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Openness and trust are fundamental parts of any happy and healthy relationship. In short, you want to be able to be honest with your partner. Even though everyone has their quirks, there’s a common sense limit to what should and should not be done. Some behaviors are downright shameful.

In a candid thread, the members of the r/AskWomen online group opened up about the grossest things that their partners do, and it is shocking. Scroll down for their stories. 

#1

“He Thinks It’s Funny”: 30 People Anonymously Reveal The Most Disgusting Things Their Partners Do The butt crack.... I just... I can't. I can't divorce the love of my life, the father of my kids, the person with whom I can laugh and cry together, my life partner in sickness and health, good times and bad... over the fact that he will NOT pull up his pants. The crack is everywhere. Cute video of the kids? He is inevitably bending down at some point in the video with his crack to the camera. Skyping my parents? Sure enough, he is in the background picking something off the floor crack to camera. At the dog park? Let him pick up this dog toy, crack to the world.. crack crack crack.. I gave up on it but that doesnt mean it doesn't bother me. I live with a butt crack.

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#2

“He Thinks It’s Funny”: 30 People Anonymously Reveal The Most Disgusting Things Their Partners Do Why does every top comment gotta do with hygiene?? I was just going to say my guy f****n drinks pickle juice...

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Barong
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6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If drinking pickle juice is his grossest thing he does…well, after reading all these, he sounds like a possible keeper.

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#3

“He Thinks It’s Funny”: 30 People Anonymously Reveal The Most Disgusting Things Their Partners Do When he pops his pimples/blackheads, he wipes it on the wall next to the mirror. He also wipes his boogers on the side of his driver's seat, it's foul.

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Healthy relationships are grounded in honesty and trust, as well as mutual respect and support. Ideally, you want your partner to know that you’ve got their back, no matter what—and they’ll have yours, too. Part of that means embracing your partner's character flaws and personality quirks. After all, nobody’s perfect. Fighting over every tiny little mistake would probably drive the relationship to the ground.

However, love doesn’t just mean blindly going along with whatever your partner does. You can be incredibly supportive while also wanting them to grow, improve, and reach their potential. And, let’s be honest, it’s not a lot of fun being next to someone who’s constantly doing something really gross. 

#4

“He Thinks It’s Funny”: 30 People Anonymously Reveal The Most Disgusting Things Their Partners Do Picks off his toenails and chews on them. Even saves a ‘good one’ for later if it’s not the right time to chew right there and then. His favourite nail is the big toe. So disgusting 🤢.

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sofacushionfort
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6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Call me old fashioned, but I prefer there be an element of mystery in the relationship.

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#5

“He Thinks It’s Funny”: 30 People Anonymously Reveal The Most Disgusting Things Their Partners Do So he is 72 and this has just been an issue for 4 or so years, but he just farts up a storm as he walks from here to there in the house. The farts are so full of sound and very long in duration that I can hardly believe he has not pooped his pants. It’s frequent and funny and awful all at the same time.

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#6

“He Thinks It’s Funny”: 30 People Anonymously Reveal The Most Disgusting Things Their Partners Do Leaves his poop in the toilet and justifies it as “if it’s brown let it mellow” followed by “you don’t have to wipe every time”.

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To put it simply, if you’re genuinely embarrassed by your partner’s behavior and what they do is affecting you in a negative way, you have to talk about it. Nobody is going to ever behave ‘perfectly’ pristinely in any setting, but there are limits to gross behavior, whether that’s in public or in private. You’d think that it’s all common sense, but it’s really not. All of us could do with an outsider’s perspective once in a while. 

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The important thing to remember is not to make it seem like you’re attacking your partner. Talk to them about their behavior without judging them. Yes, you want to be heard and for them to change their behavior, but you’re on the same team. Remember that so you don’t come across as too harsh, even if it's a serious issue.

#8

“He Thinks It’s Funny”: 30 People Anonymously Reveal The Most Disgusting Things Their Partners Do Picks his nose AND EATS IT.

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UncleJohn3000
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6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's not the picking of the nose that distinguishes us but what happens in the aftermath ~ Rostralus

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#9

“He Thinks It’s Funny”: 30 People Anonymously Reveal The Most Disgusting Things Their Partners Do Not washing his hands. Not before preparing food, not after pooping, not before preparing food after pooping (🤢). And every time I tell him he should wash his hands, he lies and says he did it already. Ugh. Like, dude, I've been watching you like a hawk for the past 7 months, don't gaslight me, just go wash your damn hands.

