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Shame can be both productive and toxic, there’s no doubt about it. It may make us lift our rears and get things done, and sometimes we all need that extra push of “I am gonna show ‘em all.’’ But the truth is, people can get real nosy and may want to get into stuff that has little to do with their business.

So when Redditor u/Dodongicepick posed a question “What is a healthy behavior that people shame others for?” on r/AskReddit, it seems like it really hit a soft spot for many. People are now sharing all the eye-opening stuff that often becomes a target of undeserved criticism and it makes you wonder how on earth this has become the norm. Just let them live!

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People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Spending time alone. Seriously, you think me spending a week talking to nobody is the issue? How about the fact that you can't spend 5 minutes alone in fear of accidentally reflecting upon yourself?

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Love being alone. People don't understand that but solitude and silence are soooo good.

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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Taking medication for depression. I have been in situations where I have sat and listened to people talking about how they would NEVER take medications. I have had depression since I was 8. 41 years of struggles and it is offensive and it hurts when people do that. F**k all of you for judging.

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    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    THIS!!!!! You wouldn't deprive one of their medications for diabetes or cancer, so why is it so talk down about taking mental illness medications. It an illness! Take care of yourself and forget about what others think. I wouldn't be here without my meds.

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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Choosing not to have kids if you don't feel like you'd be a good/happy parent or be able to support them (emotionally, mentally, financially, socially).

    Like I don't think I really want kids because I don't think it would be good for me/I wouldn't be super happy as a mom.

    I'm on my way to full financial stability but I won't even consider it until I'm there. My mom keeps pushing me to have a kid even though I still drive an 08 piece of shit, rent, and have $60k student loans. Like, I'm not there, my kid is gonna have to go without like I did and I personally don't want to actively try to have a kid so they can go without.

    If I did change my mind, I would want to make sure they had a really fulfilling life. My mom had me because she wanted a kid. She got knocked up by a dude that didn't want me so I grew up without a dad. She was a poor, alcoholic. I grew up shit and hated most of my childhood. I don't want to be selfish like her and inflict that on a kid "just because I wanted a kid".

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I un-upvoted this once, just so I could upvote it twice. Being able to acknowledge that you are not financially and emotionally willing to have a child is one of the smartest decisions you can make as an adult.

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    To find out more about why exactly some people tend to be more judgmental than others, we reached out to Dr. Lise Deguire, clinical psychologist and author of a multiple award-winning book “Flashback Girl: Lessons on Resilience From a Burn Survivor.”

    “In my clinical experience, the people who are most judgmental towards others are secretly the most harshly judgmental towards themselves. Inside, these people are highly self-critical. It is no wonder, then, that they treat others the same way they treat themselves, critically and harshly. Frequently, when these people learn to be more loving and accepting towards themselves, they also become more tolerant and sympathetic towards others,” Dr. Lise explained.
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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Doing things that are normally thought of as social activities by yourself. Like eating at a restaurant, or going to a concert, play, or movie.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am happy to do any of these things alone. I enjoy the downtime. It gives me time to enjoy me!!!

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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Doing something you enjoy but being bad at it.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Adventure Time: “Dude, sucking at sumthin’ is the first step towards being sorta good at something.”

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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Being a fat person at the gym. They gotta start somewhere.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    At the last few gyms I went to before deciding I didn't like gyms, I never saw any bullying behavior. The hotties were all too busy checking each other out to pay attention to the heavier or older folks.

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    The clinical psychologist explained that people's judgment and criticism of us feels terrible, sometimes even devastating. “When this happens, the first thing to do is to notice your own pain and distress and to treat yourself kindly. It hurts, plain and simple. Having compassion for your pain will help you bear it.”

    “Once you have recovered from the hurt of being judged, it is good to remember that anyone judging you that harshly is probably in a lot of pain themselves,” Lise said and added that awareness may help you to move beyond the hurt of the moment.
    #7

    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Talking to yourself.

    it's a good way to problem solve or even just vent about something.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Good to have a chat with someone who understands :)

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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Men crying.

