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Lady Asks If She’s Unreasonable For Not Buying Grandson A Birthday Gift After He Punched Her
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Lady Asks If She’s Unreasonable For Not Buying Grandson A Birthday Gift After He Punched Her

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Writer Rhiannon Lucy Cosslett has called grandparents the invisible glue that holds together broken childcare systems. And she made a good point: one study found that 85% of UK grandparents offer some kind of support when it comes to looking after grandchildren. And so did Mumsnet user LadySmurf. So you can imagine her disappointment when she stepped up to look after her two grandkids and got into such a bad fight with one that even now, a month later, he still isn’t talking to her. Unable to confidently determine the best way to proceed, she told her story online and asked outsiders to share their opinions on the situation.

This lady was asked to take care of her grandkids, but she couldn’t stop the older one from swearing

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And their conflict led to a physical altercation

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Grandparents often don’t get the recognition they deserve when it comes to childcare

Susan Stiffelman, who is a licensed and practicing psychotherapist and marriage and family therapist, says it isn’t okay for kids to treat their grandparents with disrespect, and it’s unhealthy for them to get away with it.

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To address the problem, Stiffelman offers a three-step approach:

  • Synch everyone up with your expectations, but be flexible. Parents, grandparents, and kids should have a conversation where they can clearly outline — perhaps even on paper — the general expectations for everything from homework to bedtime when grandma and grandpa are in charge. They should also discuss the fact that parents expect the kids to cooperate with their grandparents and do what they’re asked without making a big fuss, even if the grandparents might do things a little differently than they do.
  • Parents should make sure that the grandparents know they have permission to be more assertive with their children. Sometimes, grandparents are too soft on their grandkids because they adore them so much and want to be adored back. They can, indeed, be softer when the parents are around and in command, but in their absence, grandparents are entitled to maintain a sense of authority. Stiffelman highlights that kids need to know who is in charge.
  • Grandparents have a special relationship with their grandchildren. They love to indulge, spoil, and let them get away with things that their parents don’t. And Stiffelman believes there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s part of family fun. But because of that, parents should make a conscious effort to help grandparents come up with ways to step into a more authoritative role with their children.

“Children do best when they are raised in a tribe, with healthy attachments to a number of caring adults,” the psychotherapist adds. “But it’s important that [grandparents are reminded] that it’s in their grandchildren’s best interest to treat people well — including close family.”

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Trundle
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The dirtbag defending the person assaulting their grandmother has to be the kid on a burner account.

Paul C
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or at least someone who thinks hitting old ladies in acceptable.

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FluffyDreg
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"A slap isnt a defense" in what world does that logic apply??? She was hit, hitting back is a very basic response to it. Not the best and most mature, but a very normal, human, violent or not. Fight flight or freeze. Without training doing one of those in response to a threat. I don't think grandma has taken any kind of self defense classes to help control that biochemical response. Her brain chose fight in response to being assaulted. Anyone saying she's violent for that is insane.

Renegade
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Exactly. It's the fight response. It's my something you can control. Also, need to add the fawn response in there now too.

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Con O Cuinn
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not saying it's right, but if I had punched my granny my da would have kicked the absolute s**t out of me. He never laid a finger on me, but this would have definitely triggered it.

Rae Mo
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Most parents who have healthy relationships with their own parents would have kicked the absolute sh*t out their kid (teenager at that). The grandmother smacking the sh*t out of him was the best response. He obviously isn't being disciplined and wasn't expecting to get smacked. I personally wouldn't be foolin with the "teenager" especially saying he hates me. And would have told him I hate his a$$ right back and surely not buying a gift!

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Granny's Thoughts
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She could call police and report the assault. Too many young kids turn to violence. Get this stopped before he does something worse.

Noproblem
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe this year’s gift will be not pressing charges, along with a reminder that battery on the elderly receives a much harsher sentence, and he’s got three short years to either sort himself out or prepare himself for big boy prison.

