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Girl Accuses This Man At A Gym Of Taking Photos Of Her And Demands To Check His Phone
Did you know that gym is short for gymnasium? Nobody calls it that, but it does surprise people to learn that it’s actually a short version of a 4-syllable word. The more you know!
Anywho, gyms have been booming lately, but while it’s a place for people to become and stay fit and healthy, it, sadly, also attracts folk that are there to gawk at others. Usually, it’s the case where guys become predators and dare to even take pictures of ladies while they work out. Don’t be that guy.
But, on rare occasions, men also become innocent victims in a gym. This is that story, as shared by a Reddit user who, unfortunately, had to go through an unpleasant experience at the gym.
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So, Reddit user u/ConsequenceOutside64 recently went to the r/AmITheA-Hole subreddit to share a thing that happened to him at the gym in hopes of understanding if he was in the wrong here.
The story goes that he was working out. While doing so, he keeps track of all his reps on the phone. It just so happened, he was also in the proximity of one squatting rack that he wanted to use, but it was a tad bit crowded there. Specifically, there was a lady with tights too thin for her own good using it.
One Reddit user shared his experience of being accused of snapping pictures of women at a gym, when he didn’t
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He was uncomfortable with that, so he went through his gym routine while staying close to the racks until they became free. However, the lady there mistook his presence and how he was checking his phone for doing the pervy thing of taking pictures of her.
So, she confronted him in a loud and rather aggressive manner. It caught the redditor off-guard, especially when swearwords and demands to go through his phone were on the table. Oh, and this was besides the fact that she was recording him the whole time.
He shared the story on Reddit in hopes of finding out whether he was in the wrong here
Image credits: u/ConsequenceOutside64
Anyway, he refused. Not sure if he mentioned why to anyone, but he did explain in the post that he had some private photos on the phone he didn’t want anyone to see. The argument quickly moved to the gym admin, who offered to be a third party in checking his phone. He again declined.
Instead he offered to check the footage. When the manager came over, they eventually did, and despite not being able to see what in particular he was doing on the phone, it was clear that he wasn’t tilting it at anyone, especially the lady that went ballistic on him, and hence he couldn’t have snapped pics of her.
Image credits: u/ConsequenceOutside64
But this did raise the question—was he in the wrong to refuse to give his phone to be checked for pictures of the angry lady? He himself claimed it’s his phone, it’s all private, and he is not obligated in any way to show its contents to anyone.
And while the people in the gym disagreed with that, many redditors ended up voting that he isn’t the a-hole here. Most ruled that it would have been a breach of his privacy, despite it being an ideal way of resolving the issue on the spot.
While others understood why the woman was upset and how she acted—she’d already had an experience like that—they thought that she should have still been more civil about it and should have gone straight to the gym’s admins instead of making such a big scene.
Image credits: u/ConsequenceOutside64
The post managed to garner over 20,000 upvotes, with nearly 3,000 people expressing their thoughts on the matter in the comments. The post eventually received the tag determining that he is in fact not the bad guy in this story. AITA democracy triumphs again.
What are your thoughts on this matter? Who’s right and who’s wrong (if anyone)? Leave us a comment in the comment section below!
The Reddit ‘jury’ determined that he is not, in fact, in the wrong here
What do you think ?
Biljana Malesevic 3 years ago
I am very socially anxious person and I easily run away from awkward situations. If someone yelled at me that I am a pervert in the middle of the gym (I am a woman, but never mind here) and humiliated me by demanding to see my personal photos as proof I would never go back to that place again. Cancelled membership forever. It's just so humiliating, regardless of genders. Also, I don't like people who yell and call names, and give orders to other people (unless it' s police, military or court). That scares me and is totally repulsive.
Uncommon Boston 3 years ago (edited)
And, no matter how strong you are, few people react to feeling unsafe by yelling, being demanding and rude. A man at the gym acted in away meant to assert his dominance, make me feel weak and ashamed. I went into the ladies locker room for safety, and to try to understand why I was upset. Another woman came in and we recognized how we felt by seeing each other. We were certain we were over reacting, felt ashamed blaming the man for something he may not have done. The problem was us, not him. We decided to walk the long way to the front desk to avoid the man, tell them what happened and let them decide. He was thrown out of the club. No screaming or yelling. Why draw attention to myself? Would I feel safer after yelling etc? I wanted guidance, not be near this man. I did not want attention. Her actions are not weak, she feels safe and secure, she angry, and has no reason not to yell and be demanding. I couldn't because I was afraid. She is a Karen.
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Aliquid A 3 years ago
The court of public opinion doesn't care about the burden of proof. This is why the trend of "cancel culture" is so dangerous. Yeah sure, some people are blatantly guilty saying/doing bad things, but that isn't always the case when mob mentality kicks in.
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Casey B 3 years ago
She comes into a gym wearing no underwear and see-through leggings then throws a fit because the guy behind her wasn't taking pictures of her....Sounds like all she wanted was attention and got pissed when she didn't get what she wanted. And absolutely not, would I give access to my phone to anyone, I don't care who they are.
Kt 3 years ago
Jeez. Wtf?! The girl is in thr wrong here for demanding to see the guys phone and making up in her own head that hes taking photos of her, but to start about her choice of clothing? Nothing to do with it. She can dress how she wanfs for the gym. So she is comfortable. That does not mean she wants attention.
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Biljana Malesevic 3 years ago
I am very socially anxious person and I easily run away from awkward situations. If someone yelled at me that I am a pervert in the middle of the gym (I am a woman, but never mind here) and humiliated me by demanding to see my personal photos as proof I would never go back to that place again. Cancelled membership forever. It's just so humiliating, regardless of genders. Also, I don't like people who yell and call names, and give orders to other people (unless it' s police, military or court). That scares me and is totally repulsive.
Uncommon Boston 3 years ago (edited)
And, no matter how strong you are, few people react to feeling unsafe by yelling, being demanding and rude. A man at the gym acted in away meant to assert his dominance, make me feel weak and ashamed. I went into the ladies locker room for safety, and to try to understand why I was upset. Another woman came in and we recognized how we felt by seeing each other. We were certain we were over reacting, felt ashamed blaming the man for something he may not have done. The problem was us, not him. We decided to walk the long way to the front desk to avoid the man, tell them what happened and let them decide. He was thrown out of the club. No screaming or yelling. Why draw attention to myself? Would I feel safer after yelling etc? I wanted guidance, not be near this man. I did not want attention. Her actions are not weak, she feels safe and secure, she angry, and has no reason not to yell and be demanding. I couldn't because I was afraid. She is a Karen.
Load More Replies... Aliquid A 3 years ago
The court of public opinion doesn't care about the burden of proof. This is why the trend of "cancel culture" is so dangerous. Yeah sure, some people are blatantly guilty saying/doing bad things, but that isn't always the case when mob mentality kicks in.
Load More Replies... Casey B 3 years ago
She comes into a gym wearing no underwear and see-through leggings then throws a fit because the guy behind her wasn't taking pictures of her....Sounds like all she wanted was attention and got pissed when she didn't get what she wanted. And absolutely not, would I give access to my phone to anyone, I don't care who they are.
Kt 3 years ago
Jeez. Wtf?! The girl is in thr wrong here for demanding to see the guys phone and making up in her own head that hes taking photos of her, but to start about her choice of clothing? Nothing to do with it. She can dress how she wanfs for the gym. So she is comfortable. That does not mean she wants attention.
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