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    #9

    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Estranging from toxic parents.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Most people that I meet that finds out I don't talk to my toxic mother feels entitled to know how exactly she is toxic so that they can either a) be sympathetic and understanding or b) shame me for not wanting to squash it all down "because she gave birth to me." Be person A. Let's stop pretending that it's unhealthy to hate someone on the basis of blood relation.

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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Being an introvert.

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    #11

    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Not taking business calls after work hours, everyone should take Portugal’s example and pass some sort of law against it.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't pay attention to anything until I'm on the clock. Idc if I'm on my 15 unpaid break. Get back to me when I'm on the clock again. I had a supervisor try to berate me for shooing her away while I was on an unpaid and on a personal call. I wasn't having it.

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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Not having Facebook.

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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Not drinking every time you go out with friends.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Try not drinking alcohol at all, and seeing what kind of s**t people give you!

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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Not forcing your kids to hug others. My distant relatives can be so butt hurt when my kid doesn’t want to hug them, but I’m not going to force my kid to hug someone.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As the mother of an autistic child, I can relate to this one. I would rather them be butt hurt than for my child to have a total meltdown.

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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Refusing unreasonable requests. Just saying "no" in general.

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    #16

    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Being single. I had this horrible experience where I wanted to be single for a bit and also just wasn't meeting anyone I was really interested in. I was perfectly fine with not having a boyfriend but my friends hounded me about it constantly. Always asking me why I was single, telling me I was too picky, would show up to hangouts with men and ask me why I didn't go for it. Me saying I was fine with being single was never a good enough answer. So I started to feel self-conscious about being single, felt like I was under a microscope so if I did meet someone I felt uncomfortable having my friends cheering me on. I was young so I didn't know how to handle it so I just kind of dealt with it but it sucked. Let your single friends be single unless they are asking for your help, advice, and opinions.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In my experience, it is very good to be single in some period of life. I used that time to learn how to be alone, to learn about myself, concentrate on so many different things that were fulfilling and building me as the person I became today. I'm so greatful that I don't have to depend on anyone, I feel stable and my relationship of 8 years is much healthier, I think thanks to my "alone" period.

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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Grieving. People tell you to get over it because they're uncomfortable.

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    #18

    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Choosing not to be religious at all, lacking the same religious intensity, or believing in a religion that the other person doesn't believe in.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't get why people care so much what other people's faiths are. It's nothing to everyone else.

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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others I got laughed at by my brother and his wife during Thanksgiving when I said I was starting to diet. Like, I get it. I'm a fat guy. Unfortunately, I can exercise, but that's only half the battle. It actually really hurt my motivation, ngl.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why would someone laugh. What a rotten thing to do. He wants to lose weight and improve his health and they laugh. Mean buggers.

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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Asking questions.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I always upvote people here when they ask a question. They're trying to become informed, and that's a good thing.

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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Being wrong. It's healthy to express opinions and ideas. When we shame people for being wrong, we tend to stop new conversations from happening. In this way, we lose opportunities to understand where others are coming from and squander opportunities to change minds. Further, we push all the wrong-headed people into groups where they can go nuts following their wrongness to its logical conclusion. Just stop humiliating people for holding opinions and having bad ideas. And remember everybody does.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Admitting you were wrong is a healthy, intelligent, grownup, and admirable behavior! Avoid the f**k out of anyone who disparage those who admit they're wrong.

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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Going to bed early.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I start looking at the clock at about 2100 and am in bed by 2200. I love reading for 15 minutes and then I conk out.

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    Politely and respectfully expressing negativity. Bottling negative emotions just for the sake of “being positive” really eats you up over time.

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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Being slow to respond. I would rather respond correctly than quickly. Same for confidence level. If I am unsure it means I want to double-check. It seems more irresponsible to speak off the cuff. But I think the reality is that the fast talkers are rewarded more, even if they are wrong.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have stopped answering messages immediately out of principle. I don't want to live in a world where I have to be available at all times.

