PunchinelloTX

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And pets. Never take pets for granted.

True. Hard to accept though, because we are told that we can "do and become whatever we want". No, we can't.

CYA - always

I agree.

You can't make someone love you period. Doesn't mean you're unlovable, just that this is not the right person for you.

They get to the top often because they are full of sh*t

Sometimes the things that are best for us are the things we don't like.

I'm screwed

There is an really old folk song about the Reverned Mr. Black: You got to walk that lonesome valley. You gotta walk it by yourself. Ain't nobody who can walk it for ya". CYA at all times.

Some of us just have more tools for saving ourselves than others.

The corollary is you can't save someone else from themselves either.

I would change that into "sometimes the problem can be you" because labeling someone a problem is never as straightforward as it seems.

It's true. A year and a half ago my MIL was great. Now we have terminal cancer and possibly the last christmas with her. Take care of your health

It took me a long time to learn that loneliness is a state of mind. It has nothing to do with being alone. I don't know how I did it, but one week in my 30s I had always felt lonely and the next week I didn't, and never have been since. Sort of like I made a conscious decision not to be lonely, and it worked.

I knew a guy when I lived in Austin, TX that was the poster child of/for this. He SEEMED to be an OK guy, but when you looked into his eyes it was somewhere between evil and vacuous. He used people and seemed proud that he could.

Don't drive angry, or depressed, or distracted. Maybe just don't drive.

Like when your house burns down (as in the picture), especially when you have no forewarning. Speaking from personal experience here.

My philosophy is: if you make a decision, and you think it's the right decision at the time based on all the available information, then it stays the right decision, even if things don't work out how you'd hoped. You should only regret the actions that you knew were wrong *at the time* - such as smoking when pregnant.

I've got a filling that's going on 18 years~ and its doing alright, don't give me more to worry about darn it.

idk how to process this cakey-6584...b90d83.jpg

Yeah, too many people think "Someone else will say/do/ask whatever needs to be said/done/asked". Be that someone else.

“Wisdom comes from experience. Experience is often a result of lack of wisdom.” ― Terry Pratchett

Sometimes, one has to ditch old friends in order to move on. I know I'd remain single if I stayed with the same group. It took a while, but I did eventually meet the love of my life, and we've been together 24 years. It wouldn't have happened if I had carried on in the same group.

That certainly got dark.

Different decisions and working hard doesn't always change things either.

I swear sometimes I"ll feel like a disney character about to burst with joy and then an hour later I'm sad enough to want to off myself

The corollary to this is, sometimes, you will discover you can’t have the hard conversations. They will become defensive, reject your perspective and turn it all around as a judgement against you. When this happens, ask (calmly if you can) to work on it together because you have a right to your opinion, feelings and even forgiveness if you messed up (cheating is not messing up, it’s scorched earth destruction). You should be able to trust them to be respectful and open to discussion. If they aren’t willing to work with you, even to the point of couples therapy when it’s clearly necessary, take a hard look at the whole relationship and decide how long you are willing to struggle to “make it work”. Far too many people, myself included, waste years of life fighting for a relationship that is dysfunctional; never going to make either of you feel complete. It’s far better to split up when you still have some respect for each other than waiting until you can’t stand the sight of them.

I went through years of useless classes until I finally figured out that engineering was my calling. I never would have thought that growing up a punk skater kid.

Do NOT expect these appropriate promotions and raises to be simply handed out because you’re good at your job. Continue your education, take classes, get certifications or diplomas. Know where you want to be in 1-2 years; the five-year plan is great but far too apt to be disrupted by life. Know your worth! PLEASE, do an annual check of what new hires are being offered for roles like yours; if it’s significantly higher, then there is VALUE in your experience. Sure, you can be replaced but there’s rarely harm in pointing out your replacement will cost money to find, then they will need to be trained, then it will still take time for them to gain the experience you already have. It will ALWAYS cost your employer more to replace you than to give you a raise (unless you’re really bad at your job).

The older I get, the less I need. But then, I'm a geezer.

Not true of everyone. some can become very close friends.

It is better to have no plan but be able to improvise than to have it is to have a perfect plan but be unable to improvise.