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30 Harsh Facts About Having Kids That Many Aren't Even Aware Of, Shared By Disillusioned Parents You’ll be sad and miss the child who is gone as they age. Because of how much they change and grow, for the first several years they’re basically a new person every 6 months and you’ll miss who they were. For example, my son is nearly 7 and I sometimes miss my 2 year old, who was super cute and I loved dearly, but will never ever see again.

You love who they are as they grow, but there’s a palpable sadness that comes along with it, too.

anon , cottonbro studio Report

Final score:

73points

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gmf 5 months ago

If you want something that needs nurturing, feeding, cleaning up after, and constant attention for its entire life, get a dog. Half the joy of parenthood is that they do grow from being these helpless little homunculi into independent, strong and capable men and women of whom you can be proud.

19points

Rare_Ease_662 , RDNE Stock project Report

30 Harsh Facts About Having Kids That Many Aren't Even Aware Of, Shared By Disillusioned Parents Sometimes your kids grow up and develop personalities that you don't like or that are incompatible with your own.

Final score:

59points

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Jennifer Tucker 5 months ago

Most people won't admit, or talk about this one. My (43F) oldest child (21F) and I have a relationship like this. We love each other, but I don't think either one of us likes each other. It goes both ways. We value different things, and really just don't know how to relate to each other. But we love each other, so we keep trying. I'm hoping that the older she gets the more we will find a way to relate.

27points

30 Harsh Facts About Having Kids That Many Aren't Even Aware Of, Shared By Disillusioned Parents You might not be attached to that child right away, maybe even for a while after, AND THAT IS OKAY. It is so completely okay to not know how to sort all that right away.

I had my first last year. I come from a long line of stoic women who show very little emotion even doing the most nurturing task. I was of course excited to finally be having kids, but when I paced around 41wks pregnant I felt no motherly bond. My body was doing something it was designed to do and I was along for the ride. When they layed her on my chest I reacted as they instructed me, that's all I had.

For the first month of her life I didn't feel that connection, and with waking every hour and a half for feeding plus seeing how it was stressing my partner out (who is not a night owl, and I am not an early bird) I too went into that stoic autopilot. My brain said "child needs x, provide x". I didn't even know what to call her! I'd be staring at this brand new little human and saying her name sounded too formal, but not addressing her before talking felt odd. My brain was slowly learning how to categorize all this.

Around week 6 (and after sleep was a bit better, waking every maybe 4 hours instead of 2?) I think that motherly instinct came around. Suddenly I could tell her different cries apart, and when I'd have conversation with her I found I'd sprinkle smiles and bounces in, it was great. I finally felt a small sparkle of mommy love. She's 8mos now and hell on wheels with her standing and scooting everywhere, haha. Now I know all about her and love her to pieces.

Phantasmai , Lisa Fotios Report

Final score:

54points

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Roger9er 5 months ago

Parents are born too, at the same time as their child.

40points

30 Harsh Facts About Having Kids That Many Aren't Even Aware Of, Shared By Disillusioned Parents That there are going to be some days you'll wish you didn't have children.
Yes, it happens. No, you're not a terrible parent. That s**t is hard.

anon , Keira Burton Report

Final score:

48points

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Roger9er 5 months ago

Also, you will yell at your children. Nobody is going to tell me they never ever yelled at their child.

35points

30 Harsh Facts About Having Kids That Many Aren't Even Aware Of, Shared By Disillusioned Parents The amount of time you spend standing around waiting, at parks, playgrounds, to get out the door, into the car etc etc. I totally underestimated that.

Ben716 , Yan Krukau Report

Final score:

46points

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lenka 5 months ago

OMG the waiting!!!! I am always waiting for a child.

12points

iamnomansland , August de Richelieu Report

30 Harsh Facts About Having Kids That Many Aren't Even Aware Of, Shared By Disillusioned Parents Children will (and should) say things that will hurt your feelings and p**s you off. Now, that's not to say they should be allowed to do so without any type of consequence, but this is a vital part of their growing and learning to become their own human.

The hard part is that you, as the adult, have to figure out how to navigate this without taking it personally, losing your s**t, and turning into a tyrant. You also have to learn when and how to address it, and when and how to let it go.

It's a really tough balancing act, especially if you have a child who is neurodivergent and struggles with impulse and emotional control.

Final score:

45points

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Ranger Kanootsen 5 months ago

Yes, balance is very important. Please be fair, but also be careful.