Marno C.
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When you assault someone you assault the relationship. If you do not face consequences, show remorse, and make amends, the relationship stays battered. This child is old enough to know what he did was wrong; he has done nothing constructive to fix the damage and continues to act with hostility. Grandma giving him any sort of gift tells him that everything is fine and that he has nothing to fix. It teaches him that his victims do not have dignity and, in fact, will reward him and show him deference. He needs serious help and the family should be consistent in how they show him actions have consequences.

Becca not Becky
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That boy needs serious help. If he's that prone to violent outbursts, he's going to have a record if he doesn't already. The parents need to intervene ASAP.

Melissa anderson
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Have the parents done anything like put him in therapy? It’s obvious the kid has some major anger management problems

StrangeOne
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The Grandma should be pressing assault charges. If he wants to act like a delinquent, he can receive the consequences of a delinquent.

R Dennis
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If my kid did that... my kid would never do that. I can make up all the I wouldas in the world, but that would never happen.

Ash
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kid needs seriously therapy. I say that as somebody who has had a lot of therapy. The reaction like "seeing a red rag" sounds like a trigger. I would guess that there's been a lot of not-great stuff in this kid's life already, and if he's like this at 14, he needs to have his path rerouted ASAP. If he carries this kind of behavior into his adult life, he's gonna end up in prison. (I have to say that I am also wary of his parents. They didn't make him apologize, which indicates not the BEST parenting skills, and it's a reasonable guess that they MAY be the ultimate cause of his emotional trauma and lashing out.)

Steve Robert
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That a 14 year old boy would punch his grandma in the stomach is beyond reprehensible. It's down right assault! As a grandparent myself, he would have been sitting bowlegged for quite some time. As far as presents, until he fully and sincerely apologizes, he's going to be on the no-gift registry until he's a grandparent himself, assuming he gets his shiit together and makes it that far.

Valerie Brillhart
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Grandma you do not be alone with him. His parents need to get him help. Experienced at what he did to you. Be afraid very afraid

Upstaged75
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

WTF did I just read???? She apologized for slapping him and wants to know if she should get him a gift??

The Starsong Princess
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This 14 year old punched his grandmother. The birthday gift is a red herring. This kid needs intensive professional help today. I’m willing to bet she’s not the first person he’s hit.

Grace Knowlton
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. He is 14 not 4 like someone else had commented, he should definitely know better. If one of my nephews hit me intentionally, my first call would be to their parents, and tell to come get their kid ASAP and explain what happened, as far as a present ABSOLUTELY NOT actions have consequences! Birthday or not, I'm not going to reward bad behavior especially violence! The 8 year old I might handle it different but at 14 he ABSOLUTELY should know better

Kalikima
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If a teenager punched me, you could bet I'd be hitting back, and I'm not a violent person by any means, I've never hit anyone in my life. But if someone hit me first, all bets are off. My exbf in high school hit me in the middle of class once, just backhanded me in front of everyone during an argument, and I went after him, the only thing that stopped me was the teacher literally holding me back.

Steve Dowell
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The kid is 14. There's no excuse for him punching his grandmother in a fit of rage.

Hakitosama
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That one time I made the gesture of spitting towards my maternal grandmother (who was a narcissist b!). My other grandma tapped on my mouth before sitting me down in private to berate me "Show some respect!" She said. I told her that I couldn't, wouldn't respect someone like her. And she told me smthg that stayed stick in my head until adulthood: "not for her. Show some respect for yourself! You will NOT behave so crass."

Rabbit Of ill Portent(she/her)
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Anyone suggesting a gift later or any kind of apology from the grandmother must have been exposed to copious amounts of crack in utero....

Spittnimage
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If parents won't do anything about the kid punching his grandmother he'll be in juvenile detention pretty soon for hitting someone else who didn't let him get away with it.

jennifer brinkman
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He DESERVED the slap and a call to 911 and arrested! His parents must not care about him to let him do that to Grandma!! Disgusting and unacceptable!

