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“One Thing I’ll Never Forget”: 30 Moments That Made Women See These Men In A Different Light
Many coupled-up people would likely be able to pinpoint the moment they realized that things with their partner were getting serious; or that at least, they were very much into the person they were dating or spending time with.
Such moments don’t necessarily have to be grandiose—sometimes, something seemingly insignificant can make one weak at the knees more than a grand gesture would. Something like uttering words of affirmation that make a person feel loved and safe, or bringing them soup when they’re sick, just to give a couple examples.
All sorts of cute situations like that were recently discussed on an ‘Ask Reddit’ thread, after one user asked the women in the community about something a guy has done—intentionally or not—that made them think, “Wow, he’s different” (in a good way). Quite a few women shared their stories, so if you’re curious to read them or if you’re in need of a boost of wholesome, scroll down to find them on the list below and get ready to have your heart completely melted. Don’t say we didn’t warn you.
Below you will also find Bored Panda’s interviews with two dating coaches, Blaine Anderson and Amie Leadingham, who were kind enough to share their thoughts on the role small loving gestures play in a romantic relationship.
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We went to pick up our puppy and while I was getting pup settled in the back of the car, I look back and see my guy bent down and thanking the mama dog, promising her we would take care of her baby.
Been married over 15 years now.
Good boy and good doggo! Made me tear up a bit, I'm a sucker for a good puppy story.
He broke up with me because he was moving out of state for a job and I just wasn't going to be able to follow him. He brought me flowers, snacks, dinner, cards, and I don't remember what else to soften the blow.
When he came back to visit, I was struggling, hard, as in I could barely afford to feed myself. When he stopped by to see me, he had arms full of groceries to stock my fridge and pantry for weeks. He also kept trying to give me cash but I refused. After he left, I found money stuck under something on my counter (can't remember what).
He died a few years later in a car accident.
Chris, you were one of a kind. I'll never miss the opportunity to tell the world what a uniquely amazing human you were.
I've always heard that God takes the good ones first. No, I am not a religious person, agnostic more than anything. I've heard that statement pretty much my whole life.
When my boyfriend (now husband) started dating, and things turned physical, he stopped how things were progressing and told me, "This goes however far you want it to. You say stop, we stop. You say slow down, everything slows. This is about you, I'll be happy with whatever you choose." At the time, he had no idea my only other experience had been through sexual as**ult. Hearing this, and what's more experiencing his sincerity and how he was willing to do exactly as he said and let me set the pace of our relationship, helped start us out in a place of trust. We've been married for 10 years now and I've never been better cared for than I am by him.
In a recent interview with Bored Panda, dating coach Blaine Anderson noted that day-to-day life can become so consuming that it's easy for people to forget to make any ongoing romantic efforts with a long-term partner. But even small gestures that don’t require that much effort can be a powerful way to keep romance alive in a relationship.
“I remember talking with an 80-year-old woman who'd been married for 50 years who told me she and her husband would still write cute little notes for each other, and leave them around the house for them to discover. Leaving short but thoughtful hand-written notes for your partner around the house like this is the perfect small, kind gesture to remind your partner you love them.”
I was staying over his apartment for the first time. He went to go lock his door for the night but first said “Hey just so you know I’m locking my door. This is the key to the front door.” He didn’t want me to be alarmed by the sound of the door locking and he wanted to make sure I knew how to get out if I wanted to. It hadn’t even crossed my mind to feel unsafe or need a way out. He just considered how I might feel as a woman in a new guy’s place. I had never experienced a man put himself in my shoes before like that or even go out of his way to make me feel me safe with such a simple gesture.
That was almost 7 years ago and we’re married now.
Anything that shows lack of ego, or being very comfortable in his masculinity. When my husband and I first met, he wore women's sunglasses, cause the frame was a shape and fun color that he liked. He used to do cheerleading in middle school -- was called gay a bunch for it, but he knew it wasn't a bad thing to be gay and brushed it off. He just liked doing flips and feeling strong-- he also became a black belt in karate for the same reasons. All of those were massive green flags to me.
