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A group chat is a great way to connect with members of a group, team or organization and quickly exchange information through messages. They’re especially handy for getting in touch with people you might not see as often, like high school or college friends or organizing a birthday party or planning a gift for the said occasion. However, one downside to it is that it doesn’t take much for it to spiral into complete chaos, whether due to an ignorant comment or a wrong text.

Recently, X user posed the question, “What was the incident in your group chat?" that resulted in many answers detailing the unfortunate events that took place in them. Bored Panda handpicked the juiciest ones to quench your thirst for drama. To find them all you have to do is scroll down.

While you’re at it, don’t forget to check out a conversation with writer and author Miles Klee, who started this discussion in the first place.

Writer and author Miles Klee was inspired to pose such a question online by another popular one about school. 

“The question "What was the incident at your high school?" has always been a popular topic of discussion on Twitter, and group chats (because of their gossipy nature) sometimes replicate the dynamics of social systems at school. It just felt like a fun twist on the original prompt,” he told Bored Panda.

Miles himself is a part of quite a few group chats that revolve around a shared interest or background, ranging from fantasy football league to his colleagues in the writing world. “It's a fun way to keep in touch with lots of different friends who come together around different topics.”

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    Passerby
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Two of my game friends told me separately that I type so properly. I use capitalization and punctuation in my game chat, which I guess is somewhat rare for a game chat. I can't help it. I am an English teacher after all.

    Wondering Alice
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I assumed that writing like this in game chat led to less problems with translation. To be fair, I tend to play games that attacked older people, but I find game chat written well by people with English as a first language.

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    KnightOOwl
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I use proper spelling, grammar and punctuation, it drives them crazy, they prefer txt speak and abbreviations. I only do this with certain people, simply because I know it annoys them!

    Cooking Panda
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The thumbs up is my go to emoji when I couldn't find the right respond to a chat 😂

    Joe Reaves
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I vacillate between correct spelling and punctuation and typing like I'm having a stroke.

    Damned_Cat
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I once responded to a new employee's request for information with a full explanation that was about 3 paragraphs long. She went to her boss in tears saying that my email to her was mean. When her boss asked what was mean about my response, the employee replied "Well, it's so long". She then admitted that she didn't even read it all.

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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Gen Z think periods on the end of sentences are aggressive ? FFS. What the hell is wrong with modern society ?

    Trillian
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Start using the thumbs down emoji and use exclamation marks then.

    Robin Childers
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I got flamed on a fanfiction a few months ago for telling the author that they needed someone to help them with punctuation. They said 'It's fiction', as if that's an excuse for shoddy grammar, an anemic ego and vapid writing. I just let them rant, let them show their a*s.

    Na Schi
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Absolutely agree. I don't even bother to look at stories anymore were punctuation is c**p an they don't bother to capitalize the first letter in a new sentence, let alone the names of characters. Way to annoying to read.

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    ScootyPuffJr
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I prefer to go full out aggression and leave them voicemails. THEY HATE IT.

    ArcanaPanda
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In reality it's only a minority of Gen Z who tend to find thumbs up emojis and periods at the ends of sentences too confrontational, so on behalf of the majority of Gen Z and every millennial and Gen X'er still in the workplace, you're actually providing a service. Maybe if they can't handle that in a work setting (as opposed to texts amongst friends) they shouldn't be holding down a job that involves group chats.

    JL
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm guessing two spaces between sentences and using oxford commas must drive them to violence.

    Rob D
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    2 weeks ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My first "generational chasm": at a loss for how these kids don't use punctuation. Drives me crazy.

    badger
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    if you were being aggressive, you'd be posting pictures of your house.

    Lesbitarian Lady
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As long as you're giving an equal amount of time to the 👎🏼 they should not get terrorized

    S R Godwin
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My daughter used to work for Google and the staff did not use capital letters or full stops. I tried it myself but I had to stop when I started hyperventilating

    N Gower
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    NO periods at end of sentences. This could make for some confussing chats.

    StrangeTrout
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Who knew grammar was aggressive? I find it infuriating how proud they all are by not using punctuation. Never forget Uncle Jack's horse . . .

    Delta Dawn
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had to explain to my kids why older people text the way we do

    Lena Flising
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've never heard that. Perhaps I only have two or three Gen Z colleagues, most are probably Millennials, while I am Gen X. See; periods on all sentences. :)

    tori Ohno
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tell them to go to their safe room after each text since they can't deal with it. I've heard of the thumbs up and using punctuation before. Are you saying that it's actually a real issue with them? How stupid and fragile are these people?

