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Bridezilla Blames Teen For Being “Too Flashy” And Ruining Her Big Day, Gives An Ultimatum That Leads To Teen’s Parents Pressing Charges
Bridezilla Blames Teen For Being “Too Flashy” And Ruining Her Big Day, Gives An Ultimatum That Leads To Teen’s Parents Pressing Charges
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Bridezilla Blames Teen For Being “Too Flashy” And Ruining Her Big Day, Gives An Ultimatum That Leads To Teen’s Parents Pressing Charges

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Most wedding guests are familiar with the unwritten “don’t wear white” rule, but if the bride is an insecure drama queen, you can get in trouble with even a seemingly safe option. Like sage green.

Which is exactly what happened to Reddit user RealisticTart2391.

The 17-year-old recently went to a ceremony thinking she was following its code, which asked women “to be modest, [wear] a simple color, and makeup.”

However, the bride’s mom asked her to join the two of them in private and berated the teen for “destroying” the big day. Even more, that was just the beginning of the drama.

After the whole ordeal unfolded, the teen turned to the internet to ask if she really made a mistake. Continue scrolling to read her account.

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    This teen got berated at a wedding because she wore a sage green dress

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    And the bride thought it was “destroying” her big day

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    Image credits: Christopher Campbell (not the actual photo)

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    The teen shared the disgusting messages she got from the bride

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    We got in touch with RealisticTart2391 and she agreed to tell us more about what happened. “During the event (before her tantrum), it was pretty chill,” the Redditor told Bored Panda. “It was before the bride was outside saying all those votes of love, etc. I didn’t even see her, so when the bride’s mom asked me to talk to her, it was pretty strange due to this time being the second time meeting her.”

    She said the bride managed to keep her emotions largely unnoticed. “No one saw her having a breakdown, only our fathers were fighting since he chased my dad. The guests’ faces were like [what the heck] is happening because it’s not normal to fight in the middle of a wedding.”

    “I was feeling pretty bad for ‘destroying’ the wedding and was thinking about giving some cash for her. But with Reddit, I now see she was the problem, not me. As I said before, it’s not my fault if I’m attractive. I’m pretty sure the whole charge thingy will be a deal out of court since our businesses are related.”

    And her parents are taking them very seriously

    Image credits: RealisticTart2391

    She provided more info on what has happened in the comments

    Generally, as a guest, you don’t want to blend in with the wedding party (or even mimic it). According to experts, you should try to get intel ahead of time about what shades and colors the bridal party and the groomsmen will be wearing. From there, select an outfit that blends nicely with the tones or something completely opposite, but not too loud.

    Also, “look at the invitation because it’s the first source of information for what colors you should or shouldn’t wear to a wedding,” etiquette expert Elaine Swann toldBrides. “The invitation will contain the color scheme for the wedding.”

    Throughout the invitation, there should be a color scheme, and these shades are typically the tones used in the wedding decor and bridal party. So, if you notice a repetitive royal blue or fern green, it’s safe to assume those are what the wedding party will wear. So choose colors that aren’t too close to them.

    It’s one thing to select an outfit that makes you feel confident, empowered, and adds a touch of sexiness, however, keep in mind that showing up in something too exposed could offend other guests as well. Your selections should be mostly modest with little hints and playfulness of sexiness through slits, mesh, and open-back dresses. Try to consider the wedding’s dress code for guidance on how formal or casual your selection should be.

    Ultimately, a wedding isn’t a chance to show off your body. Instead, “remember that a wedding is a sacred ceremony and reflect that in your outfit selection,” Swann said.

    However, as we can see, even if you play by the book, there’s no guarantee that everything will be OK.

    And people had a lot to say about the bride and her wedding

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    Lindsfc
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I like how the bride wrote 'Its just a dress!' completely without any self awareness...

    Cold Contagious
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It sounded like she wanted a bunch of "Amish" girls at her wedding. Just as sad for her though, I've seen lots of Amish girls that are gorgeous with no makeup, in ponytails or buns, wearing their very drab colored, plain dresses, she still would not have been happy.

