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People List Things Parents Should Stop Teaching Their Kids And Explain Why They’re Harmful (50 Answers)

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Kids are the future. One day, we’ll all be old and gray while our generation’s children or grandchildren are the CEOs, politicians, doctors, scientists and educators making the world go round. Every loving parent works hard to ensure that their kids grow up to be productive, empathetic and well-adjusted individuals, but despite our best intentions, sometimes dangerous ideas find a way to permeate these young minds.

Last week, Reddit user Savings-Actuator-571 started a conversation by posing the question, “What harmful ideas are being taught to children?” And thousands of people weighed in with ideas they heard as kids or have observed being taught to other children. Whether these lessons are taught intentionally to protect kids or learned through society and media, it’s important that adults are aware of what ideas are being taught so we can either shut down these messages or steer children in the right direction.

Below, you’ll find a list of some of these harmful ideas being sold to kids, so you can know what to look out for or what ideas to avoid accidentally passing on yourself. Be sure to upvote the responses you particularly resonate with, and then let us know in the comments what other harmful messages you’ve seen taught to children. Then if you’re interested in reading Bored Panda’s last article on the same topic, you can find it right here.

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#1

People List Things Parents Should Stop Teaching Their Kids And Explain Why They're Harmful (50 Answers) Abstinence only sex education. Seriously, teens are going to have sex, even when told not to. Teaching them to be safe while doing it is not going to increase the odds of them f*****g.... It is just going to decrease teen pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections.

CylonsInAPolicebox , Hayley Murray Report

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Kids are extremely impressionable. And while it may seem like they’re not always listening or paying attention, they are probably soaking up everything they hear adults say like a sponge. Though many moms and dads have the impulse to parent the exact same way they were raised, as it’s easy to repeat what we already know, this can be a surefire way to pass on the same harmful ideas that we were taught as kids. For example, if your father always forced you to eat all of the food on your plate, regardless of how hungry you were, you might think, “Hey, I turned out fine. I can teach my kids the same thing.”

However, if you actually take the time to stop and consider how that affected your relationship with food, you might decide that’s not the best message to be spreading to your little ones. When we take time to consider what’s being taught to children, we might realize that there are harmful ideas being slipped into our lives all the time. And although it’s too late to correct how we were raised, we might be able to make some things easier for the younger generations.

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#2

People List Things Parents Should Stop Teaching Their Kids And Explain Why They're Harmful (50 Answers) “Anyone in this classroom able to play piano?” An elementary school teacher asks.

Nobody raise a hand until this one little girl doubtfully raise her hand.

“Really? You can play piano? Please show us how you play.”

With a heart pounding so hard like it’s never before, the little girl plays a simple classic song. Definitely not perfect; missed notes here and there but she keeps going. After she finished playing, the teacher says “What was that? It’s not a real song. Anyone else able to play piano?” Everybody laugh. Later, the little girl begging her parents to let her quit her piano lessons.

It happens to me when I was about 8 years old.

If people are wondering why kids are mean and bully, the answer is: adults taught them to be.

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#3

People List Things Parents Should Stop Teaching Their Kids And Explain Why They're Harmful (50 Answers) Your parents are always right.

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There are also ideas being passed onto kids through society and media. I’m sure we all experienced this as kids as well, regardless of what decades we grew up in. But as children are becoming more and more plugged-in, with access to cell phones and social media at extremely young ages, it has become much harder to control what information they have access to. In 2018, the average age for kids to start using social media was 12.6, but it’s likely only gotten younger since then, as Cleveland Health reported last year that half of kids between the ages of 10 and 12 are already using social media apps.

So what’s the impact of all of this internet use on kids? Well, kids online at a young age are likely to take part in dangerous online behavior such as having online-only friends (that could be adults for all they know), visiting sites not intended for young audiences and participating in online harassment and bullying. Kids that spend more time online have also been noted to experience behavioral changes like becoming more irritable, experiencing increased anxiety and seeing a drop in their self-esteem.

#4

People List Things Parents Should Stop Teaching Their Kids And Explain Why They're Harmful (50 Answers) I used to work at a movie theater back in the day and I'll never forget witnessing a kid pick up their trash on their way out like a responsible person and their mother instructing them to put it back down because it is not their responsibility. Probably way more harmful things being taught to kids, but the story just came back to my mind.

mrada34 , Jasmin Sessler Report

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#5

People List Things Parents Should Stop Teaching Their Kids And Explain Why They're Harmful (50 Answers) That anyone you spend time with of the opposite sex is automatically your boy/girlfriend. Instills the idea that you can only be friends with those of the same gender as you, which is messed up.

"What did you do at break time today?"

"I had fun playing with Sarah."

"Oooh, is Sarah your girlfriend?"

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#6

People List Things Parents Should Stop Teaching Their Kids And Explain Why They're Harmful (50 Answers) “Boys don’t cry!”

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According to child psychologist Dr. Kate Eshleman, adults need to keep a close eye on their little ones when they’re online because it’s easy for them to enter dangerous territory. “Kids don’t have the cognitive and executive functioning to think through harmful situations and why those might be a bad idea,” Dr. Eshleman told Cleveland Health. “So sometimes they’re placing themselves in physical risk.”

This could include sharing too much information like their address, where they go to school, their parents’ names and professions, their phone numbers or even worse, credit card numbers or social security numbers. Kids can even be pressured to partake in dangerous viral trends, which often circulate on websites like TikTok and Instagram. And of course, it can be extremely difficult for children to know whether a person they meet online is a predator. Even people they do know can cyberbully them, but kids often don’t understand when they should and shouldn’t engage. It’s best to teach them that they should limit their time online in the first place, contrary to what they might be hearing from the world and their friends.

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#7

People List Things Parents Should Stop Teaching Their Kids And Explain Why They're Harmful (50 Answers) That questioning authority is a bad thing.

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People List Things Parents Should Stop Teaching Their Kids And Explain Why They're Harmful (50 Answers) That if someone teases/bullies you, that person may like you. Basically teaching kids at a young age that it's 'ok' when someone is being mean and rude to you.