10points

Headless Horseman 5 months ago (edited)

And dont call your child a b***h for expressing their emotions, i will never ever forget how it felt.

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Marnie 5 months ago

I got the "Stop your crying, or I'll give you something to cry about." To this day, I have a very difficult time crying.

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Jenna Kay 5 months ago (edited)

And each child is different, so what works for A may not work for B. And you may parent different than your partner. My hubby did great with B, but A was a mystery to him, she is neurodivergent. I have no issues with A, she makes sense to me, but B was a very competitive, still is, and he likes to win, which has never been a driver for me, but I love him!!

2points

Bored Trash Panda 5 months ago

I amazes me how many people hold kids to a higher standard. Examples; kids aren't allow to throw fits, or cry or have to share their toys. Kids are human. Humans will get angry, they will cry, they will throw "fits". Kids should be taught it is ok to say no to hugs when they don't want to be touched. I used to live with a friends mom., who was like another grandma to my son, and she would get mad at him when he didn't want to hug her. I would always have to remind her, he is allowed to say no. Also, the sharing thing is stupid. Yes, kids should be taught it is nice to share, but also, that you don't have to share. Adults aren't forced to share if they don't want to.

1point

Nitka Tsar 5 months ago

In Germany it is quite common that parents tech their child that they don‘t have to share.

1point

Nitka Tsar 5 months ago

Honestly: don‘t think you are a bad person/ parent, if you DO take it personally at first and loose your temper! Just realize that your reaction might not have been ok. Be a human. Calm down, put yourself back together, go to your child and apologize! Then you can talk rationally and calmly. Tell them they hurt your feelings, but it‘s ok. You forgive them, you understand them, or if you don‘t understand, then tel them tat! Let them explain. LISTEN to them! They are humans too. They make mistakes, just like you. But they should be safe to make those mistakes with you! Be the person you want them to be. Be the role model. This does not mean that you must be perfect. On the contrary. Show them that imperfection is normal and ok. Just know when you made a mistake and own up to it! Even with your kids! Life will be easier

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Whoopdeedoo 4 months ago

... I think my mom needs to see this

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Moo 5 months ago

I love and respect my parents more because I feel comfortable bringing my problems to them, including problems with them. Communication is what I value most

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Kenneth Smith 5 months ago

Yes, yes, yes. Our children are allowed to have emotions, including being pissed at my wife and I. How they express those emotions is what matters. If they got it right 100% of the time, I'd have nothing to teach them. It's ok that my kids screw up. We correct the screw up for sure, but they do it, we deal with it, and we move on.

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Mark Office 5 months ago

This is so true , my son is autistic among other things and it makes for a bloody hard life at times

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Evelien Stijger Martens 5 months ago

Blijven zoeken, kijken en leren, ook of vooral over jezelf.

0points

I-Trusted-the-Fart Report

Lots of good answers here already. So I’ll try to toss out a slightly different one. I call it the “black mirror” I feel like kids learn way more from watching you exist than from you teaching them. And sometimes I will see my older son speak a certain way to his brother or me. Or do a certain thing. And it’s like watching my bad habits or faults manifest in another being. In the best of times it makes me want to be a better person. But also I am human and I have faults. And I get tired or stressed or hungry or whatever like anyone else.

Final score:

45points

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lenka 5 months ago

The mirroring is one of the biggest ones for me. I often call my children little mirrors. They do what they see. And they see me and their dad. The good the bad and the ugly. Nothing motivates me more to become a better person than seeing my children mirror my bad habits or behaviour.

15points

Not sure if this quite fits the question, but somethings I think about how much of a misnomer it is to say “having a baby”.

That part is so brief, and also not at all the point. We’re not setting out to create a baby, but to create an adult.

That’s the whole journey, and the most important part is helping a brand new kid—>adult with their whole psychological framing of everything, empathy, respect, patience, discipline, ambition, self esteem.

Babies are kind of the easy part.

beatsinthesky Report

Final score:

39points

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Papa 5 months ago (edited)

This should be much higher. The most important job of a parent is to raise their child to be a happy, healthy, well adjusted, independent adult. Of course some of that can be beyond the parent's power, but still work toward it.

10points

#10

30 Harsh Facts About Having Kids That Many Aren't Even Aware Of, Shared By Disillusioned Parents Time goes so much faster. And not just because you're watching them grow up and change but just because every task with a kid takes SO LONG.

