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Man Breaks Up With GF After His Suspicions Of Her Copying His Dead Wife Can’t Be Denied Anymore
There is no “right” time to start dating after the loss of a loved one, and for Reddit user Throuoawayy, it took about 5 years to meet someone he was romantically interested in since the passing of his wife.
At first, things were going great. However, as the relationship progressed, the man started getting increasingly suspicious about his girlfriend’s behavior.
He couldn’t help but think that she was trying to turn herself into the woman he was married to, and this sent off all kinds of alarm bells in his head.
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After years of grief, this widower started dating
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But his new girlfriend began thinking he still wasn’t ready
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It can be difficult to navigate new relationships after losing a loved one
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Licensed clinical social worker Jenni Jacobsen says that it’s possible to find love again after being widowed. “Grief takes time to heal, but many people eventually open their hearts to new relationships,” she writes.
“Love doesn’t replace the previous one; it’s a different chapter. People find companionship, support, and happiness in new connections. The timing varies for each individual, and some may never remarry. It’s a personal journey shaped by readiness, emotional healing, and the desire to share life with someone new.”
The key is that you want to be surrounding yourself with people who lift you up and understand you, and that includes the people you choose to date.
But it seems that the author of the story and his girlfriend just couldn’t fully empathize with each other.
Being the companion of a widower can be difficult. One may suspect that they’re valued mostly for their listening abilities and household organization skills.
Plus, the statistics aren’t very generous, either. The share of previously married adults ages 35 to 44 who had remarried dropped substantially from 76% to 57%.
So you can suspect that a widower’s response to their new partner’s sympathy doesn’t always mean he’s eager to tie the knot.
But a man who is ready to move on will signal if he wants a relationship that goes beyond appreciation of a tidy house, and it genuinely sounds that the Redditor was was trying to accept his girlfriend into his life.
People who read the story shared their thoughts on the difficult situation
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Yili Lai 2 years ago
Earrings was already my final straw, who steals someone else's dead wives jewellery? How f****d up is that.
Petra 2 years ago
And not only did she steal his dead wife's jewelry, she stole it from a child (since Dad had given it to the son, it's the son's property). She stole a CHILD's dead mother's jewelry. 🤮😵💫
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Katie Lutesinger 2 years ago
This quite frankly sounds like the first two acts of a horror movie.
Petra 2 years ago
This story reminds me of a tactic that some abusive boyfriends use: "if you leave me, I'm going to kill myself. Do you really want to be responsible for my death? Are you really ready to kill me??". OP needs to RUN away from that relationship.
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Skulls.N.Succulents 2 years ago
She doesn't need OPs love she needs serious THERAPY and to be as far away from OP and his son as possible!!!
WonderWoman 2 years ago
What is wrong with his family?? Do they really think having a female, any female is better than OP raising his son alone? That is something totally messed up!
DarkViolet 2 years ago
Wow, what a wild roller-coaster ride. There is nothing about that relationship that even hints at being stable. OP should realize that he can't fix Kayla; only Kayla can fix Kayla, and only if she wants to be fixed. Either way, OP needs to stay out of her cross hairs. She's not above using emotional blackmail and spreading outright lies in order to force her way back into his and his son's lives. I would even venture to say that Kayla could be considered dangerous.
DarkViolet 2 years ago
For his own safety and that of his son, OP should make every effort to keep as much distance between them and her as possible. Have his name removed from Kayla's emergency contact list, block her on all social media, change the locks, get security cameras, get a cease-and-desist order, and put his family on an extremely restricted information diet, in case she has any Confederates in the fold. They should also be told that: 1) he and Kayla are no longer a couple, 2) he is not getting back with her, and 3) the subject is no longer open for discussion, period. I have personally witnessed what happens when family members refuse to believe that the SO is a psychopath: a murder-suicide.
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Saphyre Fyre 2 years ago
You are NTA, she has severe psychological issues and she needs help. I know the state of most people's mental health is questionable, and this is why others condone this misbehavior, but it is not you, it is her!!!!! You don't need this. Get away, asap.
Mark Fuller 2 years ago
Wow. She's loopy loo! Great plot for a movie though. Reminds me of the film Single White Female.
varwenea 2 years ago
When he said she has no living relatives, that explained everything. She wanted an instant family. Even more so because she has his family's buy-in, so she would have an instant extended family. Given his struggles with grieving and his son being first, he needs someone who is strong on her own and can handle being second. She clearly is not that person.
the_avenging_knight (her/she) 2 years ago
NTA this woman is insane. Get her set up for serious help and run.
Yili Lai 2 years ago
Earrings was already my final straw, who steals someone else's dead wives jewellery? How f****d up is that.
Petra 2 years ago
And not only did she steal his dead wife's jewelry, she stole it from a child (since Dad had given it to the son, it's the son's property). She stole a CHILD's dead mother's jewelry. 🤮😵💫
Load More Replies... Katie Lutesinger 2 years ago
This quite frankly sounds like the first two acts of a horror movie.
Petra 2 years ago
This story reminds me of a tactic that some abusive boyfriends use: "if you leave me, I'm going to kill myself. Do you really want to be responsible for my death? Are you really ready to kill me??". OP needs to RUN away from that relationship.
Load More Replies... Skulls.N.Succulents 2 years ago
She doesn't need OPs love she needs serious THERAPY and to be as far away from OP and his son as possible!!!
WonderWoman 2 years ago
What is wrong with his family?? Do they really think having a female, any female is better than OP raising his son alone? That is something totally messed up!
DarkViolet 2 years ago
Wow, what a wild roller-coaster ride. There is nothing about that relationship that even hints at being stable. OP should realize that he can't fix Kayla; only Kayla can fix Kayla, and only if she wants to be fixed. Either way, OP needs to stay out of her cross hairs. She's not above using emotional blackmail and spreading outright lies in order to force her way back into his and his son's lives. I would even venture to say that Kayla could be considered dangerous.
DarkViolet 2 years ago
For his own safety and that of his son, OP should make every effort to keep as much distance between them and her as possible. Have his name removed from Kayla's emergency contact list, block her on all social media, change the locks, get security cameras, get a cease-and-desist order, and put his family on an extremely restricted information diet, in case she has any Confederates in the fold. They should also be told that: 1) he and Kayla are no longer a couple, 2) he is not getting back with her, and 3) the subject is no longer open for discussion, period. I have personally witnessed what happens when family members refuse to believe that the SO is a psychopath: a murder-suicide.
Load More Replies... Saphyre Fyre 2 years ago
You are NTA, she has severe psychological issues and she needs help. I know the state of most people's mental health is questionable, and this is why others condone this misbehavior, but it is not you, it is her!!!!! You don't need this. Get away, asap.
Mark Fuller 2 years ago
Wow. She's loopy loo! Great plot for a movie though. Reminds me of the film Single White Female.
varwenea 2 years ago
When he said she has no living relatives, that explained everything. She wanted an instant family. Even more so because she has his family's buy-in, so she would have an instant extended family. Given his struggles with grieving and his son being first, he needs someone who is strong on her own and can handle being second. She clearly is not that person.
the_avenging_knight (her/she) 2 years ago
NTA this woman is insane. Get her set up for serious help and run.
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