A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods

While, in theory, childhood is this magical carefree time, where we have a chance to just explore the world and do whatever we want, the fact is that this is just not the case for everyone. Where you were born plays a big part, as well as how much money your family happens to have, but one of the biggest differences might be growing up as a girl, as opposed to a boy.
Someone asked “Women, what do you feel is the hardest part about growing up as a girl?” and female netizens shared their thoughts. So get comfortable as you read through, upvote your favorite posts and be sure to share your own experiences in the comments section below.

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A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods We don't get to be carefree little girls for long due to so many men being goddamn predators.

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A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods Learning how to deflect unwanted sexual advances from men/relatives from the time you hit puberty.

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A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods The day you realize that little boys are treated better than you.

I didn't want to be a girl when I was little. I truly hated being a girl. I didn't want to be a boy either. I didn't have gender issues. I had society issues. It took a long time to realize that me being a girl wasn't the problem. The problem was that every successful person we talked about was a man. The other was that little boys could physically assault little girls, and no one cared. The other was that girls had to play nicely and sit nicely because of our clothes.

The realization that being a girl means moving through the world so differently is devastating.

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A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods Body issues… I learned to hate my body at a very young age. In my mid thirties and I’m still struggling to learn to love myself the way I am.

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A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods EARLY SEXUALISATION / HARASSMENT -> lifelong trauma and damage.

PARENTIFICATION which stunts childs natural development (for example in case of younger siblings girls are required to look after them).

WASTED POTENTIAL (not enough spaces to nourish girls talents in science maths chess and IT).

Edit: oh and a f*****g bonus point if you are a girl growing up in a religious family..
Constantly being told your purpose in life is to birth children and be a good wife. 🤮🤮🤮.

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The constant mixed signals like the speech in Barbie. Be yourself but not if you’re too loud or girly or not girly or like sex but don’t like it too much. Be smart but able to be dumb at a moment’s notice. Have an opinion but not THAT opinion. Like your body but don’t say it out loud. Always criticize yourself out loud but not just for attention. Be successful but acknowledge all the other people who helped you even if they didn’t. Are you eating that? Again? And that much? Why aren’t you eating? Don’t cry. Cry but only when someone else thinks it’s valid. God you’re a cold b***h don’t you have any emotions? Know everything all the time but don’t let anyone else know that you know. God you’re such a follower. God you’re too independent you know that?

I could go on and on and on. It’s exhausting.

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A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods The fear / reality of sexual assault.

Oh and periods.

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A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods My father once said to me “if you didn’t want to cook and clean, then you shouldn’t have chosen to be born a girl.”
My mistake. .

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A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods Expectation of having children.
I hate feeling like I am worth less because I do not want to put my body and mind through a pregnancy.

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#10

That women can be their own worst enemy and drag down girls and young women with them. Like supporting/voting for misogynists. Edited to fix a missing word.

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#11

I'll second sexual harassment, catcalling, and body issues from a very young age and add not being able to display your emotions and still be taken seriously. I hear so much from men saying that boys aren't able to express their emotions, and while this is true to some extent (the patriarchy hurts everyone!), they can express anger and have it be taken seriously. For women, it's immediately dismissed as hormonal/PMS/stereotypes (e.g., "angry Black woman"). If we express sadness, see above. If we express a legitimate concern (especially medical), it's dismissed as "anxiety". Women/girls aren't allowed to express emotions without societal repercussions any more than men/boys are, it just looks different for us (and can have more disastrous consequences, esp. medical).

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#12

A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods Being sl*tshamed and harrrased, always having to take care of others and being the bigger person, being told you purpose in life is giving birth.

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A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods Being constantly dismissed and therefore denied adequate help, compensation, etc.

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#14

Being expected to be "polite" to everyone - take s**t from everyone, have low standards, accept manchildren as your partner, try to "see the best" in people who wrong you, people please.

Being sexualised from infancy.

Being treated like an infant in adulthood.