HoweverFutile , Kamaji Ogino Report

Final score:

37points

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Tamra 5 months ago (edited)

Time really does fly. I look at my son, who will be 20 later this year, and I can still almost feel his little hand in mine when we walked together. I am absolutely proud of the kind, funny young man he's become, but I do miss holding that sweet little boy. It's bittersweet.

4points

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30 Harsh Facts About Having Kids That Many Aren't Even Aware Of, Shared By Disillusioned Parents You're unrealistically hopeful if you think your child will turn out how you want them to.

It is harder than juggling chainsaws to find a balance between being lenient enough to gain your child's respect, but strict enough that they learn to conduct themselves appropriately, be considerate of people other than themselves, and become decent humans.

You should have kids if you passionately want to, from the bottom of your heart. Not because 'it's what people do'. Not because your partner wants them. Not because your parents want grandchildren.

LunarLeopard67 , Allan Mas Report

Final score:

36points

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ADZ 5 months ago

This last paragraph should be mandatory reading.

6points

#12

That other people will never '*get it*' until they have one of their own.

It's almost hilarious. "Oh, I will do x,y and z when we have our kid!"

"How hard can THAT be?"

"MY baby won't etc..."

Then, when they actually do have a child, how it all goes out the f*****g window.

Oh, and having a pet is *NOTHING* like having a kid. It just is not.

You're pet isn't going to end up on heroin, or drive drunk, or join a cult.

AE_WILLIAMS Report

Final score:

36points

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Little Wonder 5 months ago

"Oh, and having a pet is *NOTHING* like having a kid. It just is not." I know, that's why I have pets and not kids.

28points

GrammatonYHWH , William Fortunato Report

#13

30 Harsh Facts About Having Kids That Many Aren't Even Aware Of, Shared By Disillusioned Parents Think about how many times you use the bathroom. You probably poo once a day and pee 5 times per day.

Double that number. That's how many diapers you have to change **EVERY . SINGLE . DAY** for a newborn child.

Babies also don't stand still. They like to move around and wiggle. You aren't qualified when you can put a diaper on a doll. You are qualified when you can do it on a feral bobcat.

Final score:

34points

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Raven DeathShade 5 months ago

I have 9 younger siblings, so I believe I am uniquely qualified for parenthood.

10points

Interesting-Guest880 , Vlada Karpovich Report

#14

30 Harsh Facts About Having Kids That Many Aren't Even Aware Of, Shared By Disillusioned Parents Your mourn each stage they grow out of. Then you celebrate the new stage. It’s an going cycle of mourning and then celebrating.

You celebrate them crawling, then you realise that they’re not always going to crawl to you. You celebrate them going to school, then it hits you that you don’t have a baby anymore.

Final score:

32points

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FrogMan 5 months ago

And one day, she says “Daddy, can we pway dollhouse?” for the last time…

10points

#15

30 Harsh Facts About Having Kids That Many Aren't Even Aware Of, Shared By Disillusioned Parents Get a second fridge and watch your food bill soar. All your bills will soar. And right when all the bills are paid they will break something, need a hospital visit, or an event is coming up, or fate finds a way to siphon more money out of you.

sebestienn , Karolina Kaboompics Report

Final score:

30points

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Roger9er 5 months ago

Teens and food. Tons of food.

13points

Reasonable_Yogurt519 Report

#16

That any mental health or neurodivergent issues the parent has are going to be exacerbated x 100.

That you will almost constantly feel like a f**k-up, either with regards to raising the child, to effectively handling the non-kid parts of your life.

Final score:

29points

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Ann Si 5 months ago

This needs to be higher! Nobody ever seems to talk about postpartum depression

5points

#17

30 Harsh Facts About Having Kids That Many Aren't Even Aware Of, Shared By Disillusioned Parents Say goodbye to your disposable income and sleeping through the night.

HungryRaccoon3 , Ahsanjaya Report

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28points

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Nitka Tsar 5 months ago

Mommas: it‘s likely that your body will never go back to being able to have a nice deep sleep. You will be instantly awake if a pin drops for the rest of your life.

7points

mynamecouldbesam , Alexander Taranenko Report

#18

30 Harsh Facts About Having Kids That Many Aren't Even Aware Of, Shared By Disillusioned Parents Weekends spent in your car waiting for your offspring to complete various activities.

Final score:

27points

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Eve Mraz 5 months ago

Maybe don't sign your kid up for 50 different activities...

