I have been told at least twice that I am a trans man in denial for not being femenine. It is being pushed. Dont lie.

I've been told my whole life that I'm a masculine woman. Your experiences don't account for every human being. Who told you that anyways? Seriously, I can't comprehend that any queer person would say that to you, so much so that I have to wonder whether you're the one lying. I can't verify what you've stated because frankly it's hard to believe, but if anyone has tried to push that on you then that's their problem, and it's messed up.. Your problem is with generalizing the whole transgender community. I'm not lying, but go ahead. Keep on being transphobic. Weird to see a bisexual pushing for discrimination against transgender individuals.

Fighting sexism, fighting gender roles is not disciminating, its the opposite. Enforcing and supporting gender roles IS but you all seem fine with it nowadays. I am not discriminating against trans people. I do not wish them to not be able to change their names or go through surgery. They are not evil, they are just wrong. They are victims of sexism. Same as cis men with toxic masculinity who do certain things "to be a man" are also victims of sexism.

Oza when will you realize you're blaming the wrong people? Toxic masculinity vs being transgender are two entirely different things. People WANT to transition, because it makes them HAPPY. The point of feminism is to make it so everyone is equal and so that there's no such thing as a man in a dress being controversial, or a masculine woman. I fully agree with that sentiment. But that does not mean trans women who prefer dresses and makeup over camo and boots are pushing stereotypes. I believe you're confused on this because you don't see trans women as women. But in reality, a feminine cisgender woman simply existing in her favorite choice of clothing wouldn't be seen as pushing stereotypes. Only is she pushing stereotypes when she says women have to be feminine like her. Trans people are victims of socially constructed gender, not sexism. And frankly, you're one of the perpetrators.

I cannot believe that trans women are women without believing that gender is a social construct/role that determines what a woman is. Since gender roles ARE sexist by definition choosing to comply to the role of 'woman' is acepting sexist stereotypes. Trans women are women (gender) but that does not make their actions less sexist. Toxic masculinity/femininity dictates what men/women (gender) can be but its harmful to us all. Reinforcing gender is a step backwards , it just furthers sexist stereotypes. Trans people are not evil but are victims of sexism.

You preach about how people always misgender you, yet you're out here doing the exact same thing on a much larger scale. I am a trans man. I prefer clothing traditionally defined as masculine. I don't give a sht about tradition, I care about my comfort. I don't like dresses, or makeup. I'm not pushing stereotypes of what it means to be a man, I'm pushing the narrative that no matter your gender your expression has nothing to do with it. You always ignore when I bring up masculine trans women, and feminine trans men. And nonbinary people who exist on both sides. You do this on purpose, because you know it completely breaks whatever stereotypes you enforce in your brain. I hold no grudges against you, and I truly think you mean well. But your anger is misdirected. You should be calling out the people trying to push stereotypes and not the ones that are simply fine with living inside and outside of said stereotypes.

So you wear "masculine clothes" just because they are practical and comfortable. You do not like makeup. Good for you. You just said that your clothes, the "costum" that you choose determines your gender. That you consider makeup or certain clothes to be for women and since you do not like them you are not a woman. Wearing certain clothes should not be considered masculine or feminine. Only sexism determines that. You believe that you need to call yourself a man, to fit in the box that society determines for men, because of your preferences in comfort. But in doing so you just reinforce the sexist idea that certain clothes are for men. I do not believe that you are a woman, don't get me wrong. I believe that you can choose your gender, the sexist classification that society created, and you chose the "man" cathegory. But that is not the solution. The solution is to get rid of gender altogether, to let anybody dress and act as they want without restricting them in tiny sexist boxes.

By saying what you do, you're pushing the idea that all women should be masculine and all men should be feminine. And that anything else is enforcing gender roles and therefore taboo. This is not feminism. Feminism pushes for freedom of expression and equality in expression. This is not feminism. This is transphobia being hidden by a false perception of what feminism is. Just say you're transphobic. Don't act like you're advocating for women's rights, because you're really not. If you were you'd be advocating for transgender women as well. I know you mean well. And I appreciate it. But sincerely, your actions only hurt people. They don't help.

Me disagreeing with you hurts people? It hurts as much as you disagreeing with me. I am not acting against you, I am not agreeing with your life choices. The trans community needs to understand that there is a huge gap between disagreement and hate. I will never vote for laws that restrict your freedom to identify as a man. I simply believe that what you are doing harms women and men, cis and trans.

Just gonna shut this down. You make a whole load of assumptions without knowing a damn thing about me. You submit post after post routinely blowing the views of others out of all proportion, attacking them like an over-zealous preacher. And frankly don’t portray yourself in a very favourable light. It’s one thing to feel passionate about something and been an ambassador for LGBTQ+ quite another to scream “damaged, bitter and bloody argumentative”.

Bloody hell, are still on one?! For the love of Christ, just let it go. The fact that more than a week later you are still ruminating and cogitating over an opinion you didn’t like kinda reinforces my perception that you should explore counselling. And I mean that respectfully and constructively, not facetiously. Don’t think I didn’t look at your many other posts on PB before I reached that conclusion. I have a couple of very dear, close friends and colleagues who are trans and I have supported them through some of the most difficult periods in their lives, helping them and others to find acceptance. So I’m perfectly ok with it. You, on the other hand, are clearly not. Quit being so angry and defensive, stop attacking me and others and move on. Life is waaaaaay too short. And have a hug. Even if you hate me x

Dont bother. They went from a liberal community with good intentions into a toxic extremist community. Now anything that is not agreeing 100% with their (changing) views is being a bigot.

" I don’t care what you “wanna be”. But if you were born with ovaries or testicles, better damn well let me know ahead of a medical intervention, lest we accidentally cause harm." For reference, this is the transphobic part. Have a nice day Mark. (He/Him)

I don't hate you, no idea what lead you to that conclusion. And I'm very sorry this page was once again in my recommendations, and I had forgotten I posted here. Rereading for the heck of it apparently means I'm "ruminating and cogitating over an opinion". I'm really not, and I really don't care. I forgot this was even here. I made a statement about my past self from a week ago. I'm not angry nor am I defensive. Am I not allowed to read? Am I not allowed to write? Good for you, you have trans friends. Though it's like saying "I'm not racist, I have black friends" but that's fine, I'll look past that. You're right, life is far too short to waste my time and energy. Thank you for your suggestion, I've been doing therapy for about a year now but certainly not for you, random stranger on the internet. That being said, hugs are traps and I am not a fan. The sentiment is appreciated nonetheless.

Right. I acknowledged I was assuming many things but everything i assumed was because of something you said. Aren't you assuming a lot about me too? If you don't like the fact I happen to overthink and that leads to me trying to clarify my point as much as I can, hence the long replies. That's not my problem. I get heated, sure but that's a new one. Over-zealous preacher? I don't attempt to portray myself in any light, and I'm sorry if me expressing my views lead to you believing that. And I'd like to ask a couple questions. Have I at all screamed "damaged bitter and bloody argumentative"? Maybe that's how my posts came off but that's not what I said. I'm flawed. And I get mad way too easily these days but it's none of your business why or if I do. And I am passionate. As an overzealous preacher (thanks, I'm stealing that one) I thought I'd let you know one thing. Practice what you preach buddy.

wow... just read this whole discussion and holy cripes avocado, take a chill pill