I've gone to the source material; Over 2.5k comments and only 1 NTA, and they said he's NTA because he showed her the bullet she needed to dodge. My money is on it being a fake post because nobody in their right mind would go to reddit and AITA that.

Wow. I hope she realises her worth and leaves him and his toxic family.

Fun fact: Swedish wedding gowns, historically, were black for the working classes. You could afford maybe one fancy dress your entire life and black was way more practical than any other colour because it could also be used for mourning. Also: Virginity is such a modern myth (compared to all of human history) that it makes me embarrassed for all of humanity to think people still put a value on any other virginity than their own.

Why is that even a thing?! Like who the f**k thought advertising our sexual experience for the whole audience is a good idea?! There's some weird s**t in this world man I swear.

YTA I can't state strongly enough GOOD FOR HER, refusing to marry you!!!! How dare you tell your intrusive, nosy, busy body of a mother if your girlfriend was 'PURE'?? Did your mother ask you how many women YOU ruined before you got decided to marry? Your entire family sounds horrible and your fiancee needs to run for the hills, far, far away from YOU!! You, sir, are a self righteous jerk and Christian??? Might want to Crack open the bible and look at the parts regarding wearing different cloths, slavery, stoning children when they disobey their parents. . . Point? WE DON'T FOLLOW these archaic BS ridiculous rules anymore!! If she does marry you, better keep your divorce attorney on speed dial. Oh did I say it loudly enough, you suck!!

This kind of thing always infuriates me for a variety of reasons, but also as a bridal seamstress, most women don’t actually wear white on their wedding day—most wear ivory or off-white as those are far more flattering on most skintones. True White looks bluish in hue and washes out most brides. So most brides who are wearing “white” to their wedding aren’t actually wearing true white. And these days there is such a beautiful variety of wedding dress colors: blush, nude, gold, champagne; mine was a pinkish champagne called “moscato”. One coworker wore a light blue dress with white lace that made her look like cinderella! And literally NO ONE actually thinks the dress color has anything to do with a brides “purity” these days except for judgemental, out of touch, rude people like OP’s family.

Dreadful bloke. Dreadful mother. Run girl, run!

White=purity is a false tradition. Wearing white in the Victorian days signified you had f-u money and could afford to buy a fancy dress that would be ruined after one day since dry cleaning hadn't been invented yet. But I think there is something in scripture about this. After Jesus told the accusers "he who is without sin may cast the first stone" he turned to the woman caught in adultery and told her she had to wear a blue dress from now on.

If you're going for tradition, just go all out. Have all the bridesmaids dress exactly like the bride so the spirits can't decide who to curse. Give the best man a sword because that was his purpose.

"Very religious household with strong christian beliefs". Aka chirstian-talibans.

Poor girl getting groomed in a ultra Catholic household with a decade older mommy-boy... You gonna ask your 3th wife to wear yellow?

If they're such 'traditional Christians' then - according to the bible - they should have stoned her to death. But sure, just go ahead and cherry pick the parts you like and ignore the rest...

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This guy is okay with his mum publicly s**t-shaming his wife on her wedding day? Ew. She should run far and fast. It's not the dress that's the issue - it's the meaning that the family is assigning to it "She's "Impure", the s**t, and every one should know and shame her for it". Betting this guy is not a virgin either, is he going to wear a scarlet A on his chest? Totally an a*****e, and probrably a hypocrit too.

"while many women today wear the color merely out of tradition, it is a myth that the color white has always meant virginity. It was originally meant to showcase wealth" from a historical article I forgot to grab the link and lost ... anyway, before Queen Victoria women who could afford it wore elaborate dresses in bold colors,because a wedding and especially the presentation of the bride was how families and nations showed thier wealth and status. I don't think people now realize how expensive white fabric once was.They didn't have the chemical bleaches we do now of the difficulty processing it to be truly white took lots of hours and effort. Double that for processing the yarns the lace which was then tatted,knitted,crocheted or otherwise produced by hand. To have the kind of dress Victoria wore, you'd have to be a queen to dream of affording it. When are we going to move past women being soiled by sex?

So many great answers in the comments. I'd be half tempted to agree with the "impure women can't wear white" rule and then show up in a full on "whore's outfit" and when the family faint/have heart attacks/start yelling just calmly explain that "well I'm apparently impure so I thought this outfit was appropriate. I guess I'm wrong so I won't be marrying your son!"

This has to be fake. Has to be. I understand that some people are like this, but damnit I want people to not be like this.

23 years old with a future husband like that and a mother in law like that? Girl, run!

As the Dali Lama said, “it would be nice if these Christians were more like their Christ.” 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 run

Dude! You're a big gapping smelly AH. And, a major mama's boy. If this girl has any sense, she'd be running for the hills.

WHITE WEDDING DRESSES WERE NEVER ABOUT PURITY. IT WAS A TREND INSPIRED BY QUEEN VICTORIA BECAUSE BRIDES WANTED TO LOOK RICH AND FANCY-PANTS LIKE THE QUEEN SINCE WHITE IS SO HARD TO KEEP CLEAN.

WTF is wrong with his family?

23 tho? Dude she's not even fully matured and you're in your 30s. Gross.

Woman made a decision that she would be grateful for in the future .

I really need to know how this ended! What an a*****e of a future husband! I think she should she run as fast as she can, far away from this man and his judgmental family!

The fact that his mother asked if she was "pure" gives me the ick - none of her business and her son isn't "pure"

When I got married in '05, my mother tried to convince me that I "had" to wear an off-white dress because I wasn't a virgin. I'm very pale, and off-white makes my skin look like death. I wore white on my wedding day, and nobody cared.