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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Calling in for a mental health day. There’s no good option. You call out and make yourself look unreliable or you go to work unstable and make yourself look unstable.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thank goodness I am fortunate enough to have mental health days that I can take when needed. Everyone could benefit from these days. Should be mandatory.

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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Walking away from an argument or tense situation. There’s no way I can have a proper and productive discussion if I’m wound up! I’d rather take a quick walk or have time to myself before I tackle the issue. A clear head is more important than figuring out a conflict quickly.

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    Human sexuality. All through high school my mom was all “stay away from boys! They only want one thing and they’ll say anything to get it! Don’t be one of those foolish girls who gets tricked and knocked up and has her life ruined!”

    No parties. No dating. No makeup. I wasn’t even allowed to TALK about guys being cute without her side-eyeing me.

    Then I go to college and halfway through freshman year she’s like “why don’t you have a bf? Get out there! Meet someone! Why aren’t you more social? And PUT SOME MAKEUP ON!”

    She meant well but…it was very confusing.

    To this day I’m shy around guys I like because of that woman.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why can't you swim, after I refused to let you take swimming lessons for your entire childhood?!

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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others My family doesn't think I should cook or clean and that my wife should do it all as it was in their dysfunctional marriages.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One of my colleagues immigrated from a place with rigid and traditional gender roles. She makes her kids (all boys) help around the house. It's partly out of principle, but it's also practical. She has a career and her sons will have an easier time meeting and retaining partners if they do their share.

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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Wearing a mask.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I just don't get that. Masks don't steal freedom. Other cultures from different areas of the world have been wearing masks for health reasons long before this.

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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Men taking care of their own kids.

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    Getting up from your desk for 5min and taking a breather, only acceptable if you smoke it seems, not actually for just getting fresh air. I get why so many people smoke cigarettes.

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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Breastfeeding a baby in public

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    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think that anyone complaining about breastfeeding, in ANY environment, should be charged with child abuse as they are technically trying to deprive an infant from feeding.

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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Taking a healthy amount of time to take care of yourself, rest, or recoup.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Some people just can't afford to take that healthy amount of time to care for themselves, because they need to work 2-3 jobs if they want to live indoors, and other people deliberately put themselves into positions where they can't do so - because they want the rewards that come from a high-paying job. I'm very sympathetic to the former.

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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others As a man, using sunblock. I can't even tell you how many times I've been heckled on the golf course for putting sunblock on my face before being out in the sun for the next 4-5 hours.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Next time that happens, tell them you hope they enjoy having their noses amputated in a few years.

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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Talking to a therapist regularly. It’s a purchase of time to help work through complex emotional issues in order to have more bandwidth in other areas. Good for all regardless of mental state.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    therapy is NOT about someone being MAD......it's to help u be good from basically anything

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    Not getting into fights with your significant other.

    Had a friend that tried to convince me that it was unhealthy for my wife and I not to get into fights. I tried to explain that when we disagreed with each other about something we talked it through and trusted each other enough to listen and be receptive to the other person. She just rolled her eyes and said that it would happen eventually because to her what we were doing was just bottling things up. I couldn't convince her that the reason she got into fights was that she and her husband bottled things up until they exploded and that's why she got into fights.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I argue with my wife all the time. She has social anxiety so won't argue with people. So, after a stressful day, I'll roleplay as a colleague so she can can have and argument and vent a little. We never actually argue about anything in our lives because we understand each other.

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    Being polite and non-confrontation. There are people who see this as a sign of weakness and will take advantage/abuse those who aren't assholes.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You can be polite and non-confrontational and still keep the assholes under control. Just because you refuse to fight the pig, doesn't mean that the pig won.

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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Minding your business. Some perceive it as you not liking them.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Keeping to myself and out of other peoples' drama/ business has been one of the healthiest changes I have done for myself in recent years.