One of his teachers apparently told him that, while girls that age didn't realize what a catch he was and didn't give him a lot of attention, he was gonna make some woman very happy one day for the exact reasons the girls ignored him in school. And she was so right.
Now, he'll take a yoga class with me. He also makes his own instruments, puts himself between me and danger, and would do anything to make me happy and keep our little family safe. He pays the mortgage, works hard every day, and has strong close relationships with men AND women. I trust him with my life, and I know I will always be his priority. He is a very masculine man, and therefore feels absolutely no need to assert his masculinity or shy away from femininity. Everybody feels safe around him. Except the rapist he punched in the face in college, after he found out about what the guy did.
“I think people remember these little moments, gestures, or things both because they're unexpected, and altruistic,” Anderson said, discussing why some seemingly minor gestures are something people hold on to for years. “Sometimes bigger acts of love are actually acts of apology, or acts of guilt. ‘Insignificant’ gestures, like leaving a note for a loved one, can stand out because they're pure and delightful.”
When my husband was my boyfriend, I noticed that he always acknowledged everyone in the room. For instance, whenever we were in a room with my entire family, he would approach absolutely everyone, my dad, mom, sister, cousins, uncles, aunts, friends, and be able to establish a conversation, and a relationship with them eventually. Even my relatives’ dog knew him to be the only one, that could set aside some time just to pet him.
At first, I thought that my boyfriend is just a social being, which I was appreciative of seeing as how I personally have been always a socially inept, awkward individual, but eventually this gift of his reaped dividends too, as when a close cousin of mine, let’s say, fell in with the bad sort of crowd and was in desperate need of help and support, the only person she felt comfortable reaching out to, was my boyfriend, who was then able to pass word to the rest of the family, and also rescue her.
I’m a type 1 diabetic and I wear a pump which is basically a machine that helps track my blood sugar and give me insulin accordingly. When my blood sugar gets too low or too high the pump makes noises (a low tone for low bs and a high tone for high bs) my SO figured those tones out.
One night I was sitting on the couch scrolling and my pump signaled I had low blood sugar. He was in the kitchen and without a word being said went to the fridge and brought me a juice box. I didn’t know he knew and it felt really good to feel understood and that someone was actually taking the time to know me and my disability. We had only been dating for 2-3 months at this point.
I was FaceTiming a guy I was dating. My son, who was probably about 3-4 wakes up upset. I go to comfort him and take my phone with me.
Instead of wanting to hang up, he grabbed his guitar and played and sang for us.
We didn’t make it for unrelated reasons. No animosity or anything. But it’s one of those memories that sets the bar in the future.
“I think certain moments stick with us because they catch us by surprise with their genuineness,” Amie Leadingham said, sharing her two cents about why we remember the little things. “When your partner remembers some tiny detail you mentioned weeks ago, or instinctively knows when you need support, it shows they're really paying attention. These unplanned moments feel special because they're so authentic.”
In high school, one of my guy friends who liked me baked me a big plate of chocolate chip cookies and randomly gave it to me one day. I finished the whole plate during one class, and he was impressed and also a bit horrified. I thought it was super cute and unusual for a dude to bake someone cookies.
He and I have been together going on 16 years, married for almost 7. How he baked me cookies is one thing I'll never forget.
So sweet! I was having some stomach issues and my husband fixed anything I might eat, scrambled eggs, banana splits—anything. I lost him 3 years ago —we were together 48 years. I think you might have that kind of guy. (We actually got married 10 weeks after we met.)
One of our first dates, a teen waitress spilled a whole glass of water on him when it was super busy and she was rushing about. She’s started apologizing with tears almost running down her face and he took the time to console her, not even worrying about his clothes. He gave her a moment to breathe without the other customers by pretending to look busy with her before she went on her way feeling better. I’ve seen too many wait staff get treated poorly but watching him take care of her leads me to believe he’s going to be an amazing father one day.