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BlackestDawn 2 years ago

Or even worse, teaching kids that abusive relationships are not only ok but possibly "better" than non abusive ones.

117points

Diana Pahule 2 years ago

Calling it passionate.

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Summer Mason 2 years ago

Have taught both my boys and girls to be kind always. And only except that back. If someone, anyone is mean to you either ignore them or stand up for yourself and set standards for what you will and will not except. Boys being mean to girls is a big nono. It doesn't mean "love" it means narcissist and run. Same the other way around.

2points

Leah Ma 2 years ago

I guess they wanted women to allow themselves to be abused by men.

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Katie Lutesinger 2 years ago

I got this one as well. Boy kept bullying me at preschool and I was told "oh that just means he likes you!" Said boy went on to bully me - including physical assaults - right up until year 4, when I finally left that damn school.

18points

Yvonne Dauwalder Balsiger 2 years ago

I only ever heard that bs if a boy teases a girl (or telling girls that they need to overlook certain rowdy behaviors of boys because boys will be boys and they as girls are more mature) Has anyone ever heard this the other way around or same-sex?

14points

Huddo's sister 2 years ago

I have. Not necessarily as physical as boys, but I and my friends in primary school thought it was okay to make fun of boys if we liked them because of what we heard from adults/tv. I am ashamed to say I very clearly remember one time where the boy I had a crush on fell over I yelled out 'kick him while he's down!' and pretended to kick him.

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UpupaEpops 2 years ago

Or that you asked for it. You *must* have done something to trigger them and if only you had been more submissive it wouldn't have happened. Or that bullies will go away if you ignore them long enough. They never go away. They escalate. Or that you *have* to be nice to them because they are immature/might be experiencing problems/just jealous/overreacted/too sensitive/ we don't respond in the like/ turn the other cheek/pray for them, etc. As you might have guessed I f*****g hate bullies and have a laundry list of reasons for why.

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Leah Ma 2 years ago

I do too. I had a friend who was a bully. I'm a girl & she's a girl. From the first time I met her she wanted to wrestle me. She was bigger than me. I didn't want to. She always found ways to play in which she could hurt me. One day in high school we had a disagreement. She hauled off and slapped me quite hard across the face, WTH! It was months before I spoke to her again. A few years ago on FB she posted a meme about how she'd slap anyone who deserved it! I felt like adding, "And an get arrested for assault too!" Well, at least I married far better than her, a fact which she commented on one time when we were both still very young. I'd never even given it a thought. I didn't think that way.

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DennyS (denzoren) 2 years ago

I always remember being in school and these guys would be like pulling on girls' hair or like annoying them and I'd never understand how that's a good thing...still don't....rightfully so because it wasn't/isn't.

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Deborah B 2 years ago

Or that it's okay to abuse someone if it's out of "love".

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HTFenthusiast 2 years ago

I don't get it!! I'm (very possibly) aroace and even I know if I had a crush on someone I wouldn't bully them! If you have a crush, don't you want them to like you back?

5points

Random Person 2 years ago

The whole idea of this makes absolutely no sense. Most of the time this phrase is used for people ages 6-9 and during that period in your life you don't even experience romantic attraction, let alone sexual attraction.

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Sasy 2 years ago

Australia just started doing a whole lot of ads about this, and they are really good lessons, unfortunately not enough people will sit down and watch tv commercials.

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Bubbles and sparks 2 years ago

Those are the people falling into the wrong relationships over and over again, it saddens me...

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Jacky shaan 2 years ago

even if the person bullying/teasing you DOES like you, they should show some respect instead of trying to get you to like them by being rude.

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Unnamed Hooman 2 years ago

THIS! When I was in grade 6, this kid punched me or hurt me every day. I complained to my mom, and she said “He probably likes you” I complained to the teacher, and she said the same. After showing my mom the bruises, she gave in and said “okay, if he tries to punch you, tell him that if he does, you’ll punch his nose through the back of his head. I give you full permission.” My mom informed the teacher of this, and told her not to be surprised if a kid has a bloody/broken nose. All it took was one threat and he never did it again. I didn’t ever punch him, no matter how much he deserved it. The weird thing is, he is now one of my best friend’s boyfriends…

1point

JuniorCJ82 2 years ago

Nopity nope nope nope on this one times infinity. If someone is mean to/bullies you, THEY ARE AN (oftentimes insecure) A*****E. Full stop.

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Petersen with an E 2 years ago

My mom told me that once

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Sar ska 2 years ago

It’s been over 2 decades and I still remember how I ended up invited to some boy’s birthday party in elementary school because his mother thought he “liked” me since he chased me around the field at recess almost daily. I had no idea who the kid actually was. We’d never spoken to each other. He chased me so I ran. That seemed like a natural reaction. To me he was just another one of my multiple bullies. I still remember how awkward I felt at his party (I was made to go, since my mom also thought “that’s just how young boys show they like a girl”.) — The entire party I couldn’t talk to anyone because I didn’t know him or his friends. It was uncomfortable and embarrassing. People need to stop normalizing the teasing/assumption that kids of opposing genders “like” each other because they “spend time together” and definitely need to stop normalizing the idea that “boys are mean to girls that they like” BS. It’s not cute. Teach your sons to develop some damn emotional intelligence!

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Swear Wolfe 2 years ago

This one we really need to stop doing. We should be teaching them if they are mean to avoid them as much as possible and if they say they like you... tell them to go to hell.

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Karen Philpott 2 years ago

What absolute rubbish.

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Pamela Worthington-Smack 2 years ago

It's likely that aggression and sexuality are inextricably intertwined, but that only means that we must acculturate ourselves to ameliorate the negative effects of the Rube Goldberg machines natural selection has created in us, and every other living thing.

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BeardedVulture 2 years ago

The rights of my fist end where the rights of your nose begin.

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Alana Voeks 2 years ago

I wasn't verbally taught this but man was I shown it

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Riley Quinn 2 years ago

I understand this sentiment somewhat because children will behave awkwardly when they first encounter "the call of the hormones". It distinguishing between awkward teasing and outright bullying that must be taught.