6points

SomeGuyInSanJoseCa , Andrea Piacquadio Report

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30 Harsh Facts About Having Kids That Many Aren't Even Aware Of, Shared By Disillusioned Parents That you go from your home to the office to relax, as opposed to the other way around.

I love working from the office on Friday. It's a work from home day for everyone, so my side is completely empty. Which, for me, is just relax in the chair, kick my feet up, and listen to some tunes without anyone bugging me.

Final score:

26points

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JLo 5 months ago

I picked Friday as my day in the office for the same reason!

4points

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#20

30 Harsh Facts About Having Kids That Many Aren't Even Aware Of, Shared By Disillusioned Parents The love is so strong you wonder how your heart can hold it and knowing you would take a bullet, run into a burning building or do anything for them but also have many moments (often in the same day) when you think your head will explode from your internal screams of "I hate being a mother!".

DragnSerenityTardis , Creation Hill Report

Final score:

25points

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Not Who You Think 5 months ago

There's nothing like that feeling of your heart overflowing with the love you get from WANTING to put someone else first.

5points

#21

There is no one single way to parent that is universally right. All children are individuals and even within the same family each requires their own approach to everything.

Also for future parents prepare yourself to feel Constant doubt about every decision and action you take with your kids forever. .

Crimsonfangknight Report

Final score:

24points

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Ann Si 5 months ago (edited)

The most terrible thing about being a mum is that I have very visual nightmares about my children having accidents or dying. It creeps me out since my first was born and I don't know how to stop it

4points

#22

30 Harsh Facts About Having Kids That Many Aren't Even Aware Of, Shared By Disillusioned Parents If you truly care about your kids, the feeling of guilt is a daily experience.

guyinspace , Andrew Neel Report

Final score:

23points

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Piwakawaka 5 months ago

Studies have been done with results showing that the top emotion felt by parents is guilt.

7points

EndlesslyUnfinished , Karolina Kaboompics Report

#23

30 Harsh Facts About Having Kids That Many Aren't Even Aware Of, Shared By Disillusioned Parents How much they cost! I don’t have kids, but most of my friends do, and all I hear about is how they’re always broke because little Johnny did this and tiny Sarah ate a bee and that’s how they found out she’s allergic.. and I’m over here like, nah, I’ll just have a cat.

Final score:

23points

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Nitka Tsar 5 months ago

Even if you take medical bills out of the equation because you don‘t live in the US, children need so much stuff! And sometimes you just want to give them that stuff (like for example a kid does not NEED a bike but you want them to have one). Even if you get stuff second hand etc

9points

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30 Harsh Facts About Having Kids That Many Aren't Even Aware Of, Shared By Disillusioned Parents That little kids get sick often as they are building up their immunity systems especially if they go to childcare or preschool. If your child is sick you have to stay home with them and miss work.

EYLMM , cottonbro studio Report

Final score:

23points

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LaserBrain 5 months ago

And the little Petri dishes bring the germs home to your family and friends

14points

#25

30 Harsh Facts About Having Kids That Many Aren't Even Aware Of, Shared By Disillusioned Parents Your own flaws show up and you need to show at least a way to fix them. And school starts at eight. So the alarm goes at 5:55 ….

nickles72 , Daria Obymaha Report

Final score:

22points

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Roger9er 5 months ago

And even then, you might arrive too late...

2points

#26

30 Harsh Facts About Having Kids That Many Aren't Even Aware Of, Shared By Disillusioned Parents Want to do something quickly? you can't. you now have another human to care for/think about for a very long time, even after they turn 18.

bretty666 , Kristina Paukshtite Report

Final score:

21points

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#27

There is a short person that insists on holding my hand when I use the toilet.

Nobody explained the absolute lack of privacy you'll have.

Saarlak Report

Final score:

21points

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doredde 5 months ago

Tried to pee at 3 o´clock in the morning with two cats on your lap?

2points

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#28

30 Harsh Facts About Having Kids That Many Aren't Even Aware Of, Shared By Disillusioned Parents You are not their friend growing up. You are there to guide, curb and direct to make good choices on their own, have a compassionate backbone. These choices have to be age, intellectual, and emotionally appropriate. You are more experienced than your children but your perceptions of reality as a adult may be inappropriate based on their maturity. Be cautious of overburdening them with your vices or personal baggage.

