If abuse isn't right for girls - it isn't right for boys. Abuse isn't right for ANYONE! Those cops need SERIOUS training!! Those boys may have fear issues from toddler stage which is impactful for life ... Maybe the abused boys were brought up to respect girls. Maybe those girls have anger issues from dad? And ALL else!! (way too much to get into!) - all abusers have self esteem issues & subsequently unacceptable behaviour toward the abused. We cannot 'double-standard' this one ... sorry. Gender has no place here - the issue is ABUSE! Period.

May I add to all that has been said that the role models shown to young girls aren't exactly helping with issues? Countless music videos show being a perfect b*tch and diva as being so cool and even feminist! How many times do we have to hear that girls are princesses and boys have to fulfill the least of their desire to be "real men" ? I'm just so sick of f*cked up stereotypes right now, how many do we still have to fight?

The point is - Do not be an a*****e to people,treat them the same as you want to be treated,no matter if the person is woman or man.Respect and love m/^_^m/. The person who does not respect you,she or he does not love you,so there is no reason to love back..move on find better person,no one deserves abuse.

Not every one of these things are quite abuse. But most of them are. (Some are just terrible relationship dynamics)

When I was in high school I dated a girl that threatened to say I raped her if I broke up with her. It still sticks with me to this day, and I have trust issues.

- Abuse is also when your girl is trying to make you look like a psycopath and abuser just because you haven't done some thing she did want you to do or when you couldn't settle a fair agreement between you two (and she readily says YOU are being manipulative when you are just trying to figure out a way to dialogue). - It's also abuse when you are being sincere and sensitive and she says you should stop because you are "making drama". - When you can't be yourself or even treat yourself (i.e: "You are going to therapy? That's bad, therapy is for the nuts" or "you CAN'T eat/dress like that"). - When you do your things (like meeting friends, staying with your family, working) and she promptly tries to make you feel guilty for something for not giving her "enough attention". I've lived all these situations and they've actually screwed me pretty bad. I am not saying I was perfect either, but all of this could have been avoided because it's toxic.

Also if a couple feels the need to read the others phone they should not be together that is insecurity of the highest order! My stepmom reads all my texts from myself to my DAD! Like SERIOUSLY b***h? Insecure much?

They left out false pregnancies. I have a friend whose son's girlfriend said she was pregnant and when he freaked out she said "it's ok I had an abortion".

It all makes perfect sense to me

Abuse is any kind of psychological, verbal or physical cruelty. We need to, as a society, recognize that it comes in all forms and should never be tolerated.

This is fantastic. I see so much misandry from people these days who mistake hate for feminism, and it's refreshing to see supportive comments on a post like this. This message is important and the problem is real.

That was my last marriage

I came across a young man whose girl was screaming and hitting him. i watched as he continually backed away and tried to get away. i pulled up and asked if everything was okay and she said, "do not worry, he wont hurt me." i quickly followed up and said, you are not the one I am worried about. I asked him if he needed a ride somewhere, and he declined, so I parked around corner so I could see and he finally got away. gals, abuse is abuse and you have no right to abuse him either.

Anyone remember the guy on the new york subway who b***h slapped a woman for abusing him and then hitting him with her stilettos? I was cheering for the guy bc she was a random girl who decided to pick a fight with a stranger and wrangle him for ten minutes for something incredibly stupid and he paid it back in full. People were abusing him for it but she actually attacked him with her shoes for no reason and cut his ear-Abuse is abuse. If we want gender equality, it means equality in all realms!