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#15

A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods Worrying about body image from quite a young age. Am I fat? Am I too fat? Am I fit enough? Am I too muscley? Am I too skinny now? Am I skinny enough? Endless. .

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A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods Sexual harassment and occasional assault from heterosexual men.

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#17

As a girl: Being thrown into a world made and designed for men with no one to help contextualize this properly so I understand better why I'm not actually a huge failure at what I choose to undertake.

As a teenager: being taught everything that is dangerous about sex (unwanted pregnancy, STDs...), but not about how to be comfortable with my own sexuality, or how pleasurable sex can be for women, how important it is, and how to achieve this - would have helped me so much more growing up

So far for my entire life: Periods. Seriously.
Inconvenient. Uncomfortable. Painful. Sometimes can lead to major embarrassment. Can put a damper on: events, vacations, sometimes I even have to adapt what I wear based on the day and flow... F**k tampon commercials trying to make anyone believe women need to live through this by dancing around in a white dress feeling pure bliss.

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#18

A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods Being underestimated and questioned while men are seen for potential; I had this incredible self confidence as a kid that was crushed in my teen years that I’ve worked my whole life to find back.

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#19

A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods For me it was mostly seeing how there were different rules for me than for my brothers, especially in terms of freedom.

Edit to say: I'm kind of baffled with all these replies and grateful to say that my wonderful parents raised me as the tomboy that I was with (almost) no complaints. My comment was addressed at things like going out alone or being out after dark. .

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#20

A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods The body shaming started really early for me. I was called fat by everyone from my classmates to my father to my medical providers, then I slimmed down but my breasts grew big and fast so I was mocked for that; my mom started insinuating I was a s**t by the age of about 12. I didn’t even lose my virginity until I was almost 20 because I thought I was a big ugly monster.

It took me so, so long to unpack the trauma of growing up in the early/mid 2000s. Now I’m 34 and just dipping my toes in the water of intentional weight loss after decades of not being able to do it without spiraling into an eating disorder, because I’m edging on high blood pressure and want to be able to go hiking w my friends without being a drag.

Don’t get me started on navigating the minefield of dating hetero men.

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#21

A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods Finding out what kind of p*rn men like. That our pleasure doesnt matter. That many men m**turbate to women/girls suffering.

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#22

A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods The patriarchy. Sexism, misogyny, double-standards, assault, predatory men, etc etc etc.

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#23

A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods The relentless sexism that puts a clamp on your life and infects everything.

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#24

Abuse. You pick the type.

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#25

I was lucky and didn’t have a lot of the terrible experiences that girls and women have, but for me it was the double standard. My brother can do no wrong and he was able to do more because he was a boy and “it’s different for girls”.

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#26

The tragedy of womanhood. As a child you believe you have an inate worth as a person, equal to everyone else. And then the slow horror creeps in through the years as it dawns on you that society does not value you as a person and your only worth is in your body and how you can benefit the men around you.

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#27

A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods Requirements and judgement.

My mistakes are taken more aggressively and poorly than dudes.

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#28

The never ending judgment and instance on compliance. I'm a women bringing up girls, it would be so very easy to teach them to be submissive and compliant but f**k easy. My girls rebel, they will push gender norms, they won't just accept "you need to..." , they are their own people, they may fall down but I'll pick them up,they will want to comply and fit in and I'll support them to be themselves. Bringing up girls harder than being one.

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#29

Being out late at night (the double standard is extremely icky) and feeling unsafe. Being told that you shouldn't travel alone...

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#30

A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods Wondering what do with your f**kability. On the one hand, you learn early on that f**kability = money, power, influence (M P I). On the other hand, you learn that achieving M P I through f**kability is somehow more vulgar than every other way people get money, power and influence.

Being a wage-stealing s**tbag, just barely to the right side of a plantation owner = WOOHOO!, Elect that man to be the president and invite him to speak at Harvard's graduation!!! Be a millionaire sex worker, and it's "eww... she so stupid and all she did was a sex tape." Mmm kay.