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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Turning off your phone sometimes.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Mine has a "do not disturb setting' that kicks in from 2200 to 0730 daily. I have had to explain to a few people that I got a cell phone for my convenince, not theirs.

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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Not shaving pubic hair. What most people don’t know is that pubic hair can protect you by keeping harmful bacteria out of ya genitalia.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also irritated, spotty skin seems to be more appealing than just..you know..hair??

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    #41

    Behaving with authenticity and integrity, even if it's at the expense of popularity.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Markiplier and Jacksepticeye are great examples of this. They're genuine, no matter what that may cause.

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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Having a mutually respectful relationship with my husband's ex-wife and treating my stepchildren with respect (and they treat me with respect). I don't see similar situations very often.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One of my relatives went from carefree divorcee to mother of five (two of her own, his three kids part-time). One of the stepkids wants to be in the same field as her stepmom. Sometimes the apple falls and rolls over to another tree. :)

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    Staying home on a weekend

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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Asking about kids early on in the relationship. I’m not saying you should ask on the first date but why is it so frowned upon. Shouldn’t you go ahead and find out if you want the same things in life before you’re 3 years into the relationship and the breakup will be 10x worse because you waited till it was too late and it hurts like hell?

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is more important than people want to think, especially if you're looking for something long term. If you're just dating or looking for a casual fling, then that can be a bit heavy. Don't waste each other's time. Be honest. Yes, things change. But it's good to get any issues of having kids out of the way sooner than later. For ex; I have a medical condition where I have to go through treatments and medication just to be able to have a chance at getting pregnant again, and I don't want anymore. I got my one and only kid. My boyfriend is younger than me and I know he may change his mind, but I needed him to know of this would be a dealbreaker or not. There are other options if we change our minds about kids. Right now, we're both not interested in making our own kid and he's fine with my daughter added to the package. Can't complain.

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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others People trying to better themselves or their situation.

    This goes for a lot of things, exercise, work, trying to fix anything you don't like about your personality. If you try to cause change for yourself there will always be someone who shames you for it.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Many who shame are just insecure in their own lives. They are afraid you will succeed where they cannot.

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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others As a dude - having a routine for my face at night, which is weird because my guy friends have faces too so I’m not sure where the shame comes from?

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's weird that caring for yourself in various ways is inherently seen as being feminine and therefore 'bad'...

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    Refusing to drink or smoke

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    using a helmet while cycling

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    Just wanting a quiet, uninterrupted festive holiday without the expectation of visiting people in your family.

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    Farting.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This should be higher, in all seriousness. We all do it, and most of us feel embarrassed or ashamed to perform a natural bodily function. We actually go to great lengths to 'hold it in' as we make a madcap dash to the nearest toilet or private area. We should all respect the noble trump and embrace it's sound, smell and sensation. My wife farts regularly in her sleep and - still dreaming - offers a little chuckle after each one. Farting is good for you but please be careful that it is only a fart before fully committing to it.

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    Feeling your feelings. No matter what age you are, no one is allowed to just feel their feelings because it might be inconvenient for other people to be around. I'm not talking about just feeling sad or upset, but even really excited.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I cried hard this morning because my favourite cup broke and "bleeded" my coffee right out. Just woke up and so i am not ready for such disaster... my son had trouble not to laugh... my wonderful cup... 😭

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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Having boundaries for everyone, not just a spouse.

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    Speaking or standing up for themselves in a reasonable manner and getting mocked for it.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You know what really meets with sniffy disapproval is calling someone out for being a capitalist or racist c_nt. Everyone is like shock horror, you said something rude. And I'm like, no, blaming the poor or being a racist is like the shittiest human you can be apart from a murderer or pedo, so... I will speak up. F**k your politeness and british manners bullshit.

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    Male cuddling.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This could be thing in certain cultures or circles but my husband and 2 brothers and male besties all hug each other (or is cuddling different?).

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    Expressing yourself and then they say that person is so emotional.

