Maybe this is just me, and I am NOT blaming her, but I'm wondering why she didn't put her foot down before the baby was born? When she saw how little he cared if it was a girl, or when he ignored her wishes about the announcement of the pregnancy, or when he steamrolled her about boy names? I would not have put up with any of that bull s**t. Guy is a douchebag. EDIT: Eh, I've re-read my comment and it does look like I'm blaming her a little, which was not my intention. I understand that people can be mentally and emotionally beaten down, making it hard to leave such situations. I hope she freed herself from him. I stand by my douchebag comment, though!

I worry for this poor woman. The bullying about the name went on for almost 9 months. The fact that he told people about her pregnancy at 2 weeks when she specifically asked him not to was bad. The fact that she knew the names from the start but still chose not to know the gender of her child because HE didn’t want to know made this worse and made her worry for over 8 months about this name. Then she still didn’t exert any authority when her son was born. He has total control. She has to step up for herself and for her son.

If you hate it now, you will hate it forever. My wife had her heart set on a name, which I hated. I accepted using it as a middle name. Big mistake, I hated it to the point where I never did the "First, Middle, Last name" thing when he misbehaved. Still hate it to this day. Two yeses or one no, that's it.

My friend had a similar situation but she was in a very abusive relationship and thought she was stuck with the awful name her partner picked. Eventually she realised it was affecting the relationship she had with her baby and this was the sole reason she finally left her partner and changed her son's name (most countries have a law where a person can change their child's name within a certain timeframe) 28 years later she has an amazing relationship with her son and feels that she bonded even more by claiming him back and choosing a name that suited him.

If her boyfriend behaves like that over choosing their baby's name, what's next? OP'S decision not to have any more children for a few years, if at all? Where to live? When her in-laws can drop by? In other words, will she have ANY say about anything in their relationship? Doubtful. OP, change the baby's name to one you would prefer, and leave that manipulative piece of equestrial dung. The abuse will only escalate after the vows are exchanged. Hand him his ring, cross the floor, pick up your son, and out the door.

Change the name, don't marry Jerkface, jeez, you'd think this was common sense. I feel sorry for OP tho. Must suck...

My sister had her son while her husband was working in another state. He had instructed her to name it Gary Don if it was a boy. She named him John Charles. (The second son is named Gary Don.)

Didn't even bother reading the full post, this man is a psycho.

It is a real thing to give a baby the "wrong" name. Somehow the universe picks up on it either because the face doesn't fit the person's name, or an innate instinct. My mum wanted to name me **Janette and my dad vetoed that, so they settled on Janet. All my life I've had people call me Janette after I've introduced myself as Janet, and it never bothered me enough to want to correct them, and I'll happily answer to either. I only found out last year about what my Mum had actually wanted to name me. This kiddo will grow up being called every other name than the one his sperm donor foisted on him, and it won't just be something his mom does if she "settles" on leaving him with this counterfeit name. (**changed from my actual name, but the similarity of the two names is the same)

Run Girl RUN!!!! This man is an abusive bully and this is only the start

My girlfriend (very NOT white) is literally named after a famous slave plantation. No idea what went on in her mom's head. Her very Black mom named her. No, her family was never slaves on that particular plantation.

Short for Sahelanthropus tchadensis ?

Children’s names should be a two yeses deal.

People should just stop naming babies after their dead relatives, these babies are their own individuals and not a tribute to some dead relative. And also, both parents should agree on the baby's name without forcing their opinions on the other.

id honestly change the name (maybe use Chad as the middle name) so he can technically keep calling him Chad and she can call him whatever she wants.

Don't marry Emmet. Get the baby's name changed. Emmet's a world class shitbag. You should never have had his child, but there's no changing it now.

I get the feeling that Emmet just wants his 'heir' and obviously doesn't care about his breeding partner. Pretty sure this woman will have to fight for her child in court before long.

Why did the hospital let the father fill out the birth certificate? That should be the mother's job. They should have waited until your were recovered to fill it out. I filled out mine the next day. Yes, change the baby's name now. I'd think twice about marrying this guy. He doesn't respect you. You are just his breeder now. When you rename the baby, pick your favorite name and your BF doesn't get a say.

A tradgedeigh

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If you know it's his just call the baby beau an that's it. Anyone calls him Chad let them. You have your name for him. If worse. To worse call him cc or what ever the first real initial is. You don't have to explain. But. But. But. If you decide to leave this bf an move on you can always legally change his name because plenty of new parents do. And just relax about the gifts with the chad on them. You call him what you want. Say his name is Chad but I call him by his middle name. C**p my nephew is Emmitt but the mom n dad call him tooter I guess he farts a lot. Poor kiddo