MusicalBard2457 , Huy Phan Report

Final score:

18points

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Roger9er 5 months ago (edited)

That's what my father-in-law does, the latter. He complains to my wife and her sister - and does the same when I and/or my brother-in-law are present. He complains about his own wife, their mother to them, and they hate it. He shows up unannounced, without calling first, and then starts whining. He is therefore regularly sent away by them.

1point

#29

30 Harsh Facts About Having Kids That Many Aren't Even Aware Of, Shared By Disillusioned Parents Realizing that a “vacation” is now just listening to your kids fight, having to buy expensive food they won’t eat, and not sleeping for a couple of weeks a year.

There are moments when you feel like they’re enjoying things and building core memories, allowing you to feel the joy of having those experiences with them.

But in the end you’re just doing the same child care in a more expensive place

cjacked- , Juan Salamanca Report

Final score:

18points

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GoodWolf 5 months ago

Idk about that. We spend all day together doing fun things as a family. Everybody can eat whatever they want, the kid is hungry from all the activity and will eat more with less complaints. Bedtime doesn't matter, nobody has to get up early and the kid goes to sleep when she is tired. Everybody is in their best sunshine vacation mood. I love vacationing with my family!

10points

#30

Being a parent is like being an NCO (Non-Commissioned Officer)

Your job: Teach, mentor, and train.

Your goal: Make them better than you at everything so they can be better for their turn.

Sin117 Report

Final score:

14points

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The Abe 5 months ago

I actually include that in my mentoring sessions for new NCOs - there are a LOT of parallels between the two.

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Amelia Jade 5 months ago

Parenting is hard. But I've never once regretted or hated having kids. I have also never found it boring. Boring is the last word I'd use to describe parenting. This list just makes me sad. I also never felt like I gave up my life or freedom. I just folded the kids into my life. I've still always done the thing I've enjoyed doing. I still pursued goals. The kids never slowed any of that down. They just became a part of it. People have such a negative view of parenting and of their own kids. We really do need to normalize NOT having kids. People shouldn't do it because of pressure, or because it's what your supposed to do. It's okay to not have kids. Society would be better off if people who don't actually want kids didn't have them. Then maybe all this negativity around parenthood wouldn't exist.

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Ranger Kanootsen 5 months ago

I understand where you're coming from with this. I have one thing to say to any aspiring/already parents: DO NOT take your negative feelings out on your children! Every cruel word and bruise is something we will never forget.

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Trillian 5 months ago

Way to put more pressure on poor new parents who are already unsure about what they are doing wrong. It is not that bad. Kids learn to understand that parents are people. Apologize if you did something wrong and validate their feelings, that is important. You definitely WILL screw up at some point.

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Michael Largey 5 months ago

In other words, parenting is just as difficult and demanding as it was for your parents. How rewarding it turns out to be is up to you (somewhat).

4points

Marnie 5 months ago

One thing I think many people don't realize is that every single experience your child has teaches them something. Every trip to the grocery store, every show they see, every book, every conversation they are in or observe, every single thing is teaching them SOMETHING (good or bad). I recognized that from the get-go, and although I wouldn't call myself any kind of natural parent (and I'm autistic and clueless), I think always having that in my mind helped make up for deficits in other areas and kept me from making many more bad decisions than I did.

1point

Susie Campbell 5 months ago

What a terrible post. Soooo much negativity on BP at the moment…I am going to take a long break from it. Time is too precious.

1point

Lori 5 months ago

But that's the point of the post. It's about the "harsh realities"

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Hannah 4 months ago

Apologies make a world of difference to a child. My dad always worked hard to keep his temper in check when it came to us, but here and there he'd slip up. Nobody could blame him, he was a single parent, working his a*s off to provide for two kids. He was tired and in constant pain, and dealing with more stress than I can ever imagine. So yeah, sometimes he snapped at us. Sometimes he said something that really hurt our feelings. But every single time, without fail, he would come back around and apologize. "I'm sorry kiddo, I shouldnt have said that, I'm stressed over x,y, or z, but that isn't your fault and you didn't deserve that" this alone has left me with more respect for my father than anyone else in my family. We have an incredibly close relationship and looking back I dont think I can recall anything he said when upset, just the apologies that followed. It's okay to snap at your kids sometimes, it happens. Just apologize and work on it. The rest can be forgiven.

