yeah its stupid

LET THEM CRY!

This is so true. Spot on!

Yes!

YES if we don't question adults, oppressive systems will stay THE SAME we will just pass them down and never make any progress.

EMBRACE THE FAILURE

Exactly. People often have bad assumptions of teenagers, but they have myriads of issues they don't talk about.

I agree, this doesn't allow children to self regulate and know when they are full. It me years to unlearn this behavior.

I agree with this 100%. I also hate the saying that everything is possible if you put your mind to it. Umm no, not everything is possible for everyone.

The best way to 'deal' with a kid who is constantly snitching on others for minute things, in my experience, is to take them seriously and if it is possible (which with small conflicts between children it normally almost always is) to tell them to resolve the conflict on their own, by talking. Or, if the snitching kid actually was the one causing the conflict, to show them that you are aware of who actually started it ('Sarah was mean to me!' 'That is not nice, but I also saw you taking away her stuff. Could it be that she wasn't nice to you because of that?') Snitching becomes much less exciting, when there is no adult who goes berserk on the one your snitching on (or if you get caught doing something 'bad' yourself)

Again, this comes from people thinking girls are easier to control. "It is easier for us to teach the girl that she likes being hit than it is for us to teach the boy to stop hitting."

Oh, I'm not totally fine with this. Sometimes some guidance can be refreshing too for that kid that has a hard time connecting or little Bobby has been hogging that car the whole day. Small children totally act on instinct. Helping them look at other angles isn't going to hurt anyone. Just don't force anything. Hugs and physical contact? Totally agree. Although I feel this is more of an American thing?

It's more than that, it's that being wrong will get you made fun of. Being wrong makes you an idiot.

I am just curious but do any other countries do abstinence based sex education or is it really only America?

How can punishment have any positive effect when the child has no idea what they did wrong?

That is a good thing to teach.

Yes I hate this. People even say it to adults. We are entitled to our feelings, doesn’t matter if someone has a worse life than us, everyone copes with things differently.

So true - it is important to understand what 'no' means and to take it seriously, but also be able to use it when it is needed. Teach them early, and consent won't be an issue.

Best one

Growing up, I was all about the backtalk. My father found it amusing that I was a wise-ass. My mother hated it because it was so unbecoming of a young lady.

Very true. If you can dish it, then you can take it.

Sweety, even your own eyes deceive you. Always be open for changes to your reality.

I always tell my kids to never ever start a fight, but I will always be on their side when they retaliate. I am allowing them to defend themselves anyway they can, regardless of school rules. The attacker should be the one being punished not the defender.

I have done that twice. My daughter got suspended on two occasions for defending herself and she didn’t get into trouble at home. We have told her that if she hurts another kid in self defence then she just gets some time off school. If she is the instigator then she loses privileges.

I agree, it's self defense when adults do it, but not children...? Walking away doesn't always work, they will just see you again tomorrow. Going to a teacher doesn't always work, sometimes that makes it worse. If no one else is there and there's no way out you must defend yourself.

@Punished Edward, you’re wrong. The policy is f****d up because it’s teaching children to not stand up for themselves or others. Use common sense next time.

I remember when my sister was getting bullied in 2nd grade, a boy would poke her, hit her, etc. and she never did anything, so one day she told my dad and my dad said "hit him back" so the next time he touched her, she punched him several times and the school wanted to get her in trouble for it. My parents told the school she wasn't going to get in trouble because he started it. We've always been taught to never throw the first punch but don't be afraid to defend ourselves.

I had something like this happen to me in middle school. After months of merciles bullying getting punched, I finally fought back. I got suspended. My bully got off scot free.

so he defended himself and you suspend him

Has the school heard of self defence before?

My middle school literally had an assembly teaching us that if we are hit or attacked that we should just take it, to either walk away or to just let them hit you and not to fight back or do anything. They expected you to just wait for someone to get a teacher to help when the teachers hardly pay attention anyhow

Aye good for you thats what I like to hear

What the actual heck? That kid threw the first punch, he was just defending himself! " He should've just walked away" NO HE SHOULDN'T!!! They would've just be thrown around and bullied if he didn't do anything! The worst part is that THE PERSON WHO THREW THE FIRST FRICKIN PUNCH GOT AWAY WITHOUT ANY PUNISHMENT

These policies are completely fúcked up. I was bullied relentlessly for YEARS, in grade school. I told and told and told. Nothing ever changed. I was too small and scared to physically fight back. But if I had, it would have been ME in trouble. Teachers don't do anything. Counselors don't do anything. All that happens, is you get branded a snitch, and you get laughed at more, for showing that it hurt you. So you learn to stop saying anything. You bottle it up, and you just take it and take it and take it, until one day you just can't anymore. You finally snap and lash out, and it's YOU who gets in trouble, and your bullies are protected! Like it was your fault! They system is absolutely fúcked, and needs a total overhaul...

Was the kid who punched first also suspended?

Should have asked the school what if the bully doesn't let you walk away and starts beating him.

I would not only go off on that school, but also say that the media will hear about this and how this school is just encouraging bullying instead of dealing with the bullies in order to put a stop to bullying itself!

Zero tolerance policy is zero tolerance. I’m sorry, but he needed to learn a better way to handle that situation.

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so true, here in the US, our education system is MESSED UP we need to rethink how and what we teach our children

Participation trophies may lead to giving no effort at all in my opinion. Why would someone try if they're going to get praised anyway? Embrace failure, learn from it and if you want to succeed you can try harder next time :)

My 'favorite mum was the one who wouldn't allow the nursery school I worked in to take any photos of their child (making her child the only one who didn't get a memory book and learning portfolio) and screamed at me, because I (a man) was helping her daughter get dressed after she peed herself (she never objected to me doing so in advance and knew, that was one of my duties). She herself then proceeded to post hundreds of pictures of her daughter, including nude swimming pool photos, on facebook.

I was always told that “bullies are only jealous of you” - whilst that may be true, it doesn’t help with the problem and kind of puts the blame on the victim for somehow doing too well.

A lot of children nowadays are not accepting responsibilities. It's always someone else's fault. It makes me mad, especially as it's not just kids who do this, but society in general.

I believe when a kid starting to ask about sex, no matter what age, you the adult should explain it age appropriately. don't avoid it. don't mix with fantasy/myth/BS. just use the language level that they would understand.