On our first date he showed me around the downtown area of the city he was currently living in at the time. He proceeded to show me his favorite dessert spot and bought me 2 cupcakes. He said, “This one is for your grandma” since I had told him earlier that I was living with her.
In Leadingham’s opinion, small, kind gestures are relationship gold. “When your partner brings you coffee and knows exactly how you like it or sends a random sweet text saying ‘I miss you,’ it shows they're thinking about you even during their busy day. These small acts of thoughtfulness add up, making you see them as someone who truly cares about your happiness and lets you know,” she noted.
I was snipping the plastic ring thingy, you know, that a six-pack of drinks comes in. I know it’s probably a fruitless gesture but….. turtles! I just do it on autopilot at this point. He asked me what I was doing, he’d never heard this before, so I explained.
A couple weeks later, I walked into the kitchen unexpectedly, and totally startled him… while he was snipping up a plastic thingy. Melted.
When I got my period at his place pretty early on in the relationship he didn‘t make it awkward or acted disgusted, he got me pads and made me a hot water bottle and asked me if i want snacks and made sure that I drank water. The pharmacy was closed so he couldn't get me pain meds but ever since he makes sure that they're always in stock at home. I'm gonna marry him someday. Almost 2 years together and it feels like i met him just yesterday.
Guys who support you through periods are super hot. Men who get grossed out are pathetic.
My husband and I have been together for 21 years, so I’ll share an anecdote that made me fall in love all over again.
We were at my husband’s father’s funeral, and we were wrapping up at the cemetery, during the part where people take flowers from the spray as mementos. My husband took a white rose; then walked off about ten yards away. When we were leaving, I snuck a peek at the headstone and realized it was my husband’s baby brother, one who was born sleeping about 35 years ago. He didn’t say anything to anyone or make any mention, but that gesture will live in my memory forever.
The small authentic gestures often come as a surprise, which can make it all feel even more special. A poll of 2,000 adults found that nearly half of them believe that small surprises are more effective than grand gestures, such as an expensive dinner or an overnight stay in a fancy hotel.
“Pleasant surprises keep the spark alive,” Amie Leadingham added. “Whether it's showing up with your favorite takeout or planning an unexpected date night, these moments show your partner is still trying to make you smile. They remind us not to take each other for granted.”
Had been dating my (now) husband for about a month, maybe 2. One evening I was at home and he unexpectedly showed up at the door, and asked me to come out to his car. He just showed me a piece of wood he’d bought. Turns out he bought it from near my house and as he was passing, he figured he’d stop by and show me. Literally showed me his wood and left. I knew then that he wasn’t trying to play games or act in a certain way like other people I’d dated. That piece of wood is now our coffee table.
Probably the most wholesome "dude is proud of his wood and wants to show it to a woman" story in existence 🥰
He asked me for my consent over and over with every act of intimacy, from s*xting (we were long distance at first) to first kiss to fooling around to having s*x. He led us in mature conversations about our wants & needs & boundaries, and then he followed through with what we talked about. And no matter what I’d previously said I wanted or was okay with, he still asked before acting every single time and would check in with me that things were still okay and comfortable for me even after I would give him consent.
And let me tell y’all, I’m describing a very soft & thoughtful & caring man here. But that does not mean he doesn’t still f*****g put. it. down. on. me. So to even have the example being displayed in front of me of a partner who can be dominant and in control but not ab*sive or dismissive. Didn’t actually know this existed.
We were 27 years old when we met & he was the first man I’d ever met who did any of those things. & now almost 4 years later, he still makes sure I’m physically and emotionally comfortable and safe every day.
I had been with my now husband for about six months when we did a road trip down south together. My dad is gone, so my husband never knew him, but he was a huge James Taylor fan and I am too by association. We stopped in Chapel Hill, North Carolina to see Mr. Taylor's childhood home, the bridge named after him, and we hiked along Morgan Creek, which was one of his favorite song writing spots. It was something on my dad's bucket list and he unfortunately never got to do it.