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Pandaodboredem22
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6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I remember being a young dumb kid with this, then a dumb college kid. Finally it clicked. I realized how nasty it was to prepare food other people may eat without washing, prepping, and sanitizing for other people.

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If every argument turns into a battle, soon enough, you both might stop bringing any issues up out of fear of things getting out of hand. A bit of friendly humor can help defuse the tension when you bring up your partner’s non-stop nose-picking or smelly farts.

Maybe there’s actually an underlying issue that needs to be addressed. Like the fact that your partner might feel anxious or stressed all the time or they might have some serious digestive issues that need to be addressed. They might need your perspective and a bit of supportive advice. 

#10

“He Thinks It’s Funny”: 30 People Anonymously Reveal The Most Disgusting Things Their Partners Do I love my wife desperately, but she doesn't eat any fiber and will not clean the bathroom or even flush in the middle of bad poops so sometimes death itself seems to be wafting directly into our bedroom.

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#12

“He Thinks It’s Funny”: 30 People Anonymously Reveal The Most Disgusting Things Their Partners Do He poops with the door open and tries to talk to me while doing it. He will also barge in when I’m doing the same and talk to me. I have trained him to leave when I tell him what I’m doing, but it took literal years.

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The Doom Song
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6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've always believed that pooping is something that should be enjoyed alone.... my dog seems to think otherwise tho

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What’s the grossest thing that your partner does? Have you spoken to them about it? What advice would you give someone who wants their partner to change their behavior, but feel embarrassed bringing the topic up? Tell us what you think in the comments, Pandas. 

#13

“He Thinks It’s Funny”: 30 People Anonymously Reveal The Most Disgusting Things Their Partners Do Scratches his balls and then sniffs his fingers. Also tries to get me to smell them too.

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#14

“He Thinks It’s Funny”: 30 People Anonymously Reveal The Most Disgusting Things Their Partners Do 1. Cleans with his spit
2. Licks the toothpaste out of the tube before brushing his teeth.

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#15

“He Thinks It’s Funny”: 30 People Anonymously Reveal The Most Disgusting Things Their Partners Do My husband is too lazy to walk to the bathroom in the middle of the night so he keeps a large bottle beside his bed that he can pee into…This would not fly if we were sharing a room. We have an 8 month old who bed shares with me. When hubby moves back in with me, trust that this will no longer happen. It makes me want to 🤮.

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#16

“He Thinks It’s Funny”: 30 People Anonymously Reveal The Most Disgusting Things Their Partners Do He doesn’t wash his a*s properly in the shower, and then wipes s**t on the towels. We now have colour coded towels & I try not to look at/think about his. I also don’t do butt stuff with him anymore.

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#17

“He Thinks It’s Funny”: 30 People Anonymously Reveal The Most Disgusting Things Their Partners Do She eats and swallows SO LOUDLY. Like her mouth is closed but like all I can ever hear from her is the loudest chewing like she chews not with her teeth but mashes it to the roof of her mouth or something, then GULPS her drinks every time.

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Nikole
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6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If something starts to irrationally bother you about your partner that hasn’t bothered you before, that relationship is most likely over

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#18

“He Thinks It’s Funny”: 30 People Anonymously Reveal The Most Disgusting Things Their Partners Do Sometimes he'll pile his dirty dishes on top of his dirty laundry as if they're the same thing. I don't get it, at all, and it drives me up the wall. He's creating the perfect rat oasis on his side of our room and it's sheer luck we haven't had rats yet. I try to pick it up when I see it, but sometimes I don't, because he'll throw a shirt on top of a dirty dish. I wish I was kidding.

In literally, truly, not exaggerating, every other respect he is the perfect partner for me, so this one thing drives me crazy but isn't enough to make a huge deal about. But it is super nasty.

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LakotaWolf (she/her)
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6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It'll suddenly be a huge deal once you guys have flies, maggots, roaches, rats, etc...

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#19

“He Thinks It’s Funny”: 30 People Anonymously Reveal The Most Disgusting Things Their Partners Do Mine are all nose related, he has a deviated septum and only one nostril works.
1. Snot rockets in and out of the shower
2. Constant nose picking and wiping it on his pants
3. Blowing his nose into his shirt
4. Pulls out nose hairs with fingers

I think that covers it all 😅.