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Martin John 2 years ago

Sometimes adolescents (I teach 12 and 13 year olds) just want attention from their peers and, all too often, go about it the wrong way--because negative attention is better than none at all. I try to turn it into a teachable moment and tell them that even though they are confused and trying to figure out the world and themselves, harassment is not an acceptable way to get attention.

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Leah Ma 2 years ago

That particular comment has ALWAYS struck me as really stupid!

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Epiphonia 2 years ago

Or that if someone is bullying you, just “ignore them”. We all know this doesn't work. Stop telling kids this.

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Random Person 2 years ago

"Jesus why is Christina such a jerk to everyone?" "Oh, don't mind her, she's pansexual."

0points

Diana Pahule 2 years ago

Fortunately that was only tried on me once, and in high school. I'd been bullied enough in Jr high to not swallow that pile of bull.

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April Caron 2 years ago

Believe it or not… it’s a developmental milestone when kids tease those they like. It’s two-fold. 1st, they may see it at home… & it may be good-natured, but kids lack the ability to notice the difference between good-natured or mean teasing. 2nd, kids are developing language skills, which includes understanding sarcasm and how to tell jokes… & unfortunately, how to insult others. The good news is most children do not intend to cause harm with their ribbing (in their minds, all of it is good-natured). But we know… it’s not about intention, it’s the impact that matters. So, put a stop to it and build compassion by role-playing w/the teaser. AND explain to the child being teased, “I think he/she might like you, but they aren’t showing it in an appropriate way and it’s not OK. Can I do anything to make you feel better about this?” Offer them verbiage to stop it, “I’d like to be your friend, but you need to stop being mean and insulting me. I don’t like it when you do that.”

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1.21Gigawatts?! 2 years ago

I’ve heard this, and if you ignore they leave. I also heard from my GODDAMN principal that because they annoyed other kids too (not bullied ANNOYED) that I wasn’t being bullied I was just being targeted. First of all, same thing. Second why would you say that to a F*****G THIRD GRADER TELLING THEM THEY’RE JUST DRAMATIC LIKE F YOU MISS P THERE WAS A REASON YOU GOT DIVORCED. (I’m guessing I’m not sure if she was divorced but by the way it was miss not Mrs)

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Kitty White 2 years ago

This is a good one that I didn’t even think of… growing up in the 60’s and 70’s, this really was the conventional wisdom. Boys ‘don’t know how to approach a girl they like,’ so they use teasing, hair-pulling, etc to get the girl’s attention. This is wrong on so many levels… it not only teaches little girls to accept bullying from little boys, but it teaches little boys that it’s perfectly OK to bully little girls. It teaches everyone that little boys are only capable of violence- mild though it might be- when interacting with girls. It is a sad state of affairs, suggesting that it’s better to hurt another child for the sole purpose of avoiding a little bit of awkwardness.

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BBsparkster614 2 years ago

OK NO NO NO NO NONONONONO my sister is definitely not gonna be freinds with, well we’ll just call him D. She won’t let me know his address because I can’t fight him, I’ve told her all I need is a knife and since then won’t tell me his address. So we aren’t on good terms

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#9

Welp time to get downvoted.

I’m a proponent against bubble wrapping kids feelings. I’m not saying let’s bully and abuse the children, but we don’t let them feel tough things anymore. And I’m not here to get political or anything. I’m just saying, kids aren’t encouraged to explore trails of thought without acting on them, they’re not encouraged to be scared or push themselves physically and mentally, they’re not encouraged to challenge status quo and I mean real status quo, not the whole “society will tell you this but don’t listen little timmy” meanwhile every other kid is being told that thing and not doing it. Yes let kids laugh, but also let them know it’s okay to cry, and if they want to hold back the tears sometimes, that’s okay too, just, don’t go your whole life trying to keep things “good”. Bad things in our lives make us better sometimes and we don’t always have to suppress that as terrible as it sounds.

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Another potentially harmful idea that children are sometimes taught is that they should be scared of everything. Well-intentioned parents sometimes shield their kids too much and teach them that there is danger lurking around every corner, from strangers, school shooters, neighbors, the internet, films and even foods they could choke on. While it's important to be honest with our kids about the inherent risks in the world that they should be cautious of, kids should also be allowed to embrace their natural bravery. Kids are usually not scared of much, until they have a reason to be, and the last things they should be worrying about are falling off the swings or having an intruder enter their homes. They should be free to dive head first into life, and yes, they might break a bone or chip a tooth now and then, but that builds character. Raising children that are too scared to ever try anything new will not set them up for success later in life.

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People List Things Parents Should Stop Teaching Their Kids And Explain Why They're Harmful (50 Answers) Finish everything on your plate!

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People List Things Parents Should Stop Teaching Their Kids And Explain Why They're Harmful (50 Answers) Not specifically taught, but moreso an effect of how we teach kids.

Smart and gifted kids in school aren’t challenged enough. Those that do very well, even in a specific subject instead of overall, aren’t taught proper work ethic because they excel already and don’t need to work as hard. Since they aren’t challenged early, they don’t learn how to work when challenged, and they end up doing poorly in school later in life. I know it’s hard to do, but we really need to be aware that we’re setting kids up to fail when we don’t properly challenge them.

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People List Things Parents Should Stop Teaching Their Kids And Explain Why They're Harmful (50 Answers) That EVERYONE should go to college. Such BS.

This is the myth that school districts use to justify the near total elimination of vocation programs.

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Arthur C. Brooks wrote an article for The Atlantic explaining just why we should not teach our kids to be too fearful of the world, and one way he mentioned to assuage concerned parents' fears is to look at the actual facts. He notes that it has actually never been safer to be a child in the United States than it is today. Despite how focused on negative news media cycles always seem to be, Brooks writes that, "Since 1935, the number of childhood deaths between the ages of 1 and 4 fell from 450 to 30 per 100,000. It has fallen by nearly half just since 1990, and the decreases in other age groups are similarly impressive." Plus, with all of the technology available to us today, in terms of keeping track of our children and advancements in the medical field, kids have become pretty much invincible. Of course, there are certain rules to always keep in mind like "stranger danger" and looking both ways before crossing the road, but kids should not be scared of simply being kids. They have the rest of their lives to worry; let's not make them do it from a young age.