While we were hiking along the creek, I mentioned to my husband that I wanted to bring a rock back to put on my dad's grave. I meant one from the shoreline or the trail.
He immediately ripped his shoes and socks off and waded into the creek, pulling up rocks and tossing them back if he didn't think they were "good enough". Eventually, he held one up and said "This one is Bob's" and trekked back up through the muck to dry his legs off. All for a man he never knew.
I knew for certain that he was the one, and we were engaged a few months later.
Blaine Anderson compared pleasant surprises in a romantic relationship to garlic in pizza sauce: “You don't think about it as a key ingredient, but it's bland as hell without it,” she said.
When it comes to the recipe of a happy relationship, though, there’s no garlic. The expert notes that there are three key things that make a romantic relationship work. She advises to:
- “Think for two. Happy people are pre-empting the needs of their partners; for example, fixing a snack for your girlfriend when you prepare one for yourself. This seems minor, but it sends the message ‘I'm in this with you’, while its absence sends the opposite message.
- “Consider whether your values and goals are aligned. For example, do you want kids? Where will you prioritize kids versus your career? I know tons of happy relationships where goals aren't exactly in sync, but the closer they are in sync, the happier the relationship.
- “Commit. If one person in a relationship is always looking over their shoulder and wondering ‘If I'd dated someone else, this wouldn't be happening…’ the relationship is doomed. Happy relationships are composed of two people who are fully bought in on participating.”
Broke into my house to prepare a casserole and leave a note with cooking instructions. I was a busy single mother and we’d been dating long enough that this wasn’t creepy.
When I started dating my guy he knows how obsessed I am with rocks and beach combing. We live on the beach and I’ll go look for shells for hours and he never complains. The first road trip we took together he took me to the biggest natural rock formation on the west coast. Morro Bay. I’m a grown a*s adult and he never made me feel stupid for my love of rocks and collecting and when we got there he said “I know how much you love rocks so I brought you to the biggest one I could. You just can’t take this one home unfortunately” (something along the lines of that) I start crying immediately because I was always made fun of by my previous relationships for it.
My husband and I had a 7 hour long first date. At the end of it, he shook my hand and said have a lovely night. I definitely would’ve (and wanted him to) kiss me if not more lol. Anywho married almost ten years now.
In Amie Leadingham’s opinion, the real key to a happy relationship is deep trust, honest communication, supporting each other's dreams, and finding that sweet spot between growing together and staying true to ourselves.
“Never stop being curious about each other, even years into the relationship,” she added.
I went out with this guy I was newly dating, plus three other friends one time. We went to the food court to eat, and all of five of us had different food choices so we went on our own to order.
Unfortunately my food took longer to make and eventually I saw the four of them (including the guy I was dating) back on the table with all their food.
Finally, when I got my food, I went to our table to see the three of my friends digging on their plates while his was untouched.
I asked, “Is something wrong with your food? Why haven’t you touched it?”
He said, “I was waiting for you”. I swear, I never forgot that moment.
I’m now married to him.
EDIT:
Let me just add that my food took about 5 minutes longer than theirs. I was already expecting them to be eating ahead, and I DIDN’T, nor EXPECTED him or the group to be waiting for me.
It was the gesture of him waiting for me while everyone else was eating that made me feel that this guy’s a keeper 🤗.
Kinda related: The mother brought filled dinner plates to the dinner table for the kids and then to the father. Someone said, "Does it bother you that she gave the plates to the children before you?" His reply, "It doesn't matter. No one eats until my wife sits down." (That's respect!)
When I first started dating my now-husband, I had just come out of yet another relationship where I wasn’t treated well. I’d been with people who weren’t genuine and showed all the classic f**kboy behavior. At that point, I honestly thought there was something wrong with my ability to pick the right men, so I took a long break from dating to focus on myself.