    James016
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How do you use punctuation and emojis correctly. Back to hell with you!

    SkippityBoppityBoo
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Look? So long as I can understand you and you can understand me? Who gives a proverbial? I use the 👍 emoji because I'm on the bus and can't type fully as I'm being bounced from side to side!!! So learn text speak and stop being a numpty!!!

    Travelling Stranger
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    2 weeks ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    it's all funny until one reads said infamous period (or full stop for non-usalandians) is the dreaded and most evil "period of hate" (or "full stop of hate") and should be avoided in workplace emails/messages in a (news and lifestyle oriented) media outlet belonging to a major press agency in a country, with the best opinion-forming news medium as per some extrapolated poll votes count...

    Vinnie
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Did your comment end with 3 periods that mean "I hate hate hate this run-on sentence" or an ellipse that signals "fasten your seatbelts, there's more"?

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    While being part of group chats, he also had some of them blow up due to people getting into fights and making it awkward for everyone. “That's partly what inspired the question I posed. I think people do have a tendency to behave a little more extremely in virtual settings, which probably contributes to the breakup of certain chats.”

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    When it comes to sharing information in group chats, Miles believes that the boundaries of what people talk about in them should be determined by their relationship. “You can probably feel safe saying just about anything in a chat with friends you've had for years, because you know that any misunderstandings can be worked through,” he says.

    But if there’s just a group of practically strangers from the internet, there’s a potential to cross the line, Miles says. “I think it's nice to have places where you can say something in confidence that you wouldn't necessarily say in public, but there should be mutual trust for that to happen—just like in any good friendship.”

    A study has found that an average person is a part of a whopping 83 different group chats

    A poll of 2,000 adult social media users revealed that 36% communicate using these chats more than they do in person. 52% opt for group chats instead of phone calls and 26% are more glad to text than have one-on-one conversations. 

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    The most common themes of group chats were family (66%), friend groups (30%) and night out planning (30%). 

    Professor of evolutionary psychology Robin Dunbar, who was a part of this study, commented on these findings by saying, “Maintaining contact with our networks is one of the most important things we can ever do. Not just because they are fun to spend time with, but because research shows that having a small, cohesive group of friends and contacts massively improves our mental health and wellbeing—and even our physical health.”

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    In addition, the study found that 50% prefer group chats out of convenience of sharing pictures and videos and personal updates (56%). Around 53% favour this way of texting because it’s easy to plan things and 35% opt for it so everyone can hear news at the same time.

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    Huddo's sister
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My family has one chat that is just my siblings, mum and I and one that includes my stepdad and step sister because my stepdad doesn't get why we talk about 'unimportant' things or send memes. He just wants to be included in plans for catch ups, which he then forgets until the day before.

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    6 in 10 say that online chats help them feel more connected with loved ones that live further from them, while 43% reported that their family was brought closer by being a part of a group chat. 23% have even made a new friend with a person they met by being in the same group.

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    Nicola Roberts
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've seen it quite a lot on twitter, only it's worded in such a way that there is no doubt. In this case NTA.

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    Chaotictomybone
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My 38 year old ex friend with a kid disclosed he has been in a relationship with my 18 year old cousin for the past year or so, FYI she just turned 18 this year. We just found out last week

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    StarCrossedFriday
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    HP sauce? HP printers? Harry Potter? Probably the last one - I got murdered online by someone who insisted that because I had read Harry Potter, I was clearly okay with slavery (because of the house elves).

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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That happened to me the only time I was group admin was because everyone else left.

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    UKGrandad
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There is a big difference between a woman beating coworker and a woman-beating coworker.

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    Communist Ferret
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Once I had a D&D group set a date I couldn't attend. I was also the one and only dm. Idiots

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    Trillian
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Only psychopaths send voice notes. If you want to talk, call me. But don't expect me to listen to your stream of consciousness for minutes on end.

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    Kit Black
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So she's being creepy, but you feel bad about people knowing she's being creepy, so you don't want them to know why you think she's creepy??? That makes no sense.

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    Julie S
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same thing happened to me. Then I bump into one of the people in the original group chat and she said "what happened to you? You just disappeared."

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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    who is bro? the dad? why do people feel the need to type how they speak?

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