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Guy Asks For Tips On How To Turn Self-Hate Into Confidence And Someone Responds With Five-Step Guide
Self-care is important. As much as we should take time to be mindful and loving towards others it is also essential we show ourselves the same amount of appreciation. Yes, a nice spa day to pamper is part of self-care but so are positive affirmations to remind yourself that you are fantastic inside and out. We all have flaws and sometimes it can be more difficult to see all the wonderful things we have to offer, which can lead to a self-deprecating attitude. Fortunately, you are not alone. Someone on the internet needed some advice on how they could ‘recycle’ some of that negative energy into a more positive outlook and received the perfect guide.
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Which prompted one Tumblr user to ask for positivity tips
And someone responded with a five-step guide
Self-confidence is not only about self-love but also confidence in your abilities and judgment. Higher self-confidence leads to more energy, motivation, and happiness, which will overall make you a more successful person in all areas of your life. This concept is called Bandura’s Self-Efficacy Theory. The theory states that one’s beliefs in their likelihood of success can actually positively control and influence the outcome of events.
People in the comments agreed the tips were really helpful
Small steps like these five tips can help boost your everyday confidence, and for people with even deeper confidence issues, there are even forms of therapy that can help with this which involves mindfulness training and reframing the way you view things in a more positive way.
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Hobbit Girly 6 years ago
This is so, so helpful! I've always struggled with self-hatred, and this is really good advice! Thank you!!! <3
My Alter Ego 6 years ago
Great post. I was also taught to challenge negative thinking by beginning and ending each day with a Gratitude List - listing all those things we usually take for granted and acknowledging them. For example: I am grateful that I have a roof over my head, clean water to drink, good food to eat, somewhere to sleep, medical treatment when I need it ... and so on. It really helps me with my own tendency towards negative self-talk.
Linouchka 99 6 years ago
Reprogramming your brain to think differently is key : your thoughts are the first and almost the only things you can control about your life, and everything else unfolds differently after that. I believe it's called neuroliguistic programmation, and it really works !
Aine 6 years ago
What if you're one of the unfortunate ones? What if there's genuinely nothing to love about yourself? I'd rather know this than actually inflating my ego artificially... Good on you for discovering nice things about yourself! That means they were always part of you!
Parmeisan 6 years ago
Doing this doesn't mean ignoring things that need to be changed, it means accepting that you're only human and progress may be slow, but the only way to improve is to keep trying. It's unlikely that there is really NOTHING about yourself that is good; right off the bat I can tell that you care about doing your best and being honest. You also end by praising others for their good work, so you care about strangers. Find more things like this, then find the things you want to change and forgive yourself for not being there just yet. Be proud of yourself every time you make progress, and accept that not every day will be a step forward but that every step forward still matters. As with every other goal worth having (e.g. overcoming drug addiction or dieting): you haven't failed until you give up. Did you have a bad day and eat a whole box of oreos? Yes. Does that mean you should just give up and eat another one? No. If you just keep going you can fix that mistake.
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KarmaQueen 6 years ago
Taking the negativity out of a persons life is key. I had a friend who was very negative and it took me months to realize that I was becoming like her and always negative about life. I had to cut her out of my life, every once in a while, she will try to reconnect, I will hang out with her once and realize she has not changed.
Hobbit Girly 6 years ago
This is so, so helpful! I've always struggled with self-hatred, and this is really good advice! Thank you!!! <3
My Alter Ego 6 years ago
Great post. I was also taught to challenge negative thinking by beginning and ending each day with a Gratitude List - listing all those things we usually take for granted and acknowledging them. For example: I am grateful that I have a roof over my head, clean water to drink, good food to eat, somewhere to sleep, medical treatment when I need it ... and so on. It really helps me with my own tendency towards negative self-talk.
Linouchka 99 6 years ago
Reprogramming your brain to think differently is key : your thoughts are the first and almost the only things you can control about your life, and everything else unfolds differently after that. I believe it's called neuroliguistic programmation, and it really works !
Aine 6 years ago
What if you're one of the unfortunate ones? What if there's genuinely nothing to love about yourself? I'd rather know this than actually inflating my ego artificially... Good on you for discovering nice things about yourself! That means they were always part of you!
Parmeisan 6 years ago
Doing this doesn't mean ignoring things that need to be changed, it means accepting that you're only human and progress may be slow, but the only way to improve is to keep trying. It's unlikely that there is really NOTHING about yourself that is good; right off the bat I can tell that you care about doing your best and being honest. You also end by praising others for their good work, so you care about strangers. Find more things like this, then find the things you want to change and forgive yourself for not being there just yet. Be proud of yourself every time you make progress, and accept that not every day will be a step forward but that every step forward still matters. As with every other goal worth having (e.g. overcoming drug addiction or dieting): you haven't failed until you give up. Did you have a bad day and eat a whole box of oreos? Yes. Does that mean you should just give up and eat another one? No. If you just keep going you can fix that mistake.
Load More Replies... KarmaQueen 6 years ago
Taking the negativity out of a persons life is key. I had a friend who was very negative and it took me months to realize that I was becoming like her and always negative about life. I had to cut her out of my life, every once in a while, she will try to reconnect, I will hang out with her once and realize she has not changed.
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