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#13

"Tattling" is bad. That kind of mentality is what leads adults to say nothing when they hear/see domestic violence and various forms of neglect, because its "not their business".

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People List Things Parents Should Stop Teaching Their Kids And Explain Why They're Harmful (50 Answers) that crying is bad. parents don’t learn to regulate their own emotions and expect their kids to do it. then they start suppressing crying. and then they grow to be adults with zero emotional regulation. it’s a cycle.

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People List Things Parents Should Stop Teaching Their Kids And Explain Why They're Harmful (50 Answers) Teaching them they’re responsible for how other people feel “mommy is so sad you won’t hug her” child then feels obligated to hug her to make her feel better. Think about what this means as an adult…

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Another tip Brooks provides for keeping our kids safe without instilling a fear of the world into them is being careful of how we frame advice. He notes that when we inform our children of threats, we often deliver the message in a way that is not specific enough, and research shows that a "blanket attitude" towards fear is not always very effective. "If you want to offer a child a warning to make them better prepared, focus on one specific danger they might face and how to deal with it," Brooks explains. "Instead of saying, 'People will try to take advantage of you at college,' say, 'If someone is trying to get you to drink too much, avoid that person.'"

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#16

you have to respect ppl that are older than u, even if they are wrong

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People List Things Parents Should Stop Teaching Their Kids And Explain Why They're Harmful (50 Answers) That saying you’re sorry is showing weakness.

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#18

People List Things Parents Should Stop Teaching Their Kids And Explain Why They're Harmful (50 Answers) They don't have an opinion. I'm breaking generational curses by simply listening to my kids.

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Brooks also recommends that parents try to counteract "negative primals", or assumptions that the world is threatening, from the outside. When your children are out of the house, at school or hanging out with their friends, there's no telling what they'll be exposed to. But if they come home stressed and worried about all of the dangers that the world presents, it can be helpful to ease their minds and bring them back down to reality. Brooks explains that with his own daughter, he does not sugarcoat the truths of the world, but he does remind her to focus on the positives. Yes, there are dangerous things and people out there to be cautious of, but they're not everywhere. In fact, there are plenty of wonderful things and people in the world as well. "Instead of teaching our kids fear primals, let’s teach them love primals, which neutralize fear and put something good in its place," he writes. "Let them know that people are made for love—we all crave it, and we can find something lovable in just about everyone we meet."

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The worst one I ever witnessed was a single father of a two year old girl who was leaving a social gathering with his daughter, as it was time for her to go to bed. He picked her up and walked her from one guest to the next, strangers and friends alike, making her give each guest a hug and a kiss goodnight. Whether she wanted to or not did not matter to him, she was going to do it because he thought he was teaching her to be polite. I pulled him aside and gave him my thoughts on what I saw. By making her kiss people she did not know, he was violating her boundaries and making it much easier for a pedophile to touch her inappropriately in the future. Not only might she not object, she may not talk about it either. Because an adult asked her to, meant it was expected of her, right? He was aghast at his own lack of foresight, thanked me for my perspective, and promptly ended the practice.

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#20

People List Things Parents Should Stop Teaching Their Kids And Explain Why They're Harmful (50 Answers) External validation.

Constantly chasing likes and followers. The unbearable weight of keeping up appearances. Lives and bodies that aren't perfect seem to have no value.

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I’m dyslexic, but no one would test me as a kid because my grades “weren’t low enough”. Nope, instead I had to be in tutorials for ALL OF ELEMENTARY, where I still wasn’t getting help/ understanding anything. I thought I was stupid until I found out about my dyslexia when I was in 7th grade. I cried all night. The idea that in order to be tested for something like dyslexia (which is really common!) you basically need to be failing is a really harmful idea to engrain into kids. Like I said, I though I was stupid because I couldn’t spell or understand math. Now I’m all A’s. Big difference it makes to just KNOW and get help. I never actually did get help or accommodations, btw. BUT, I’ve done my own research on how to help myself. So, yeah. There’s my 2 cents.

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Another seemingly harmless but negative idea many parents accidentally instill in their children is the idea that crying is something shameful or that it displays weakness. "Stop crying" or "don't cry" we often hear parents say. And while they may just want their little ones to keep it down in public, parents who use these phrases can quickly teach their children to bottle up their emotions, and once that's been taught, it can be very challenging to undo. We should be teaching our kids that emotions are nothing to be scared of or ashamed of, as Christina M. Ward notes in her article 'We Need To Stop Teaching Our Kids Not To Cry!', and that displaying sadness does not mean that you're out of control. It just means you're human, and you know how to feel.

#22

That you can do anything if you set your mind to it. Because it's not true. There are external forces that can hinder us from reaching our goals. There's privilege, and lack thereof. It doesn't take just pure mindset to reach a goal.

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#23

That a child can’t have boundaries because they are a kid.

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That they’re dumb and don’t know anything. Kids are incredibly bright and will call you out on your s**t.

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Letting kids cry allows them a healthy emotional release, and it opens them up to being more empathetic towards others. If a child is told that they should not be crying because it shows weakness, they will likely look down upon their friends and future partners when they cry as well. But if they understand that sometimes, you just need to let out a good cry, they will be more understanding when others are feeling emotional as well. All kids, but especially boys, should be told from an early age that displaying emotions is healthy and normal, and having to bottle them up is a recipe for disaster.

#25

1) Parents thinking mental health issues don't exist

2) Parents are always right

3) If you question something that has been going on since long, you're wrong

4) Religion.

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#26

That one shiny fish book in elementary “the rainbow fish”. Where the main character had all these beautiful scales, then the other fish got jealous of/resenting him. So he gave all his scales to everyone. It was suppose to teach kids about sharing?