Bernd Herbert
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a strange question! Why would you buy someone a gift who punched you?

CatWoman1014
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Considering had he done that to a stranger or another kid charges could be filed. Hitting people is not acceptable and a proper punishment needs to be done. Not giving him a gift is a start, but he needs to understand that assaulting people have consequences.

Rrr Ppp
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The comment here about grandma not being able to control her self is straight comedy. If "dad" was punched in the stomach, the 14 yo would be black and blue and living in his room with water and vitamin supplements for a week.

Livingwithcfs
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She needs to contact CPS or whatever the organization is in her country because if he punched her then he's at risk of hurting others, he has issues that need therapy and they will help get it fast. As for his parents they are failing him by not stopping this behavior, at the very least he should have apologized to his grandmother. As for her slapping him I'm not surprised she did that, it's a natural reaction to protect yourself, you need training in order to not react like that.

Bernie j. Janinsky
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Let's see...a 14YO punk SLUGS an old woman in the stomach. Said old woman instinctively SLAPS him back. And there are YOHAS saying "Ooo! You should Never hit a CHILD!" REALITY CHECK ✔️ FOLKS! This is DANGEROUS Behavior that will escalate. There is no way a grandmother can (OR SHOULD NEED TO) defend herself against a 14Yo, full functioning half grown boy. And for those Enabling Females who simper "You'ld never hit My baby again!" MAY YOU REAP DIRECTLY WHAT YOU HAVE SOW!

Liz The Biz
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The grandson deserves nothing. I would never in a million years have dreamt of punching my grandma, whatever the situation, and if I had my parents would have made me wish I had never been born. I was brought up to respect my elders and their word was law, no ifs, no buts. If his behaviour is not addressed then his parents will have a future wife beater on their hands. He has already demonstrated what he is capable of.

jmdirks
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NO gifts at all, for any occasion. Period!!! Until he gives a heart felt apology. Not just a weak "I'm sorry", but complete evidence that his attitude is continuing to improveing.

sharyn turnicky
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Grandmother doesn't mention her age, however, as I understand it, assaulting a person over age 65 is a felony. I would not tolerate that kiddo who is probably a Bully in school too. He is in dire need of therapy. So are the enablers masquerading as parents.

Meagan Glaser
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For his birthday offer to pitch in for therapy that he clearly needs

Scott Rackley
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You could add to the bail bond fund he's going to need. First off, striking your mamaw should never even cross your mind, ever. Secondly, I don't think if I had that I would be alive right now.

Mike m
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No gifts. No babysitting. That 14yo needs to be in an institution.

MidnightProphecy
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Those people going on how she hit the child blah blah AND?! He punched her in the stomach! I'd have punched him in the nose!

MR
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Where the hell are the parents in all this mess? If someone punches you in the stomach, I don't care who you are, feel lucky you only get a slap *and* an apology for the slap in retaliation. And if you, as parents, let the behavior go, you deserve the consequences of what's to come.

Alex Martin
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't waste my time or money on rabid dogs, why would I waste anything on a rabid kid?

Zach Bigalke
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With a history of family assault, I bet that kid grows up to be a pig with a badge.

Trundle
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The dirtbag defending the person assaulting their grandmother has to be the kid on a burner account.

Paul C
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or at least someone who thinks hitting old ladies in acceptable.

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FluffyDreg
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"A slap isnt a defense" in what world does that logic apply??? She was hit, hitting back is a very basic response to it. Not the best and most mature, but a very normal, human, violent or not. Fight flight or freeze. Without training doing one of those in response to a threat. I don't think grandma has taken any kind of self defense classes to help control that biochemical response. Her brain chose fight in response to being assaulted. Anyone saying she's violent for that is insane.

Renegade
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Exactly. It's the fight response. It's my something you can control. Also, need to add the fawn response in there now too.

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Con O Cuinn
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not saying it's right, but if I had punched my granny my da would have kicked the absolute s**t out of me. He never laid a finger on me, but this would have definitely triggered it.