Then my husband came along. On our 3rd or 4th date, he told me he had something important to discuss. My mind immediately went to Oh f**k, what’s he about to drop on me? But instead, he said, “I just want to be clear—I really like you. I’m not dating just to date. I’m dating with the intention of marriage, and I want to make sure we’re on the same page.”
I was floored. In all my years of dating, no one had ever been that intentional or upfront with me. It completely changed the game.
Same with my husband! He asked me if I wanted to be his gf and even asked if he could kiss me for the first time. It was so refreshing to not have to guess if I was in a relationship and to ask for consent. We've been married for 17 years now :)
I had a difficult childhood, and at one point survived on cans of Spam and sardines. I offhandedly mentioned to him how I always keep at least a can of each in my pantry at all times, because it gives me a sense of peace and safety to know there is something to eat. We weren't even dating at the time, I visited on the weekends to help with his garden, but the next time I visited, he showed me the several cans of Spam and sardines he bought in the pantry. He told me he wanted me to always feel safe with him and his home, and he will never let either of those items run out. Been together for a little over 3 years now.
When we were young, dating and still living with our respective parents, my car motor blew and I didn’t have rides to work. He would drop his car off to me after he got out of work in the middle of the night while I was asleep and walk home so I had a way to work in the morning.
Edit: I say when we were young but we’re still pretty young at 25 lol but we just got married in September after 13 years of dating :).
I had something similar. When you are in a relationship you have to treat it as you are teammates. I had a girlfriend, that let me borrow her car during the day because my car had mechanical issues. I would take her to school drop her off and then come back and pick her up and was allowed to use her car during the day. Once we figured out the problem with my car, she helped me replace the fuel pump. My dad was motorcycle mechanic so I knew what I was looking at but I had never done an oil change myself let alone replace a fuel pump. Another girlfriend had helped me replace brake pads and rotors. I guess I could say after two years of culinary school and being a chef I reciprocated by teaching them how to cook.
This seems small but I dated so many guys who would bring up their exes, blaming them for everything, calling them crazy, calling them names. When talking about past relationships, my boyfriend only spoke about how grateful he was to have experienced love and for the time he did spend with his exes. He spoke with respect about the women before me. I still remember that over a decade later. And it did foreshadow how life would be with him. He's been the most kind, understanding, and patient man to have ever been in my life.
I think this is so important. If a person talks badly about everyone who came before you, I think it's more a reflection on them and not the former partners. Either the person chose very poorly or they don't take responsibility for / learn from what went wrong in the relationship. Either way not a great sign.
His "pick-up" line after a few dates in public was, "Do you want to come home and meet my cats?". Yes, yes I do.
He is now my husband and the most kind, patient, and loving person I have ever known. (We now have 3 cats and 2 dogs.).
The way he treats every stranger. He always nods to people, greets every person with a "hello sir/ma'am" (he's not southern). I've seen him stop to help numerous strangers. Lady with her hands full who drops something he's on it, someone yells from across the street he goes to make sure they're OK, kid locked out if his house, he figures out how to contact their parents. Or even something small like just holding the door open for someone. He truly treats everyone equally. From a maintenence worker to a doctor, he will acknowledge you and treat you with genuine respect. Its not something I see in anyone else, and I strive to be more like him.
I introduced this guy to my mother who is a narcissist and usually incredibly charming to people. I thought he would be dismissive with my complaints/fears and fall for the strict parent cos she cares c**p which was far from reality. He saw through my mother's bs immediately.
I married him.
My husband genuinely listens when I talk about hobbies he doesn't share, and remembers what I said about them. It makes me really happy.
I ugly cried in front of him. He wiped my tears and picked up my wet tissues with his hand to throw them in the bin and then he got me another tissue box.
Gross yes, but that was the moment when he first stood out to me.
Okay for those saying tears aren’t gross I’m gonna be straight up. MY TISSUES WERE FILLED WITH SNOT.