From a disturbing metaphor involving—let me say it one more time—self-dismemberment to a message that basically says, “Don't be special. If you are special, people will hate you for it and the only way to be happy is to shed yourself of that special trait,”

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"You NEED to have children!"

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I hope you were not taught many of the ideas on this list when you were a child, but if you were, know that you're not alone. We can't change the past, but we can choose what lessons and ideas we decide to pass on to younger generations. Hopefully, over time, we can phase out these harmful ideas and ensure that kids are taught more valuable and positive lessons instead. Keep upvoting the responses you'd like all of your fellow pandas to read, and then feel free to continue the conversation down below in the comments. And if you're interested in reading another Bored Panda article on the same topic, check out this story next.

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#28

People List Things Parents Should Stop Teaching Their Kids And Explain Why They're Harmful (50 Answers) As I was leaving elementary school, they decided to implement some sort of “reading level”. You were not allowed to read a book that was higher than your “level”.

Now, for context, I am avid reader. I got an eighth grade level of reading. I was reading Sybil by sixth grade. However, I do not do well in subjects such as math because it doesn’t make sense to me.

So, we got tested and I got my score, a nice, high score. Something my parents would be proud of me for.

In the schools library, I go to grab a book I thought was interesting. A Secret Garden I think it was called? It was a high level, so of course, nine/ten year old me thought I was allowed to read it!

My goddamn fifth grade teacher yanked it from me, and I wasn’t allowed to read it because I wouldn’t understand it and gave me a picture book. I tried to protest and say I got a good level, but he said no, I didn’t and I was lying.

To this day, I hold massive resentment towards him and the system that says, “You can’t do this because you got a poor grade on it.” Think of how easily that could turn people away from doing things?! How many more kids could we get into reading if we didn’t say, “No, you can’t because you won’t understand.”

Then, if they won’t understand, help them. Teach them. Isn’t that why we’re here? To teach kids?

Anyways, I looked up a book I received for Christmas because I wanted to learn how to write reviews for autobiographies.

I’m disgusted to say that stupid level system is still around. The system is awful, we need to change it and start encouraging and, you know, being adults to our kids instead of letting things be as they are.

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#29

Telling kids they have to be nice to everyone. If people are mean to them they won’t fight back with that mindset. They need to know it’s okay to set boundaries without it being an issue. Respect and boundaries are so important for kids.
Zero tolerance policies in general are absolutely backwards.

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#30

That all males are perverts and there are no female perverts

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That they need to have everything lined up by age 16-18 and if they don't, it'll have serious consequences.

Bad grade? No one will ask about it in a couple years. No friends/social life? Get some new ones in college. Don't know what to do with your life yet? Join the club, honey, we got jackets, most of us grownups aren't sure either. The amount of high school kids I've seen beating themselves up, even having full breakdowns over all these things is honestly worrying. 18 is not a deadline. Your life isn't set in its tracks forever by 20. Who on earth is teaching them these things?!

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#32

That different is bad. That if I don’t understand it, there must be a conspiracy. If I don’t win, the opponent cheated.

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People List Things Parents Should Stop Teaching Their Kids And Explain Why They're Harmful (50 Answers) That children can't be sad. Children can be sad and as someone who had struggled with mental illness ever since I was 8, I can confirm. Children are humans just like us, they have emotions. You can be depressed even if your age isn't in the double digits.

I would also like to add another one; the "It will get better" and "Just put on a happy face" mentality. Unfortunately, life is a b***h. It will not get better. **You** get better. Depression doesn't fade away just because you are smiling. I wish it was that easy, but it isn't.

Stop trying to reassure and make excuses for your child's mental health. Actually, get your a*s up and help them.

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#34

That everything they're good at/enjoy as a hobby needs to be monetized.

I played competitive piano and all the time was told "you'll be a great teacher, work from home, etc."

I liked making jewelry and was told "you should make lots of those then sell them at the local market/online/etc.

I liked writing poetry and short stories and was told "you should be a English tutor/newspaper columnist/sell your short stories /publish a poetry book".

I have pretty much stopped doing all of those things, and if I do something creative nowadays, I keep it to myself because otherwise, me just enjoying something to enjoy it is judged as a waste of time if I'm not making money from it.

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#35

That your right to privacy no longer exists. Lack of privacy is being normalized on all levels of society.

Parents posting every little picture of their child up til adulthood is so f****d up imo. They can't consent to that and then their whole life history has been willingly given up by their own parents.

Government and big businesses should not be allowed to know every tiny detail about us. Listening/recording us will hurt all of us.

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People List Things Parents Should Stop Teaching Their Kids And Explain Why They're Harmful (50 Answers) Staying quiet means good behavior

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#37

It isn’t ok to fail or make mistakes. People aren’t perfect and you will make mistakes. Just don’t set yourself up to make ones that can hurt or kill others (drink or drug to the point where you don’t know not to drive or assault someone).

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#38

“Minor attracted persons”. Pedophiles. They’re pedophiles.

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#39

That the reason to behave and do the right thing is to avoid eternal punishment from mommy and daddy's imaginary friend in the sky.

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#40

That they can do anything and not face consequences.

And I don't mean that in a "you wanna be an astronaut? That's awesome!" kind of way, I mean that in "anyone who tells you no is bullying you"

I've got a 16 year old at my second job who tried to get me fired because I expected her to do her job when she was hungover. Sorry, but you chose to drink the night before a shift. Live with the consequences.

At my main job in a school, I've got a 12/13 year old who thinks he can ignore the staff and get away with it. On Thursday, because I escalated the situation to his head of year, he said that I was a weirdo and noone even likes me anyways. (I really started looking inwards at that and re evaluating my entire personality, especially with how creative the insult was /s) I asked him to change his shoes and when he didn't I told him he couldn't play football. Then he got another kid to give him their trainers.

Today, I've overheard a mother say "surely it's illegal to make a kid carry their school bag, a Chromebook (that the school has lent the child for free) and their PE kit but not give them a locker" ... I'm sorry what??

