He is a controlling, manipulative judgemental jerk. She should just sit quietly like a good girl cooling her heals in the kitchen, because "reasons". If bored she should have cooked him his dinner to pass the time, like HELL NO.

Who want to bet he has another girl on the job?

He's got his eye on another woman at work and didn't want his colleagues to know he already has a girlfriend.

Hey babe, quick 15 minute chat with my coworkers and then let’s do dinner. *1 hour later* How dare you leave the kitchen! Oh no, Sweetheart, you can do so much better than this guy.

He left you in the kitchen for an HOUR!?! And then the first thing he tells you is "you were rude"!? He's a gaslighting narcissist and you shouldn't look back from the moment you walked out that door!! Definitely NTA

Hahaha I can’t believe that idiot even thought hiding someone in the kitchen would work, what a doofus! Unless his ’friends’ were dangerous criminals coming to collect money he owed them and didn’t have or something (yes I watch too many movies), I can’t think a single good reason to ask this.

First, when you are with your girlfriend, you ask if she minds if surprise company shows up to potentially spoil your dinner plans. If she’s okay with it, you introduce her. Period. Then, if it’s work colleagues, you let her know that she doesn’t have to stick around if she’s not interested in listening to shop talk, but of course she’s perfectly free to stay—she was there first. Donny’s a condescending jerk and she needs dump him yesterday.

Seriously, wtf?

I feel so bad for OP. The things that must've gone through her head and the way she felt "hiding" in the kitchen. I'm proud of her for leaving. She did the right thing with what she said also. You have to have boundaries with people and when they cross them you have to stand your ground. I hope she sees this as the walking red flag it is!

Omg, what an absolute bag of dongs! He should be ashamed of that attitude & if that’s how he treats a woman who he’s been with for 3/4 of a year, that doesn’t speak volumes about a good bedside manner. He would NOT be a paediatrician to any of my sisters kids, that’s for sure! Run as far as you can, hon. He’s toxic AF! 🤨🙅‍♀️

Makes me wonder if he has a "work piece" that he doesn't allow to meet family, and his colleagues know that woman as his girlfriend. Definitely something rotten here, that Zhe should not have to endure.

Hiding you is very disrespectful, and the only decent way to not introduce you would be for him to meet them at the door, and say "Sorry guys, this isn't a good time." And then apologise to you, and explain why - eg "If I let them start, they will not leave, they'll stay til midnight." or "These guys are total dickbags, and I have to get along with them for work, but I won't have them around my friends and family or you." That he didn't do that, and is hiding you from work collegues, suggests that he's lying to them or to you. Maybe they think he's single, or he's in a relationship with someone else, or, as doctors, they have treated him for an STD. Or he has lied to you about his work (drama, inflating his responsibilities, fake stories, etc, and doesn't want to be caught out. Or the three of them are doing something illegal, most likely involving prescription drugs, and they were discussing that. This is the time to nope out.

I’m almost positive she’s the other woman. Having met his family and hanging out in public doesn’t mean s**t. My ex-husband’s entire family had met his mistress long before I learned of their affair. They also spent time in public miles away from our home to avoid tuyo to people who might tell me the truth.

Sooo.... No one's gonna mention the "you could have been starting dinner" comment....?

This is from two years ago. Hopefully she left him.

Ok why do you need to ask this stupid question.The guy tells you to hang in kitchen while his friends come.Duh get a freakin clue and ditch this loser

You dodged a bullet. Realize it and go from there. “Bye!

What a bloody doormat...

And he wanted her to spend that hour making him dinner????

Run like your a*s is on fire Girl. Either he's married & didn't want his friends to see you OR he's an irretrievable AH who'll make your life miserable. No matter what he's worth, there just ISN'T enough money to make this endeavor worthwhile.

If I was her I would leave him asap. This is a precursor to his future behavior to her. If they stay together can see him slowly removing her from friends and family basically to become his slave (emotionally if not physically). It's extremely worrying behavior, manipulative and controlling. She did the right thing leaving. I really hope she stays away from him. It also worries me that he's displaying this type If behavior and is a doctor and therefore in a position of power

Is this some sort of societal/heritage custom? Can't imagine this happening in the U.S.

Ahhh yes, another 2 year old reddit post that has been closed and obviously has no resolution. Bored Panda is digging deep for content. The most important thing to ask OP is what country does she live in and what ethnicity and culture are they? It almost sounds like OP more showed up at boyfriends house. BF also might have been expecting company. Depending on culture and country, the idea his colleagues might find him alone in an apartment with her, could be a huge deal. Literally, depending, could deeply impact his career or how well she is received in the future by colleagues. There is way more to the story. Yeah, super crappy of BF, but without all the details the picture is painted from 1 perspective.

She clearly knows she's not the a hole here. So why post about it?

This guy sounds really chauvinistic (hide in the kitchen and make me dinner). Wtf. I think the cheating suggestion is likely, since he doesn't want her to meet coworkers. Whatever it is, it's not good. My less likely suggestion is something involving drugs. Doctors can make a lot of money, but most start their working lives out with a lot of debt.

He’s got a girlfriend at work. Regardless, he’s the rude one.

Seriously, it's absolutely insane that people have to ask the questions. You're not the a** hole. You're with a sociopath,not a narcissist.