Rae Mo
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Most parents who have healthy relationships with their own parents would have kicked the absolute sh*t out their kid (teenager at that). The grandmother smacking the sh*t out of him was the best response. He obviously isn't being disciplined and wasn't expecting to get smacked. I personally wouldn't be foolin with the "teenager" especially saying he hates me. And would have told him I hate his a$$ right back and surely not buying a gift!

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Granny's Thoughts
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She could call police and report the assault. Too many young kids turn to violence. Get this stopped before he does something worse.

Noproblem
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe this year’s gift will be not pressing charges, along with a reminder that battery on the elderly receives a much harsher sentence, and he’s got three short years to either sort himself out or prepare himself for big boy prison.

Marno C.
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When you assault someone you assault the relationship. If you do not face consequences, show remorse, and make amends, the relationship stays battered. This child is old enough to know what he did was wrong; he has done nothing constructive to fix the damage and continues to act with hostility. Grandma giving him any sort of gift tells him that everything is fine and that he has nothing to fix. It teaches him that his victims do not have dignity and, in fact, will reward him and show him deference. He needs serious help and the family should be consistent in how they show him actions have consequences.

Becca not Becky
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That boy needs serious help. If he's that prone to violent outbursts, he's going to have a record if he doesn't already. The parents need to intervene ASAP.

Melissa anderson
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Have the parents done anything like put him in therapy? It’s obvious the kid has some major anger management problems

StrangeOne
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The Grandma should be pressing assault charges. If he wants to act like a delinquent, he can receive the consequences of a delinquent.

R Dennis
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If my kid did that... my kid would never do that. I can make up all the I wouldas in the world, but that would never happen.

Ash
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kid needs seriously therapy. I say that as somebody who has had a lot of therapy. The reaction like "seeing a red rag" sounds like a trigger. I would guess that there's been a lot of not-great stuff in this kid's life already, and if he's like this at 14, he needs to have his path rerouted ASAP. If he carries this kind of behavior into his adult life, he's gonna end up in prison. (I have to say that I am also wary of his parents. They didn't make him apologize, which indicates not the BEST parenting skills, and it's a reasonable guess that they MAY be the ultimate cause of his emotional trauma and lashing out.)

Steve Robert
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That a 14 year old boy would punch his grandma in the stomach is beyond reprehensible. It's down right assault! As a grandparent myself, he would have been sitting bowlegged for quite some time. As far as presents, until he fully and sincerely apologizes, he's going to be on the no-gift registry until he's a grandparent himself, assuming he gets his shiit together and makes it that far.

Valerie Brillhart
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Grandma you do not be alone with him. His parents need to get him help. Experienced at what he did to you. Be afraid very afraid

Upstaged75
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

WTF did I just read???? She apologized for slapping him and wants to know if she should get him a gift??

The Starsong Princess
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This 14 year old punched his grandmother. The birthday gift is a red herring. This kid needs intensive professional help today. I’m willing to bet she’s not the first person he’s hit.

Grace Knowlton
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. He is 14 not 4 like someone else had commented, he should definitely know better. If one of my nephews hit me intentionally, my first call would be to their parents, and tell to come get their kid ASAP and explain what happened, as far as a present ABSOLUTELY NOT actions have consequences! Birthday or not, I'm not going to reward bad behavior especially violence! The 8 year old I might handle it different but at 14 he ABSOLUTELY should know better

Kalikima
Community Member
Premium
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If a teenager punched me, you could bet I'd be hitting back, and I'm not a violent person by any means, I've never hit anyone in my life. But if someone hit me first, all bets are off. My exbf in high school hit me in the middle of class once, just backhanded me in front of everyone during an argument, and I went after him, the only thing that stopped me was the teacher literally holding me back.

Steve Dowell
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The kid is 14. There's no excuse for him punching his grandmother in a fit of rage.