It really feels like we are teaching our kids to be victims who believe they are all special little heroes and it's never their fault if something goes wrong.

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#41

Buy buy buy work work work buy buy buy work work buy die

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#42

Lack of conformity and daring to express yourself can result in lost education.

Kids being suspended from school because they dared to express their individuality. Whether its clothing, dyed hair or whatever. None of it really matters compared to sending kids away from their education.

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#43

That you should always go ‘above and beyond’ or whatever. Your workplace wont care and give you more work.

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#44

The “be yourself” trope. It’s fine for things like hobbies or interests, but some people are just inherently toxic whether it’s genetic or a learned behavior. And then people justify their bad behavior by saying they’re just being themselves and if other people don’t like it that’s their own problem. There’s no incentive to curb harmful behavior and kids are being taught that it’s okay to act out because it’s just who they are.

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#45

Misogyny. Toxic gender roles. Whatever else Andrew Tate is shoveling down the throats of his young and impressionable audience. I've seen kids as young as middle school age repeating some of the insane s**t he says, to their own mothers.

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#46

People List Things Parents Should Stop Teaching Their Kids And Explain Why They're Harmful (50 Answers) I have one.

This is very common in my country. You know kids run a lot, and they fall a lot. Most of the time (luckily!) they do not get hurt seriously. Sometimes, they simply are just fine. But they cry regardless. I was one of those kids.

Whenever that happen, parents would rush to their kids, and they slap on the ground (or whatever object near by) saying “Punish the ground for hurting my baby!”. Now, that may sound sweet if you are that kid, but gradually it could teach the kid something so dangerous: When you fall, it is something else (or someone else)’s fault. Kids will grow up blaming everything around them for their failures, before questioning themselves.

I remembered clearly this time when I just fell off the ground while playing, cried my lung out, and my whole family was in a mess. Especially my dad. He was so worried, checking my (totally pain-free) body for any wound, and kept asking “What made you fall? Was it a rock? Or was it your friend? Did she push you?”

Dad - I wanted to say - I really just fell off myself.

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#47

That everyone is a winner.

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#48

That your worth is in anyway linked to the number or ranking from an assessment. For most people how you do in standardised tests is not as important an indicator for the rest of your life as we bring the children up to believe it is.

My kids are both in primary school. For me I hate that this focus on assessment results at this early stage is more important than their learning journey.

I am not sure if that makes sense but a 7 year old should be learning and discovering and not worried about the assessment tools used by the school''s reporting and administration processes.

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#49

Saying "parents aren't perfect" as a justification for toxic or abusive parenting.

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#50

That your worth is tied to obedience and functioning. Your punished for many things, often with scorn and anger, even when you’re still very young. It can be very impactful on your life and as a das it often breaks my heart hearing what people tell their children when they are emotional. Examples being „Stop crying, it’s nothing“ for the most basic and „if you don’t stop crying, there will be consequences X“ to amp it up a little.

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#51

If you don’t play five different sports and make straight a’s in the process you are a failure in life. I’m from NC and I go to a school that has patent that do this so they look good on Facebook, thankfully not my parents.

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#52

That if anyone disagrees with you it’s wrong- the best thing about this world is all the opinions, but it’s how some people show their opinions that’s wrong. Also, wherever you are, people will dislike you for who you are. Stop whining and get over it

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#53

Parents who are telling their kids that they can openly reject a line of thinking they don’t like.

On a bit of a separate note, I’m seeing a lot of comments about gender identity and sexuality, most of which are saying we aren’t letting “kids be kids” and that we are forcing them to think about their gender. I knew my gender in 1st grade, and I knew I was attracted to women in 2nd grade.

Part of being a kid also means developing crushes, having your first kiss (for some), or learning about who you feel comfortable being close next to. I’m not seeing anyone here mentioning how normal it is for Herero boys to say “I have a crush on a girl at school” so let’s also let kids be able to say “I feel like a girl” and believe them when they say it. If they’re wrong, they’ll admit it later. Y’all think kids are going to keep up a facade sexuality forever? The f**k?

Edit: source - am teacher

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#54

That staying back a grade is a bad thing. It’s not. If you need extra time to learn something, take it! That’s so much better than not ever learning it and then continuing to do poorly in all your future classes, never being able to learn any of the content because you were never properly taught the basics when you were younger, causing you to fall extremely far behind in life. All this would’ve been avoided if you would’ve just been held back one extra year, maybe two in the earlier years of school. Where I live, basically nobody gets held back even if they’re failing. It takes practically nothing to pass a grade and it’s going to set up a lot of kids for failure.

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#55

Overworking to death

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#56

That they are somehow personally responsible for saving the f*****g environment.

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#57

That if you don’t do good in school you won’t or can’t be successful

But at the same time the gravity of how important it is to study

People who study can be successful but it doesn’t guarantee success.

What will make you successful however is being really good at something _and_ practicing it.

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#58

That everyone can do everything at competitive levels and win. And that everyone gets a trophy for trying.

There’s a lot of nuance to this, because you also don’t want to not allow kids to try new things or activities that interest them. But my god it’s more than okay to have winners and losers in sporting events or kids that are awarded differently for excelling at an art. There’s a powerful lesson in being humbled and respecting that some people (even kids) are really just next level skill sets. Same thing with learning to lose respectfully / honorably. That said there is so much more to any sport/hobby/art than winning or losing. Even if you aren’t the best at something there is plenty to take away from it, and you don’t need participation awards to prove anything.

Seems like a lot of adults struggle with accepting that someone else is more capable at given tasks or activities and I think that some of that comes from never having to deal with being the “loser”.

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#59

That boys are bad... And girls need to be more like boys in order to be successful in life...

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#60

If you feel like you don't know what you are doing with your life, remember things that you would lose yourself in as a kid; things that really held your interest. Those are your natural inclinations, and what you should be doing for work is in there somewhere. I would meditate on that. You've always known what you wanted to be when you grew up, but some adult pushed their own ideas of what you should be when you grew up onto you and stifled your own creativity. Wake it back up. The Mozarts and Leonardo Davincis and Wozniaks of the world simply held on and followed that inclination. They weren't necessarily geniuses. They just had passion to keep them going when what they were doing was extremely difficult.

