My mum hates me. Used to brag how she tried to kill me a couple of times when I was a baby/toddler and it always felt like I owed her for not doing it. I don't celebrate my birthday even now cos I know how much my own birth caused her so much pain and hate. I started to heal when I vit her out of my life and this year, I started to learn how to celebrate my birthday. Still feels weird and awkward but I'll get there. And yeh, I don't love her either. And I'm a better parent to my own kids. Even if I am a bit mediocre at it

Some people didn’t want to be parents. However, sadly, many countries and states deny their citizens reproductive education, contraception, then deny them abortion rights (apparently, religious overbearance (yes, I know, no such word) is all the public needs.

My parents sure never loved me. On the other side of things.....some children just don't love their parents.

This one breaks my heart.

I'm 40 years old and this is an extremely hard truth that I'm finally starting to accept. No matter how much I have tried, the woman that gave me life really doesn't care anything about me or my feelings unless it benefits her. I have very very recently went no contact because I just can't take the hurt and rejection anymore.

As a society we value money/capitalism FAR more than we value children. We pay CEOs MILLIONS to be utter failures and leaches then give them golden parachutes funded by tax payers. Teachers? Child care? Oh no they aren't paid s**t, and often VILIFIED by the right wing for political points with the ignorant and racist. So are we then actually surprised at how many bad parents we have??

One of the reasons I didn't want kids. They need a father who wants to be father

And it makes the lives of unloved children incredibly hard. I'll probably never completely recover from it. It would be easier if I lived in a country that actually looked out for its citizens rather than just its billionaires.

And just because you don't love them, doesn't mean you are abusing them. You can be the best parent but still lack that parental instinct/bond.

So very difficult for some to accept.

Work in education. In the last 30 years too many parents have had children as "fashion accessories", "friends" or as a way to gain attention.

Potential parents should be required to get a license. We have to have training, take a test and have insurance in order to drive a car, after all.

Just because you can, doesn't mean you should. I see a lot of people that should not have children or pets.

And then there are some people who would love to be a parent but can't or would like their only child to not be so lonely anymore. Yet the parent can't and weren't supposed to have any babies. And the thought of another miscarriage scares them so much so they cry in silence... because their kid would give up all they have, all the toys, video games, everything just for mommy to be able to have 1 more baby so they can have a sibling like everyone else and have fun with their sibling and be best friends. Plain and simple. Don't hate your kids and don't hate your siblings. Some people don't get the chance to have either. (Sorry for the long winded sentences)

There are times when children are just so damn awful that you end up hating them

This is why the adoption system is there and why women shouldn't be pressured to be mothers so much. There are people who have children and never wanted them and people who don't have them and want them desperately. Also why is the adoption fee for a kid like 10,000 there shouldn't be a price for love

yup this was me. mom was 17. give zero fricks abt me , even as I lay in the nicu, 3 1/2 mo premature. lived with my grandparents till my late 20s. (my aunt got guardianship of me at 20 due to my autism, but I keep living with my them, because granmas dementia got to the point, id help bathe her, and granpa didnt want either of them to goto nursing homes.) so my aunt would come by every few days to check on everything.

And in some cases don't even LIKE their children. Or ANY children. Why did you choose to become a parent?

When I was in my mid 20's, my mother told me she didn't love me. We weren't arguing or at odds. I had invited her over to share some exciting news. When I'd finished her response was to say she didn't love me. That was about 40 years ago. Even with therapy, it still cuts like a knife.

My adopted sis had a leave it beaver life. Her partner, myself and my partner had the polar opposite. It still blows her mind when something random normality for her is unknown for us

This is q sad one. I was very lucky to have great parents and the pain of losing them has been horrific. But I see some friends of mine and their toxic mothers who manipulate them and control them and ridicule them and some fathers who have seen their kids as an inconvenience or as a p**n to get u der the mothers skin and when they couldn't , they lost interest in a child they claimed to love. Toxic people shouldn't be allowed to have kids. My kids are the reason I breathe every day, without them I'd be nothing. I cant imagine anyone not loving their kiddos

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That's perfectly fine, but why even do it to begin with?

My mother didn't want kids. She loves me, and will always let me know that she is proud of me. But it wasn't what she wanted, and when I was younger, that really hurt me.

I work in a dental office. My BIGGEST peeve is when parents blame the kid for cavities/not brushing/etc. Like, who's the adult here? Why are you mad at the kid because YOU failed to parent them 🤔?

Mine says she does, but I think she just wants the image of being a good mother; because her mother sucked so much. She DOES treat my sister well....

I tell my son I love him every time we end a call (we live in different countries) or after ending a messenger conversation, he says it back and we both mean it. My ex, who I endured for 16 years, spoiled her son financially, always gave in (because he wouldn't accept no for an answer and would terrorize her as long as it took to say yes), never parented but expected me to do so and when I did and jr. didn't want to listen, I was told by both I was not his mother... but I was expected to fix all and every problem and accommodate (she was a narcissist and jr. is a sociopath) The one thing that I never heard her say to her own son was I love you, not once in ask those 16 years! Neither did his father by the way. She even moved after we broke up without letting him know... They are just all sad s@cks and l can honestly say I don't regret not ever seeing them again. That kid however never even had a chance growing up to maybe become even half a decent person, simply because if his parents