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    LH25
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    About the comments on the bride's assumed size, I'm fat. I was fat when I got married 29 years ago. It never in a million years would have occurred to me to tell my guests what to wear or worry that they were prettier than me. Some were, that's just life. I was there to marry my love, not be some princess who is the fairest in the land.

    Jessica N
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Im a little on the heavier side and if someone wants to wear white or any dress or color to my wedding, let them lol. It will be my day and the bride is most beautiful at her wedding no matter that, its the law xD insecurities and batshit crazy know no bounds of size!

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    Leo Domitrix
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    New rule: Psych screening before anyone is allowed to marry, let alone have a wedding. What say you, fellow pandas?

    Potato
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Eh... nah, take them off the market. More sane single people to choose from, please.

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    UpupaEpops
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bride from hell had extra clothes brought to the ceremony so she can force people to change? 😮

    Ramona Jackson
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Baggy black replacement dress likely belonged to the heavy bride who wanted to be the most beautiful woman at her wedding. Insecure bride. She was jealous, unhappy & out of control. You're not TA.

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    JuniorCJ82
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    JHC, I hope her husband sees the error of his ways and GTFO ASAP. Getting mad AT A MINOR for a simple dress then texting said MINOR is absolutely uncalled for. Also, how did she get her number in the first place? Creepy!!! NTA times infinity.

    Whodathunkit
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    WTF?? Do brides actually ask guests to "tone it down" when invited to a wedding?? I can't even imagine this! Part of the fun of attending a wedding is getting dressed up and going out! The bride is always the center of attention. She is the bride ffs. How can people be so insecure and selfish?

    Potato
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Is she afraid her new husband will leave her for a 17yo?

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    madbakes
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I noticed OP's response about why she attended the wedding at all... that it's not safe for a girl to be home alone. At 17??

    Miriam L
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have no way of knowing for sure, but based on some of the other little details in the post, it might be a cultural thing as well as a geographic-neighbourhood one. I'm not going to try and guess where OP is from, or how much of the safety concerns are cultural versus a dangerous neighborhood. It's possible this wasn't a local wedding so the daughter would have been home alone for more than just the evening. It's possible that culturally it's just not done, and as long as the daughter is happy and isn't being controlled, there's no issue with that. It's possible the neighborhood legitimately is that unsafe. And every 17 year old is different. I was an absolute mess at 17 but I could babysit my siblings while my parents went to a wedding because they were a short driving distance away if I called in an emergency. Then again, that was with a house full of younger siblings, which meant strength in numbers but also endless chaos.

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    MCathenaE
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The dress code at my wedding was Come Comfortable. I even insisted my wedding party wear comfy shoes. It's already going to be a long day, why make everyone uncomfortable too???

    Alicia Davidson
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My wedding party wore sketchers. The girls had ones that matched their dresses, and my dad had ones with Road Runner.

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    Mykidsartrocks
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That bride needs to learn how to spell, learn her own self worth (which right now isn't much), take the world's largest chill pill and maybe get a psych eval done. But seriously, if someone called my little girl a whore for wearing something she was comfortable in and spoke to her the way this bride spoke to you then I would be getting a restraining order. That toxicity is what this woman apparently thrives off and you need to keep as far away possible from that c**p.

    Ramona Jackson
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bridezilla needs to grow up & realize it's all her problem, not her wedding guest's issue.

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    John Anderson
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm guessing the black dress bride asked OP to wear belonged to bride. That explains a lot. Bride is insecure about being "mid-sized" and wants OP to look frumpy. Along with every other woman in attendance.

    Potato
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sort of joking, but it should be a point of pride! "Look at this room full of beautiful women, and my husband chose me!"

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    Lindsfc
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I like how the bride wrote 'Its just a dress!' completely without any self awareness...