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#61

Politics. Parents that push politics on their children are the worst. I used to hang out with this kid in my neighborhood when I was growing up, and his dad was the most hardcore atheist I’ve ever met to this day. He would tell his son that all religious people are stupid and he even tried to get him to convince me that my parents were stupid for taking me to church. If you do that to your kids — You’re a bad person.

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#62

Follow the expected path to your 20s instead of using all the info on the internet to make whatever idea you have a reality now

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#63

That they have a choice in their gender.

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Howdy, I'm Adelaide! I'm originally from Texas, but after graduating from university with an acting degree, I relocated to sunny Los Angeles for a while. I then got a serious bite from the travel bug and found myself moving to Sweden and England before settling in Lithuania about two years ago. I'm passionate about animal welfare, sustainability and eating delicious food. But as you can see, I cover a wide range of topics including drama, internet trends and hilarious memes. I can easily be won over with a Seinfeld reference, vegan pastry or glass of fresh cold brew. And during my free time, I can usually be seen strolling through a park, playing tennis or baking something tasty.

Howdy, I'm Adelaide! I'm originally from Texas, but after graduating from university with an acting degree, I relocated to sunny Los Angeles for a while. I then got a serious bite from the travel bug and found myself moving to Sweden and England before settling in Lithuania about two years ago. I'm passionate about animal welfare, sustainability and eating delicious food. But as you can see, I cover a wide range of topics including drama, internet trends and hilarious memes. I can easily be won over with a Seinfeld reference, vegan pastry or glass of fresh cold brew. And during my free time, I can usually be seen strolling through a park, playing tennis or baking something tasty.

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I'm a visual editor at Bored Panda. Looking at pets and memes is the best part of my work. I love to travel and want to see the world. Still looking and exploring stuff I like and want to do so thats exciting... and sometimes not

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What do you think ?

foxgirl158 2 years ago

I would like to add another one here. Always expecting them to have good grades, and berating them when they don't. I currently have an A- in Chemistry, and my dad told me when he saw it, "Oh, you're just barely scraping by". I've had more breakdowns in the last week then I've had in my life because of the stupid homework that I don't understand.

11points

Doctor Strange 2 years ago

I used to get so scared on report card day that I would shake because of this. If I brought home straight A's I'd get a 'that's nice'. But once I had 3 C's. Nothing worse, everything else was an A or B. My dad told me, and this is his exact words, "Get out of my sight. I don't even want to look at you. You make me sick."

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Jonathan Nichols 2 years ago (edited)

I'm sorry you're going through that. There was one time in my life I didn't get an A in science, and it was because we had a group project in which the other person I got assigned to in the group did absolutely nothing and never told me until it was all due. That week changed my perspective on life a bit.

4points

Maple Porkly 2 years ago (edited)

My parents expected the same from me growing up. I got a B at the start of my chem grade 12 class and got the same reaction from them as you did. I worked my way to the top student spot in the whole school. I remember I got an award from the principal at a big ceremony and all they had to say was that it must be too easy. I've given up trying to please them in my adult years and embraced a much more encouraging approach to school with my own daughter.

1point

Got Myself 4 Pandas 2 years ago

I was always top of my class, my two oldest kids who are 18 and 17 not so much - school just wasn't their thing, they're smart kids but don't get on well with the whole school set up, and my son has adhd which doesn't help. My daughter now has a job while she's trying to figure out what she wants long term, my son is going to a college course on electrical engineering and loves the welding class especially. I've never been disappointed they weren't coming home with top marks and always told them that since they have to be there they'd be as well making the most of it, but not at the expense of their happiness. School isn't the environment for everyone, not everyone learns the same way. I'm sorry your dad reacted that way, maybe a c**p joke? But as a parent let me say you did great and if you don't understand something ask for further explanations - a lot of the time it's bad instructions that lead to confusion. Homework is not worth misery

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Deborah Harris2 2 years ago

I got a tad confused midway through these, I think maybe it's two different listings combined 😳

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Heather Menard 2 years ago

The number one thing that should be on the top of the list should be racism

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Boreddd🇺🇦 2 years ago (edited)

This applies more to teenagers, but many figures of authority in many teenagers lives treat them like children when it comes to their opinions and like adults when it comes to their responsabilities. Which, tbh sucks

1point

Erin Miller 2 years ago

"No means no and don't ask me again."** I get that my parents didn't want me to keep asking for a damned cookie or the bike they couldn't afford... But as an adult this mentality has been super detrimental in the pursuit of my dreams and career growth. It took me 20 years to realize "no" doesn't mean no, it means you're not asking the right person, you're not in the right job, the timing is off. Don't ask once and then drop it; keep asking; keep trying; keep searching. (**Unless we're talking about sexual consent and then obviously "No does mean no.")

1point

Phil Astley 2 years ago (edited)

I posted a comment above in a similar vein, I am not comfortable with touch and never have been, my brother would always force his daughter to hug me even though it was clear both she and I were uncomfortable to it, all I got from him was 'whats wrong with you??!' I just believe in allowing people, especially kids make their own decisions of that nature, if she doesn't want to hug me she should not be forced into it, and likewise; setting a bad example telling her she has no bodily autonomy. I told her a few weeks ago now she is 13 when we met in the city that I am not comfortable with touch and I am not a hugger, I don't know if she will think it is just her, but I am not comfortable at all with any kind of physical contact.... (she has been through things so I am especially aware how damaging to a kids psyche this can be)

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DS Mom 2 years ago

My sophomore year, I flunked a semester. Instead of talking to me about why and what can we do to help me do better, my mom screamed at me... Told me that I was going to end up on the streets selling myself to make money. She was wrong of course.

0points

Phil Astley 2 years ago

A big deal for me is my brother not teaching my niece body autonomy, basically forcing her to hug me when she was very young, I am not a hugger and now she is 13 I told her this, not in a nasty way, but by simply saying I am not comfortable with touch, maybe she will think instantly it is her, but I believe people should have the choice to hug....and be allowed to make the decision themselves.....

