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Nobody deserves being rejected. First off, the world is cruel enough. And second, there’s a fair share of karma involved in it. If you ever reject someone, the chances are the same thing will come to you as a boomerang when you least expect it. In a parallel reality, everyone would have a reciprocal “It’s a match!”

But being told ‘sorry’ by your love interest is surely much more complex than that. And the best way to take a glimpse into humanity’s hurt souls is to look at what people have to say themselves.

So when Twitter user Eden Dranger posed the question “What was your harshest rejection?” it resonated with many, amassing 4,173 retweets and 67.6K likes.

So let’s get ready for a brutal, yet sometimes funny, other times plain odd, roller coaster ride featuring the stories of rejection as told by the ones who know what they’re saying.

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Alison
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow 😳 that was a close call. Sorry to hear about the wife though being beat up. Awful to think about what happens behind closed doors

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To find out more about dealing with harsh rejection, Bored Panda reached out to Kate Mansfield, an acclaimed dating and relationship coach based in London, UK. Kate told that the way rejection psychologically affects us vary from person to person. “Rejection can have a profound or a mild effect, depending on the psychological state, the past trauma, and the personality of the person,” she explained.

“At its worst, it can cause extreme feelings of worthlessness and even depression. It can cause the person to withdraw from relationships and to stay alone. Or, to feel not good enough and low self-esteem.”

Meanwhile, people with healthy self-esteem and confidence, are usually mildly affected. This is “because they have a solid sense of self-worth already,” Kate explained.

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When asked about the ways to deal with being rejected, Kate suggested working on your self-esteem and understanding that it’s nothing to do with you, and usually, it’s not personal.

“Try to feel grateful, because the one thing worse than being rejected is to stay in a relationship with someone who doesn't really love you. That is rejection on a daily basis, and causes extreme loneliness.”

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WilvanderHeijden
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Let's just hope that they are able to put him behind bars for his part in the siege of the capitol.

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Joonscrab
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You just dodged a bullet lolll if he can't handle a person having an extra few pounds, then that's on him.

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Catherine
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Haha this one made me laugh! Luckily, you were overqualified and clearly meant for bigger things in life

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Whatever people say, rejection hurts. Bottom line. It doesn’t matter which point of a relationship you’re at—being told "I am sorry, but" is something none of us want to hear. Emotional responses by anyone who’s experienced it are confirmed by researchers, and they range from feeling jealous to anxious and lonely.

But since rejection has a lot to do with self-worth and self-image, oftentimes the pain of it is directly linked to how you validate yourself. Often people look for external and not internal forces to feel validated, which makes them vulnerable to setbacks. What if we simply haven't learned to love ourselves enough?

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Doggo Froggo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is so disgusting! That type of thing should not matter at all.

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WilvanderHeijden
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So they were just racists. Today one tweet, would be enough to force the agency out of business. And rightly so.

Sinkvenice
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, what a d**k move. Were they one of those agencies who said you have to pay for your own pictures for your portfolio?

Euna Magbitang
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, the same thing happened to me! Modeling agencies can sometimes be a little harsh.

Kathryn Baylis
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh well, good on them for having their token “ethnic” already. F*****g assholes. Got a message for the modeling industry, plus the beauty product, diet, and entertainment, industries: Beauty is beauty is beauty. It is not all the same, it is not an unreachable aesthetic, it is not cookie cutter perfection. There is no such thing as “conventional beauty”, nor should there be. In real life, it is often the imperfections that make someone beautiful—-and interesting. Here’s a prime example: Back in the day, Barbra Streisand was looked upon as a great talent, no question, but was not considered pretty. Look at pictures of her today, both when she was young and now, and she is gorgeous! Interestingly beautiful. Striking. That people “in the industry” didn’t consider her to be beautiful is a sad sad comment on standards of “beauty”. We need to throw out the book on beauty and start a new, expanded, and diverse volume.

M Kate McCulloch
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh hell no! Then again - agencies are like that. Not necessarily racist, per se, but when I submittted to mine, they said, "Oh, you're in luck! We just lost our middle-aged redhead!" Can I get an Amen... lol

Xan Maranya
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We'd better tell that other girl that she's being called "an ethnic".

