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“Big Mistake. Huge”: Man Tries To Control GF’s Appearance, She Plays Along Just To Dump Him
Even if you start casually seeing someone, there will come a time in the relationship when you will have to ask yourself, “Now what?”
Reddit user Angry2320 recently reached that point with the guy she was seeing and he made it really easy for the woman to answer that question.
His brash comments about her looks and repeated suggestions to wear more makeup convinced her that there was no future for the two of them and she decided to break up with him. But as she revealed on the subreddit r/PettyRevenge, not before getting back at him one last time.
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Relationships with no clear definitions have a risk of getting messy
According to Paulette Sherman, PhD, author of the book Facebook Dating: From First Date to Soulmate, communication is key when you’re trying to navigate situationships—romantic or sexual entanglements where people haven’t established the nature of their relationships.
Both parties need to “be honest and direct,” Sherman explains.
However, after you set your boundaries, you also have to stick to them. If you’re seeing someone 3 or more times a week and leaving your toothbrush at their place, you’ve bypassed the realm of casual dating.
To help avoid this, Sherman suggests establishing a routine. “Some people see each other every Friday or on the weekends,” she says. But when you’re spending multiple days together and meeting each other’s parents, you’re definitely moving towards a relationship.
“Ask yourself what sex means to you. Whether you’re going to be sleeping around or you’re just going to be seeing each other, be up-front with them.”
Stories like the one we just read are becoming more widespread. Tinder’s 2022 Year in Swipe report showed that the top dating trend among singles from age 18 to 25 was that they were “owning the situationship as a valid relationship status.”
The platform had a 49% increase in members adding the phrase to their Tinder bios between January and October 2022.
However, they can get messy. Myisha Battle, a sex and dating coach and author of This Is Supposed to Be Fun: How to Find Joy in Hooking Up, Settling Down, and Everything in Between, says the thing with situationships is that there’s no end game in sight.
“With friends-with-benefits, there’s a kind of implicit understanding that there’ll be no hard feelings if it doesn’t work out,” she explains. “But with situationships, I think people are just seeing where things go, and maybe one person will have a vision of some kind of future, whereas the other might not.”
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As the story went viral, its author told everyone more about what happened in the comments
And people have had a lot to say about it
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Ellinor 2 months ago
Just here to tell something : Being conventionally attractive can be difficult to live with. I am conventionally ugly but I was bestfriends with a very popular girl during my High-School years. She was really smart, funny, attentive, caring, and also really (really) pretty. Boys and girls always wanted to become her friends but they always ended up asking her out. When she told them "no" they would stop being friends with her and never talk to her again. She told me one day that she hated being pretty because she never felt that people actually cared about her and not her looks.
Ms.GB 2 months ago (edited)
Yeah, I think it's better to just be kinda cute. Approachable and cute but relatable. As a woman you don't NEVER have to wonder if someone likes you for you or just likes what they see and wants sex but you have to worry about it a lot less than someone who looks like they just stepped out of a Victoria's Secret mag.
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Jason K 2 months ago
I'm married to a woman who would be considered conventionally attractive. She was and is very athletic, has never been a girly girl, and never has put much into the way she looks. I don't care. I find her attractive and love her the way she is, and for many reasons other than looks. Having said that, there have been four times in almost 20 years when I have seen her with her hairs done and with makeup. She looked incredible. I understand the desire to want that occasionally. The biggest problem I have here is that it was only a few months in. Putting that kind of pressure on someone in a new relationship is selfish and superficial in my opinion.
TribbleThinking 2 months ago
Well done. Always warms me to hear of one for the normal unpretentious crowd.
Ellinor 2 months ago
Just here to tell something : Being conventionally attractive can be difficult to live with. I am conventionally ugly but I was bestfriends with a very popular girl during my High-School years. She was really smart, funny, attentive, caring, and also really (really) pretty. Boys and girls always wanted to become her friends but they always ended up asking her out. When she told them "no" they would stop being friends with her and never talk to her again. She told me one day that she hated being pretty because she never felt that people actually cared about her and not her looks.
Ms.GB 2 months ago (edited)
Yeah, I think it's better to just be kinda cute. Approachable and cute but relatable. As a woman you don't NEVER have to wonder if someone likes you for you or just likes what they see and wants sex but you have to worry about it a lot less than someone who looks like they just stepped out of a Victoria's Secret mag.
Load More Replies... Jason K 2 months ago
I'm married to a woman who would be considered conventionally attractive. She was and is very athletic, has never been a girly girl, and never has put much into the way she looks. I don't care. I find her attractive and love her the way she is, and for many reasons other than looks. Having said that, there have been four times in almost 20 years when I have seen her with her hairs done and with makeup. She looked incredible. I understand the desire to want that occasionally. The biggest problem I have here is that it was only a few months in. Putting that kind of pressure on someone in a new relationship is selfish and superficial in my opinion.
TribbleThinking 2 months ago
Well done. Always warms me to hear of one for the normal unpretentious crowd.
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