    Cold Contagious
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It sounded like she wanted a bunch of "Amish" girls at her wedding. Just as sad for her though, I've seen lots of Amish girls that are gorgeous with no makeup, in ponytails or buns, wearing their very drab colored, plain dresses, she still would not have been happy.

    Load More Replies...
    LH25
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    About the comments on the bride's assumed size, I'm fat. I was fat when I got married 29 years ago. It never in a million years would have occurred to me to tell my guests what to wear or worry that they were prettier than me. Some were, that's just life. I was there to marry my love, not be some princess who is the fairest in the land.

    Jessica N
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Im a little on the heavier side and if someone wants to wear white or any dress or color to my wedding, let them lol. It will be my day and the bride is most beautiful at her wedding no matter that, its the law xD insecurities and batshit crazy know no bounds of size!

    Load More Replies...
    Leo Domitrix
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    New rule: Psych screening before anyone is allowed to marry, let alone have a wedding. What say you, fellow pandas?

    Potato
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Eh... nah, take them off the market. More sane single people to choose from, please.

    Load More Replies...
    UpupaEpops
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bride from hell had extra clothes brought to the ceremony so she can force people to change? 😮

    Ramona Jackson
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Baggy black replacement dress likely belonged to the heavy bride who wanted to be the most beautiful woman at her wedding. Insecure bride. She was jealous, unhappy & out of control. You're not TA.

    Load More Replies...
    JuniorCJ82
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    JHC, I hope her husband sees the error of his ways and GTFO ASAP. Getting mad AT A MINOR for a simple dress then texting said MINOR is absolutely uncalled for. Also, how did she get her number in the first place? Creepy!!! NTA times infinity.

    Whodathunkit
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    WTF?? Do brides actually ask guests to "tone it down" when invited to a wedding?? I can't even imagine this! Part of the fun of attending a wedding is getting dressed up and going out! The bride is always the center of attention. She is the bride ffs. How can people be so insecure and selfish?

    Potato
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Is she afraid her new husband will leave her for a 17yo?

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    madbakes
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I noticed OP's response about why she attended the wedding at all... that it's not safe for a girl to be home alone. At 17??

    Miriam L
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have no way of knowing for sure, but based on some of the other little details in the post, it might be a cultural thing as well as a geographic-neighbourhood one. I'm not going to try and guess where OP is from, or how much of the safety concerns are cultural versus a dangerous neighborhood. It's possible this wasn't a local wedding so the daughter would have been home alone for more than just the evening. It's possible that culturally it's just not done, and as long as the daughter is happy and isn't being controlled, there's no issue with that. It's possible the neighborhood legitimately is that unsafe. And every 17 year old is different. I was an absolute mess at 17 but I could babysit my siblings while my parents went to a wedding because they were a short driving distance away if I called in an emergency. Then again, that was with a house full of younger siblings, which meant strength in numbers but also endless chaos.

    Load More Replies...
    MCathenaE
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The dress code at my wedding was Come Comfortable. I even insisted my wedding party wear comfy shoes. It's already going to be a long day, why make everyone uncomfortable too???

    Alicia Davidson
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My wedding party wore sketchers. The girls had ones that matched their dresses, and my dad had ones with Road Runner.

    Load More Replies...
    Mykidsartrocks
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That bride needs to learn how to spell, learn her own self worth (which right now isn't much), take the world's largest chill pill and maybe get a psych eval done. But seriously, if someone called my little girl a whore for wearing something she was comfortable in and spoke to her the way this bride spoke to you then I would be getting a restraining order. That toxicity is what this woman apparently thrives off and you need to keep as far away possible from that c**p.

    Ramona Jackson
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bridezilla needs to grow up & realize it's all her problem, not her wedding guest's issue.

    Load More Replies...
    John Anderson
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm guessing the black dress bride asked OP to wear belonged to bride. That explains a lot. Bride is insecure about being "mid-sized" and wants OP to look frumpy. Along with every other woman in attendance.

    Potato
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sort of joking, but it should be a point of pride! "Look at this room full of beautiful women, and my husband chose me!"

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