Hakitosama
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That one time I made the gesture of spitting towards my maternal grandmother (who was a narcissist b!). My other grandma tapped on my mouth before sitting me down in private to berate me "Show some respect!" She said. I told her that I couldn't, wouldn't respect someone like her. And she told me smthg that stayed stick in my head until adulthood: "not for her. Show some respect for yourself! You will NOT behave so crass."

Rabbit Of ill Portent(she/her)
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Anyone suggesting a gift later or any kind of apology from the grandmother must have been exposed to copious amounts of crack in utero....

Spittnimage
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If parents won't do anything about the kid punching his grandmother he'll be in juvenile detention pretty soon for hitting someone else who didn't let him get away with it.

jennifer brinkman
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He DESERVED the slap and a call to 911 and arrested! His parents must not care about him to let him do that to Grandma!! Disgusting and unacceptable!

Bernd Herbert
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a strange question! Why would you buy someone a gift who punched you?

CatWoman1014
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Considering had he done that to a stranger or another kid charges could be filed. Hitting people is not acceptable and a proper punishment needs to be done. Not giving him a gift is a start, but he needs to understand that assaulting people have consequences.

Rrr Ppp
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The comment here about grandma not being able to control her self is straight comedy. If "dad" was punched in the stomach, the 14 yo would be black and blue and living in his room with water and vitamin supplements for a week.

Livingwithcfs
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She needs to contact CPS or whatever the organization is in her country because if he punched her then he's at risk of hurting others, he has issues that need therapy and they will help get it fast. As for his parents they are failing him by not stopping this behavior, at the very least he should have apologized to his grandmother. As for her slapping him I'm not surprised she did that, it's a natural reaction to protect yourself, you need training in order to not react like that.

Bernie j. Janinsky
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Let's see...a 14YO punk SLUGS an old woman in the stomach. Said old woman instinctively SLAPS him back. And there are YOHAS saying "Ooo! You should Never hit a CHILD!" REALITY CHECK ✔️ FOLKS! This is DANGEROUS Behavior that will escalate. There is no way a grandmother can (OR SHOULD NEED TO) defend herself against a 14Yo, full functioning half grown boy. And for those Enabling Females who simper "You'ld never hit My baby again!" MAY YOU REAP DIRECTLY WHAT YOU HAVE SOW!

Liz The Biz
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The grandson deserves nothing. I would never in a million years have dreamt of punching my grandma, whatever the situation, and if I had my parents would have made me wish I had never been born. I was brought up to respect my elders and their word was law, no ifs, no buts. If his behaviour is not addressed then his parents will have a future wife beater on their hands. He has already demonstrated what he is capable of.

jmdirks
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NO gifts at all, for any occasion. Period!!! Until he gives a heart felt apology. Not just a weak "I'm sorry", but complete evidence that his attitude is continuing to improveing.

sharyn turnicky
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Grandmother doesn't mention her age, however, as I understand it, assaulting a person over age 65 is a felony. I would not tolerate that kiddo who is probably a Bully in school too. He is in dire need of therapy. So are the enablers masquerading as parents.

Meagan Glaser
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For his birthday offer to pitch in for therapy that he clearly needs

Scott Rackley
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You could add to the bail bond fund he's going to need. First off, striking your mamaw should never even cross your mind, ever. Secondly, I don't think if I had that I would be alive right now.

Mike m
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No gifts. No babysitting. That 14yo needs to be in an institution.

MidnightProphecy
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Those people going on how she hit the child blah blah AND?! He punched her in the stomach! I'd have punched him in the nose!

MR
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Where the hell are the parents in all this mess? If someone punches you in the stomach, I don't care who you are, feel lucky you only get a slap *and* an apology for the slap in retaliation. And if you, as parents, let the behavior go, you deserve the consequences of what's to come.

Alex Martin
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't waste my time or money on rabid dogs, why would I waste anything on a rabid kid?

Zach Bigalke
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4 months ago

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With a history of family assault, I bet that kid grows up to be a pig with a badge.

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