Theres a difference between "Im an atheist because I dont believe in anything" versus "Im an atheist because I think religion is stupid". The latter group really cannot date anyone of faith

Tommy needs to grow up, I’m from a family where I have Muslim aunts married to Christian (catholic) uncles and one Anglican uncle on my dad’s side married a Shintoist from Japan. If religion or politics define your relationships, you have alot of internal growing to do. I’m agnostic and date a Christian myself, it’s not a big deal.

Ah, I do love a happy ending! Especially one that centres on someone educating themselves on a matter. My initial response was going to be that he was the one not respecting beliefs - hers - but now they are sorted. Yay!

He's not an atheist, he's being controlling. I (atheist myself) understand that religion can get in the way, if it is a big part of the other's life, then there is just too much we don't have in common. But a small altar?

Would this be for Voodoo? Genuine question. I've never heard of working with Saints and I know it's a bit of a cross between Christian and African beliefs.

Atheist here. Move on and save yourself a future headache

I thought we had at last found an atheist proselytizer. Thought we'd have to convoke the atheist world council and excommunicate the fellow.

Personally I feel like there is a bigger issue at play in the narrative. The bf has an immediate knee jerk reaction and goes scorched earth (OP has to do away with their altar, he won't have that stuff in his home, etc). In my mind, it's not so much the instance as the bigger picture. It's all well and good that he aquiesced, in the end. The bigger issue is that it took his reading it ON REDDIT before he was willing to "see the other side" and perhaps extend some grace to the OP. What's next, the car, reading materials? Rather than approaching with even curiosity, because he doesn't do it, it's a no-go. If I were the OP I'd give it another year before cohabitating and really pay attention to bf's reactions to things that are outside his wheelhouse. It's a whole lot easier to postpone moving in together than it is to extricate oneself from it later on.

I don't know if I trust the BF. Usually when a guy said something like that it's because he thinks his beliefs are more important and/or that you should follow what he does because he's the man and should be in charge and you should do what he says. I'd be very careful and give this more time before moving in so you don't trap yourself if he turns out to have been acting.

Soooooooo... how did they get that far in the relate without this coming up, and why did no one point out what a red flag that is?

OP needs to ask if she can discuss her religion with their child, if they choose to have children

Where is the red flag 🚩 guy when you need him?

I couldn't live with a religious person. So I wouldn't date one in the first place. Religion is a bane to humanity. Faith, ok, I can see why some people need that to cope, but that organised and power-hungry system that suppresses women and non-believers or even instigates harm towards "heathens"...keep that BS away from me, or I'll make sure you leave the hard way.

Now do it with this guy's po­rn collection

ESH. For even thinking this could work. Way too incompatible. Split and save you both a lot of pain.

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Don't date religious people, if you, yourself, are not religious. Having to accommodate someone who believes in nonsense is going to get harder and harder the more of your lives you decide to share together.

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Religion is ligit the root of all evil ! The bible is a pure work of fiction to control people ! That said if people want to believe in it that is THEIR CHOICE !, And your bf needs to get a grip fast ! I’m a Wiccan white witch I have an alter in my bedroom ok at 60 I’m divorced n very much staying that way lol but I am I’m me ! N if anyone doesn’t like my beliefs or ways ( n no I wouldn’t force it down them at all )but I’d not tolerate it if they tried to change me !(been there done that ! Not happening again ) then I’m very sorry but it’s game over ! Op you have your religion n that’s good it’s who you are ! your bf has his again all good BUT he is trying to force you to change your ways THAT IS NOT OK !! your ok with him being an atheist so he needs to give with you as well end off ! imo I don’t think you are well suited because he refuses to even allow your life in HIS home there fore it will never be OUR home as meant to be if you move in !

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this isnt christianity, its witchcraft. christians dont "work with saints" and dont have altars, since they dont consider themselves their own church. in fact the fictive character "girlfriend" says herself: i think reddit should open up to learning about religion beyond direct examples of Christianity and the other big ones; then, the writer behind her confesses there are many of them, altar people. so, lets put it in male terms, so people would understand: "my boyfriend is a mercenary, he keeps his loaded guns and knives collection in the living room and periodically shoots on the window and calls his friends (mercenaries like him, organized criminals and paid killers) to target practice in the backgarden, close to the pool when we have guests. i asked him, would he stop this if we move together?" " - oh, no, you should be more tolerant". typical satanist twist - when u are proven wrong, u alter the conclusions. in short, the lady in question (and apparently you too) is a follower of "syncretic religions", about which other commenters talked - fat harry, crystalwitch, ga, stannous floride...go ahead, read, those whom u are trying to bullsht did it already, because they had this experience many times with your kind. an example here, in ur own words: Aline 3 weeks ago (edited) It's the Satanic Temple you're thinking of, the Church of Satan is different. But the Satanic Temple does great work, including helping any woman who wants to access the sacred right of abortion to access it in states that aren't keen on human rights.