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Vanesska 5 months ago

I think some type of persons should really think twice before having a child. If you are introvert or have OCDs it can be a challenge. It can become a nightmare at some point. I have an OCD that I like to start something without being interrupted, and now this is my life even after 14 years. It drives me mad. I realised that I cannot start anything without being interrupted at least several times. Whatever I do, even if I resist, it's the drama that will follow that is worse than the interruption. It's not only the child, it's the whole parenting/ household logistic. Also I need sleep, sleep deprivation affects me deeply. This is probably why some parents lose it, it's just constantly being on the edge due to lack of sleep. And I don't know what is worse, a single mom like me or still with the father. Most of my female friends also do parenting for their husbands. It's the mental load that kills me.

0points

Jonathan English 5 months ago

Unbeknownst to you as a parent, a time will come that you'll lift/pick your child up for the last time,

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Vanesska 5 months ago

At some point I went to a rheumatologist because of chronic pain which came out as due to the constant lifting, so I am glad to be out of that. My wrists were so sore and my back, too. But my son and I hug a lot so that's fine.

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Lori 5 months ago

I've been on the fence about kids for years. And I've never found anyone to convince me it's a good thing lol. You can list all the pros, but it seems like there's more to lose with having a child than not.

0points

Tamra 5 months ago

I think if you need convincing to have children, then you're probably not ready. As a woman, you'll feel the pressure to get married and have kids, but that's absolutely NOT the only path to a happy and fulfilling life. I'm married and have a child, and that has been truly wonderful for me. My dear friend has never married nor had any children, and that has been truly wonderful for her. Don't let the expectations of society forge your path for you.

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Papa 5 months ago (edited)

Please don't let all the pissing and moaning about children make you apprehensive about it. I strongly believe that more people regret not having children than they do regretting it. I've always thought it would be incredibly sad to reach the age where it's too late to have children and wish you had. Remember, the title of the article is 30 HARSH facts about having children. It isn't asking for the good things about it.

2points

Ineke Pronk 5 months ago

Children can broaden your horizons. They can help you make new friends by making you meet up with other parents overseeing their club activities. But you should also be aware that you don't have any true control over how your child grows up. Sure you can force them in a direction you believe is good for them, but that can also lead to the child not wanting to have anything to do with you. If you can't see yourself raising a child that is obsessed with everything you hate, loving them even when you believe they are being an idiot. Then don't take the risk. If you decide on a later date that you do want a child, adoption is an possibility. It can be much harder than raising a child from birth, and it can be easier. But parenthood is a livelong commitment. Even if they move to the other side of the world, they will always be your kid.

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Saphyre Fyre 5 months ago

The one I saw before I clicked into the page here, was the parent not being attached to their child and that is ok???? BABIES AND CHILDREN NEED THAT LOVE, IT IS PART OF BEING ABLE TO GROW AS A HUMAN BEING, and I never got that love from my parents.

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Trisec Tebeakesse 5 months ago

That person you loved so much - maybe even married so you could make those babies. Your relationship with them will deteriorate, as you are no longer the #1 most important person in their life now.

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Rocky 5 months ago

That isn't true for every relationship. My husband and I knew exactly what we were doing. We understood the possible challenge on our relationship but because we were aware, we actively work on it, caring about the health between us. We think of us as rational enough to understand, we are a unit, there is a partnership, and there is our child.

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Amelia Jade 5 months ago

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Ranger Kanootsen 5 months ago

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Trillian 5 months ago

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Michael Largey 5 months ago

In other words, parenting is just as difficult and demanding as it was for your parents. How rewarding it turns out to be is up to you (somewhat).

4points

Marnie 5 months ago

1point

Susie Campbell 5 months ago

What a terrible post. Soooo much negativity on BP at the moment…I am going to take a long break from it. Time is too precious.

1point

Lori 5 months ago

But that's the point of the post. It's about the "harsh realities"

1point

Hannah 4 months ago

0points

Vanesska 5 months ago

0points

Jonathan English 5 months ago

Unbeknownst to you as a parent, a time will come that you'll lift/pick your child up for the last time,

0points

Vanesska 5 months ago

0points

Lori 5 months ago

0points

Tamra 5 months ago

2points

Papa 5 months ago (edited)

2points

Ineke Pronk 5 months ago

0points

Saphyre Fyre 5 months ago

0points

Trisec Tebeakesse 5 months ago

That person you loved so much - maybe even married so you could make those babies. Your relationship with them will deteriorate, as you are no longer the #1 most important person in their life now.

0points

Rocky 5 months ago

3points