Jackie Wolfred
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I also went to a modeling agency when I was 16. I could tell by the facial expression and questions asked, she thought I was a joke. Finally she said I was too short and wouldn't ever get to model anything, except maybe ski wear. She also said my eye brows were too far above my eyes and told me to pluck them from the top. I was 5'4", and eventually got up to 5'7". I did as she said and plucked my eyebrows on the top. They looked hideous. I didn't give up there though, as I went to another modeling agency and they cut me to the quick, and didn't spend the time with me. And so it goes...

Kris “ADHD_Carrier” Dudoich
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am without words. Okay seriously, no, is this going to start being a box on forms? Please check your race - Caucasian/African American/Ethnic - I mean, what the what??? Oh, and it sounds like that agency didn't deserve you anyway!

François Carré
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just a reminder that sometimes modeling agencies are just a fancy version of slave markets.

DC
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

An "ethnic"? So ... they basically reduce you to the region your ancestors have lived in and the effects this has on your looks? Be glad those knuckleheads didn't want you ... you shouldn't ever want them or any alike!

Brandy Grote
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"An ethnic"? What even, like there is a limit to exotic beauty? Pshhh

Isabelle
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

that makes me so freaking mad. oml. smh. screw that modeling agency.

Stephen Hutchison
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"An ethnic" -- wow if that was anywhere in the past 15 years it would mean that was a former modeling agency because nobody would hire them. And if it was more recent, how have they stayed in business?

catherine todd
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OMG! It never ends, does it! So sorry about that, but it's been that way in the modelling world for years. When will it ever change?

Henry Shane
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People are products, you're a category. Like meat...all people are. The world is a market. There are more empathetic ways to say a category has already been filled though.

Steve
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Actually, this is sometimes based on the types of jobs they get. Clients can specifically request people with distinct looks. If they already have enough people in a category to fill all their jobs, they don't hire more in that category. Of course, they could also be racist pigs. Kinda hard to tell just based on this

John C
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I consider myself progressive and I think I've been successful in raising kids to not only not be racist but also be aware of current issues. That said, this isn't necessarily racist. There's always a target audience to which you wish to appeal, and that will dictate what models you use. A good agency will have a spectrum of models to fit whatever their clients need. That variety will be of all types; different races, heights, body styles, etc. Imagine if a plumber filled his toolbox with only screwdrivers. I am appalled at the wording through. Whoever wrote "we already have an ethnic" should be fired on the spot.

Persp Gold
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

if you want to work in modeling you better have thicker skin than this.

Ovidiu Toader
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's how modeling agencies work. They have clients who need a quota of models of varying ethnicities and genders, because that's THE CLIENTS' REQUEST. It's not personal. ```Source: I work in marketing and publicity graphic media.```

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Being rejected by someone you love can really turn even the strongest of us into emotional train wrecks. But in many cases, we tend to idealize both the person and the relationship, as we only remember good times and emotions.

Such behavior is usually unconscious, but it nevertheless doesn’t show the full picture of what you really feel hurt about.

Interestingly, friendship rejections can often be even more painful than romantic ones. Beverly Flaxington, a life and career coach, says to remember that while a friendship’s end can be painful, it’s also normal for friends to come and go.

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On the other hand, if you still feel like you're missing that person and that friendship in your life, Lexington suggests “reaching out to see if the person wants to get together.” In fact, timing may be crucial as it gives a whole new perspective of the friendship and the people we surround ourselves with.

After some time has passed and if you find yourself missing that person and that friendship, Flaxington suggests reaching out to see if the person wants to get together. Timing is key here. Time can allow people to approach a friendship with a new perspective, she notes

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sometimes you need people to be tough on you because family and friends might lie to you about how good you are

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Dan Buczynski
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow. Well f**k Kavanaugh and f**k your ex husband. I hope you've since found someone who appreciates a bad@$$ like you.

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Lili
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I really don't understand people who pay for their not-even-spouse's education, house, cars, etc... Like, are you out of your mind?

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According to Lori Gottlieb, M.F.T., psychotherapist, "When somebody rejects us, there's a very primal piece to it, which is that it goes against everything we feel like we need for survival."