ᴛʜɪs ᴘᴏsᴛ ʜᴏʟᴅs ᴀ ᴍᴀssɪᴠᴇ ɪssᴜᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴛʜᴇ ʟɪɢʜᴛ ᴛʜᴀᴛ's ʙᴇᴇɴ ᴋᴇᴘᴛ ɪɴ ᴛʜᴇ ᴅᴀʀᴋ ʙᴇᴄᴀᴜsᴇ ᴏғ ᴛʜᴇ ᴅᴏᴜʙʟᴇ sᴛᴀɴᴅᴀʀᴅs. ᴛʜᴇʀᴇ ɪs ᴀɴ ɪssᴜᴇ ɪ'ᴠᴇ ɴᴏᴛɪᴄᴇᴅ ᴡᴀs ᴏᴠᴇʀʟᴏᴏᴋᴇᴅ ᴛʜᴏᴜɢʜ, & ᴛʜᴀᴛ's ᴍᴏᴛʜᴇʀs ᴅᴏɪɴɢ ᴛʜᴇ sᴀᴍᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴛʜᴇɪʀ ᴄʜɪʟᴅʀᴇɴ & ᴋᴇᴇᴘɪɴɢ ᴛʜᴇ ᴀʙᴜsɪᴠᴇ ɴᴀᴛᴜʀᴇ ɢᴏɪɴɢ ᴏɴ ᴛʜʀᴏᴜɢʜ ᴛʜᴇ ɴᴇxᴛ ɢᴇɴᴇʀᴀᴛɪᴏɴ

This whole post would have had more credibility if the author had used spell check!

Why just teen girls?

A million thumbs up to this woman.

Obvious yet surprisingly prevalent . Great list, can't tell you how many times I've seen friends do this to their boyfriends/husbands yet the men just did nothing. If a man did anything on this list to a woman in public it would be time to call the police.

An interesting social experiment. I believe it was done in a British park. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7M0MW6ON484

what are the chances this was written by a male? and maybe ever consider women and girls are reduced to doing these things as maybe men shouldnt be hanging around bimbos or lying about there activitys or having friends who are scummy enablers or having things in there phones they shouldnt ect maybe if men nowadays had an ounce of respect for the women who love them and were more frequently held responsible for their poor choices and disrespectful actions and attitudes then there would be nothing for women to hit over be angry about or to snoop on if your not doing wrong you cant get in trouble for it!! disagree heavily with every single word printed in this post ...... men should be held accountable for their behavior and if they dont like bitches being angry or snoopy etc etc maybe they should stop doing things that drive women to that in the first place ..... men nowadays are nothing but weak bitches!!! my suggestion to men learn to behave decently to women or learn to grow a set!!

I lost my gf a few days ago because I made a small mistake trying to make her happy... Its not right :( I need her she was my soulmate and the best thing ever

It would be nice if there was a personal story about this that was then linked up to actual studies that have been done instead of a popular tumblr post. That's pretty lazy. Although both physical and emotional abuse are serious, I think equating the two is a gross oversimplification. The article has not addressed why these qualities are specific to women either. In short, I am dissatisfied with this article, but I guess I shouldn't expect high quality journalism from a site called "boredpanda" lol.

Boys: If any girl does this, get rid of her, grow up, be a man and stop taking that c**p

A lot of this behavior carries on into married relationships but the way things are set up only men get to be accused of abuse.

These abuses are incorporated into many movies and television shows, and shown as normal, or even comedic. They're not. Girls (and guys) tend to take cues from behavior they see on TV and movies. News flash: Just because you see it on TV and it looks normal there, or even funny, does not mean it is right and would ever work in real life. Here's a novel idea: How about just treating your friends like you would want them to treat you. K?

THANK YOU! I experienced this 25 years ago from an on-again off-again girlfriend who ended up lying to me about her birth control just so she could get pregnant. I did the "right" thing and married her, and it was then that the physical abuse really began. I had know idea how to handle it because such things were never addressed back then. After three years of it, I finally decided to get out. When she attacked me again just before I got out of the apartment, I finally had enough and fought back. Needless to say she used that against me and basically ruined my life from that point on. I've not dated since, and while I was legally forced to provide for my little girl, I was not allowed to see her grow up. She's almost 26 now, and probably hates me as my ex was also a pathological liar and I'm sure blamed it all on me.. I have no idea where she is, and have lived the last two and a half decades a broken man. At least, finally, somebody is acknowledging the issue.

I would respect this post more if you actually took the time to correct your grammar. So, you must still be in High School...