OP - he and his family are at minimum clueless but more likely just abusive f**ks. Your boyfriend is a selfish man child who thinks the world is one big sitcom, and refuses to take responsibility for his actions. He and his family aren’t upset about losing you, they’re upset that your are disrupting HIS life. Stay with a friend, move your things into a storage unit or a friends garage (if possible) and hire a lawyer so you don’t have to speak with him again.

And his mother said the OP "couldn't handle a simple joke". It was NOT a simple joke. This was an elaborate prank, planned in advance, toying with someone's serious feelings. Anyways, he still has family to prank ("Oh, Andrew darling, the chocolate-covered laxatives for Mother's Day made me literally laugh my a$$ off!").

Well if the prank itself wasn’t an indicator, the part of the break up convo where he cussed OP out and sicced his abusive nutbag family on her sure would be. I wish her well on her fresh start!

Talk about dodging a Polaris missle! That jerk was trouble all the way. Judging from his family's reaction to OP'S reaction, it's obvious that the rotten apple doesn't fall too far from the diseased orchard. The fool's just pissed that his victim isn't behaving like one. OP made the right decision in dumping that sorry excuse for a mate; marrying him would have had even worse consequences. Poetic justice would be for OP to send him a note saying that she misses him and would like to talk. Let the c**p human wait at least an hour at a swanky restaurant before the maitre'd hands him a message: "Hello! You've been pranked! Go screw yourself! That goes for your trashy family, too!"

The fact that he's such an AH now about her breaking up over this and doubling down on it instead of bawling his eyes out and trying to make amends tells you everything you need to know about this guy. He's not even sorry! He'd do it again in a heartbeat and is angry that OP didn't laugh. He's not even remotely understanding what he did here or how much he hirt her and he doesn't care! That's not a loving guy! That's a total AH. OP is better off without him. He has no empathy whatsoever and can't take responsibility for his actions. That's not a way to deal with stuff like that. My guess is she'd felt much different if he'd shown true remorse, fully admitting that he got carried away, begging for forgiveness promising never to do anything like that ever again, maybe stop pranking altogether,but he did just nothing to show concern for her wellbeing and just taunted her more. I'm thinking he never planned to marry her and thought it was obvious That's why he mocks her for believing it.

Escape. From him and his cruel family. They’re all terrible

I'm not a fan of marriage and I don't think leaving someone for not being ready is stupid. But that's not the issue here, the issue is a very disrespectful joke that went way too far and then he was verbally abusive and tried to gaslight her. So good for her to walk away.

Do *not* buy a home with a boyfriend or girlfriend. Just don't. It makes breaking up far more messy and complicated than it needs to be, if you do break up. Rent until you have a legal connection.

My wife and I didn't get married for 10 years - I'd seen too many bad marriages, including her first, and wanted no part of it. (That was about never being ready if not married in five years - now on our 24th) I would never have pulled some b******t like that though. Absolutely nothing funny about it, just cruel.

I remember my friends thinking I was crazy because I said "You should know within 1 year if your girlfriend/boyfriend is someone you want to marry. If you don't, then they're probably not the one." They ones who thought I was crazy are single. 👍

Run. Really, run. What he said and being sweet to get back together is a classic abuser tactic. His family sound just as bad . Good thing you didn’t wind up marrying him—you dodged a real bullet there.

SADISTIC M**********R you did the RIGHT THING and if you ever want to get back together remember that horrible breaking feeling he did to you and then tried to blame you for and never go back

He basically hung a giant banner that said "I will never marry you." What a t*w*a*t.

At least this Andrew got ONE thing right. He is not ready for marriage. He has the brain of a child that has no awareness of anyone but themself. He is not 26 mentally.

The real issue here is that it is clear they are not on the same page with their future anymore. Yes, he just displayed a million red flags, which is also concerning for their future. Yes, that "joke" was insane and cruel. But even if she could somehow overlook the red flags or forgive his ridiculous excuse for a prank, it's clear that they have no path forward. She's realized that she's ready to take the next step in their relationship, and he's made clear he's no where close, so it has to be over regardless. He's just given her ample reason to end it beyond that.

I wouldn't have let him back into the same house with me

You did the right thing … his whole family are A******s. Go NC immediately They would now feel entitled to make the rest of your life a living hell. Save yourself the cost of a wedding and subsequent divorce

Kind of sounds made up. But if not, I hope she holds out for someone with more maturity.

My BF n I joke n "prank" one another but we would NEVER do something emotionally harmful n if we do by mistake we apologize right away! Dude coulda saved the relationship if he just apologized right off rather than laugh get offended n name call

I dunno. This one doesn't seem genuine. Karma farm or something.

This guy acutually did OP a favor, he showed his true colors. I really HATE this whole prank thing. I understand the behaviour among a group of friends, to some extent. Usually, what starts with innocent things usually escalate to the point of a$$wholery and abuse. They don't know anything about boundaries, about respecting the other people's feelings, possesions and, in more extreme cases, health. Good people don't prank on their spouses, children, animals, or strangers. If I can give anyone a piece of advice about dating, it's RUN AWAY FROM PRANKSTERS, RUUUUUUNNNN!!!!!!

You dodged a bullet on this one. Consider this a blessing in disguise!

How traumatizing!

Intended for BF.

Dump him the derail and extent he went to or this so called prankf

OP has dodged a huge bullet.

If the whole family is on his side he didn't tell them what he really did to her.

This poor girl dodged a HUGE bullet. His family's reactions tell me all I need to know about the gaslighting and sociopathic environment he was raised in. It may not feel like it now, but all of her guardian angels were looking out for her that day!

Here is what I think- OP made a big mistake by even speaking to him. What makes it even worse she broke down and called him which makes her look desperate. Why would she continue to stay on the phone with him after he is calling her names. Why would she answer the phone or read texts from his family unless she thrives on abuse? I really don't believe this really happened.

Wow. He didn't just humiliate her, he humiliated her publicly. What an absolutely cruel thing to do, I'm so glad she dumped him. Absolutely repugnant.

Sounds like his whole family is abusive, that's why he thinks he did nothing wrong. I hope you find peace and happiness because there are great men out there who will appreciate you.

That was a tremendously cruel joke, and you were absolutely justified in breaking up with him.

There are some things you don’t just joke about. Entering into an agreement to marry and become lifelong partner, supporting, loving and caring for one another is serious. He humiliated her in public and then became nasty and abusive, along with his family. In a way, he did her a favour so she doesn’t waste anymore of her time on a wastrel. Now she will have a chance to know what she really wants in a relationship and will be more discerning. And good luck to her in her new life!