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    I’ve been called an old lady many times because I just get tired earlier and even when we used to go clubbing before C19 I’d always be either in a corner of the club or back in the car if it was safe because I just can’t sustain a high level of energy for prolonged times. I just always make sure my phone is charged and can be contacted

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I call my wife an old lady because she is six months older than me. She usually hits me lol.

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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Prioritizing your mental health. It's such a high expectation on people to expect to be constantly working and seeing who can sleep the least, while at the same time maintaining the perfect home/family/appearance. It's all an illusion and careful editing presented on social media to make you feel even worse about yourself. Though we've made progress in talking about mental health there's still a lot of stigma around it and many people either can't afford the help they need or have to be on months-long waiting lists which can find an appointment being offered too late. It's such an underfunded area and I just hope that in the future we can work to a lifestyle with clear boundaries between work and home and that when people need help and support that they can actually get it without having to worry about the money/waiting times/stigma.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you see office workers, sales people, or just anyone, who boasts how little sleep they get and are always hyper and wired up, and brag how much they work, you can bet on it they're getting help from a certain substance.

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    Exercise. You would be surprised how many people make fun of me for going to the gym. Having muscles relegates me to being nothing but a dumb jock when I actually hold a master's degree and am extremely successful in my sector.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In Which world people make fun of other people going to gym? Is that a Europe thing?

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    Not smiling all the time.

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    Not eating sugary products or junk food. I've been told I'm "dumb" by my siblings for being "boring" for not constantly eating junk like them. I guess they will see who is "dumb" when they get the health issues.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They're probably jealous because they're not able to do that. I know that I am jealous..😂 But I'd never shame someone for it..it is healthier!

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    People Are Sharing 40 Completely Healthy Behaviors That They Get Shamed For By Others Plastic surgery. When my grandfather decided in his late 70s that he wanted to have some rhinoplastic work done, it caused a ridiculous stir in my family. He explained that he had felt his nose was embarrassingly short and overly cute all his life (like a kitten's, he would say). Since he was a young man he had dreamed of having a powerful, ponderous nose like those Greek philosophers he admired so much. Having been a college professor for a while, he always had the impression that his colleagues treated him like a baby because of his appearance.

    Everybody from my grandmother to my sisters made fun of him or went on and on about how this was a bad idea. He remained steadfast in his resolve, saying: 'all my life I've lived with a crappy schnoz, now let me at least be buried with a dignified one.' Indeed, soon after the surgery, he slipped deeper into dementia and sadly passed just a couple of years later. Still, I like to think that nose job made the winter of his life a bit more bearable...

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    This comment has been deleted.

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    Ordering a glass of water at restaurants/cafes!!!!!! I don't really like sodas so I prefer the water, but I don't want to add to the mountains of plastic bottle waste when the same water is flowing from the tap. Also, 0.5l water is not enough, but 1l is too much, a glass is a perfect amount

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    Not having a TV in the bedroom. Had this argument with my wife when we moved in with each other. Settled on her getting a new iPad and air pods, and me getting a new gaming WiFi router.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have never had a tv in my bedroom. I hate the things. I read then conk out.

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    Not spending tons of time “branding” themselves on social media.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    actually this one depends on your brand. If you're an influencer and you are literally selling your hotness, sorry to tell you, but once you hit middle age, hotness goes away and you then actually have to be a useful human being. So best you get on with that before you have a spouse and kids etc around. No, plastic surgery does not work, you can spot it immediately and you look like a freak. IF however you are branding for WORK reasons, like actual work, not posing in a bikini, then yes, by all means, make a huge effort, because your future employers will google you.

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    Being a vegetarian

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nothing wrong with being a vegetarian or vegan... the problem occurs when they start being pushy about their beliefs. This hurts the public image of the whole community.

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    Being honest and direct rather than being “nice”

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't agree with this one, being honest doesn't mean not being diplomatic or sensitive to other people's feelings.

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