Just tell your friend that you wish you could go but unfortunately it is too expensive. If he is your friend, he will understand. If he doesn't, then he isn't. End of.

We must have very different ideas of what an invitation is. If I invited people to a wedding abroad I would make sure to cover the costs of the hotels and of course food and drinks at the party. The idea of having to pay to attend someone's wedding is just completely wild to me and I find it extremely rude and inconsiderate of the friend.

NGL, when I first saw the title of this post as presented ("Groomsman Stunned After Realizing The Price For Friend’s Wedding: Total: $3,800”) for a moment I thought to myself "this is going to be a good post. The guy who's a groomsman is shocked that his buddy is having an entire wedding for $4000... I wonder if he's going to be calling his buddy cheap, or complimenting him on his money management to have a really affordable wedding that turned out to be fun for everybody." Turned out that was not with this article was about. Whatever the cost of the wedding itself is, each guest is expected to pay $4,000 just in the costs of getting to the venue. Oh. Yeah that's totally a different article altogether and I have no interest in this. I would love to read more articles about people throwing weddings for under $5,000 because to me that's the kind of wedding I would love to attend because they are a lot more fun! I don't think you should start a relationship in debt but that's just me

this wedding is not going to be well attended.

It is cheaper for the couple to do a destination wedding. But much more expensive for all of the guests. Which is one reason I am opposed to destination weddings. I had a friend do the same: Changed from a local wedding, costing each guest no more than 500$ each to a destination wedding costing guests a minimum of 3000$. So that they could save 5000$.

To me the whole idea of destination weddings and expecting guests to pay is crazy. Either you pay their way, or accept that they're not coming. I got married in a faraway country ( you need vaccinations, malaria pills, visa, several flights) and none of my people were there. Did not expect them to. It is what it is. Will throw a party for them once my husband is in my country.

Cheap wedding (less than $3,000), 27 years and 2 children later....still going strong. I don't get why ppl would want to go into debt (or have guests) for one blooming day. It's not about the party, it's about celebrating your love and the ppl who mean the most to you being there. Shoot, it could have cost us less than a hundred dollars and we'd still be together all these years later.

Honestly! I find people like this are just entitled MFs that want their dream wedding and have the guests pay almost everything and don't give a s**t about anyone who may struggle to fund THEIR marriage! Disgusting! Sorry OP, but you're a fool to even go knowing what they're DEMANDING! I wonder what the gift list looks like? I can't believe people like this exist. YOU want to get married so YOU PAY FOR IT!! And all the other bridezillas who feel it's ok to rip people eyes out! You all make me sick! The "we skipped the engagement, bridal shower etc " is a load of shite! I just can't believe anyone other than very close family would EVER agree to these demands of an entitled couple like this! I wouldn't ever have to write a post about something like this because their demands are off the chart offensive

I suggest going for the paid night, and skipping the rest. You can be there for your friend and save most of the cost. Still very expensive, but not nearly as much. You don't really need to be at the welcome party etc.

The bride and groom have enough time to back out of this money pit wedding IF everyone tells them that it is unfair for them to bear the burden of cost for their wedding. Selfish tools do this kind of wedding.