But beyond the evolutionary standpoint, our responses to rejection vary greatly as they really depend on the models in which we develop our relationships with people. Those with insecure attachment styles in contrast to secure ones are likely to experience much greater pain from rejection.

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Vic
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's not a rejection, that's cheating! He was not your boyfriend, and she definitely was not your best friend.

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Pungent Sauce
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Stripping is sex work, and a lot of guys have difficulty separating the fantasy woman from the actual human being. Not excusing this jackass in any way, but as in most any job it’s best to not date the customers/clientele.

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StrawberryParfait
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So many broken people out there who only became teachers so they could be in power over the vulnerable. S**t like this is how they grab their little slice of power in the world.

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Catherine
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ugh Twilight romanticised truly unhealthy relationships. So dangerous to feed the minds of young adults!

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Dan Buczynski
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Those are both $hitty, but I had to say how much I love your twitter handle. lolz.

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Naomi
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

so if u broke your neck and fractured your scull then u would be his dream girl

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Dan Buczynski
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Pfft...don't need anyone that's more interested in the contents of your bank account than your character.

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Lis A
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've heard a bird pooping on you is good luck..so at least there's that?

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Curry on...
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Was he her love interest? I mean, if not, how else should you introduce a friend? What am I missing?

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MERCI LANGSTON
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I sent notes to a boy in the 6th grade only to have one of his friends to tell me he didn't like me. We had the same gym and health class together. He literally sat one seat away from me.

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Becky Moore
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I read this as she murdered someone and was confused. I think I need more sleep

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Biljana Malesevic
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's a bad idea to approach someone right after break up. You can end up as rebound and they are still not over ex.

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Verena Gitterle
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In my opinion, the Silmarillion is really boring. If he was into that, he would be boring also.

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Spring Fisk
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

wow, just wow. I hope that you have found loving people in your life now that honor you as you should be honored.

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ZZAM
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Its not about how fat you are, everybody is beautiful no matter their shape or size or if they are blue or a unicorn.

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MERCI LANGSTON
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She probably wanted your boyfriend to break up with you for her. Either way, she is a bad friend.

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Dana
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Um, Shirley Temple was an adorable tap dancing angel! I would be honored if someone compared me to Shirley Temple, especially if it was about my tap dancing! :)

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Al Christensen
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oooo, this reminds me of something I did. The Sadie Hawkins Dance was coming up (where the girls ask the boys). My buddy's sister asked me to be her date. I didn't see her that way and delayed answering. My buddy asked, "What's your answer? Don't leave her hanging." I replied, "I don't know, I want to see if someone better asks me." Yeah, I was an ass. What I didn't know was all the girls had already figured it out with each other who was going to ask who, so no one else was ever going to ask me.

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Kwj
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some people just don't understand how much pain words cause.. What an idiot He is.

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H Edwards
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That just sounds like an awkward way of warning someone that they may behave inappropriately.

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TheGirlFromTheNorth
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Similar thing happend to me as well, applied for the job, got rejected (s**t happens, you can't get ever job you apply for so that's not the issue). Instead of the usual "Thank you for applying but we've decided to proceed with others blablabla" they said "No, your IQ-level dosen't match our expectations". Maybe it's just me being grumpy, but find that kind of funny since I have a MA-degree (applyed for the job because I wanted to get a foot in at that company and climb the latter) and the job was at customer care dept, with that said, absolutley nothing wrong working such a job!!

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Blarrg
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not sure telling someone you've never dated that you love them is good judgement.

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Pungent Sauce
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She was looking for a man who internally identifies as a woman who wants to date other women? Or looking for a woman who externally identifies as a man that likes to date women? Not judging, just looking for clarification.

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Anna Simpson
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This isnt a rejection. Learn some short phrases in sign language and ask again.

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MiriPanda
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am a little confused - why would you keep sending job application to a place you already know does not want you?

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It might have been better to go home after the first five minutes of crying.

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MauKini
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you like someone, you like someoone. You cant help it. Its his fault he feels embarresed by you liking him. How is it possible that this thought is still in your head?!

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Danieletc
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, raging testosterone has a way of making REALLY dumb ideas feel inspired, even romantic.

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Messy
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Soo..basically your bragging bc you rejected and ghosted the guy?🤨

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