Parents Spent 14 Years Blaming Their Son For Grandfather’s Death, So He Finally Reveals His Biggest Secret

We all have burdens to carry, but the hardest ones are those you have to hide from others. For 14 years, these parents have been blaming their child for his grandfather’s death. Mainly, for not watching after him when it happened and for not trying to save his life. The kid, however, has a secret that would change their minds instantly. He has been carrying this huge load for all of this time and he’s probably doomed to continue for the rest of his life.

Probably to get some closure, the 28-year-old has just decided to anonymously share the story with the internet. “The way I tell the story is kinda nonchalant,” he wrote. “It was so long ago that I’ve had time to cope and think about what happened and how it changed me.” Scroll down to read the confession and let us know what you think about it in the comments.

One 28 year-old has a secret to share, the one he can’t keep to himself any longer

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Image credits: Lee Haywood (not an actual photo)

He hasn’t even told his parents

Parents Spent 14 Years Blaming Their Son For Grandfather's Death, So He Finally Reveals His Biggest Secret

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Parents Spent 14 Years Blaming Their Son For Grandfather's Death, So He Finally Reveals His Biggest Secret

Naturally, commenters had a lot of questions for him, and he was prepared to answer

Parents Spent 14 Years Blaming Their Son For Grandfather's Death, So He Finally Reveals His Biggest Secret

People wanted to know how he was coping with it afterward

Parents Spent 14 Years Blaming Their Son For Grandfather's Death, So He Finally Reveals His Biggest Secret

Wait, so how young was he?

Parents Spent 14 Years Blaming Their Son For Grandfather's Death, So He Finally Reveals His Biggest Secret

What about the parents? Do they know anything?

Parents Spent 14 Years Blaming Their Son For Grandfather's Death, So He Finally Reveals His Biggest Secret

So he was only a teen when it happened

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Parents Spent 14 Years Blaming Their Son For Grandfather's Death, So He Finally Reveals His Biggest Secret

Some were amazed that he actually shared it online

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Parents Spent 14 Years Blaming Their Son For Grandfather's Death, So He Finally Reveals His Biggest Secret

Others simply called him a hero

Parents Spent 14 Years Blaming Their Son For Grandfather's Death, So He Finally Reveals His Biggest Secret

Rokas is a writer at Bored Panda with a BA in Communication. After working for a sculptor, he fell in love with visual storytelling and enjoys covering everything from TV shows (any Sopranos fans out there?) to photography. Throughout his years in Bored Panda, over 300 million people have read the posts he's written, which is probably more than he could count to.

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Neeraj Jha 6 years ago

Kudos to this person for handling the situation and himself so well even being a teenager. Proves that age has nothing to do with maturity.

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jenna 6 years ago

That is a thing..... that everyone nowadays is defined by age and everything society bestows on the needs and cunnings of a certain age. In this case, grandfather and grandson were perfectly able to conduct the things that need to be done. But, society does not accept when people do things differently. Such shortmindedness can be killing. Kudos to this person for handling the situation so properly.

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Tiffani li 6 years ago

Exactly, it's experience and how you react and learn from it that matures people, not age!

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Juana 6 years ago

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A S Koziol 6 years ago

One of my friends works in the ICU and she regularly has to revive elderly patients because the family wants it. She says she can't understand why the family thinks this is helping because the patient almost always ends up with broken ribs along with a raw bronchial tube from the intubation. Once the patient revives, they are in constant pain, can't get adequate rest to heal quickly, and almost all of them die within a week and because of the broken ribs, the chance of being revived again is very small. So all the family did was ensure the patient lived their last week in terrible pain from every breath, and take away the dignity of passing on their own time.

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jenna 6 years ago

Please wish your friend well. She/he has a terrifying job, knowing you have to hurt the dying more than they would want or wish.

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Leonard Guillory III 6 years ago

This is precisely I have a DNR! I got it after having a stroke. And it was the ABSOLUTELY WORST experience I've had in my relatively short life(55 years).

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Marty Sunderland 6 years ago

I've told my family that if they do that to me, I will come back and haunt them. I can't understand people who aren't able to let go when their loved one has ZERO quality of life.

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Marnee DeRider 6 years ago

I completely agree, and I hope I wouldn't have put my parents through that. On the other hand, there was my Mom. She decided she was tired of fighting, brought my Dad in on a Thursday and said she was leaving and they had their good-byes. She died the following Saturday. But my Dad, two years later, did NOT want to go. He told us as much. We thought he'd live to 120, but my Mom's passing was the death knell for him, even if he didn't know it. But we sat with a nurse and talked it all over. He said, he wanted to live. We didn't shove tubes down his throat. By the time it was ready for live-saving measures, he was so far gone, he was on hospice, thank god. It was horrifying and a relief when he went. But he was in the hospital 2 times, and we might not have brought him had he not said he wanted to fight. Also, for the children, no matter how old they are, they lose their minds, because it is their Mom and Dad. They should do what's right, but sometimes they lose their minds

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Catffirmations 6 years ago

Thank you so much for sharing this. I witnessed this exact situation unfold with my husband's 93-year-old grandmother and it was HORRIFYING. The family forced her to have a surgery and also had her resuscitated, and as you described, her ribs were broken. It was obvious that she was not going to be able to survive but their selfishness to have one or two more weeks with her (when she could barely even speak) was disgusting. His poor grandma was trying to pull out her bronchial tubes and oxygen lines and they strapped her down to the hospital bed. She did not die with dignity. She did not die as she wished. Shame on them all.

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stellermatt 6 years ago

Usually when someone dies the people left behind want something to 'blame' a disease, or a reason or something like that, it feels like the parents don't want to blame the grandparent even though it's his choice he's the reason he went when he went, so they blame their kid, that's a huge amount of blame to lay on someone so young. Hopefully, if they know all the facts as we do, they can forgive and forget? Easy to say I guess.

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Neeraj Jha 6 years ago

Kudos to this person for handling the situation and himself so well even being a teenager. Proves that age has nothing to do with maturity.

71points

jenna 6 years ago

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Tiffani li 6 years ago

Exactly, it's experience and how you react and learn from it that matures people, not age!

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Juana 6 years ago

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A S Koziol 6 years ago

49points

jenna 6 years ago

Please wish your friend well. She/he has a terrifying job, knowing you have to hurt the dying more than they would want or wish.

17points

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Leonard Guillory III 6 years ago

This is precisely I have a DNR! I got it after having a stroke. And it was the ABSOLUTELY WORST experience I've had in my relatively short life(55 years).

3points

Marty Sunderland 6 years ago

I've told my family that if they do that to me, I will come back and haunt them. I can't understand people who aren't able to let go when their loved one has ZERO quality of life.

3points