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#20

“He Thinks It’s Funny”: 30 People Anonymously Reveal The Most Disgusting Things Their Partners Do He farts in his sleep. I sleep with my head under the covers :(.

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Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My!
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6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had an older roommate in prison who snored quite loudly. However, she couldn't snore and fart at the same time. I'd be lying on my bed, listening to the snores, they'd stop, the fart would come, and the snores would start up again. Oftentimes I'd accidentally wake her up from laughing so hard.

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#21

“He Thinks It’s Funny”: 30 People Anonymously Reveal The Most Disgusting Things Their Partners Do He drinks cold coffee that is over a day old. He also drinks coffee with any meal: lasagna, salad, breakfast, burgers, dessert, enchiladas, anything! This is not normal.

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#23

“He Thinks It’s Funny”: 30 People Anonymously Reveal The Most Disgusting Things Their Partners Do I always think about how my husband puts up with me. I have post nasal drip like you wouldn't believe. It irritates my throat so I actually reach back with my fingers and pull huge globs of mucus out every day multiple times. I'm so glad my husband doesn't seem to care. He just grabs me a tissue.

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#24

“He Thinks It’s Funny”: 30 People Anonymously Reveal The Most Disgusting Things Their Partners Do Has had a toe fungus on one of his big toes for over 12 years, that would easily clean up with an anti-fungal.

He's really clean otherwise so it drives me nuts that he won't address this.

It's only mild and doesnt seem to spread thankfully.

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Cathy
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6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband has/had this, also only mild. But then we ended up in urgent care because his leg suddenly got red and swollen. Nurse said it could be from the untreated cracks in the toes..

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#25

“He Thinks It’s Funny”: 30 People Anonymously Reveal The Most Disgusting Things Their Partners Do I have several tied for first place… brushes his teeth like once every 2 weeks, cuts his toenails once a year(his toe nails are like a 70 yr old), eats fast food nearly everyday.

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#26

“He Thinks It’s Funny”: 30 People Anonymously Reveal The Most Disgusting Things Their Partners Do My girlfriend has dandruff and tries to pick them without breaking the large flakes apart. She likes try to show me the larger pieces and will shake her hair out to see how much will collect in her lap. May not be that gross but it is a bit unpleasant to step in her scalp snow.

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#27

“He Thinks It’s Funny”: 30 People Anonymously Reveal The Most Disgusting Things Their Partners Do Ejaculates on walls and doors, brags about it, said it's making our home safer and stronger.

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#28

“He Thinks It’s Funny”: 30 People Anonymously Reveal The Most Disgusting Things Their Partners Do Reuses socks or underwear like sir pls don’t 😭😭 he has a lot of clean ones so I don’t get why he does this!!!

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Brenda
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6 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When my late husband and I first lived together, he had underwear with holes I'd find in the laundry. I tossed them all & just opened 3 of the "7 PACKS" he had in his drawer. He never even noticed.

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#29

“He Thinks It’s Funny”: 30 People Anonymously Reveal The Most Disgusting Things Their Partners Do My husband constantly has his hand down his pants scratching his sack and butt. I'm a nurse and it drives me crazy telling him over and over that he does that then touches door knobs and light switches and I don't want him to spread his germs. I'm always saying 'get your hands out of your pants!'. He also sweats at night and his pillow always ends up stinking after a couple days. When he leaves the bed I throw it on the floor.

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#30

“He Thinks It’s Funny”: 30 People Anonymously Reveal The Most Disgusting Things Their Partners Do He will open up big pimples with a needle which he "desinfects" with mouthwash from time to time.
This easily is nr. 1. Once he had an abscess roughly the size of a small egg - same thing.

He cuts his finger/toenails outside the bathroom

He leaves used bandaids wherever he took them off.
Same with cotton swabs for the ears.

He uses the same coffecup for weeks.

He will taste random crumbs or smears to determine what it is. ITS NOT ALWAYS CHOCOLATE!!!

All this and I still love him. It allows me to be as gross as I want and he doesnt mind.

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LakotaWolf (she/her)
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6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"It allows me to be as gross as I want and he doesnt mind" isn't the flex that OP maybe thinks it is :x

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