The same mother who shames you for getting fat and "unf**kable" in her eyes is the same one that will shame you for expressing any form of your sexuality. Am I supposed to f**kable or not? Am I supposed to want to be f**kable or not? Am I supposed to use f**kability as a means to M P I or not? Am I supposed to have a say in my f**kability at all? What if I don't give a flying rat's a*s about my f**kability? Getting older makes some of the answers more clear but not always.

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#31

A Man’s World: 30 Double Standards And Expectations That Haunt Women’s Childhoods Taught to be the one who concedes, says “sorry”, and has to be tactful with words and actions. I look at men with artificially inflated egos and simply think there’s gotta be a better way to parent both boys and girls to help them reach potential but not be ignorant of shortcomings.

Girls tend to doubt their skills and not take risks in opportunities because they think that they aren’t qualified. Boys tend to say… I don’t meet those requirements but I’m still going to go for it. (Again it’s a generalization that I saw in my own experiences and as a teacher).

Edit for grammar.

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#32

Being sexualized before I understood sexuality.

And the all consuming the reality that no matter what I did or what I was, I would never be correct.

We are either s**t shamed or called prudes. We are either too thin or need to lose weight. We either wear too much makeup or not enough. It's never ending.

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#33

You're objectified from a very young age. People were commenting on my breast size from pretty much the moment they showed up. They've always been small, and I had friends who had full D cups by 14. Seeing the different ways we were treated by our peers and even adults was sickening. They openly commented on our bodies, no shame, and in my case it was always teasing me for not being womanly enough in f*****g middle school. I was so resentful of my body and I didn't even know why. Meanwhile my friends with larger boobs were getting harassed and preyed on and they interpreted the attention as positive, but even when they'd show me texts and all the sexual things that boys were sending them, egging them on to perform sexual favors, or send nude photos, we naturally felt disgusted but we thought that was somehow the wrong reaction. We just thought it was normal, so we tolerated it, and in a twisted way I wanted the sexual harassment more than the bullying. It's f****d up. This world is f****d up to little girls.

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#34

Living with the reality that your natural predator are men.

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#35

Spending all my summers cleaning and watching my younger brother. Then when I started working I'd have to spend hours cleaning after work. Being expected to be an adult when I was 12. None of my possessions were really mine. If my brother, mom, or dad wanted something of mine they just took it. Not having my birthday celebrated for 20+ years because my parents couldn't pretend to care about me for an hour a day once a year. Being forced to put others wants/needs above mine. Being forced to clean when I was sick because having a clean house was more important than my recovery from the flu, pneumonia, etc. Having my health neglected because they thought I was faking it. Basically I wasn't seen as a human, but something to my parents live easier.

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#36

Being shamed for stupid s**t. i was made fun of (by my best friends) in 9th grade for not wearing tampons. i was embarrassed at a sleepover in 8th grade when we were talking about shaving downstairs and i was confused about it so they were telling me i must smell bad down there. i was made fun of for being a virgin in that condescending “it’s ok” way. because i was so f****d up from being made fun of for it, i lied to people i met after high school about STUPID s**t like being a virgin. i forced myself to use tampons for a few years and i eventually stopped bc my periods were too heavy and
honestly they were just uncomfortable. so is a pad, but i never had the fear of it getting lost lol. some years after high school, i start talking to my ex best friend again and at twenty f*****g four i was still being made fun of for wearing tampons being told i need to grow up. that stuff is already embarrassing as f**k and for your best friends to shame you is worse. i’m 30 and haven’t talked to them in years.
Edit to add: body shaming. I was the fat friend to my 2 very pretty& skinny porcelain skin friends. I definitely was treated differently and will be teaching my son to not be a f*****g douche.

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#37

People constantly push that you are basically over-the-hill very early in life, whereas men never lose their sex appeal. The logic being that women have prime reproductive years, so youth equals extra sex appeal. Meanwhile, even though men can continue to get women pregnant later in life, their sperm quality also drops. Older fathers also contribute to genetic issues, but this is NEVER addressed for the whole youth=reproduction=beauty argument. It is also a hilariously awful argument because I'm sure the same misogynists who push this wouldn't turn down an infertile supermodel. Women are basically just cattle to be picked, but somehow it's men going on shooting sprees saying it's unfair for them this isn't still 100% the case. We literally live in a world where billions of people see it as unfair that women don't exist to be sex and/or slaves to men.