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Maikai 2 years ago (edited)

Parents/guardians/those who are in a position of teaching others should teach the learner about sportspersonship, uplifting others, applauding others’ successes, taking joy in their joy. Otherwise known as part of aloha. Learned from my grandparents.

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No One 2 years ago

Some of these are contradictory and many sound as though they’re written by people without children. There are also some with good points as well.

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Octavia Hansen 2 years ago

That's "Super Heroes are NOT good." Sorry

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rw55066 2 years ago

More BP negativity

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Ladytron 2 years ago

While I agree that bp is a child free space (to the extreme sometimes...). I don't think this is quite in line with that. Some of these are actually important to reflect on.

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Vix Spiderthrust 2 years ago

Many of our elders are morons though, Joe. Why should we respect them, exactly? Donald Trump is much older than me but I don't respect his creepy paedophilic a*s.

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foxgirl158 2 years ago

I would like to add another one here. Always expecting them to have good grades, and berating them when they don't. I currently have an A- in Chemistry, and my dad told me when he saw it, "Oh, you're just barely scraping by". I've had more breakdowns in the last week then I've had in my life because of the stupid homework that I don't understand.

11points

Doctor Strange 2 years ago

I used to get so scared on report card day that I would shake because of this. If I brought home straight A's I'd get a 'that's nice'. But once I had 3 C's. Nothing worse, everything else was an A or B. My dad told me, and this is his exact words, "Get out of my sight. I don't even want to look at you. You make me sick."

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Jonathan Nichols 2 years ago (edited)

I'm sorry you're going through that. There was one time in my life I didn't get an A in science, and it was because we had a group project in which the other person I got assigned to in the group did absolutely nothing and never told me until it was all due. That week changed my perspective on life a bit.

4points

Maple Porkly 2 years ago (edited)

My parents expected the same from me growing up. I got a B at the start of my chem grade 12 class and got the same reaction from them as you did. I worked my way to the top student spot in the whole school. I remember I got an award from the principal at a big ceremony and all they had to say was that it must be too easy. I've given up trying to please them in my adult years and embraced a much more encouraging approach to school with my own daughter.

1point

Got Myself 4 Pandas 2 years ago

I was always top of my class, my two oldest kids who are 18 and 17 not so much - school just wasn't their thing, they're smart kids but don't get on well with the whole school set up, and my son has adhd which doesn't help. My daughter now has a job while she's trying to figure out what she wants long term, my son is going to a college course on electrical engineering and loves the welding class especially. I've never been disappointed they weren't coming home with top marks and always told them that since they have to be there they'd be as well making the most of it, but not at the expense of their happiness. School isn't the environment for everyone, not everyone learns the same way. I'm sorry your dad reacted that way, maybe a c**p joke? But as a parent let me say you did great and if you don't understand something ask for further explanations - a lot of the time it's bad instructions that lead to confusion. Homework is not worth misery

1point

Deborah Harris2 2 years ago

I got a tad confused midway through these, I think maybe it's two different listings combined 😳

7points

Heather Menard 2 years ago

The number one thing that should be on the top of the list should be racism

2points

Boreddd🇺🇦 2 years ago (edited)

This applies more to teenagers, but many figures of authority in many teenagers lives treat them like children when it comes to their opinions and like adults when it comes to their responsabilities. Which, tbh sucks

1point

Erin Miller 2 years ago

"No means no and don't ask me again."** I get that my parents didn't want me to keep asking for a damned cookie or the bike they couldn't afford... But as an adult this mentality has been super detrimental in the pursuit of my dreams and career growth. It took me 20 years to realize "no" doesn't mean no, it means you're not asking the right person, you're not in the right job, the timing is off. Don't ask once and then drop it; keep asking; keep trying; keep searching. (**Unless we're talking about sexual consent and then obviously "No does mean no.")

1point

Phil Astley 2 years ago (edited)

I posted a comment above in a similar vein, I am not comfortable with touch and never have been, my brother would always force his daughter to hug me even though it was clear both she and I were uncomfortable to it, all I got from him was 'whats wrong with you??!' I just believe in allowing people, especially kids make their own decisions of that nature, if she doesn't want to hug me she should not be forced into it, and likewise; setting a bad example telling her she has no bodily autonomy. I told her a few weeks ago now she is 13 when we met in the city that I am not comfortable with touch and I am not a hugger, I don't know if she will think it is just her, but I am not comfortable at all with any kind of physical contact.... (she has been through things so I am especially aware how damaging to a kids psyche this can be)

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DS Mom 2 years ago

My sophomore year, I flunked a semester. Instead of talking to me about why and what can we do to help me do better, my mom screamed at me... Told me that I was going to end up on the streets selling myself to make money. She was wrong of course.

0points

Phil Astley 2 years ago

A big deal for me is my brother not teaching my niece body autonomy, basically forcing her to hug me when she was very young, I am not a hugger and now she is 13 I told her this, not in a nasty way, but by simply saying I am not comfortable with touch, maybe she will think instantly it is her, but I believe people should have the choice to hug....and be allowed to make the decision themselves.....

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Maikai 2 years ago (edited)

Parents/guardians/those who are in a position of teaching others should teach the learner about sportspersonship, uplifting others, applauding others’ successes, taking joy in their joy. Otherwise known as part of aloha. Learned from my grandparents.

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No One 2 years ago

Some of these are contradictory and many sound as though they’re written by people without children. There are also some with good points as well.

0points

Octavia Hansen 2 years ago

That's "Super Heroes are NOT good." Sorry

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rw55066 2 years ago

More BP negativity

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Ladytron 2 years ago

While I agree that bp is a child free space (to the extreme sometimes...). I don't think this is quite in line with that. Some of these are actually important to reflect on.

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Vix Spiderthrust 2 years ago

Many of our elders are morons though, Joe. Why should we respect them, exactly? Donald Trump is much older than me but I don't respect his creepy paedophilic a*s.

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