smart.

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That Goth Demon (zey/zem) 1 year ago

It was @Marinasongs1432

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crowspectre (he/they) 1 year ago

Aghhh you stole my post idea ):<

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Marinasongs1432 (Post author) 1 year ago

I'm sorry about that. Why don't you use an oc pride art Competition? I'll let you use a piece of my art penup_2023...57da2e.jpg

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twilight (he/they) 1 year ago

Happy pride month guys!🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈

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Marinasongs1432 (Post author) 1 year ago

Yeah! You too!

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Weird Panda 1 year ago

Didn’t get a chance to post on this so I’ll just ask here, is it wrong to know that I’m lesbian as a kid (I’m not disclosing my real age but it’s around 10)

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