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#38

Never being allowed to fail/be bad at anything without it being blamed on my gender.

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#39

Danger can be everywhere around the corner. I remember everyone telling girls how they have to me extra conscious. Always getting tipps how to protect myself. I grew up in a safe country but it was an issue. I know you have to be careful but do you know how tiring it is. It makes me anxious and i am 31 now.

Always being on my best behavior. Lashing out or having a meltdown was a big no no in my family. I couldn't believe when I saw a girl having a meltdown and her family supporting her (consoling her, giving her space, being understanding).
My parents would have hit my or something if i had a meltdown.

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#40

Living in a world designed to benefit the opposite sex.

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#41

Being sexualized for as long as I can remember. From being told to cover up from the time I was 4 to being catcalled for the first time when I was 11 to being flat out sexually harassed in high school.

Also my appearance being such a huge deal, especially how much I weighed. Boys who had a few extra pounds were "big and strong", girls who had a few extra pounds were told they could be pretty if they just lost some weight.

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#42

The first thing that popped in to my mind was simply the things I wanted to do.

Girls don't box

Girls don't play base ball

Girls dont do karate

Even when I showed interest in music, my dad said things like, "maybe you could be Mick Jagger's back up singer."

It was like they had this real small idea in their head of what I could do/was capable of before I was even a whole person.

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#43

Definitely having body image and the ideal norms of society

I started looking at myself and compared myself to my peers at a very young age. I was probably 6-7 years old.

And here I am at 25 still trying to overcome it.

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#44

Men.

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#45

The expectation of marriage and motherhood.

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#46

Growing up hating women (and myself as a girl) because of the not to subtle ways it’s infused in our society. I only just recently, at 40 years old, started listening to women singers and loving it!! You really have to try and peel back the layers of patriarchy to understand how freaking amazing women really are! We’ve been here all along kicking a*s in the background.

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#47

For me it was knowing that no matter how amazing I was, no matter if my accomplishments were objectively far greater, I would always always always be second pick for any job or award to a mediocre male candidate.

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#48

Apart from psychical danger, being respected when I dissented. People never listen when you’re a girl. And you can’t say “I told you so” after they messed up.

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#49

Realizing that no one will be there for you when you need them. The only person you can depend on is yourself. .

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#50

Insecurity ab your body. beauty is so pedistalized and 99% of the time dressing pretty, doing makeup, getting nails done just brings attention of people you don’t want it from in my experience. it’s very rare that there’s a guy i like and even then i don’t feel very *pretty* or special

when someone DOES tell me i’m beautiful or whatever from a lot of guys it feels sexually charged or somehow off.

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Women, what do you feel is the hardest part about growing up as a girl?

Michael Largey 4 months ago

Another double standard - a man's "No" and a woman's "No" are not treated equally. And this is true even outside of sexual invitation.

Sky Render 4 months ago (edited)

For me the worst part was my father. He saw all girls and women as sex objects, including his own daughter. To the point that he basically forced me to pretend to be male just so he wouldn't molest me nightly. (It's complicated; I was born intersex, and my body was entirely capable of being made either male or female as it started out a unique mix of both. Never did I identify with the male part of that divide, but with a father like that, it was the safest choice. Thankfully he's long gone from my life and I can actually live as the woman I am instead of the man he wanted me to play at being.)

LB 4 months ago

I'm so glad you are free now, Sky. May you receive lots of blessings and good vibes!

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Zedrapazia 4 months ago

It's a shame how many people on this list suffer from body image issues and the inability to voice their own opinions comfortably. We really gotta step up as a society and stop objectifying people, it's been overdue since ever and nobody benefits from it. Not even the men, who get driven into all sorts of different toxic stereotypes.

Jill Rhodry 4 months ago

The overriding theme I noticed was sexual assault and predation.

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